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Posted: 10/17/2007 6:06:14 PM | | Yea they can be freinds but sure as hell not in a motel room oh they are just playing tidy winks best bet make her an ex girl friend she could stand on a stack bibles and i wouldnt be gubble enough to belive her. Its should be friends out side of the bedroom. No she should not be in any place where it just him and her why in the hell go where temptation is avable, she has no respect for you or she wouldnt do this kind of stuff, best bet is chack her up as a slut. | |
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Posted: 10/17/2007 6:17:21 PM |
is it possible to spend that much time with an ex-boyfriend and not have sex with him even if ya'll spend the night with him?
It's possible...but highly unlikely. Get rid of it | |
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Posted: 10/17/2007 6:17:30 PM | Shes lying to you = plain and simple. Theres no truth to It. Kick her out.
Sorry to be blunt - but she wasnt dropping Into his house for a Coffee was she.. Its a motel .. what do you think she was doing there. Shes playing you Incase he doesnt come to the party and ask her back after hes used her for sex here and there. And he WONT ask her back as he KNOWS what kind of person she Is - Its his bed she's In while she lies to you. Ie If you dont get rid of her you will be stuck with her until someone comes along she can con for a while. | |
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Posted: 10/17/2007 6:18:25 PM | Outside the bedroom would be better for a friendship.
Does she have any issues with you meeting him?
As for not being able to have a platonic friendship with an ex...
my best friend was my first boys friend for 3 yrs now 11yrs down the line, us both with familys of our own, we still talk on the phone and dont hesitate to give each other a call just to say we care. I think he and his wife are great, but he is still my best friend, id be lost without him, we have been through some horrid stuff as friends, the death of his mum, and other family issues to name but a few. | |
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a1na2
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Joined: 10/3/2006
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Posted: 10/17/2007 6:46:35 PM | I once had a girlfriend who would make me sleep on the couch so her ex could share her bed ( he had a bad back ). I'd usually pass out on the couch anyway. One night I woke up and could hear her moaning loudly as if she was having sex. I just fell back asleep. In the morning I questioned her and she said she must've been having a nightmare. Eventually, we split up. Her and the ex got back together not long after. I wondered about it at first but whatever. Sometimes ya never know I guess.
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Posted: 10/17/2007 7:50:50 PM | | ha ha funny! you were on the couch! you went back sleep because she would have bi*** slpapped you if you said anything. | |
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Posted: 10/18/2007 12:01:42 AM | I was making a remark about your name, BLUE. You seem so hostile to EVERYONE that has a different opinion than you. At your age, I felt I knew it all too and said it; just like you. In 20 yrs, you're going to look back and see why we thought you acted like a fool on theses forums.
Liz
PS: Send me a link to your public service announcments and I'll send you one of mine where I help over 9,000 per week. Let's not compare numbers of help. You won't come close and personally, it doesn't matter if I'm recognized for my work. Those people whom I help know. That's all that matters. | |
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clay71
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Joined: 7/11/2007
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Posted: 10/18/2007 12:57:13 AM | | Careful Blueguy. I think I hear creeking in your arm,from patting yourself on the back too much. | |
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Joined: 10/3/2006
Msg: 60 | |
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Posted: 10/18/2007 6:50:08 AM | Clay, seems to me the one patting himself on the back is you " I'm older and wiser which means I should wear a cape like a super hero, blah,blah, " SNORE.
All blue did was give his views based on personal experience. If you don't agree, why not just ignore his posts rather than lecture him ? A bit arrogant and condescending don't ya think ? Look in the mirror sometimes.
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Posted: 10/18/2007 12:05:46 PM |
I was making a remark about your name, BLUE. You seem so hostile to EVERYONE that has a different opinion than you. At your age, I felt I knew it all too and said it; just like you. In 20 yrs, you're going to look back and see why we thought you acted like a fool on theses forums.
No in 20 years I'm still going to be saying the same thing(s) to people like you. Unless you haven't clicked in yet... I see how people work... To the point that I know how things must be done for a relationship to be unbreakable. Thing is.. my way is old fashioned and most people don't like being old fashioned, oh well.
My whole family thinks the way I do, it's not a matter of age, stop using age as some kind of a lever it has nothing to do with what I am saying!
and thanks a1na2 , at least someone sees what I'm talking about here. | |
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Posted: 10/18/2007 12:18:12 PM | | I think you miss the point completely...it is fine to remain friends and have friends of the opposite sex...BUT...to stay out with them overnight in a motel etc is a little to the extreme | |
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Posted: 10/18/2007 12:18:13 PM | It's possible. But not likely. 90% of guys & girls would. A good sign is that you've met him and you liked him. Guys can tell if another guy would be willing to "dip his pen in another guy's inkwell". The only option is to tell her you want to meet him. You'll know if they've been with each other recently, the minute you see the 2 of them together.
Edit: If you want proof, chill. But go to the motel, and rent her a room down from his, for a week. Go back in the night, and slip the night clerk a $20, or a $50, whatever is the going rate, and ask him/her to let you know if she spends the night at his. Then go home, and call it night. Go back in a week, slip the night clerk another $20, and ask the clerk if she slept in his room. If they're having hanky-panky, you can bet her bed will be empty, and his will be warm.
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Posted: 10/18/2007 9:00:19 PM | | save your cash . if you have to act like that what kinda relationship do you have. | |
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Posted: 10/19/2007 8:07:57 PM | | I think you really know the answer to this, don't you? I mean really... | |
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Posted: 10/19/2007 8:34:58 PM | | I only have a few simple but helpful words if I may. You have to get rid of her. I'm sure that you feel in your heart that you really deserve better. Good luck in your searches | |
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Posted: 10/19/2007 9:00:30 PM | OP, I ask you, if you are the one she wants to spend the rest of her life with would she be getting into the arguements so she has a reason to go to him? sex or not?
I would venture to say there is more going on then she is admitting to. If she needed a place to sleep, at a girlfriends' would be a better choice to keep your trust. As it is she gets his company when things arent so good with you and yours when she gets tired of the cramped quarters a motel provides.
It isnt really a matter of what she has or hasnt done. It is a matter of if , you can trust that it hasnt been happening. If she wanted your trust she shouldn't be going out of her way to break it.
Sort'a reminds me of my college g/f. I found out later, from her, that she had gone out of her way for months to make me miserable. Just so I would be the one to break it off and leave. If I had that to go through again I wouldn't have let it go on so long. All it did was create bitterness in a decent guy that cared about her. Come to think of it , the ex-wife used to create arguements too for a reason to leave or to try to get me to be the one to go. This was right before she left for the last time. Come to find out there was a third person involved there too.
I wouldn't see this as working out and getting better anytime soon. Not easily explained, but whatever it was she saw there once, she isnt seeing in you now.
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Posted: 10/19/2007 9:01:42 PM | There are some people on here living in a dream world thinking that nothing is happening
in that motel room. You are probably politically liberal and living in that dream world to. | |
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Posted: 10/19/2007 10:25:00 PM | She has no FEMALE friends she can go 'boo-hoo' to? If she loved you, she would find solace in venting or talking it out with a female friend if she's not able to do so with you OP.
IF I were to see an ex and stay with him in a motel, I'd be there for more comfort than just WORDS can provide. I mean really now........
I wonder what story her ex would tell you LJ??
Blue is right, his age has nothing to do with his morality, and he's got the right idea on platonic relationships ~ I bet the girl he ends up with will feel quite secure in the way he respects her. I'm the same way he is ~ If in a relationship, my platonic male friends need to accept my sweetheart as well, and not mind him being around when they are, because I won't disrespect my man by hanging out with other men behind his back. It's all about RESPECT.... Old fashion or not, it's more logical than y'all realize. And no, I'm not embarassed to say I commend Blue on his morals ~it's refreshing to see the younger people having morals again ~ like my 18 yr. old daughter and her high morals. Not a damn thing wrong with having GOOD MORALS! She don't have to wear a top cut to her navel to get attention either.... She attracts the right kind of people who share her values and morals by getting respect for who she is. She too would never see another male without her b/f. These morals come from family values most likely...
OP, you aren't being shown any respect with that kind of behavior from her. I know it has to be hard to let go hun, when your heart is involved, it's hard to 'kick 'em to the curb', even when you have been wronged (if it was true, genuine affection/love you have for the person), but you will have to love yourself even more in order to have the strength to do what is needed.
Okie girl has good points in her post, too (#29)
*NOW STOP BICKERING CHILDREN!* Does no good for the OP, and isn't the true topic here! | |
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Rhett1
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Joined: 10/16/2005
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| ex-boyfriends & motels.
Posted: 10/20/2007 8:37:45 AM | OP: You will be much better off without her. She's lying, playing AND cheating. Even if there is nothing sexual going on, what the hell is she doing with this guy?
Says I know her morals and that she would not do that to her body This is her way of making YOU the bad guy for even suspecting such a thing.
Also says she knows he is not the one she wants to spend her life with. Does she think this makes it better? It's not like you're going "Oh my God, she's going to marry him!" I'm thinking it's more like "Oh my God, she's f***ing him!"
is it possible to spend that much time with an ex-boyfriend and not have sex with him even if ya'll spend the night with him? Sure, anything is possible, but what IS she doing there? Spending the whole night? Come on.
Sorry, I hope you're okay, because I know this can be a very painful experience, but you ARE better off without her. | |
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