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 nmyers9999
Joined: 3/25/2007
Msg: 151
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He's an adult - let him make his decisions (discuss at length the pros/cons if you feel it must be discussed) - but if he wants you, and you want him - why deny each other! Life is too short - and you only get one of them - so enjoy it in every way it offers itself to you both.

Mind you - I was 19, she was 34. Time of my life. Was never going to last forever, but I would not want to have missed that part of my life for all the amatuer fumblings with girls my own age back then! So I'm incredibly bias!
 cheiflottasmoke
Joined: 3/17/2007
Msg: 152
36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 3/31/2007 6:51:57 AM
the pics on my profile i was 28,the woman that took the pic was my 48 yr old g/f.....and let me tell you...dating older is alot easier than younger.....usually an older woman or man has stability...so you dont have to deal with alot of drama.my experience was great dated for 2 yrs....still friends to this day just came back from keys snorkeling with her,shes 52 im 32....but when its us i dont think about the age.....i think about how she makes me feel.and we have tossed it around and as tragic as it is she is 20yrs older so its not a reality,so we just enjoy each others company as much as we can as long as we can
 Jordannne
Joined: 6/10/2005
Msg: 153
36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 3/31/2007 7:26:26 AM
I've dated guys that age. But I never see anything past what it is - an affair of sorts. A person at 21 is in a different mind-frame then someone in their 30's... no matter how mature they are or claim to be. As we age, our experiences and growth change how we think and react to situations. When I remember who I was when I was 21 compared to who I am now, I see 2 different people. Age is not just a number - with time, we grow emotionally and evolve as a person with the things we experience throughout the years. I wouldn't think much of a couple aging 36 and 46, but a 21-year old (especially a guy... no offence boys), is a baby... just outta highschool even.

In the past, I've dated guys that young; but that's as far as it would go. Regardless of even his opinion, I would not take his youth and time to grow away from him... he needs to embrace his youth, its trials and tribulations; not to mention college and career choices... not to mention back-packing Europe!

People need to experience as much of the menu life has to offer before they know what their favorite meal is... otherwise, they'll come to a point where they start wondering what else is out there.
 janina26
Joined: 8/2/2008
Msg: 154
36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 10/10/2008 11:01:11 AM
As an almost very young looking and acting 61 year old woman, I get a lot of much younger men's attention but the issue here is that we cannot escape the fact that we are older and that the younger man will still be a man who will go looking for greener pastures, sooner or later......so unless you want to babysit or sit in the corner in a rocking chair while he is painting the town red...go for it!!! Janina
 camerali
Joined: 4/8/2008
Msg: 155
36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 10/11/2008 12:07:33 AM
You can always try to go slow and see where it leads. I've known older guys who were really immature and players and younger guys who were one woman men , open, loving and giving. It's not the rule and may be the exception. You will know as time goes on. You can always still have kids with him or he can have a family with you and yours. I met a 75 yr. old lady who was married to a man who was 11 yrs. younger than her and he died. She told me they had the greatest love.
 ThatsNOTmybaby
Joined: 10/27/2008
Msg: 156
36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 11/27/2008 10:54:29 PM
Yes it's "doomed"! A 36 year old woman "banging" a 21 year old? She must really yearn for those old "college" days??? I thought guys in their 20's were "immature" according to women ( I guess it''s different when SEX is involved)

Most of those situations don't last cause when that 21year old sees a nice 18-22 year old walks by (especially if he's in college) it's curtains for the that older woman! NO way I would date a 21 year old no matter how mature she "claims" to be. I just don't see the relation in any form or fashion. I prefer women along my age range for now and a female in her's 40's (hell to the NIIII--ZZZZZ oooooo!)
 Minau
Joined: 9/2/2007
Msg: 157
36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 11/27/2008 11:58:53 PM
It takes an exceptional 21 year old...I met one...not your typical young guy...he's actually a lot wiser then a lot of older guys I know and sometimes more logical then me...lol...very domesticated and independent...does most of the cooking, cleans the dishes, likes kids...he looks at them in awe more then me...lol. So, in terms of being in different stages in life...once again...he's the exception and probably more ready then most younger guys and even some older guys...lol. So, it is possible but they're the exception. I hope things work out for you :)
 SocialButterfly4
Joined: 12/9/2007
Msg: 158
36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 11/28/2008 8:00:48 AM
My dad's 41, he dated a 20 year old for about a year ( who I went to school with)....YOUNGER than his own daughter...ME! Hello. I didn't agree and I didn't like her at all! I put up with their relationship....he could have so chosen someone more mature...I had to clean up after her and do all the cooking.

But, I mean, whatever makes my parents happy, I'm happy, as long as their S-O aren't younger than me....or know me!

Then again, if I were to bring a 40 year old man to my father's for supper....my father and uncle would be in jail, they would NOT approved.

So how does it make it ok for him to go with a 20 year old? Double standard much.....
 syn7
Joined: 10/20/2007
Msg: 159
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36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 11/28/2008 1:32:15 PM
I was married for 21 yrs to a guy 16 yrs my junior - when he left I wondered if his favorite meal was financial security because he returned to bosom of family who are on their last but with massive nest egg that he wouldnt get if he stayed with me - they never approved!
 Jenp808
Joined: 7/29/2007
Msg: 160
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36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 11/30/2008 8:46:56 PM
I know a lot of ppl want to say age is just a number but I have to disagree here. After being married very young and being a young mom I have to say that I changed so much between my early 20's and early 30s. My political views, my religous views, even some moral issues. I was young, impulsive, impatient and had barely any wisdom.

I cannot possibly understand what a 21 year old could do spiritually, intellectually or otherwise (other than maybe physically).

But afterall my daughter is 20 and it just creeps me out to date anyone who is closer to her age than mine. I also see just how different world and life views are between my daughter's friends and my peers.

I wish you the best either way!
 JOYJOY54
Joined: 2/8/2006
Msg: 161
36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 6/27/2009 4:00:53 PM
MY THOUGHT ,,FOR WHAT IT'S WORTH,,,ON AGE DIFFERENCE,,,TIME WISE,,,,,MAN OR WOMAN,,,,,,IF YOUR OLD ENOUGH TO HAVE BIRTHED THEM,,,THEN YOUR TOO OLD TO BED THEM,,,OTHER THAN THAT,,,WHATEVER FLOATS YOUR BOAT,,,,LOL,
 Megaladonfishy
Joined: 5/7/2008
Msg: 162
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36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 6/27/2009 5:31:43 PM
Depends on the two people, if you can handle him and he can handle you, sure it can work.
 liger5
Joined: 6/9/2009
Msg: 163
36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 6/27/2009 5:33:35 PM
If you like each other, I failed to see any problem! believe yourself, go for it!
 buccfan13
Joined: 1/28/2009
Msg: 164
36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 6/27/2009 5:45:45 PM
i think its a great idea
 12851
Joined: 4/12/2009
Msg: 165
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36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 6/28/2009 10:04:00 AM
I was 21...and she was a stone cold 40 year old fox....hey, she did me proud AND gave my mother someone to chum around with
 PaisBo
Joined: 9/15/2012
Msg: 166
36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 10/22/2012 5:46:54 AM
Well, sjmh, that would only happen if math changed.

60-15=45

Might want to think things like that through first.

I have a friend who is 35 and married to 15 years older woman (so a realistic and mathmatically correct scenario for this situation). They have been married for 13 years and have an 11 year old daughter and you would never know the age difference.
 c0ffeemate
Joined: 7/23/2010
Msg: 167
36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 10/22/2012 8:24:48 AM
You don't mention how long the two of you have known each other (if you have said in another post I missed it). You say the electricity is in the air, is there more than just sparks?
For myself, when I am in a relationship, typically it's with a man younger than me (within a 10ish year range) so I agree with the majority of the responders when they say age is a number. However with that being said, while maturity level is as not always related to age, there can be some 'common generalities' associated with 'typical' age-groups.
Open communication, expectations, and honesty are all very important ingredients to whether a relationship has a chance. Talk to the lucky man in question and see what he's thinking. Life's about choices :)
 Iggypops420
Joined: 10/16/2012
Msg: 168
36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 10/23/2012 6:13:26 PM
My gf is 9 years older than me. I'm 26 she's 36 but I'm about to turn 27. She has a 19 y/o who's a bit of a waste of space and it's starting to become really bothersome. Court dates cuz of shoplifting, ambulance bills cuz she blacked out from drinking and got taken to the hospital. Not my kid so not a lot of parenting I can do.

Other than that we don't have a lot of problems.
 Whatheheck1
Joined: 11/16/2011
Msg: 169
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36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 10/23/2012 7:23:06 PM
Oh, it's feasible all right! Do you honestly think a 21 yo guy will be happy long term with a 36 yo woman with two kids?

Like so many women who date much younger men hoping for a long term relationship, you are totally and completely delusional.
 dontneednostinkinname
Joined: 10/28/2012
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Posted: 12/25/2012 8:34:24 PM
Wow!!!!!! eeeee. MY opinion: he's a boy! I cant fathom having feelings for someone that young or that much younger, those feeling should pass in no time I would expect.
 KER6969
Joined: 12/16/2012
Msg: 171
36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 12/26/2012 10:10:49 AM
Go for it!!! Men date much younger women!! I see NOTHING wrong with women dating and having relationships with much younger men. I know women who are doing this and who have been in relationships with younger guys for quite some time.
 msright78
Joined: 12/11/2012
Msg: 172
36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 12/26/2012 11:42:45 AM
MEh, to each their own I guess.

I would never date anyone that's 21. I'm 34 now and I feel that majority of 21 year olds are not mature. I mean it's great to have fun with them but relationship wise not sure about that.

When i was 21, I dated someone who was 18. He lied to me being 18, I assumed he was older but eventually he told me his age and had he not lied, things would have been different. I dropped him like a sack of rotten potatoes and moved on.

I don't have time for liars.

My closest friend is 35 and she's married to a 24 year. And they are very much in love and have 2 beautiful boys.

Some ppl need to be mature in their age and some are and some arent.

I haven't met any guy whose 21 and is actually mature. But age is only a number. Don't let it hold u from finding someone that u could in the end be happy with.
 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 173
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Posted: 12/26/2012 12:05:36 PM
The way I would feel about it is if the older person in the relationship is closer to the parent's age than the partner's age, it would feel a bit creepy to me. A 21 year-old's parents could be around 40, so a 36 year-old would be closer to the parent's age range.
 TraveliciousGuy
Joined: 9/17/2011
Msg: 174
36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 12/26/2012 12:44:35 PM
It all depends on the maturity and intelligence of the 2 specific individuals involved, even with people of the SAME age.
 steph181
Joined: 10/24/2007
Msg: 175
36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 12/26/2012 12:59:52 PM
I have 2 rules:

Older then your kids
Younger then your parents

Anything inbetween (as long as its legal) is fair game.

I generally prefer older men, as they are more mature (and experienced)
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