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| In looking for a relationship on POF, have you run into this before?
Posted: 10/10/2007 3:09:09 PM | | Lol...ok, guys, the point was....and the guy wasn't even ON this site...that like margo said, he gave an inkling into "himself", one way he thinks. I didn't mean it to sound like he was some Casanova or something, just that he took a different approach, and what really got me was the fact of how well it was written. I do have enough sense to know that in person he could be the world's biggest jerk, but in being so different, it DID catch my attention, just as did the e-mail I got from another one man which touched me so that it brought tears to my eyes. Women are emotional creatures...at least this one is...and when a guy can touch that part of her, he at least has a chance of getting through to her. The thing is, the first and the second guy understand how a FEMALE many times sees passion and romance. So many post on the forums and the sexes seem to be at odds with each other, one not understanding the other. The point I was making was that through their writing...it would seem that these guys can "see" from the opposite point of view, and they use that to attract. The question however, was not so much whether it's valid to use such things on a profile here or not, but rather, has anyone ever seen things like that here (because so far I haven't , except for a couple of poems posted on profiles). | |
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| In looking for a relationship on POF, have you run into this before?
Posted: 10/10/2007 3:21:08 PM | "When I write something, I do it for my own amusement. Has it worked? You bet'ya." Me, too...and it's worked just fine.
When I used to do profile reveiws fairly regularly I would often advise, be creative, have fun with it. If you don't like it, change it and write something else. Sheesh!
I can pretty much tell which profiles people have had fun with, and those that take it as a writing assignment and just want to get it done. If it is creative and out of the "norm" of same ole generic or a biography, then it's more likely to catch someone's attention. Waalaa...that's what a profile's supposed to do. So if it does, then it worked!
What happens after that...who knows. There's no guarantees, I've met people at a function who had a "boring" profile who were a total hoot in person and vice versa.
Having good writing skills and being creative is just that. Doesn't mean they're adept at conversation or interaction. Just because they write well doesn't mean they'd be a great date. | |
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| In looking for a relationship on POF, have you run into this before?
Posted: 10/10/2007 3:33:48 PM | When I read the OP's reaction to what the guy wrote in his profile at the other site, it made me think of the movie 'Bridges of Madison County'.... when Eastwood's character takes Streep's character to a place .... when they're making love.... to take her mind off their situation of not being able to be together permanently.
He 'transported' her thought process. Pretty cool! | |
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| In looking for a relationship on POF, have you run into this before?
Posted: 10/10/2007 3:57:56 PM |
thank you ..... I'm sorry i misunderstood .. the instructions said profile which i took to mean try to describe yourself .. which for most people is very hard to do .... now if the instructions had said ... write a novel ...extra credit will be given for creative writing...creative writing isnt that another term for fiction ....seams like , to me any way , you women cant decide what you want ... creative writing .. romantic skills the ability to write/talk the pants right off of you .. those are the attributes of a player /Casanova just what you say you want to avoid .... now if i were a woman I'd rather have a relationship with the tongue tied bumbling fool as long as it was me that made him that way .. thats the guy that will care for you when the chips are down ... but no ya'll swoon over the slick tongue / hand of a guy depicting a fictitious date with himself a self proclaimed bar browser .... Go figure
Dang deerdog...went and read your profile, and you are just as lick-tongued, lol....you have a great profile....not the same old crap, and that was entirely my point....something that grabs the reader's attention. Doesn't have to be fantasy necessarily, but from the heart and mind of the person writing. Looks like to me that you also have the skills to "write the pants" off someone as well, so are you trying to tell us gals in some way that you are a Casanova of sorts too? lol....I somehow don't think you are, anymore than the guy who wrote his lines about what a possible chance encounter with him MIGHT be like. The thing I noticed about both of you is that you didn't just "fill in the blanks", but made your answers "yours". I think that is a good thing. And like I said, I wrote him, telling him I knew I wasn't what he was looking for (gullible, lol), but just contacted him to congratulate him on his originality and writing skills. Personally, I go for a much different kind of guy. In reading your profile, you seem like a very sincere, yet romantic man. That is all most women are looking for AS their fairy tale...and there's nothing wrong with that. A man can be the "nice guy" you spoke of, and even rough around the edges (which I tend to be more drawn to) and still be that sincere and romantic person. As I said before, I have enough sense to know that people aren't always what they seem to portray themselves as in their profiles, still, it is refreshing to see a change of pace now and then when reading them.
jtw...to clear that up...the one that made me cry was a different guy...who e-mailed me, lol. Sorry if that was confusing, but I thought I had written it clearer.
loveistime...he wasn't on this site...as I stated, I was elsewhere when I came upon that intro. I'm new here, and just wondered if anyone else had run into something of that type on a profile here before.
outmind...THANK YOU! lol, you seemed to understand what I was getting at better than anyone. And the guy didn't make it sound like a "Casanova" thing, he was just very articulate in stating what might happen in a chance encounter, maybe something HE would like to have happen. In anycase, as you say, it was eye catching and better than the "paint-peeling" things some write.
redhead lass...EXACTLY!!!, lol.
Yanno, when I wrote my profile for POF, I did so because of the nagging of a friend. So, I just wrote about "me". I tried to write it in such a way that others got an idea of "who" I am, so that they could decide if I was someone they would be interested in getting to know, rather than running an advertisement of sorts. I tried to personalize it in such a way that they would get the feeling I was talking to them and not at them, or that they were reading a form or resume. I figured that way was more of a...here I am, take it or leave it thing since I wasn't all that thrilled about doing it to begin with. Since being here for the last month, I have come to really like the site and forums, and decided to leave my profile as is because after looking over it again, it really does speak to who I truly am as a person. | |
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| In looking for a relationship on POF, have you run into this before?
Posted: 10/10/2007 4:37:47 PM | So many post on the forums and the sexes seem to be at odds with each other, one not understanding the other. The point I was making was that through their writing...it would seem that these guys can "see" from the opposite point of view, and they use that to attract. The question however, was not so much whether it's valid to use such things on a profile here or not, but rather, has anyone ever seen things like that here (because so far I haven't , except for a couple of poems posted on profiles).
I've never seen it in a profile, but I see it regularly in the forums. There are certain posters that I can almost count on to be thought-provoking and/or attractive through their use of stories, insight, and humor. | |
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| In looking for a relationship on POF, have you run into this before?
Posted: 10/10/2007 6:23:18 PM | I think I'll rewrite my profile, I can use the age old theory, if you can't dazzle them with briliance baffle them with BS, or at least write what someone might want to read. Naw, on second thought I'll just start looking for something to cut and paste, I'm not that bright or tallented as a writer. Maybe I can find a real nice picture to post to. This is the internet and I can be anything I want to be, who would know the difference?
From here forth I'm 6'4", 225lbs, work out 5 times a week, have a chiseled body and can make love to a woman for 8 hours without any breaks. I'll have to do some research to find the ideal age to lay claim to.
Ps, don't look yet, I haven't had time to update my profile yet, give me about 5o years to make the changes.  | |
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| In looking for a relationship on POF, have you run into this before?
Posted: 10/10/2007 6:28:40 PM | The profile is only meant as a glimpse into the personality or maybe lack of personality in the person. The "Casanova" style writing shows they have the capacity to think and write about it. If the person has the capacity to think and write about it, then that person has a better chance at making what they write be true, than the person who can't even conceive of the idea. Not every woman wants a "down to earth" type of guy. Some want to be swept off their feet. Some want a wild-man. Some want a geek. My profile is made to attract intelligent, funny weirdos (yes, that's actually a good thing in my case). :-) :-) :-) :-) :-) :-) :-)
If a person can't convey who they are in writing, then this type of venue may not work the best for them. It's just another way to meet people. Some may do better in person. Some may do better with talking-style ads that some sites offer. | |
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| In looking for a relationship on POF, have you run into this before?
Posted: 10/10/2007 7:34:10 PM | | Dayummm, no wonder some o' ya'll can't get dates...I ain't never seen so many jaded, sarcastic people (in one spot) in my life!!! I don't even think most of ya got the point, and few even bothered to answer the question. To those who did, thank you. | |
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| In looking for a relationship on POF, have you run into this before?
Posted: 10/10/2007 7:52:07 PM | I've been listing my profile on various matchmaking sites for a couple years now.
Shortly after I started on the one with the giant red letter! I saw a tremendously awesome profile written by a woman in my age search bracket (22-27 at the time).
Her pictures were varied, but they all featured her face, smiling in most cases. The ones that had other people were darkened slightly so you could easily pick her out amongst the crowd.
But the written profile simply stopped me short.
It was long, comparatively speaking.
But it was written in rhyming couplets - might even have been iambic pentameter, for the singsongy beat I got in my mind from reading it.
It took me a couple read-throughs to get most of it in my head - didn't help that it was 4am - but I was completely floored and she definitely grabbed my attention. I made a favorite of her, and wrote myself a note to get back to her the next morning.
When I logged back in after waking, her profile had been deleted. I checked every day for the next couple weeks to no avail - she was gone.
Whomever contacted her, if they stuck with her, probably got a pretty interesting woman.
In the intervening couple of years, I've not yet seen something anywhere near as unique in a woman's profile. (Though I will admit, the first non-cookie-cutter obviously-didn't-read-my-profile message I got through PoF was intelligently written.) | |
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| In looking for a relationship on POF, have you run into this before?
Posted: 10/10/2007 8:07:24 PM | Hey Regal..... I understand your point here and as far as the comment about jaded people go, its not so much that their is a lot of negative vibes going on with your original post but time and time again, I .... and I am sure many others would love to have one dollar for every thread posted by a woman we have read about which starts out about this "amazing" guy she met who said all the right things and was soooo charming and wrote me lovely e mails and text messages and things "heated" up and after we spent the night together he stopped calling and stopped answering my e mails and not answering his phone. WHAT HAPPENED ? WHAT DID I DO ? WHY DID HE DO THIS TO ME ? WHY ? WHY ? WHY ?
Basically this is very common place on dating sites. Just do a thread search. It is very common. So it is not so much about being jaded as it is about being realistic when it comes to internet dating and understanding that action speaks louder than mere words.
There are many genuine guys on dating sites just as there are many guys who will charm your pants off and then split. Not a darn thing wrong with being creative and imaginative when writing a profile or e mail, its a good thing to have these qualities in a profile or e mail, but thats all it is, is simply writing and has no bearing on what the individual is really like as far as character, morals, integrity and values go..........
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| In looking for a relationship on POF, have you run into this before?
Posted: 10/10/2007 8:28:50 PM |
Sometimes it IS smarmy - it is very hard to do well. A great writer tho' can demonstrate who they are rather than tell who they are. And that's HOT!
AND a well written profile is always more effective when you add that one little
“extra”: a photo with lots of skin showing, yes ? | |
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| In looking for a relationship on POF, have you run into this before?
Posted: 10/11/2007 5:47:56 AM | regal; I do try to think out what i write ...but the purpose is not to get anyones pants off ...and im not saying these guys were either ... i was just debating your post ... and making the point that there are many great guys that are very romantic when you get to know them ,who cant express themselves in writing or even when talking to someone they just met ... now I know this because I use to be one of these shy guys .... and i watched the slick tongue player arsholes talk the pants off of the girls i would have been honored to just worship.... I was hurt by everyone thinking the worse of me because I was quiet .. I got mad I learned the gift of gab ...I determined that i was going to talk even if i made a fool of myself ...I learned to act like the Casanovas who it came naturally to .... and it was like magic i became popular
but my motives were not the same as theirs ... I just wanted to be given a chance to be understood ... but I still remember the motives of many guys who naturally have the gift of gab and use it only for seduction ... and it was this that i was trying to insert into the debate | |
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| In looking for a relationship on POF, have you run into this before?
Posted: 10/11/2007 5:57:08 AM |
AND a well written profile is always more effective when you add that one little
“extra”: a photo with lots of skin showing, yes ?
Darn it, I got that part wrong too - my pic has a screwdriver to demonstrate I have a screw loose.
So achingly close to the right idea but then I mess it all up. | |
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| In looking for a relationship on POF, have you run into this before?
Posted: 10/11/2007 9:33:56 AM | I've seen Many different approaches with Profiles . . Some are _Very_
entertaining !
I like being creative and a bit ~Off-The-Wall~ . .
Standing out is what gets people Noticed . . !!!
If I had a Nickel for every Marriage Proposal I've gotten here . . 
[...I couldn't buy a Newspaper . . !!!...]
. . and . . by the way . . The EGG came FIRST!!! . . | |
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| In looking for a relationship on POF, have you run into this before?
Posted: 10/17/2007 3:48:14 PM | Lol...but that wasn't the thing here dave...I was just saying, he had such a way of writing...almost like a pro writer...and could almost "take you there" in the article/profile he wrote. I don't know the guy from Adam as they say, and it usually takes more than a few flowery words to get my attention. But I know what ya mean about the threads that are like...oh my....romeo you were here a moment ago...lol....that wasn't the deal with this at all. I was just using it as an example to ask if anything really profound in the way of writing had been seen on POF, I'm sorta new to the site and just wondered is all. And what I don't get it this thing..
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thats all it is, is simply writing and has no bearing on what the individual is really like as far as character, morals, integrity and values go.........
and got similar statements from others like it. Ummm, ok..let's put it this way (searching for a tactful way to put this...which is hard for me sometimes without conveying my thoughts wrong)...I liked what he wrote, if you read my other comments here, not really my style as far as his approach went, just liked the gift of "weaving" as it were...but what in holy hell is with these guys that SEEM (maybe I'm takin it wrong but I don't think so) that I expect him to act like he writes???? Geez....ya'll really do think all us chicks are brainless?? May not mean it that way, but it's how it's comin across....I love the liberal arts...in all forms, and my post wasn't about "here's a dude I like", but rather "hey ya'll found a great writer, are there anymore here on POF" yanno? Lol...nothin against you dave....just a general thought here... gonna have to go back to yappin like a biker chick just to get some guys to be able to understand me again, looks like... Cuz truthfully, I really DONT think ya got the point based on what ya just said.
LMAO...redneck...I jesss luvvvv yooooooo, lol
Awww, deerdog...I understand...and yanno what...I still am shy...I'm one of those that can write easier than I can talk....now some who know me and I'm really comfortable with would say otherwise, lol....I just can't talk to save my life around someone I'm realllly into...I am 44 but worse than a teen when it comes to that. Slick tongues ain't never meant much to me, cept in Literature classes because I love stuff like that...what I was saying was...this guy wrote ...well, ok...if ya went to highschool, and studied Edgar Allen Poe, or Ernest Hemmingway...they wrote in a way where ya could "see" what color the danged wall paper was in a story....that was kinda my point with this guy. Ain't every day you come across someone with writing skills like that, that use em in an ad rag online, lol. In fact they'd be better suited to a major magazine publication, or in a book. I sure never meant anyone to take it that guys like that (alot of whom are full of "pucks") are the ones I drool over, lol.....cuz it aint.
Why would ANYONE think worse of ya for bein shy? aww, never mind....I remember...people often took it that I was stuck up...does kinda make people take ya the wrong way don't it....
Ohhh, ok....I gotcha...and I'm glad you're one of the good guys....by the way (and no I ain't hittin on ya, lol) but do you know how totally cool that pic of you is? lol...I love that!!!
AND a well written profile is always more effective when you add that one little “extra”: a photo with lots of skin showing, yes ? Ha, son...that'd be toooo much ugly in one place if I was to do that!!!! lmaoooooooooooooooo Gotta cover it up and spread it out some so as to not shock people so, yanno?
LMAO @ NatGoat....you tickle the livin' hell outa me with some of the things you write!!! | |
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| In looking for a relationship on POF, have you run into this before?
Posted: 10/18/2007 3:28:00 AM | Woman are audio creatures while men are visual ones so its not unusual for we females to croon over something well written. With that said, the men are right as well. Write a novel to get our attention but how do they act in person. Are the skills only for pen and paper or can they make us experience them.
Funny. The man who has moved me in the five years that I've been on this sight, cant spell, never uses comma's and runs his sentances together yet in person, man oh man, his words, his actions, his attention to detail........couldnt care less what his profile says or doesnt say.
The Hello part is over ladies and gentlemen, now get to know them. | |
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| In looking for a relationship on POF, have you run into this before?
Posted: 11/26/2007 11:31:41 AM | | Lol, well, I can see from some of the posts that the general assumption is that people come to this site for dates, although other options are offered in the "what you're looking for" section. I'm one of those who is here for another option, so wasn't looking to meet the guy, and as I said, that guy was on another site anyhow...a news forum no less, lol. I've been to many date sites over the last couple of years or so, and I had just never seen anything like it and thought it was a great attention grabber, not to mention well written. I understand that until you meet someone, and truly get to know them over time, there's no way to tell what that person is truly like, and even years later (as in my case) you still may find you don't know them half as well as you thought. Thanks to all who posted, I appreciate the input. | |
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| In looking for a relationship on POF, have you run into this before?
Posted: 11/26/2007 8:23:48 PM | Although I didn't meet my present wife on POF, I still stay on here to corespond with the ladies I had met in the past. Yes, I am honest with my wife and she is permitted to read my e-mails at anytime.
Now getting to your concern. POF gives you a good means to meet different people. Do I believe you have to be able to write to have a good relationship, possibly? Someone told me before that a person that could write could also converse. The same lady also told me that men that were good dancers made good lovers. POF is a safe means to meet and converse with new folks. When I am starting to talk to someone, I establish the rules upfront: first, honesty, and second, don't ask a question you can't answer yourself. Two basic rules. There also an unwritten rule for gentlemen, do not, do not talk about sex unless the lady ask a question, and only answer the question. | |
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