| Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 7/29/2009 6:20:57 PM | I'm on my 2nd divorce. Not that makes me an expert probably a failure. My feeling is we need people that are special to us, close to us. When we're born that is very important as we age through our early years (teens, 20's and 30's) we become more independant. We become more invincable (sorry 4 years of college and spelling sucks) as we get closer to meeting our maker, we go back to wanting (not nessarily needing) that attention from someone that cares for us deeply. The old saying kicks in once bitten twice shy kicks in. If things your new mate do remind you of things your old use to do.  CYA i'm on the run.  dont' know if this helps but hey it's free of charge a lot cheaper that a divorce lawyer LOL climbing down off my soap box | |
|
| Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 8/2/2009 1:42:21 PM | I am 54. I am single because my husband died after 18 years of marriage. My marriage was good. I loved being married.
With that said as a background... I am NOT desperate to get married but I WANT to get married some day. I am not in a rush, but I want that committed, til death do us part kind of relationship. I want someone in my life to share the good times and the bad. I want to wake up every morning in the same bed with a man I love and start the day off with a hug and a kiss and maybe if I am lucky, a little time being "one in the flesh". I have a lot of love to give. To me the good times are twice as good when you have someone to share them with. The bad times are only half as bad, because you have someone to support you through them.
I do not NEED to be married. I own my own home, mortgage free. I have enough invested to live out my days. I have a supportive family and plenty of friends. I have a lot to bring to the table. I am not looking for a meal ticket. I want a best friend, lover, life partner to embrace life's ups and downs with me. That does NOT equal desperation. | |
|
| |
| Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 8/3/2009 9:39:20 AM | With that said as a background... I am NOT desperate to get married but I WANT to get married some day. I am not in a rush, but I want that committed, til death do us part kind of relationship. I want someone in my life to share the good times and the bad. I want to wake up every morning in the same bed with a man I love and start the day off with a hug and a kiss and maybe if I am lucky, a little time being "one in the flesh". I have a lot of love to give. To me the good times are twice as good when you have someone to share them with. The bad times are only half as bad, because you have someone to support you through them.I want a best friend, lover, life partner to embrace life's ups and downs with me. That does NOT equal desperation.
That sounds really nice and it's what I would like to experience once in my life someday. I know that a loving person like myself would have no problem living that way. It's the commitment phobe men like the OP and bitter divorcees here that want to piss on the idea that people can make a promise to each other and show mutual enjoyment and respect. What guys like the OP should be saying to women is, "I'll spend time with you sweetie, but only when it is at my own convenience, I'll come over, meet your kids, have you cook for me and eat your food, heck I'll even man up and sleep with ya, as long as I don't have to stick around too long. I never know when Heather Locklear might come knockin on my door. When things get too romantic, I'll just avoid the subject of emotional intimacy by grabbing your ass and telling you how horney I am. " | |
|
| Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 9/12/2009 6:25:47 AM | I thought I would stay in my house and have a nice local relationship and share everything with that man but living arrangements. I sure was desperate to get married. But I changed my mind about marriage. Meeting the right person, you want to be with them as much as possible. It is amazing how you can be with them and they make you happy just being around | |
|
| Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 9/12/2009 6:30:47 AM | I'm way over 40, and I've always specified to men when I first talk with them, that marriage is not on my agenda.
So, while I agree that many women over 40 are looking for a husband, (but not necessarily desperate), not all are.
In my experience, it is usually the men who are looking for marriage. | |
|
| Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 9/12/2009 6:54:46 AM | i have also found that men seem more eager to marry....
much more so than the many capable women i know.
no....i'm not generalising....
merely relating what i've found to be true of my acquaintances. | |
|
| |
| Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 9/12/2009 7:54:05 AM | How in h*ll do these threads get to be so long,,,
Neither women or men are all that desperate to get married, are they?
Threads like this get prolonged and done to the "Nth" degree only because people are bored,,,
I find that maybe 1% of people mention the word marriage without provocation in a relationship that hasn't gone beyond the words
I Love You
-realizes he should define "provocation"-
"I Love You"
"I want to be with you forever"
"We should be married"
"Oh baby, I want to do this (sex, meals, sharing bathroom time) every day"
The 1% that mentions this without "provocation" needs to find the opposite sex of the 1% (or same sex if you have that orientation) and keep the rest of us safe from having to run,,,
| |
|
| |
| Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 9/12/2009 12:01:31 PM |
With that said as a background... I am NOT desperate to get married but I WANT to get married some day. I am not in a rush, but I want that committed, til death do us part kind of relationship. I want someone in my life to share the good times and the bad. I want to wake up every morning in the same bed with a man I love and start the day off with a hug and a kiss and maybe if I am lucky, a little time being "one in the flesh". I have a lot of love to give. To me the good times are twice as good when you have someone to share them with. The bad times are only half as bad, because you have someone to support you through them.
I do not NEED to be married. ... I have a lot to bring to the table. I am not looking for a meal ticket. I want a best friend, lover, life partner to embrace life's ups and downs with me. That does NOT equal desperation.
ding ding ding. right answer | |
|
| Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 9/12/2009 8:16:01 PM | There has only ever been one person in the last 20 years that I wanted to marry ASAP before we missed the opportunity for the 2nd time regardless of what star-crossed conditions had been dumped on our laps again.
That's it. I'm done. And like my profile says, I'm looking for a longterm live-out relationship. | |
|
| |
| Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 9/13/2009 12:37:17 PM | | well, im over 40 and ive already been married and have no plans to do it again, thats for sure...sorry to hear theyre trying to rush you to the altar! have these women been married before? | |
|
| Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 9/13/2009 5:50:05 PM | | MONEY MONEY MONEY AND MORE MONEY is always the answer to why women want to get married 95 % of the time. They want that security blanket and that is all. For that, your going to get a little sex, maybe good or maybe bad, pay their bills and their kids and relatives too. Better to rent then to buy if your in doubt. | |
|
| |
| |
| |
| |
| Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 9/13/2009 6:50:55 PM | well, like you said, you can't paint (or tar ;)) us all with the same brush... maybe some women are 'desperate' to get married because they feel life's clock ticking away
but maybe some women feel as though that clock could slooooow agonizingly if that ring was wrapped around their finger
personally, i'm not sure that i want to get married again and i'm certainly not in any rush to find out :) | |
|
| Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 9/13/2009 7:07:23 PM |
MONEY MONEY MONEY AND MORE MONEY is always the answer to why women want to get married 95 % of the time. They want that security blanket and that is all. For that, your going to get a little sex, maybe good or maybe bad, pay their bills and their kids and relatives too. Better to rent then to buy if your in doubt. Well, what about women who have their own money and don't need his?
I don't need a security blanket, I don't have any unpaid bills, my children are not moochers, and neither are my relatives.
I'm not "DESPERATE to get married ... just happen to believe it goes along with the unconditional love we would have for one another. | |
|
| Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 9/13/2009 7:31:41 PM | "MONEY MONEY MONEY AND MORE MONEY is always the answer to why women want to get married 95 % of the time. They want that security blanket and that is all. For that, your going to get a little sex, maybe good or maybe bad, pay their bills and their kids and relatives too. Better to rent then to buy if your in doubt."
Sounds like you've been meeting all the wrong women. | |
|
| |
| Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 9/13/2009 8:12:13 PM | "Life is so simple, when you know what a woman wants and you give it to her."
Why do some need to find needy people of the opposite gender to save?
How do you attempt to date women who already have everything they want because they themselves have earned what the money to pay for their toys?
How do you feel about women who have no desire to date, let alone marry someone who is multiple divorced?
No way do I need the burden of the baggage to marry anyone at this age. Unless I meet a fellow widowed person who has totally healed, I won't even be considering a relationship of any kind. | |
|
| |
Home
login 
