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| | Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?Page 31 of 34 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 24, 25, 26, 27, 28, 29, 30, 31, 32, 33, 34) | That is exactly what I am getting..I have to cut it off after a few dates..
they act..like they are going to die quick and have to grab whatever woman they can find..
It is scary..
It seems that no one wants to date..just for dating..
even on emails..they all ask what my intentions are for the future..
when I say thart I don't know..A lot of em get angry.. | |
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| Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 10/24/2009 12:35:46 AM | FYI. Alert, alert. Some males have been brainwashed all their life. You are not the end all, be all, of any womans life. Women actually expect you to bring to the table, an equal to what they bring, financially, culturally, even, education. Most women can perform your basic function, artificially, or with a dildo. Dont you just love "electronics" and medical science? Unless you are one of the few and far between, who actually are looking for something extra, who actually have some color in your personality, believe me, we are not desperate for marriage, or even a date with you. We do have other options.
To do list: Call the sperm bank, and replace those dang batteries. | |
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| Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 10/24/2009 12:24:23 PM | I know men and women who are in a hurry to get married again, I know others who swear they'll never bother with it again.
Some assume that is my goal, since I am open that what I seek is a LTR, but I honestly don't know if I ever want to marry again. I do want a LTR; I like the feeling of being part of a loving relationship, the feeling of a partnership, and of the two of us being greater than we were separately.
When I find my LTR, marriage is something we may or may not discuss when it fits into our plans. As I see it now, the 'marriage' aspect would be more to address practical matters than to define the relationship itself.
So, I suppose this "over 40" is hardly 'desperate' to get married again. | |
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| Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 10/24/2009 1:59:21 PM | | Addicted: Women want to go slow (before sex) in order to make sure the man actually cares about them. However, men push and push and rush them into sex, then 'after they get sex' they say 'whoa', we're not exclusive. Slow down! Men are liars from the get go. You evidently led those women to believe that you cared about them and then put on the brakes when you had to 'prove it'. You're a worm. Those women had every right to be angry with you. Get a hold of yourself. You're not 17 anymore. You're irresponsible behavior is no longer cute, or mischievious or endearing. Grow up and stop lying to women. | |
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| Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 10/24/2009 10:22:05 PM |
This was without hints, discussions, or talking about this subject.
I am confused. If there was no discussion about it, how do you know marriage was the next intended step?
I have been single since 2001 and prefer it. I do desire a close relationship, but not marriage. We are not all alike. | |
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| Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 10/29/2009 10:42:59 PM | Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
I know of no woman over 40 who's desperate to get married. However, if you've run into a few, my best guess would be that they're scared. Need the security of a marriage.
So, if you'd like to be that secure guy, go for it. If not, then don't.
And by the by - did you try asking them why they're in such a hurry? | |
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| Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 10/31/2009 10:43:50 AM | | As i found out, somehow when a women don't need a man to marry she has her security either given to her,or had a good job to over ride her spending. Then is not willing to share like a man has to, if the man wants a women. Security has a lot to do with the average women getting older,if she always blew her funds in life. But the reality of it is now,most men don't have these jobs anymore. As the majority took over, the women had more time to go back to school, either while married,or after divorces to get better paying jobs. Pretty soon there will be too many office jobs and no products to buy to keep them going. Unless it is all for them buying cosmetics,purses,and their own new cloths. But why get all prettied up when they don't need the men anymore,ha ha. | |
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| Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 10/31/2009 3:03:56 PM | Perhaps some feel desperate because they haven't had children yet...or have never been married...? Thankfully, I married in my twenties and had my children. To get married now, we would have to be "head over heels" in love and very good for each other in every way. No one has ever tempted me again, although, you never know about the future. | |
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| Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 11/1/2009 1:03:11 PM | If someone keeps drawing the same kinds of experiences to oneself, it has something to do with what you are transmitting to others. Perhaps you need to look at how you set up these negative experiences. There must have been all kinds of red flags which you disregarded. The change needs to be inside you, in developing your own awareness of how you set up romantic relationships. A psychotherapist may be of assistance to you in this regard.
Judith | |
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| Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 11/2/2009 8:50:44 AM | | I can't speak for others however, I don't think I have much of an interest to marry again. Been there and done that. I would be happy with a relationship. Take if from there maybe somewhere along the way if it felt right. No rush here. | |
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| Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 11/2/2009 11:12:30 AM | op,
different strokes for different folks. i see marriage as an albatross...too much responsibility...i can walk around like a slob in my own house & not have to worry about someone else getting uptight about it. it's way too much work for what seems to be something sort of blah over time. i just don't have the desire or energy to work on something where i feel perpetually nagged and harangued. too many 'shoulds'... i like to come & go as i please with none of those constant expectations. just the thought wears me down. help!!!! | |
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| Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 12/13/2009 2:17:04 PM |
And kill spiders. It's always about the spiders.
Nah. I have a perfectly good little shop vac that gets rid of them nicely. And believe me, there are plenty of them in Oklahoma!
I didn't bother looking back to see what, if anything, I said before, but while I would like a long term, it doesn't have to be marriage, and I'm not feeling particularly desperate. Just somewhat surprised that virtually all of the males in my age group within a 200 mile radius of me who claim to be looking for the same thing still aren't interested in finding out if we might have enough in common to even be just plain friends. In fact, I just found another site where nearly all the men over 59 are looking for women from 28-40. I wish them luck, considering the photos they have posted. | |
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| Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 12/13/2009 2:46:54 PM | | I have found the same with a couple of women I dated. They were ready for the "i do's" in just a couple months!! I am not opposed to it, I just want to move slower and they only knew fast and stop. | |
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| Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 12/13/2009 2:56:00 PM | | Well, by the looks of it, then its you that needs to change your dating behaviors not the women over 40. Seems like the consensus is that they are actually in no rush to the altar at all. Pick different types of women next time. | |
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| Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 12/13/2009 5:46:15 PM | A moderate pace is best. Too fast, you crash and burn. Too slow, means there's either no particular potential or someone's going to get bored, frustrated/move on.
Personally, I'm EXTREMELY happily single. When I go out on a date, it's a DATE. Period. It's an opportunity to have fun and get to know the person better. (I also don't want to get married.)
Some people (women) realize that LTR take time and learn to enjoy the process and that a particular date or person is not going to necessarily be "the one" even it if seems like it has potential.
Patience and respect are key.
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| Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 12/14/2009 10:18:26 AM | | I'm in no hurry to get married and I'm way over 40..53 (today actually). I'd like to find one man that wants only me but really really slow about the marriage thing. What I don't understand is the ones that talk for awhile then..nothing. What's that about? You can't tell a person by writing a couple times, believe me, I've met 8 men and only 2 were what the wrote like. | |
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| Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 12/14/2009 10:35:44 AM | I'm not afraid of spiders. Now bats, bees are a different thing altogether.
Bats are our friends, they eat all those mosquitos that carry nasty diseases. And bees make honey and pollinate flowers, so unless you're allergic...
Wasps, on the other hand - we've got these BIG aggressive red buggers, and they really hurt. I start spraying for them when I see the first can of spray on a shelf in the store.
And I don't need a man to either buy it or hold the nozzle, I can do both my very own self. | |
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