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my thoughts are
if the night doesn't end in sex, it wasn't a date. it was hanging out.
so keeping in mind that definition; than i would have to say i always have sex on the first date. simply because it wouldn't have been a date if there was no sex. | |
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Posted: 4/22/2009 8:36:23 AM | Sex is WAY more enjoyable/pleasurable with someone you care about.
However, if an attractive woman put the moves on me on a first date I can't say I'd be able to resist. | |
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Posted: 4/22/2009 8:40:48 AM | I wouldn't, unless it was going to be specifically a casual or intimate relationship only, and it was well known in advance.
When I go out on dates, its not to get laid, its to get to know the woman I'm on a date with. | |
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Posted: 4/22/2009 2:37:30 PM | | No and you know why? Because i want to get to know this person for more than whats in his pants. I want the same. Sex is important but not as important as getting to know someone before you make a mistake. You can like the person all you want. But in an example i met up with a friend i hadn't seen in 2 years in wal-mart. So i got his number, i was single and so was he. One day he invited me over. Well one thing led to another. Horseplay turned into kissing and then into full blown sex. Well afterwords i regreted it because of how he made me feel. He made me feel like some **** he had just picked up off the street. Our friendship is there but i haven't talked to him really since then.... | |
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Posted: 4/22/2009 2:40:59 PM | If it feels right and good why the hell not..
I don't believe guys think any less of women if they 'hold out' ffs .. | |
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Posted: 4/22/2009 10:15:53 PM | After 7 pages, we now have a good sample size of people who believe in numerology - because that is what the question is about. Not whether it's the right setting, the right person, the right mood, etc, but whether it is the FIRST date.
If a woman holds out until the second date she's not a slut, but if she doesn't she is, right? In such a case I end the first date before I go to the bathroom and welcome her to the second date five minutes later when I return. Well, I have been told that does not count among numerologists. Neither does the change of the calendar date, if we get it on shortly after midnight.
The answer to that dilemma? Layer them. Before you go on the second date with such a lady, make sure you have a coffee date with the next woman. By the time it is her turn for date number two, have another coffee date with the third woman, etc. That way you still get your short-lived first date sex, only with a different woman. Make sure you keep tabs on the names, or the only short-lived thing will be you... | |
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Posted: 4/23/2009 12:50:01 PM | If a woman has sex with a man on the first date, or vise versa, then they do not have much respect for each other, I think.. It is lust, it is not respect! | |
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Posted: 5/13/2009 2:04:02 AM | | I wholeheartedly agree. Are we not living in the 21st century where everyone is alleged to be equal. I really thought we had left Victorian attitudes behind! I see men out "on the pull" every time I go out yet they are classed as some kind of super stud but if a girl does it she`s a slut. I think this double standard is a load of bollocks! If a girl and a guy meet up and the chemistry is there then why not go for it. Life really is too short and in our modern age with women able to do more than they ever did before, they should be able to have a shag ffs! | |
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Posted: 5/13/2009 3:35:26 AM | I don't care if it IS the 21st century, and I don't care if I come off looking like a dinosaur (which I AM, by the way  ).
I would never have sex on the first date or meet, regardless of how attractive that person may be. That's MY personal boundary and always has been.
Different strokes for different folks. | |
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Posted: 5/14/2009 2:35:18 PM |
I would never have sex on the first date or meet, regardless of how attractive that person may be. That's MY personal boundary and always has been.
Different strokes for different folks.
Every time I notice this thread, that Seinfeld episode, where he sets Elaine up with this "great guy", comes back to me.
Jerry: "So, how'd it go?"
Elaine: "Uhhh, . . . Interesting! He took it out."
Jerry: "Huh? What out?"
Elaine: "You heard me. He. . . . Took. . . . IT. . . . Out."
OP, it's never happened to me, and I would never be lookin' for it, but that song Tony sings, West Side Story, " . . . Could be. Who knows?" keeps runnin' through my head.   | |
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Posted: 5/14/2009 3:08:35 PM | Would definitely bone on the first date.
If you want to, do it, why not? | |
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Posted: 5/14/2009 3:43:05 PM | I see men out "on the pull" every time I go out yet they are classed as some kind of super stud but if a girl does it she`s a slut.
I disagree. I don't think that double-standard exists in most of society. I don't think we really see that when we go out, I think we see some girls complain about it when we do. Some low-self-esteem guys will call a girl a slut because of "sour grapes" if she seems sexual and he can't get her. But all in all, it's women in general being the ones calling other women sluts, observing them at the bar.
Woman: "Oh, look at her, wearing barely anything, flaunting herself like that. (Rolling eyes) What a slut..."
Guy: "Damn, look at that. Wow... she is HOT."
Guys and girls will have a lack of respect for girls AND guys who are known to sleep around. But:
(a) Guys don't call out other guys because they THINK they may sleep around
(b) Guys don't tend to think a woman's a slut just because she's cute, flirty, gets attention and doesn't seem hard-to-get
(c) Guys don't have hatred or tend to think THAT poorly about guys who do sleep around, than how women think about women who do (or even MIGHT based on what they're wearing and attention they get).
That doesn't mean there's a double-standard. It's not a male-driven problem in most of society, IMO... Women get jealous of other women quite easily during people-watching! As a result, many just end up blaming it on society as a whole seeing it that way! | |
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Posted: 5/14/2009 4:09:45 PM | | Yes - of course I would... and have... and may again - who knows? When it feels right for us both, it feels natural, unhurried, unpressured and neither of us has ANY objections, why not? Do I expect sex on a first date? H#LL NO! Actually, I expect just the opposite as that seems to be the "norm" here in the great Mid-west. But there ARE exceptions to every rule and, well, some rules are made to be BROKEN (IMHO). I'm an adult. She's an adult. (You are an adult, aren't you? Please say "yes" and have the necessary forms of ID to prove it!) C'mon now, you're sitting across the table from this very desirable creature, doing the gaga thing and, well, your heart goes pitter-patter, and well, um, er... it just happens... because you both want it to happen... you desire it happening because you just really want to know that the stunningly beautiful creature before you has the desire, the capacity and the libido to let it happen. For many (?some ?minority) of us, it is an important "question" that we want to have answered... for some, early on in the "dating" process. Is it a cause for hurt feelings? Sure, it can be. But so is waiting for X (insert number here) of dates, only to find out that partner-perfect can't or won't give of themselves - for whatever reason. That can be a cause for hurt feelings as well. | |
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Posted: 5/16/2009 6:46:38 PM | If the chemistry is there and both are comfortable i see nothing wrong with sex on 1st date. Myself, the sparks would really half to be flying for me to sleep with a guy i just meet. | |
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bhi99
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Posted: 5/16/2009 7:15:57 PM | N.....O
I did that once when I was younger in a drunken haze, with a girl I had known for a while.
We went on two more dates, boring ones, and decided we weren't right for eachother.
Currently I am extremely careful as with a few bad cases with a few of my friends in STD factory I would never have sex with a girl on the first date unless I knew her very, very, well.
If I just met a girl and arranged a date, I'd wait around a month at least, for the following reasons:
1. I want a relationship, not just sex.
2. How many strangers has SHE had sex with that early?
3. I don't need a third, the first two are plenty enough | |
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Posted: 5/19/2009 6:04:45 AM | Yes, I agree, but knowing someone before the art of sex, can make it more fulfilling.   | |
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Posted: 5/19/2009 6:34:17 AM | This is funny. I just came in from the STD and would you require testing before you had sex thread...so reading through this one really makes you wonder.
NO, I'm not having sex on the first freaking date. You nuts? Sure I might feel aroused by him, especially if we really connect and it's been a while but no, I'm not sleeping with someone that quickly.
So now I'm trying to figure out if everyone is full of chit about the std testing thing...because according to this thread, everyone is FOR it! LOL...unfreakingreal | |
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Posted: 5/19/2009 7:11:10 AM | The ONLY reason I wouldn't do it...is out of FEAR that it would be the last time
.I HATE one night stands.....and emotionless sex.....but i FELT so close to him that first night....beyond just lust...I thought....GO FOR IT!
I tested it out recently and after a YEAR of holding out and instead of leaving me feeling used,or like I sold out....or like I would never have his respect afterwards....it happened to create a bond that went beyond the orgasm much to my surprise and DELIGHT!
2 weeks later.....and closer than EVER to a man who actually wants me for more than just sex...I am here to RENIG my prior uptight attitude about "first date sex" by saying.....DAMN GLAD I DID IT...and I didn't claim 'testing first' status in the other thread.No hypocracy here!
Just straight up...I WANT YOU NOW, BABY! Oh....and I was the one who jumped his bones!He was the one who wanted to "wait".........HAHAHAHA!
Sorry baby.....I waited TOO long as it was!
The BEST part? It was AMAZING!
And continues to get better and better every day!
It all depends on the person...the situation and the timing as to whether it is a positive or negative experience.
I was LUCKY! And wouldn't make a habit of it. | |
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Posted: 5/19/2009 9:11:27 AM | | If I take a girl out I really like and want to see again, I actually don't want to make a move or her too. I would wait a few times then go for the gold. | |
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Posted: 5/19/2009 9:22:49 AM | | God women on this site are so freaking boring. lol! | |
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Posted: 5/19/2009 10:44:25 AM | A few definitions..
Slut-N. A women that loves sex.
What the hell is wrong with that?
If a man thinks your a slut for sleeping with him on the first date, what the **** does that make him? Ladies, ask that question and gague his response. If he says he has no respect, lose him, because the guy is a moron. | |
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banaga
| | Joined: 6/22/2008
Msg: 172 | |
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Posted: 5/19/2009 10:55:39 AM | | I am live in sheffield . please contact my . me phone is 07760399132 . i hope to see you soon . xxxxxxxxxx | |
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Posted: 5/19/2009 11:42:22 AM | | Of course I've had sex on a first date. If the mood is right and.he is fine as hell ill take him home anyday | |
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jlo007
| | Joined: 12/30/2008
Msg: 175 | |
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Posted: 5/19/2009 12:03:02 PM | | Seems like everyone is talking about two different types of sex, sex for love committment etc. and sex for lust, don't think there is anything wrong with either and it really should depend on the circumstances at the time and how the individual feels, i think the real problem with this issue is a lack of communicition and honesty, and too much time worrying about other peoples views, and the stigma that they will be labeled with. | |
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