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 teddah
Joined: 1/7/2005
Msg: 26
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anything is possible, will enough effort..
 Good man!
Joined: 5/13/2005
Msg: 27
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36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 5/17/2005 11:31:49 AM
You are dead on the money with this post.
 moonstarr
Joined: 4/3/2005
Msg: 28
36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 5/17/2005 3:10:57 PM
You mentioned you have 'very strong feelings' for this person. Are they sorted out in your own mind enough for you know what the feelings are for certain? *Comanionship, friendship, love, any others I may have missed.*

I don't *necessarily* think it is doomed right from the beginning, but as you have yourself already noted, you have two children involved. I think the age of the children you have should be a factor in this. If they are young teenagers by now, then perhaps you may want to rethink the dating thing with this guy. I mean, how would your child feel if someone say, only 12 or 13 years older then them walked onto the scene? I assume that because you are considering this man, he's already told you he's ready for fatherhood to some degree within the next couple of years or so, right? But even if so, would he know what to do with an older child?

As for you asking is it fair of you to 'deny him the chance' of his own children? That statement right there shows that you care about him, and that's a great thing. I think that is something the two of you would need to talk about together. If not having his own biological children will not bother him, then consider the other specifics of your situation, which only you guys know, and make a decision based off of those.

Back when I was still 'looking' I pretty much only would look no further then him being ten years older then me, for just the generation gap reasons, etc. However, on the bright side, I lived with some people at one time when I was younger (they were my foster parents at the time) and she was 31 and a nurse, he was 52 and a machine shop worker. They had a very wonderful and loving relationship. For them it worked out rather well.
 cosworth2009
Joined: 4/30/2005
Msg: 29
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36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 5/17/2005 3:43:44 PM
thats a big step for someone that young of age..kids are onething and a lots of responsiblity..best to see what's his goals and his dreams first.
 maria1973
Joined: 12/31/2004
Msg: 30
36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 5/17/2005 3:51:46 PM
Hey you shouldn't feel bad about it at all actually. My boyfriend is 22 and i just turned 32 so we get along great and the sex is awesome but you have to know that you take things one day at a time don't think the what ifs or what do people think it is your own life and I have 2 kids and they love him he is more of a father to my son than my son's father.So go ahead live life to the fullest I know i am. And never mind stressing about it..
 windygale
Joined: 5/12/2005
Msg: 31
36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 5/17/2005 4:28:13 PM
I am 63. I feel 36. Go for it. Men wear out faster than we do. Look how much fun you can have and who knows it may last forever. Beside the fact you only regret what you didnt do.
 salamander000
Joined: 10/26/2004
Msg: 32
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36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 5/17/2005 4:56:51 PM
gad, the 'age old' question once again , WHYYYYY ASSKKKK???

anything is possible, will enough effort..

who told you that bs sweety?
 Carrie5
Joined: 12/30/2004
Msg: 33
36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 5/17/2005 5:54:32 PM
Kimber I like that answer LOL
 Carrie5
Joined: 12/30/2004
Msg: 34
36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 5/17/2005 5:56:53 PM
moonstarr, thanks for those comments, very bright, I admire your intelligence on them, my children are 4 and 6 so there won't be any teenager rebelion involved :)

C
 Carrie5
Joined: 12/30/2004
Msg: 35
36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 5/17/2005 5:59:22 PM
hiya salamander. Why ask? Very simple actually, started my husband when I was 18, was with him for 17 years, so I've never really been OUT THERE on the dating scene, and people in here are so fantastic, it helps to get a little insight and life experience.

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 meowmix
Joined: 1/16/2005
Msg: 36
36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 5/17/2005 6:53:41 PM
carrie, i was in a chat room, for winnipeg manitoba, and i was there chatting among the others, a bunch of younger men started to whisper to me, most were rude, or asked ignorant childish questions. then this younger man whispered, he was 23, he asked about my dog. (i had a pic of him on my msn profile). i read his profile, and thought ohhhh great, another one, but he said he had pets, and named fish, lizard and a frog as his pet. so we started talking from there. there was no mention of sex, or anything for me to get mad at. we left the chat room and we added each other to msn. we chatted all that night.
the next day was sunday, he asked to meet for coffee. i did. we had coffee and chatted for 4 hours, he was amazing, so intelligent, so full of life, but yet innocent. we parted. the next day he was waiting for me on messenger. we chatted all monday night, we made plans for another meeting, we met, he reached to kiss me. i felt wierd and all,and i told him, he said we can stop if i felt to. which we did. so we kept on chatting every night. i never did go into the chat rooms again, not since february 15/03. we have gone away camping, we stayed at a few very nice hotels. gone to beaches etc. we are a couple. like anyone else. we usually do things with his friends, but i see now, with each month he is getting more mature. its quite cute actually. he now will stay home with me late at night, or on the weekends and not go to his friends parties. he is sooo not like them really. they all drink, he doesnt. they do doobie, he doesnt. we are very happy, and there is sooo much to talk about.
carrie, if he is sweet, not rude to you, take a chance. what are you losing? nothing right. go with your heart. hell men have been doing it for centuries, its our turn now.
good luck
MM
 meowmix
Joined: 1/16/2005
Msg: 37
36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 5/17/2005 6:58:46 PM

gad, the 'age old' question once again , WHYYYYY ASSKKKK???who told you that bs sweety?


sal, sorry here, but again your way out of line. if you dont like the thread move on plz. just because of your past and your all alone, leave your own bs to yourself. plzzzzzzzz
MM
have a nice night
 sweetiie
Joined: 2/25/2005
Msg: 38
36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 5/17/2005 7:22:16 PM
Anything is possible, however thats not for me..i'd feel like I was a mother figure..I have had sex with a 20 something year old ...He almost ripped me apart he was hugeeeeeeee and skinny and said "honey don't diss us skinny guys" ..LMAO
..Seriously though I have a freind who married a young guy 12 years difference they been together 12 years now and its worked out very well..He is actually a lawyer now and has always been a mature thinker for his age ... So who knows??????
 Carrie5
Joined: 12/30/2004
Msg: 39
36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 5/17/2005 7:23:39 PM
sweettie TY :)
 Carrie5
Joined: 12/30/2004
Msg: 40
36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 5/17/2005 7:24:15 PM
polymale57, why am I dead on the money?
 Chatpilot
Joined: 9/5/2004
Msg: 41
36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 5/17/2005 7:27:03 PM
I agree. Go for it. Whats the worst that can happen.

In other news, Geekgoddess is frickan HOT.

(swoon)
 TheSkepticalHippy
Joined: 4/24/2005
Msg: 42
36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 5/17/2005 7:27:58 PM
It really tickles me when thirty somethings get on speak of the "huge" age difference with their twenty-something lovers.

Me, I'm about to turn 64 and I'm involved with two women. One who is 48 and the other who actually 32. Yes, we cohabitat and all get along great.

We did have some trouble recently, but that's all resolved now. It involved with my younger lady feeling inadequate for not have a baby. She seemed to think it made her less of a woman. We finally got it through her head that it didn't matter and that it was all okay.

Just insecurities, but I've just discovered that insecurities are one of the greatest enemies of the May-December relationship.
 sweetiie
Joined: 2/25/2005
Msg: 43
36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 5/17/2005 8:05:00 PM
np carrie5...I have lotsa young guys after me...I never give them the time of day...I think eithers its for you or its not......look at Demi Moore... she did it.....best of luck!!!
 TheSkepticalHippy
Joined: 4/24/2005
Msg: 44
36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 5/17/2005 8:28:10 PM
Um, is Demi Moore really a good example? Think about it.

No, I'm not going to point out why, even if you can't figure it out for yourself.
 bosslady
Joined: 2/9/2005
Msg: 45
36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 5/17/2005 9:56:25 PM
Hey Carrie5 I tried to message you but women are not allowed....I definitely have some input on this one if you want to message me and remove your restrictions. Basically I think there are no guarantees in life and you should find happiness wherever you can no matter what the age...

I have always believed that you regret more the things you never try than the things you do...the relationship may not work for entirely different reasons or it could turn out great. If you let the age difference scare you away you could be missing out on something magical and that would be sad...

I have much more to say if you want to mesage me privately..if not than good luck and enjoy each other!
 TheSkepticalHippy
Joined: 4/24/2005
Msg: 46
36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 5/18/2005 2:39:03 AM
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 cato3052
Joined: 4/4/2005
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36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 5/18/2005 11:50:49 AM
LUCKY BLOKE!!!
 salamander000
Joined: 10/26/2004
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36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 5/18/2005 12:43:07 PM
carrie, I believe in living a limitless life, sometimes I don't take the proper time to explain my blurts n blurbs, anything and everything is possible, if it is truly in your heart...
 teddah
Joined: 1/7/2005
Msg: 49
36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 5/18/2005 2:58:44 PM
who told you that bs sweety?....my mommy...
 dannyabe
Joined: 3/20/2005
Msg: 50
36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 5/18/2005 4:05:10 PM
GEESHHHHHHH......
i cant understand you ladies ......
some say.....they want a guy close to their own age....because they want grow old with him and well....yada yada yada ????
then you have gals that want older men because....they have done it all and they are settled.
now i come to this thread to see this !!!!!!!!!

omg.....

i so confused man.....i'm going back to sleep
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