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| Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 10/18/2007 10:13:05 AM | after pondering this I think I may have the answer, some women over 40 are desperate to get married, but they aren't just desperate for marriage, they are just desperate. In fact I believe they are desperate enough to date anyone who looks like they wouldn't be able to get anyone else. It's like they are looking for easy prey. In order to save time by just dating this person they bring up marriage right away.
Remember I said some women, IMO most women aren't desperate regardless of their age. The same principals apply to men. Desperation isn't a gender thing.
OP if 50% of the women you are dating are desperate perhaps you should rethink your criteria for the women you date. Talk to them before you ask them out and if you are clever enough you will be able to find out what their agenda is.
Geez I'm not normally this serious and I have a headache now.
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| Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 10/18/2007 2:23:32 PM | sorry and all that, but i am 51 and if being on this site means you are the type that i will meet and you think i would be so desperate to marry then FORGET IT , i would sooner pull my fingernails out with tweezers one by one , that would be more pleasurable than spending any amount of time with you, sorry you asked for it, who do you think you are ...........george clooney........more like george formby . | |
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| Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 10/18/2007 2:50:49 PM | hi BRAD! ANGELINA here! well all i can say is if you,ve had four women desperate to marry you,theres hope for all those ugly guys and girls out there! i personally would,nt give you a second look let alone MARRY you! have you looked in the mirror lately? i would if i were you! then i,d get back to those 4 so called over 40's DESPERATE women and BEG them to marry you! GET THE PICTURE!! | |
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| Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 10/19/2007 10:21:07 AM | "why buy the cow when the milk is free has turned into:
when a woman wants a little sausage, why buy the pig that comes along with it?"
is one I will long remember. I am going to add a question about this saying to my fishbowl that I draw my "first meeting" questions from.
In two years I have yet to meet even one lady desperate to get married, but I have met a number who would like to have a sensible exclusive intimate relationship just like me. Sure they ask a lot of questions, but so do I. Nothing wrong with that as far as I can see. I found if you ask questions, you do have to be ready to answer them, and it can be fun if everyone keeps a sense of humour.
OP sounds like he would rather dispense with all this yakking to just drop trousers and get on with it. If that's what you want, there are ladies who provide such services for a fee, but they don't hang out in these forums. I can readily understand why the ladies here are after him like a pack of Mako sharks! | |
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| Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 10/19/2007 3:39:06 PM |
Ok Hotchild...what is an LDS woman?
I was hoping google might give me some other options on this, but it didn't. LDS = Mormon. (Latter Day Saints, short for Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints)
That's it.
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| Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 10/19/2007 8:20:35 PM |
I wonder why your experience isn't with women? lmao.
Huh? Please clarify; I have never had a woman want to marry me, as I only date men! My point was that he is generalizing, nothing more. | |
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| Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 10/19/2007 9:06:23 PM | I looked LDS up on the *internet acronyms dictionary* and it's not there either lol.
Not desperate to get married here. Til death do us part can just as easily be done without getting married.
But...
If the man I was in love with asked I would say yes. :) | |
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| Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 10/19/2007 11:02:38 PM | | Perhaps it is something in your profile. But oh! Whats that? "2 out of 4 women"? Those are not exactly very good numbers to draw conclusions from you know. Perhaps you might consider going back to the drawing table and taking a few hundred more tries before you make such conclusions. Just a suggestion thats all. | |
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| Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 10/20/2007 4:35:14 AM | Addicted_2_Chaos.....Since it is a rainy day ,I have taken the time to read most of the posts here.
It seems that most women here are in agreement that mariage is a big No No. Some women have even tried to answer the poster in a sensible way.
But I must say that some of the "Ladies " on this forum try to seize every oportunity to launche personal attacks at the poster, or towards men in general.
It just goes to show that maturity does not necessarily come with age.
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| Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 10/20/2007 4:42:48 AM | Post 106......
theres hope for all those ugly guys and girls out there! i personally would,nt give you a second look let alone MARRY you! have you looked in the mirror lately? i would if i were you! then i,d get back to those 4 so called over 40's DESPERATE women and BEG them to marry you! GET THE PICTURE!!
This is just one example.
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| Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 10/20/2007 5:28:48 AM | I can only speak for myself in this thread...there have been MANY valid points made here & I hope I can learn from all of them. Some of the stuff I read in here...well, you know that old saying, if you don't have anything nice to say...
Personally, I would like to meet a man who is as close to what could be termed "my soulmate"... marriage comes secondary.
It doesn't take much to get married, it takes ALOT to have a mutually satisfying, healthy relationship.
Lately, I have been pursuing activities I LIKE w/ friends or alone. I am tired of meeting a man for a cup of coffee just for the sake of doing so. I want to be w/ someone who "clicks" w/ me...
I guess I am NOT desperate to get married. But it would be nice to have some of my needs met in a relationship, instead of trying to meet their needs... a mutual caring & sharing
Today I am celebrating 17 years (October 17, 1990), of being on my own, without the benefit of living with a "husband". I'm over 40, horrors, I'm over 50, and am definately not "desperate" to get married again.......why mess a good life up with that complication? In all relationships, someone has to be "dominant", or so it seems, and that person is usually of the male gender. That could be a problem for me, because after 17 years of making my own way in the world, I've turned into an "Alpha" female. Conversely, I would love to have a gentleman companion for an exclusive, long term relationship, but not if it means that I have to become someone I'm not (can we say "Suzy Homemaker"?) Personally, I don't want to be an albatross to anyone, nor do I want anyone to be an albatross to me!
Most of the over-40 women that I know feel the same way; and we pretty much feel sorry for the "desperate" ones, because no one wears "desperation" very well. awesome post by a very smart lady, sorry I can't email you to tell you how m,uch I enjoy your posts! | |
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| Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 10/20/2007 2:00:32 PM | | My experience is that I've never met a woman yet, who is capable of loving. No one wants more than a fling. No one wants commitment, or God forbid . . . . marriage. I wonder sometimes what things have come to when females now behave like the males of yesteryear? | |
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| Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 10/20/2007 9:26:09 PM | Well I came on this site to make some friends, something which hasn't happened in the year I have been on here, I certainly don't want to get married. I find the majority of men in middle age are desperate for a woman, and in fact they don't seem to care what she is like as long as they have a partner, women are strong and don't need that man and actually put themselves out alot just to make the man happy, even though its not what they really want to do, especially with sex, the majority of women feel its just another chore to make the man happy.
I run a natural hormone clinic and speak to hundreds and hundreds of women and its wonderful to see women who have put up with feeling like crap for so many years actually feel well, women are very very strong and put up with a husband moaning, a husbands demands, and then realise when they are well just how terrible they did feel, not a lot of people realise men go through menopause as well as women and its called andropause, you can tell this by the man's extended ear, nose and eyebrow growth of excess hair.
Women when hormonally balanced can go it alone for ever more, its the men who find it difficult to be alone. So yea I feel you are choosing the type of women who you know really deep down is going to cause you strife, similar to a lot of women are attracted to **stards not on purpose but they know he is a **stard and still carry on serving him like a slave till one day she really wakes up and starts to think of herself and what it is she wants in life.
Why is it men are good at making women feel bad cos women don't have the same sex drive as a man, men somehow interpret sex as love, so when a woman says no, he gets sulky and moody etc, and then use it as a good excuse to stray looking for other women. If only it was like that when women have to pick up and cook and clean for their men, they too can one day say sod you and get someone else in who can cook and clean for them.
Of course like you say you don't want to paint all women with the same brush, I do not want to paint men with the same brush either, but like I say the hundreds and hundreds of women I speak to each week, it seems like they just might have a couple of brushes that are shared around. | |
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| Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 10/21/2007 12:49:20 AM | | Wow after 2-4 months I don't even know if I want go away on vacation with someone. LOL who are you dating? Maybe I have been single for too long. I think some women are afraid to be alone no-matter what the age. | |
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| Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 10/21/2007 2:15:57 AM | | wow this entire thread is pretty disheartening. It's like commitment has gone out with the bath water. No, not commitment, how about love? Not sure what word or words to use here but it's something of value whatever the word(s) are. Doing for another has become a chore now instead of sharing and growing together? There is no joy or pleasure in pleasing another? It's all about ME and how MY life must not be affected by another to the point of matrimony? I found the OP's original post rather odd but the replies in return were profound. I guess I'm not far out enough from my divorce yet to fully comprehend how jaded a person becomes over time. It appears a person gets on some kind of power ego trip or something and fears relinquishing their individuality in a meaningful relationship. If I would use this thread alone to determine the likelihood of ever finding another woman to fall deeply in love with and truly share a meaningful life with again I may as well forget such a pipe dream. I don't know if it's jaded, past hurts, loss of trust or what for sure, but this thread is a sad example of what happens to people when they've been alone for too long. I don't know if it's selfishness, narcissism, cold hearts, or hearts with walls or what, but man, what I've read here sure paints a bleak picture in my mind of what we've become. People laugh and scoff at the sanctity of marriage in a prideful manner like they've defeated an evil or something. Something's wrong with this picture. | |
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| Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married?
Posted: 10/21/2007 4:49:40 AM | | there not all,you just ran into the wronge 4,i te;; them up frount.im sepated,looking too devorce her in time no we are not getting back too gether she moved too texas,will i was the cheater and im willing too tell every females ,that i have many driffent types of girlfriends,i only come out and play with one ec week,only one keeps bugging me too marry her,and she even get 1,800 from the goverment,for not working,will all the rest,if any thing looking too live with me,so they can as they think have it all the time not going too work that way,i have slave types that want too do every thing for me but they carry some baggage,that they not yet told me about,a few other wild ones you really dont play with the wright females | |
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