| sex on a 1st date
Posted: 1/25/2008 6:47:46 PM | | I've done it before and I feel really bad about if if its within the first two weeks of dating someone. Those guys never made it past a month. | |
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| sex on a 1st date
Posted: 1/25/2008 11:29:21 PM | umm this is funny not only did I have sex on the first date I lost my virginity on the first date too and it was the first time meeting herlol | |
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| sex on a 1st date
Posted: 1/25/2008 11:35:23 PM | It all depends on whether I want to see the guy again or not. It usually works this way, have sex on the first date, you wont see him again. In my experience. | |
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| sex on a 1st date
Posted: 1/26/2008 6:14:02 AM | | Where do you get your info from? What woman would think about accepting a marriage proposal on a first date? If a man proposed marriage to me on a first date I would run like hell!! That's creepy. | |
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| sex on a 1st date
Posted: 1/26/2008 3:40:21 PM | Me too. Forget marriage proposals for the first six months at least!!
I had sex on the first date once. And I find that if I have sex too soon, that becomes the be-all and end-all of the relationship, which can't sustain itself. As much as I like/want sex, self restraint does seem to be warranted. Oh, and I'll only do it if we're exclusive, which can also be rushing things if we declare this too soon. | |
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| sex on a 1st date
Posted: 1/26/2008 3:45:59 PM | | Why should I? What is in it for me,,,,and I for one think there is a beginning a middle and an end to any story. Slow dance of love is so much more interesting. | |
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| sex on a 1st date
Posted: 1/26/2008 4:09:27 PM | | If i wanted to i would, face it were all adults,i hope!! | |
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| sex on a 1st date
Posted: 1/26/2008 6:48:10 PM | | As a matter of fact, as soon as it happens I know I dont want date #2 typically. I think he's too easy I suppose! lol! | |
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| sex on a 1st date
Posted: 1/26/2008 7:28:53 PM | My take on this is this, who gives a rats ass? Sex on the first date, why not, if you click and all seems right and things proceed there, dayam skippy. This crap about he wont call or respect me, sounds like and easy way to hurt someones feelings when all is said and done.
Would I respect someone, yes. because least she has the balls to own up to having needs and wanting to satisfy them without succumbing to a society norm of "oh that's bad". Personally I think I am scheduling a second date so I can continue a good thing.
This is obviously in the realm of dating and not just looking for a piece of ass; meaning you have taken the time to begin to know someone with the potential of dating. If you want a piece of ass get an escort or whack it.
Cheers
Dragon | |
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| sex on a 1st date
Posted: 1/26/2008 7:55:34 PM | Never.
I have morals and class.
To each their own. | |
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| sex on a 1st date
Posted: 1/26/2008 8:21:40 PM | When I was a younger man I often would have sex on the first date.
Now I'm fortunate to have sex at all.
Chris | |
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| sex on a 1st date
Posted: 1/26/2008 8:56:13 PM | | Dont believe what he said. He did it to make you feel that way. I would never think a woman was a slut just because she wanted sex on the first date. We are all human and things happen whether right or wrong so dont take it literally... | |
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Posted: 1/26/2008 8:56:18 PM | Sorry, I don't do sex.....I'm into making love so that would mean knowing the person...how can you know someone intimately after one date? Get real | |
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Posted: 1/26/2008 9:37:46 PM | | Depends, but I'm kinda doubting it, since that just ain't my thing to go that route. | |
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| sex on a 1st date
Posted: 1/27/2008 12:20:25 AM | | I have had sex on the first date. When two adults get together and the chemistry is strong, things happen. Unfortunately, I haven't had muc success with repeat dates. I made a New Year's resolution.....no sex until I have dated a man and I know that he really wants to be with me and not just for the sex. I wonder if I'll find one who will stick around???? LOL | |
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Posted: 1/27/2008 12:29:47 AM | | Sadly...I have done so about everytime. I agree that it seems to mess up the possability of the relationship progressing in the future somehow. | |
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| sex on a 1st date
Posted: 1/27/2008 1:32:19 AM | .
All the arguments, pro and con, mean nothing to me. I seldom if ever date. But, if I do, it’s because I was paying close attention for a while and found things that I really like about a woman. Even so, the first time we meet, I have no expectation except that I really want to spend some time with her.
That being said, let’s just say that sometimes this “first date” lasted quite some time. The point being that, even though I seldom date, when I do it’s because I know there’s a real chance of a strong attraction being formed that is likely will last quite some time.
It doesn’t happen often and I’m eternally grateful for that. If it happens one more time, I will also be very grateful.
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| sex on a 1st date
Posted: 1/27/2008 3:31:46 AM | I had sex on two first dates (I'm not counting my escapades in high school).
On one of those dates, the guy was good looking and genuinely kind. He told me he really just wanted friends, and I felt some relief, because so did I. We both weren't ready for relationships, having both been recently brutally dumped by our exes.
We went back to my house, got drunk, and he started getting touchy with me. I was inebriated, and took it to the next level. We had some unsatisfying sex, and he went home. I still talk to him occasionally; the sex really wasn't a big deal to either of us, because we weren't interested in dating each other.
I had first date sex with a guy I WAS interested in, and it set the tone for the rest of our relationship. Because I gave it up so soon, he felt he didn't need to try and "win" me anymore, and so became a chump fairly quickly. I had really only had sex with him because I wanted him to like me. It backfired, and we "dated" (mostly consisting of sex) for about six months, seeing each other every three weeks or so, screwing, and talking mostly on IM between times we saw each other. When we "broke up", he said, "It doesn't really matter anyway, right? We were just sort of friends with benefits anyway."
Well, no, we weren't, but he chose to see it that way. He probably would have respected me more and tried harder to win my affection if I'd made him wait. Oh well. His loss. Now I'm with a guy who took things very very slowly with sex and treats me like gold. My advice: first date sex usually doesn't lend to lasting relationships. It can; I was friends with benefits with my ex before we started dating, and we ended up married. That's more the exception than the rule, though, I think. | |
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| sex on a 1st date
Posted: 1/27/2008 9:02:06 AM | | Sex is extremely intimate and I would have to have a connection, feelings for the person. I personally feel its respectful to the other person to take the time to get to know them. I always wait quite a few months before I would be intimate like that and thats only if we click/connect in the right way.I prefer to get to know the person first. I am far from a prude , just careful with my heart and body and mindful of the other persons welfare also. | |
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| sex on a 1st date
Posted: 1/27/2008 9:08:33 AM | Yecch... the term "dating" is so completely out-dated. Kinda like "courting" or "wooing"... lol
If you meet someone, whatever the avenue or circumstance, you shouldn't be influenced by a Puritan society's antiquated view on casual sex. Go with your instincts and use your good judgment.
That's what I do...  | |
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| sex on a 1st date
Posted: 1/27/2008 9:54:34 AM |
would you have sex on a first date?why or why not?
picking out the girls who do or don't aren't cha with that question ??? | |
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Posted: 1/27/2008 10:39:06 AM | I have in the past but like someone said it doesn't make for a future with this person. Would I do it again? Probably not.......I will hold off and keep waiting for THE right one!  | |
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| sex on a 1st date
Posted: 1/27/2008 10:55:44 AM | I have also had sex first date, and if it feels right then why not? Chemistry rules! However i always think about ... man wuts he goona think im easy?  | |
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| sex on a 1st date
Posted: 1/27/2008 11:12:35 AM | Hey Moviebuff...maybe if we bring "courting" and "wooing" back there wouldn't be so many messed up people
And I'm impressed...you know the word "wooing"... | |
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