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Posted: 10/17/2007 2:06:00 PM | Nays, you are a very beautiful lady~ I can not imagine why there hasn't been a guy on here whom wouldn't choose to be serious with you? You really should not be having any trouble finding the right one for you! Maybe you are just looking for the perfect fit for you ~ everyone of us are looking for that ~ Sometime I think perfect doesn't exist and when it just might ~ the other party usually isn't interested ~ I'm not saying settle ~ I'm just saying our expectations are way to high sometimes including mine. We all should give each other a chance to be friends with one another ~ that way we find out more about each other to decide if we would want to try to take it further with this special person that we like!!!
Regarding the POF Profile pics ~ put a nice picture on there that you are comfortable with and doesn't reveal more than it should about you so you don't meet the wrong person!!!  And please, speaking of pictures, ~ don't say no because of there pic ~ they could be everything you ever wanted in a mate ~ the so called perfect one that you dream about except for their pic ~ don't turn them down as a friend just because they don't look the way you want them too!!! | |
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Posted: 10/17/2007 2:23:29 PM | Johnny,
I agree with everything that you are saying! My problem seems to be actually letting someone in with the internet thing. This is all new to me, thats why I think I would be better off going to the POF events. I truly seem to suck at answering messages. LOL! I am much better with people face to face, but have to admitt that I have been to chicken to actually meet anyone on here yet!! I need all the help I can get! LOL!! | |
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Posted: 10/17/2007 2:26:06 PM | | NAYS...come to one of our gatherings in dayton or ft. wright ky.... we always have a blast and you will make many friends and maybe find that special guy!!! | |
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Posted: 10/17/2007 2:39:55 PM | | I was hoping to go to the next event in Ft. Wright! I just hope I don't have to work. I work 16hr shifts on Sat & Sun every other weekend! Bet you can't guess what I do! LOL! So as soon as one comes up on my weekend off, I'll be there! | |
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Posted: 10/17/2007 3:43:10 PM | What is wrong with a guy having a lot of female friends???? I do ...and I AM IN NO WAY!!!! A STUD OR ANYTHING CLOSE just a nice guy that gets along with females better than males!
I don't like the group pictures of women. That don't tell which one of they are!!!
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Posted: 10/17/2007 7:02:41 PM | If a woman has to do that to attract a man,
Is she worth his time?
My take is that IF I should contact here even liking the profile, how long in a line would I have to stand in, let alone all the mail it generates, would she even bother to reply back to me?
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Posted: 10/17/2007 7:10:10 PM |
Desertfox, i'm curious again! Would you say my pic is disgusting?? I actually had a friend put that on here. Wasn't trying to get dates by using my old boobs! LOL!
No dear, I wouldn't call it disgusting at all, & nice to look at, but doubtfully I would reply to your profile because of it. Likely because I wouldn't fit in of the element you are going to attract.
Curious, do you get a lot of comments on it? | |
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Posted: 10/17/2007 7:40:45 PM | | No I don't get alot of comments on it! I have been told many times that I have a great smile though! I occasionally do get the person that acts alittle crazy when I don't reply within 24hrs! LOL! What they don't know about me is I work 60 to 80 hr weeks, so I can't hop on the computer everyday. | |
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Posted: 10/17/2007 7:44:23 PM | | I don't have a problem with a guy that has alot of female friends, I do have a problem with a guy that only has female friends. Ok guys how would you feel if your girlfriend only had guy friends. Would you think she was to friendly???? Would you mind her hanging out with the guys???? | |
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Posted: 10/17/2007 7:50:13 PM | Wow desertfox... that's a pretty bad reason not to reply to a profile. Talk about a lack of self confidence. It shouldn't matter how many other guys might be interested in a woman if you liked a profile. If you talk to them and they are interested back is all that matters, but you're shooting yourself down with a woman already because you assume you're not what she's looking for or that she's going to put you in a line? I've never understood this concept, I've had problems with it with several men that told me they couldn't go out with me because "I could do so much better than them" and "I could have any man I wanted" just because I get a lot of attention from the opposite sex. The thing is I don't want most of the men that pay attention to me... apparently my problem is I want the ones that won't give me the time of day because they have already assumed defeat. Proof that I can't just have any man I wanted.  | |
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Posted: 10/17/2007 7:54:57 PM | | That is so well put! I also have the same problem! I wish the layed back sweet nice guys would just give it a try, they may be surprised! | |
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Posted: 10/17/2007 8:43:24 PM | I have to agree with Desert Fox on this one.
You might not know the circumstances of someone with these thoughts.
Could it be a lack of self confidence?
Could it be that someone is simply tired of being shot down?
I see alot of womens profiles saying they want a nice guy, but when they are approached by one, they simply ignore them or run the other direction. Many it seems are looking for that greener grass on the other side of the fence, maybe these dating sites offer such a variety that it causes distractions.
So I can understand the self defeatist attitude.
It may be the same for the women out there, I don't know.
It seems the dating world is not an easy place to navigate, if you're lucky enough to meet someone, slow down, give them an honest chance, there may not be the instant chemistry and sparks, but given time, who knows, something special may develop. If you're being honest with yourself, you'll give that nice person you say you want a chance and you both may be surprised.
Desert Fox,
1. Good to see you back!
2. Our Doctor K. has met someone and is not on POF as often as she used to be. | |
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Posted: 10/17/2007 11:19:30 PM | | ok i was just on the single parent forum and just saw what u guys were talking about with the cleavage...this one girl (from england) has a pic of her in her bra?! her profile said its breast cancer awareness month...yes it is but that doesnt mean we want to see yours! i guess some people really take that too far!!! | |
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Posted: 10/18/2007 3:26:39 AM | | I think many of the women that are here are looking for Mr. Prefect that's just not out there. First, why are women looking at other women's profiles looking at their boobs? That would be a BIG RED FLAG for me skip her profile. Second, if she has nice breasts, I'd say show them, no big deal. I thinksome take this dating site WAY to serious and that's why they sit at home on the weekends instead of enjoying someone's company. | |
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Posted: 10/18/2007 3:51:54 AM | | the ONLY reason I look ed at her profile was I saw her post in that forum and saw her pic...My thought was omg u have to be kidding me...and wanted to make sure she was truly just wearing a bra...isnt that against the rules or something? n e ways I dont sit here looking at other women's profiles unless something they said on a forum caught my eye and then its only to know more about them to understand why they said what they did say. I do the same thing for men that post also. | |
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Posted: 10/18/2007 4:03:41 AM | | You have never looked at a profile of somoene that was posting in the forums before caringwithhumor? I look at profiles of people that post all the time, male or female, young or old. I'd like to get an understanding of who the person is sometimes before I respond do them. I think I've looked at the profile of every woman in this thread... how else could we participate fully in the conversation if we don't know what pictures people are talking about? | |
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Posted: 10/18/2007 4:32:43 AM | ty sheri... glad i am not the only one  | |
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Posted: 10/18/2007 6:41:39 AM | | i agree about looking at profiles. i sometimes look at other women's profiles, along with the men profiles, in forums just to get an idea of who i am talking to or sometimes people signed up for events i am going to just for an idea of who is going. no big deal. as far as the men with a lot of female friends i am not afraid to say that i don't want to go out with men like that. no there is nothing wrong with it, but it has been my experience (at least 3 guys i have dated that i know of right off hand) that men with a lot of female friends usually turn out to either be players or cross the lines with one of those 'friends' eventually. it's just not a can of worms i feel like taking the chance of getting opened again. :) | |
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Posted: 10/18/2007 7:23:18 AM | | I, myself, have a lot of male friends...some have been friends for close to 13 years. I have maintained their friendship over the years even through the time i was in the navy and lived in cali....a lot of men are jealous and don't like that fact...what that all comes down to is trust. The guys in my pics are band members that I am friends with also...which I cant wait to see them on national tv for that new american idol show for bands haha just thought i would throw that out there lol...but I look at things like this if you cant trust them then why are u with them? my ex's all had issues with my guy friends and I can say that nothing has ever happened and never will...but if I cant trust him and his friends it will never work and honestly all it comes down to is just that...TRUST! JMHO | |
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Posted: 10/18/2007 7:23:27 AM | I am much better with people face to face, but have to admitt that I have been to chicken to actually meet anyone on here yet!! I need all the help I can get! LOL!!
Why bother meeting them, about 5 minutes on the phone, you should know right away if they are worth your time. (I'm being sarcastic here but a lot of people think this way) The first 3 years of these personals, I didn't meet anyone in person.
I occasionally do get the person that acts alittle crazy when I don't reply within 24hrs! LOL! What they don't know about me is I work 60 to 80 hr weeks, so I can't hop on the computer everyday.
Face it nays, men like those breasts & they want them NOW!!!!
Again going back when I started with these personals , I was getting a 10% reply, that's gone up a bit as we all get more mature after 40, & of course I don't write out as much.
I'm much more comfortable writing to an ad without a photo. It gives you the opportunity to get to know the person better for what they are & not what they look like.
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Posted: 10/18/2007 7:33:39 AM |
I think many of the women that are here are looking for Mr. Prefect that's just not out there. I thinksome take this dating site WAY to serious and that's why they sit at home on the weekends instead of enjoying someone's company.
Me thinks you are right.... & what do they have to lose? I still talk, mail, & or chat with the few I had met & dated through these sites, & I don't hold any ill feelings toward them. I enjoyed their company, I hope it was mutual.
You might not know the circumstances of someone with these thoughts.
Could it be a lack of self confidence?
Could it be that someone is simply tired of being shot down?
I see alot of womens profiles saying they want a nice guy, but when they are approached by one, they simply ignore them or run the other direction. Many it seems are looking for that greener grass on the other side of the fence, maybe these dating sites offer such a variety that it causes distractions.
So I can understand the self defeatist attitude
TY ColsOh, I don't know why they are so cynical of some of us, but they are.
Back for a few anyway, I just enjoy being kicked!
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Posted: 10/18/2007 7:40:31 AM |
Wow desertfox... that's a pretty bad reason not to reply to a profile. Talk about a lack of self confidence. It shouldn't matter how many other guys might be interested in a woman if you liked a profile. If you talk to them and they are interested back is all that matters, but you're shooting yourself down with a woman already because you assume you're not what she's looking for or that she's going to put you in a line? I've never understood this concept,
Well please DO understand this concept, I hope I've cleared it up.
apparently my problem is I want the ones that won't give me the time of day because they have already assumed defeat. Proof that I can't just have any man I wanted.
Perhaps if they have assumed defeat, then you should move after them? | |
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Posted: 10/18/2007 8:22:46 AM |
Sometime I think perfect doesn't exist and when it just might ~ the other party usually isn't interested ~ I'm not saying settle ~ I'm just saying our expectations are way to high sometimes including mine. We all should give each other a chance to be friends with one another ~ that way we find out more about each other to decide if we would want to try to take it further with this special person that we like!!!
So what you are saying a few minutes on the phone isn't enough time to know weather this person is worth it or not?
I've also found that people arent really themselves untill the 3rd or 4th date (as a generalization). If I let intial impressions sway me I would have missed out on knowing some wonderful people. | |
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Posted: 10/18/2007 1:29:28 PM | Pictures with ex's: Take the 45 seconds it will take and have a new photo taken.
Pictures with boobs showing: Just more boobs I will never have the chance to touch. Might have thrilled me in junior high. I'm an adult now.
The pictures with tongues sticking out annoy me more. Something as classes and ignorant like sticking out your tongue is supposed to be funny? How old are you? | |
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Posted: 10/18/2007 1:32:54 PM | If I showed pictures with boobs/cleavage instead of the pictures that show the real me.. I would get a lot more mail..
problem is, the mail would be for that and not for me.. Think I will stick with the real me.. "what you see is what you get" there is more to that saying than meets the eye  | |
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