| | 36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?Page 5 of 8 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8) | | I did it! I am still grateful for our friendship. He will always be someone special to me...We hook up every now and again, but there is no way we could be together long term. Once we realized that...we called it off.. | |
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| 36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 7/18/2005 7:33:55 PM | | i would let him see his kids look at me i am 19 and my ex is 39 and we have a 3 month old son togeather that he love so much i would never keep him from his son | |
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| 36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 7/18/2005 8:30:54 PM | ^^^You Cradle Robber,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, ....
...OT....age should be no factor......As long as two Adults are Happy and enjoying each Other.... | |
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| 36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 7/18/2005 9:06:27 PM | | I guess it comes from working with teenagers since the age of 20, but to me a 21 yr old often seems like "one of my kids." Actually, there are several that are now older than that. Couldn't do it. Don't want to do it. Can't understand. (well, I can on one level, but... no.) | |
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| 36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 7/18/2005 10:06:32 PM | This comment, " most people over 35 dating people UNDER 25 are either insecure,immature,selfish,dysfunctional,have lowered expectations,have hormones affecting brain cells or ALL of the above"
I find rather disturbing.... I don't consider myself insecure, immature, or selfish...dysfunctional at times perhaps..( understanding that we are all dysfunctional to a certain extent is definetly a sign of maturity..)... I find that it's rather mature actually to know and recognize that age and maturity, while they should seem to be related, aren't. My ex-husband is 43 and much less mature emotionally than the younger men I have dated... Having said that, I have dated a few men that were in their 20's that still acted like babies/mamma's boys... I choose to now date within a 12 year window either way ( older or younger)... Age doesn't matter to me..It's more about how mature someone is, how much they are willing to give and whether proper intimacy can be developed... | |
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| 36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 7/20/2005 5:27:19 PM | go for it, just don't get too serious otherwise you might get hurt. if he is your boytoy then why not. if you think he is going to settle down with you, unlikely... | |
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| 36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 7/22/2005 3:40:04 PM | | Interesting....when I've dated younger WOMEN, I get criticized...by WOMEN...for robbing the cradle and/or ignoring the beauty and charm of women in my age group. I think I'm detecting a bit of a double standard from some of you. | |
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| 36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 7/22/2005 3:49:45 PM |
I think I'm detecting a bit of a double standard from some of you. Only if it's the same women criticizing you and dating younger men.  | |
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| 36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 7/22/2005 8:13:01 PM | One thing I have to point out here ....
I see alot of people chiming in with the "You go girl" (blech! That was ten years ago the last time people thought that was even remotely a non-cliche) stuff but wait a second...You're the same people who would love to put the Dirty Doc under a very heavy object while it slowly decends. So which is it? It's good or it's bad? Say it here and remember it because I really don't want to have to point out the uber-hyposcrisy of it the next time you try and use it on the doc. Moreover, I'd really hate to have to defend the Doc on a point such as this.
I say if you want to do go ahead, but there's no room for the double standard here. If it's good for the goose, it's good for the gander and never bring it up again. | |
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| 36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 7/22/2005 8:21:57 PM | hey gotapulse
there's a difference. The doc wants a girl who is 25 to 30 years his junior.....that's just freaky. As I said to him...I can see 10 - 15 yrs but more than that and its just weird. | |
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| 36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 7/22/2005 9:16:47 PM | | it is all about chemistry and connection. if the love is there then it can last a lifetime, my cousin and his wife have been married for 12 years now.... and she is 14 years older than him. | |
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| 36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 7/22/2005 11:24:49 PM | | Yeah but Squirrly what exactly is the difference? In both cases both parties have nothing in common. They are in it for the sex that's all. And that's fine if that's what blows their hair back. I'm just saying that for everything that you can say about the Doc and his lamentable choices of words, you can't rightly say that an 18 year old has any more in common with a 36 year old than a 50 year old. I can honestly tell you that I have no interest in anybody below the age of about 23 because , well frankly, I see them as children still. Sure, they look nice and all that but that's physical attraction. A ten year difference means less and less once both parties are past thirty I figure but at 18 you're not going to get many people, male or female, who have anything in common with you outside of a few specifics maybe. Think about it though. What difference does it make if he's 50 or she's 36 and they're both dating people who are, for lack of a better word, still children ? How do you intend to introduce these people to your friends? To your family? What do you plan to actually talk about? All I'm saying is that in these cases, just admit it, it's not a relationship you're after, it's a wild ride. Nothing wrong with that but if that's the case, what is it that makes the Doc any worse than the OP? When you get right down to it, nothing. I'm just calling out a double standard here. Frankly, I don't think it's right in either case, but all parties involved can do as they please and I'm not interested in stopping them. | |
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| 36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 7/23/2005 5:49:35 AM | Gotpulse, in some ways I agree with you. I have daughters aged 20,23 & 26 so I tend to view guys that age as children too. But then I think about when I was that age. I was married at 19 and my husband was 21. He was rather old for his years...he always has been even today he seems older than his age. I don't really want to generalize about all 20 somethings just like I don't want to generalize about 40 somethings.
I still feel that an age gap up to 15 yrs is more acceptable. My last long term relationship was with a man who was 10 years younger and I can honestly say I never felt the age gap. We liked the same things....he was very intelligent and it wasn't a sex only based relationship. | |
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| 36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 7/23/2005 6:01:40 AM | go get em' tiger...just try to keep a few out there for single gals like me around that age!
I can't see myself with anyone older than 28! | |
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| 36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 7/23/2005 7:31:26 AM | | Boo I was 17 with a 37 year old woman.She showed me alot about life,and honestly prepaired me for my own son that I had when i was 20.If your heart leads you follow it,I doubt he will do anytihgn he doesnt want to. | |
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| 36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 7/23/2005 9:24:21 AM | | Go ahead and act upon them. He is no dummy he already knows the kid options when he found about the age difference. In his mind I am sure he has already considered all the options and yet he clearly choices to go on and be with you. Not everyone has to have "biological children" in their lives. Many will come to love their partners children as their own. Go for it! | |
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| 36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 7/24/2005 7:40:24 PM | | Wow.by reading this forum and a few others I have seen.I see women around 35 and on up are looking for much youger men.I just dont believe in marrying a person and being with them forever anymore,and the reason for that is because I see alot of these older women who more then likely might have been married and some who were married arent with the man around there age anymore and now dating the younger men.The reason I would have doubts about dating a much younger man if I was around the age 35 and up is because when hes like 30 something you will be in your 60's or maybe even 70s.I would still want to be with a guy that we have some things in common.Thats some of the things I look at.although my son father is much older then me.when I 19 he was in his mid 30s.sadly to say things didnt work out.of course some people like to feel young again and feel that excitment.they are some men that are in there 40s and 50s that act young and fun to as well Im sure.now days alot of the older men are keeping themselves up and looking good as the 30 and 40 year olds.I would have never though that Harrison Ford was 63 or Denzel Washinton was 50 or Brad Pitt 41.These men are Gorgeous and look good although they are famous, I think if they werent famous they still would look just as good.I guess it depends on the person and what they are looking for.but for me I would like a older man,because I think it looks much better and seems more like the man is being protecting.Ive dated a younger guy in highschool and I felt like I was more protecting of him because he was younger then me. | |
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| 36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 7/24/2005 7:49:38 PM | Ive talked to a guy before on the phone for a few months that lied to me and told me he was 26 turns out he was 46.there is no way I could be with a man that is 46 that is a 24 year age difference and he honestly thought we could make things work.when I was born he was 24.I would be 30 and he would be 56.Big X | |
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| 36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 11/16/2006 7:49:37 AM | | I hooked up at 18 with a 27 year old with kids. It was just about sex 24/7, but at 18 is there anything else a guy thinks about? | |
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| 36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 11/16/2006 10:46:03 AM | Hey, you are right ^^ that is about all you could have
in common.
One day the younger guy realizes he doesn't want you anymore. | |
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