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| | Why Do People Cheat ?Page 8 of 8 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8) | | Well that's fine for you. I never said everybody is non-monogamous. I just said it's not natural. Glad you are like dolphins. | |
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Posted: 7/11/2012 2:48:31 AM | May be im confused with your post then, i believe there is a lot of dolphins in the world,
all i can think, both should be true to each other which is normal,
whether they just want sex,date/find someone else or any other contract ... | |
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Posted: 7/11/2012 4:24:58 AM | | Yes, I'm sure there are a lot of dolphins out there. You just need to hook up with one of them. All I'm saying is that monogamy is a CHOICE and going against our natural inclinations. I didn't say anything was wrong with it and I never said that people who go with their natural insticts are wrong either. You just need to be with someone who is the same as you. If you are a dolphin and you are with someone who is a "natural" it's not going to work. Communication is key. People just need to be real and say what it is they really want. That would cut down on a lot of this. Hope you find your "dolphin". | |
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Posted: 7/12/2012 12:30:31 AM | hey poster ,
if you think monogamy is a CHOICE not for everyone, i dont believe that,i believe people are born monogamous as well and choose who they want to be with,
Those who cant stay in a relationship at all and cant communicate be true in what they want sure they are born your"natural" may be born cheaters sorry,with no remorse, regret, comparing human to nature and "natural" is like its ok indirectly for that type of immoral behaviour im not perfect, i wont buy that , not all humans are like that, same for those who want multiple sex which i wont say its wrong, thats how they choose or born your "natural "
people cheat through influences, society, lack of something in their relationship , and a lot of factors,
some choose the easy way, they find it hard to work on their relationship, i think to each their own
for my dolphin when the time come it will happen. | |
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Posted: 7/12/2012 6:57:34 AM | | Ok you have your opinion and I have mine. You see it as an excuse and I see it as nature...don't forget we are mammals and very few species are monogamous. We will just have to agree to disagree. | |
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Posted: 7/12/2012 7:01:08 AM | | Btw....I think that doing that behind someones back is wrong and there needs to be communication. I just believe that the act or want to go with multiple people is natural.....monogamy in this regard is a choice. I also don't believe in the soul mate concept either....thata fantasy | |
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Posted: 7/13/2012 5:25:42 PM | I see it as an excuse when comparing human species to nature, mammals etc,
I just believe that the act to go with multiple is natural for some,i sure can play in this field but it wont be natural in this regard to dolphins nature, if a dolphin come across my way by multiple i dont care if it works or not.
I dont believe in fantasy either, but
i believe when two person truely want to be with each other for who they are,with no personal gain, interest,advantage and not forcing themselves to be together, no other mammals can stand up to them, it comes to natural, i love sex but life doesnt revolve around sex only for all human,
i believe human have eyes, ears,heart, mind and other senses with experiences they have, how each human balance their set of preferences , how to use all these settings is up to each human in what they believe and what they are
looking for... | |
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Posted: 7/14/2012 12:29:48 AM | | In some cases, people cheat because they settled in the first place. Others were never looking to be monogamous in the first place. The reasoning depends on the situation and the individual. | |
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Posted: 7/14/2012 9:30:01 AM |
I see it as an excuse when comparing human species to nature, mammals etc,
I just believe that the act to go with multiple is natural for some,i sure can play in this field but it wont be natural in this regard to dolphins nature, if a dolphin come across my way by multiple i dont care if it works or not.
I dont believe in fantasy either, but
i believe when two person truely want to be with each other for who they are,with no personal gain, interest,advantage and not forcing themselves to be together, no other mammals can stand up to them, it comes to natural, i love sex but life doesnt revolve around sex only for all human,
i believe human have eyes, ears,heart, mind and other senses with experiences they have, how each human balance their set of preferences , how to use all these settings is up to each human in what they believe and what they are
looking for...
I understand what you are saying but I'm sorry once you are with someone for awhile you start to look at other people. What you do beyond that is a CHOICE. To fantasize and have a desire to wonder what it would be like to be with others while in a committed relationship that's natural as well....it's whether or not you ACT on it. That's a CHOICE too. So it is in nature to want to be with others but it's a CHOICE of what you do with it. See my point? | |
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Posted: 7/15/2012 1:56:03 AM | i see your point ,
i will see it as choice again , human are drawn to look , fantasize,act , i can **** around, date any intimate intent i want,
i believe I.E form part in human instinct natural as well, its up to human what and how they choose sex and emotion , going out with someone else is a choice not just natural, depends on each human, and im not against all people who cheat as well, its nothing about sex ,but wont get into details with that.
i will take a personal experience one of my past relationship 3 years or more, where i was born and grew up
not meaning im a nice guy ,ive never cheat on her , i believe she didnt do it either , i had a big network of friends, aquaintances,male and female that i cant keep count of ,women more beautiful than her , i go anywhere i want without her party , beach, get drunk, all other kind of entertainment, ive never done it , and i sure can do it if i want with all this opportunity , i look make my eyes happy, thats all , and its nothing about religious belief, controlling my emotion , choice or whatever excuse, i wont buy any and i break up through life choice not for another girl.
poster i will leave everyting there i still consider myself as a dummy , wont get back on that thread again
i know nothing, got other stuff to test in life still .... | |
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Posted: 7/15/2012 7:20:28 PM | With some people its their human nature.
They are self centered and only think of themselves. | |
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Posted: 7/16/2012 4:24:09 PM | quote]Ok...I know this isn't a popular opinion but here's my two cents....I believe that by nature we are not meant to be monogamous.
The problem is not those, like you, who proclaim this from the get-go. The problem is those who are like-minded yet "commit" to a monogamous relationship. If one does not believe in monogamy and makes this clear in a relationship, then the term "cheating" cannot apply. | |
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Posted: 7/19/2012 4:50:56 PM | | Honesty is the best policy but some people just don't want to be honest I guess. | |
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Posted: 7/20/2012 8:40:35 AM | there seems a general trend on the site that discusses cheating; the anxiety of it, the possibility for it and the reality of it. and i wonder whether in some measure the fear of it could be the actual cause. But perhaps i am wrong. i have only had one personal experience of unfaithfulness in a relationship, though this could be because i am too obtuse to notice and that when i went out with someone who was preternaturally jealous, there was nothing that i could do to reassure him that i was not seeing anyone else and it was very exhausting. and then four years in to the relationship he told me that he had slept with someone a month in! i didnt understand it, was very surprised and couldnt quite fathom why he decided to tell me four years later. his explanation was simple, he thought i was doing it, so he thought he would do it. could that be the reason? djdenn99? it is awful that you have had this experience, and i am sure it is hard to move on and trust a woman again, but i can say that the friends i know and my own experience suggest that most women dont cheat or want to cheat on their partners. the women that do are probably expressing an insecurity that should manifest itself elsewhere so perhaps you should learn to pick up the signals, lord knows how though. good luck and i do hope that you manage to find someone who doesnt lie to you in this way.
caroline | |
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Posted: 7/21/2012 8:05:47 PM | | No offense but WHAT draws you to women who deep down dont really want you in their lives? | |
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