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| sex on a 1st date
Posted: 1/24/2008 3:17:38 PM | | The only time I had first date sex with someone who was not a FWB, I think it killed the relationship. It wasn't a respect thing, I just think that we put the sexual chemistry in front of the relationship growth. | |
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| sex on a 1st date
Posted: 1/24/2008 3:29:10 PM | no never have never would how i look at it if you dont know someone then whats the point also if they sleep with you on the first date how many others have they slept with iam a great beleaver in getting to know someone first and if they really like you they will wait
but on the same note it is everyones own choice there is no right or wrong answer xx | |
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| sex on a 1st date
Posted: 1/24/2008 3:38:03 PM | not me I like to take my time to get to know better my date
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| sex on a 1st date
Posted: 1/24/2008 3:46:40 PM | no not true mainegrad, maybe in your experience they won't want long term but generally they fall in love, most men are suckers for that stuff.
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Not even suckers.
They respect you or they don't, They love you our they don't.
It's nothing to do with sex and nothing you can do much about. If he doesn't respect you after the sex then he never respected you before the sex. And vice versa. | |
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Posted: 1/24/2008 4:17:07 PM | I try not to, but passion has set fire to me a few times, and each time it ended up as a LTR. So I can't say that it's neccesarily a bad thing when you both feel like your blood is on fire and you can see that the other is feeling the same way. When one finds that superhot chemistry going on...it's hard to resist... 
I have been a horrible person and asked the evil question..."Will you still respect me in the morning?" Note that you should only do this during the afterglow phase... | |
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Posted: 1/24/2008 4:30:35 PM | | I dont think that is something I care to do at this point in my life, but I have learned to never say never. | |
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| sex on a 1st date
Posted: 1/24/2008 4:48:07 PM | When I was dating there were a couple of guys I went for it with on the first date - simply 'cause I found them hot and wanted to get me some!!  Why not! I wasn't lookin' for a relationship!   | |
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Posted: 1/24/2008 6:07:45 PM | | the easiest way to get rid of a man is sex | |
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Posted: 1/24/2008 6:26:10 PM | Yeah I’ve done it. Let’s take the story one more step
( and go for Public Humiliation!)
I met her online. Slept with her on the first date ...and the second ....for
over three months. Then i discovered she was married and walked away.
So stereotypes may be based on some aspect of Reality.
I got to taste one first hand .....even if the genders were slightly twisted | |
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jetjim
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Joined: 1/10/2008
Msg: 36 | |
| sex on a 1st date
Posted: 1/24/2008 7:39:53 PM | To me, you have to define "1st date".
If someone sends me a few emails on PoF and we go out for coffee...probably not unless there is that rare, deep, intimate connection. Actually, there is a statistic (bogus or not, I don't know) that the average amount of time people spend together before sex is 7 hours.
That sounds about right to me. Thats a couple of dates in most cases.
Now, if it's somebody I've met online and have been talking to for months and have already established that deep connection with...well as long as the chemistry holds up for the real-life meeting, then yeah, it's on. Big time. | |
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Posted: 1/24/2008 7:47:51 PM | Nope I wouldn't because if you are finding your dates from a site like POF like I am, chances are there will be a few guys to choose from, therefore, I wont have sex on the first date. If we continue to see each other after the initial date, then that's a different story. If I had sex with all my dates from here on the first date, I would have had sex with 1,1,1,1 Four guys and I didnt! And for whatever reason things didn't work out with any of them (one was too old and had some things going on in his life, one was too young and wanted to rush into something serious, one lived in California half the time and one turned out to be just a bit to boring for me!) So, although I am sexually frustrated, I am happier that way than to be having meaningless sex with somebody that I dont care about. Waking up from meaningless sex is a bad as having a hangover,,,and I dont get drunk either!
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Posted: 1/24/2008 9:35:57 PM | | Okay - I'm hitting the BS alert for the post above. Women are bombarded by e-mails daily, daily I tell ya. So to cry that they don't have enough selection is really funny. | |
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| sex on a 1st date
Posted: 1/24/2008 9:43:32 PM | RE: First post.
Yes. Why? Because sex is completely awesome? Hahahaha. I cant really think of a reason not to, unless it was that I wasnt attracted to her. | |
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| sex on a 1st date
Posted: 1/24/2008 9:47:55 PM |
It's nothing to do with sex and nothing you can do much about. If he doesn't respect you after the sex then he never respected you before the sex. And vice versa.
I like that. Its what I have always thought. If its for you it won't get by you, and if not, you can't do anything to make it happen. I think the problems happen when you put expectations on the sex. If you are doing it thinking it will win his/her love you could be sadly disappointed. You will win their love by giving love not sex. | |
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Posted: 1/24/2008 9:52:57 PM | | I would not, unless I already knew the person. Otherwise, you are basically having sex with a stranger. | |
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Posted: 1/24/2008 9:58:52 PM |
Okay - I'm hitting the BS alert for the post above. Women are bombarded by e-mails daily, daily I tell ya. So to cry that they don't have enough selection is really funny.
I never said there wasn't enough selection, just not enough time in my life to go on dates all the time. The few dates that I have actually gone on over the last few months were after weeding through half the bullshit that came across my PC first. It is amazing how many men can't actually talk in a live conversation on the phone. Or when you do talk to them, they tell you things that you really dont want to know immediately,,,(omg i have heard some crazy shit). If I ran out and met everyone that asked, I wouldn't have time for my life, which consists of staying focused on my job and kids.
Seriously, I've chatted with a few local guys this week, and I MIGHT end up meeting one out of the few of them. Shoot, I still haven't met the "I dont like boobs man" and we are trying to find a time to finally meet. Four dates is not a lot, so to find someone at those odds would be hard dont you think? If I was desperate to meet someone quickly, I would go out with more men to increase my odds. I am just glad that I didn't sleep with any of those other dates is all.
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Joined: 9/19/2006
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| sex on a 1st date
Posted: 1/24/2008 10:22:16 PM | No, except in the unlikely event that the woman initiated it because, unless the girl is easy, attempting to seduce the girl on the first date would be counterproductive to getting into her pants. Even if she initiated it, I would be inclined to decline because the risk of catching some disease is many times greater with girls that are that easy. Plus, if they are easy and give it away to every guy they date, what have you accomplished?
My rule is that the man should be a perfect gentleman on the first and probably the second date because nice girls, the girls you prefer to have sex with, need time to become acquainted and to feel that you don't just see them as a sex object.
Initially girls will have the defenses up and if you come on too strong too fast they may keep their defenses up. By taking your time, girls are more inclined to lower their defenses and that improves your odds of getting into their pants on subsequent dates.
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Posted: 1/25/2008 7:35:30 AM | | Yes I'v had sex on the first date, and yes i'd do it again if i was attracted to that person in that way. | |
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Joined: 11/23/2006
Msg: 46 | |
| sex on a 1st date
Posted: 1/25/2008 8:05:11 AM | Never had sex on a first date , but i have had a couple of one night stands.
I feel if with dating i am not looking for sex on the first night, its not like randomly meeting someone, dates are more for getting to know someone (i'm probably old fashioned) a bit better.........isn't it ? | |
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Posted: 1/25/2008 8:06:09 AM | I have had sex on a first date before, why because i was younger and blah blah blah
Is anyone still reading this?? These day's though i'd much rather keep sex off the agenda...... on the first couple of dates! why you may ask? simiply because of the fact of it less stressful if it's agreed before hand that it's a no no! you can then chat and get to know someone without it hanging over you both. | |
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Posted: 1/25/2008 8:08:51 AM | Yes..... we had sex on our first date 38 years ago! We went on to get married four years later and had 25 happy years as a married couple until she died from cancer 8 years ago.
Nothing wrong in it at all as far as I'm concerned! | |
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| sex on a 1st date
Posted: 1/25/2008 6:02:27 PM | YES YES I had it on the FIRST date!!!!!
We have ended up dating for 3,5 years. I was not ready to start a family in my 20s and we eventually went in separate directions... | |
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Posted: 1/25/2008 6:22:51 PM | This really is funny by itself...
I have and would... no biggie..
Many of times the steering wheel got in the way,and was already 10 minutes late for work...LOL
As for the gals that always want 3, 5 or 6 , or whatever the magic number is. I just can't figuire out.
I remember 15 years ago, met this hot chick, so convo moved right to the big "s"..
She goes, "Oh, I don't get intimate to like at least 5 or 6 dates"
I reply, cool! What are you doing monday,tuesday,wednesday,thursday,friday, and saturday this week??
FYI: 3rd date same week..WTF????
Now, funny how many of us worry about sex on the first date and what we are judged for, but can I see a show of hands and times for the ones who had sex on the LAST date... | |
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