| Do women return your messages ?
Posted: 4/28/2008 6:18:20 AM | | Now, Drew cnc, if women are looking for a sense of humor (as they all seem to claim) they should not pass you by. I had similar messages and felt a bit disappointed, but then I thought at least I was worth a nice comment. Suddenly, I can laugh at this. | |
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| Do women return your messages ?
Posted: 4/28/2008 6:39:25 AM | Well maybe my sense of humor clashes with their sense of humor!  
I had met this very sexy looking gal in her 30's last year who just became single and she is well off financially and she told me about her experience here when she signed up. I met her when i went out with some friends at a country bar and she walked up to us because she was school pals with one of my friends. they had not seen in years. Anyways she said her first 2 days she got about 50 emails.  . And every day about 20 on average. So that was reason number one for not replying.
The rejection is all a part of this net date meet thing but I do find this site to be cold compared to a few other sites I have had much better response at.  | |
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| Do women return your messages ?
Posted: 4/28/2008 6:15:44 PM | I have had many of the experiences from the "Read" with no response (why are you saving my message if you don't want to respond???) to the Unread/Delete to the ones that initiate contact, I message back out of courtesy and then get told I'm not her type. WTF??? She messaged me! I was just being nice. I find it a bit frustrating at times, but for the most part I find it all funny. Part of the human experience I guess you could say.
I've had several respond to my messages, lots that haven't, some that have contacted me and some that probably wish I hadn't contacted them. Such is life. I find I do better off-line anyway, but I figure why not try here too.
And as for people trying to help out by improving your profile or how you write a message, I figure you should just be yourself. If that isn't good enough, then it's time to move on. It's one thing to ensure you use correct grammar and spelling and such, but it's another to act like a completely different person. Good luck keeping the person interested if your initial message(s) aren't even like your own personality. They'll find out somehow.
I have still not heard a good explanation for a woman to read a message and either not respond or not delete it. What are you holding on to it for? I could see waiting a few days to gather your thoughts after witnessing my charm and boyish good looks, but eventually need to respond, no?  | |
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| Do women return your messages ?
Posted: 5/4/2008 8:25:49 PM | | Hello, everybody! I was reading all those 5 pages and can't stop myself to write something. Guys, women are born to be loved, not understood. And leave it here. Remeber what is the name of this site. Move on | |
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| Do women return your messages ?
Posted: 5/5/2008 10:11:16 AM | If someone messages me and they just say hi and nothing else or they do not have the physical characteristics that I want, or I read their profile and they do not sound like the best person, as in they are vulgar or ignorant, then I will not return their message at all. I am simply not interested that kind of man.
I would rather stay single the rest of my life , then with someone who is bad and not someone that would be good for me. You have to stand up for your beliefs and values, and stay true to yourself! The one person that you can trust the most in this world is yourself!
You have to be a best friend to yourself! | |
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| Do women return your messages ?
Posted: 5/5/2008 12:56:52 PM | There are a lot of replies here and I didn't read them all... Ok I didn't read any hehe
You don't have a pic bro. That is probly a big part of it. They don't like to reply if you don't have one.
Not everyone is going to reply no matter how smart and funny you can be. It's a crap shot every time. Some reply and some don't.
I been lucky on here... Most reply and I also got some rude replies.
I would say get your photo up there and then keep hacking away at it.
This place has a huge ammount of people on it. I don't think you will run out of single women...
And what the hell... If they don't reply. Wait a week or so and then write them again... Piss them off if they don't reply. At least you had some fun for your time . | |
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Posted: 5/6/2008 4:36:51 AM | I give the time to write someone,, yes i would like a thanks but no thanks if they are not interested...but i dont get a reply that just lets me know that i wouldnt want to be with that man anyways........... but i have found in the last few months... that POF is very quiet... no emails and no response back.... So here i am , in the threads........ my kind of place to hang out......... | |
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| Do women return your messages ?
Posted: 5/6/2008 6:23:58 AM | I like someone that has the character to send a message back to someone who took the time to send u a msg.
but i have found in the last few months... that POF is very quiet... no emails and no response back.
Its odd huh. With spring in the air and many single people you would think this place would be a bee hive of activity!!  | |
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| Do women return your messages ?
Posted: 5/6/2008 6:49:13 PM | | Some do...some don't...depends on the person you are contacting. quite often if and how a person responds tells us many things about that person and if its even worth the effort to pursue...as we have all heard before...that person might just be doing us a favour. (think about it...have u ever gone on a date where having the other person talk is like pulling teeth?) | |
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Posted: 5/6/2008 8:05:10 PM | Well it might be spring !LOL
But it seems no one single on here really wants to date anyone !
I guess men have to send thought wave type emails inorder to maybe get any woman to reply !LOL
As for waitng for replies from emails well I do not expect a reply as most women if I emailed them would be scared to reply back !LOL
I guess being real /honest & a straight shooter kinda scares any pof women away!
But I don't care thats entirely up to the women on pof as just like any other singles site the women are more here for window dressing and really not looking at all.
And yep ladies go ahead bite me !LOL
Hell at least it will let me know your real if you bite me ! | |
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| Do women return your messages ?
Posted: 5/6/2008 8:46:50 PM | | Okay, so I got curious about the ones that read your message and don't reply AND don't delete and sent a message to one of them that has done this. Guess what? She read it, didn't reply AND didn't delete. So the mystery continues. I think I'll stick to less complicated mysteries than women such as cold fusion and the meaning of life. | |
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| Do women return your messages ?
Posted: 5/7/2008 2:02:26 PM | Well never let the read & not deleted or the unread & deleted bother you !
I don't let any bother me ! As I figure if their interested they can also send me an email and if not then why worry about it .
Its not worth my time to worry if someone is gonna email me or will reply to an email .
Because if anyone wishes to sit home bored/sad/lonely all the time then so be it .
As for me I have better things to do . If the women wish to be this way so be it & they can enjoy being lonely and bored .
As I live by if you snooze you loose and if thats how the ladies want to play it well thats entirely up to them .
So for those who want to be that way enjoy ! | |
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Posted: 5/7/2008 3:30:04 PM | | I don't think anyone is getting all bothered to the point where it is distracting them from their regular life or anything. I just think it is very odd to receive a message, read it, not respond, but keep the message. Especially when so many just Unread Delete and move on. I'd actually much rather that happen now. It's the difference between "Yes", "No", or "Maybe". Yes and No I'll take all day long, I know where I stand. Maybe just keeps me guessing and wondering what the hell is up. It's a form of procrastination which in the end it's like masturbation, when all is said and done you're just F'ing yourself. | |
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Posted: 5/7/2008 6:02:32 PM | I always reply to my messages. I think it's just the polite thing to do. If someone took the time to contact me the least I can do is respond. I know that isn't always the case here at POF so I've developed a thick skin, so to speak, where replies are concerned. I don't let it get to me anymore because it can make you feel crappy if you do.
All the best
BJB | |
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| Do women return your messages ?
Posted: 5/7/2008 7:06:34 PM | I have an explanation for why women read and don't reply, it's because they look at your profile and don't find a reason to write back. In other words, you're not their type or you don't interest them. A message is not enough for a girl, they want to have another reason to message you back, so they look at your profile to see if there is anything they like.
As far not deleting them, I'm pretty sure that's just pure laziness. | |
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| Do women return your messages ?
Posted: 5/7/2008 11:18:02 PM | for me it's weird, the girls want to get to know me and i reply back, cool. then nothing, no response back. guess they met some other better guy. ah wells, there'll always be a next one to kick ass with... | |
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| Do women return your messages ?
Posted: 5/17/2008 8:52:11 PM | I always return messages after first checking the persons profile to see their age, their location and to find out who they are. However, some guys ask how you are doing? or they say things like "tell me a bit more about yourself". I always answer their questions to be polite and will ask how they are doing and ask about them. As soon as I ask about them they "read, delete" or they just skirt around my questions with more questions about me. I hate these kind of games. Either your interested or your not or else your playing the field and hoping that the one you are really interested in will come through for you. I had one gentleman write to tell me he really liked my profile and would like to get to know me but he was meeting someone from POF on the weekend for coffee so if it didn't work out he would contact me again So OK, that mail never got read and it went into the unread, deleted pile. I have sent message to men who read and delete or just unread and delete. Perhaps they are persuing someone else but at least have the courtesy to reply. The funny thing is these guys usually have great profiles with the "I'm a very nice person" line in it. Nice people are not rude. I don't care if my e-mails just say "Hi" or "Hello" its what I say when I meet someone in person. I think the issue we are discussing her is a gender thing. Women have the same problems with e-mails as the me.
Oh yeah, I love the "see who viewed you option". It is always filled with dozens of guys and yet I never hear from any of them. Makes me a little self conscious for about a minute or 2. 
Keep Smiling and don't let people you have never met or may never hear from stress you out. Life is full of people who are genuine and kind. Those will answer your e-mails, the other's just don't matter. | |
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| Do women return your messages ?
Posted: 5/17/2008 10:20:35 PM | | Most women dont reply and, i dont know why(the rhyme is intentional)The ones that do, ask 20 questions before you take your next breathe.I am in the 50+ group and just want to date .That doesnt mean i want sex or longterm commitment or something unusual.I just want to date. | |
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| Do women return your messages ?
Posted: 5/18/2008 7:10:55 PM | Hey thats what I say !
Most women do not read emails from most guys at all.
And I think all most of them do is see the email then go check to see what he looks like in his profile and if not a hot stud they just delete the email !LOL
And yet women say why don't men make first contacts ! hahahaha!
Like how are we to do that if all you ladies do is delete with out reading the emails! | |
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Posted: 5/18/2008 7:20:32 PM | Well I am just LOVING the sweeping generalizations.
I would never do the read/delete. It's mean, I know how it feels, and it's rude.
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Posted: 5/19/2008 6:09:33 AM | I'd rather hear "thanks for your interest but I don't see us as a match" or something along those lines but I understand that 'no reply' is saying just that without saying anything at all....and I'm fine with that...I'm not every body's cup of tea....
What I hate to read is: "I just met someone and I'm going to give us a chance" all the time leaving her profile open....I think if that was the case the person should either delete her profile or at the very least add something at the very start of her profile..
Something like: As of ( the date) I've met someone and will not be responding to any contacts until I see where this goes....if it works out I'll be deleting my profile and if not I'll be deleting this short note. | |
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