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Posted: 10/19/2007 9:02:02 AM | | Well not all of us are like that Desertfox. When I was thinner I definitely had pictures that showed off my assets better. I never would have asked those questions though. | |
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Posted: 10/19/2007 9:19:04 AM | Hey Nay great thread..
To me it is all about trust. If you have a problem with males having a lot of female friends or vice versa that is a serious problem on your part. Nothing worse than jealousy and the remarks that come with it.
As far as pics. I do not understand why anyone would want to show pics of their children to people on a singles site. Lets face it we do not know the number of people on here who aren't exactly crime free. But to each there own. | |
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Posted: 10/19/2007 11:19:02 AM | | Just because I choose to not date guys who have a lot of female friends does not make it a problem on my part. As I said IN MY EXPERIENCE(not once, not twice, but three right off the top of my head) these are the types that tend to cheat more. No it isn't about trust. It's about living and learning and choosing not to go down that road again. No thanks. I don't judge you or anyone for the types of people they date so don't you freakin dare tell me it is a serious problem on my part just because I choose not to date certain types of guys. | |
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Posted: 10/19/2007 12:54:26 PM | | WoW guys! It was just a question about profile pictures. Lets all go back to loving eachother, smile and remember it's friday!!! | |
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Posted: 10/21/2007 9:16:38 AM | WoW guys! It was just a question about profile pictures. Lets all go back to loving eachother, smile and remember it's friday!!!
What's Friday got to do with anything?... pretty good thread you started!
Well not all of us are like that Desertfox. When I was thinner I definitely had pictures that showed off my assets better. I never would have asked those questions though.
Believe it or not, a lot of women here are superficial & some downright mean.... if you think the men are bad. I find often what you really fall for is the guy thats going to tell you just what you want to hear, I prefer to be myself.
To be fair though not all of you, & occasionally I come across a real sweetheart.
Perhaps for another topic, since I've been on & off these sites for several years, why is it that there are some that have been on these sites consistantly for years? To stay within topic are using the same pictures that are likely 10-15 years old?
I thought some had to be shills! | |
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Posted: 10/21/2007 9:21:46 AM |
Perhaps for another topic, since I've been on & off these sites for several years, why is it that there are some that have been on these sites consistantly for years? To stay within topic are using the same pictures that are likely 10-15 years old?
LOL, I just had that conversation with someone else who's been around here for about 3 years on Friday night.
If the picture still looks like me I will use it. I don't change much about me... the only difference between a picture from me in Dec 2004 and today is that I was an idiot and put all of my weight back on after maintaining the loss for a full year (ugh). So when I realized I was looking again I did make a point to go back and update pictures with an honest shot of how I looked (including my body to show my size). I spent the first month or so on yahoo feeling extremely guilty when I didn't have any pictures of me at my true weight up so I made a point to go out and find some. My hair hasn't changed, my style hasn't changed, my clothing preferences haven't changed... so if i hadn't put the 60 pounds back on those pictures from 3 or 4 years ago still would have been valid. | |
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Posted: 10/21/2007 9:26:20 AM |
Just because I choose to not date guys who have a lot of female friends does not make it a problem on my part. As I said IN MY EXPERIENCE(not once, not twice, but three right off the top of my head) these are the types that tend to cheat more. No it isn't about trust. It's about living and learning and choosing not to go down that road again.
Oh my dear you are dead wrong on this one... at least in my case. Most, if not all I consider my friends are female... I don't date them, I don't sleep with them, I rarely even see them in person, all of them are 'attached' too.
What kind of guys are you running across?
I always thought, you want a man's man thats going to run with the other boys evey weekend, drink beer, watch sports, attend strip clubs etc... I'm right here aren't I? | |
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Posted: 10/21/2007 9:33:02 AM | If the picture still looks like me I will use it. I don't change much about me... the only difference between a picture from me in Dec 2004 and today is that I was an idiot and put all of my weight back on after maintaining the loss for a full year (ugh). So when I realized I was looking again I did make a point to go back and update pictures with an honest shot of how I looked (including my body to show my size). I spent the first month or so on yahoo feeling extremely guilty when I didn't have any pictures of me at my true weight up so I made a point to go out and find some. My hair hasn't changed, my style hasn't changed, my clothing preferences haven't changed... so if i hadn't put the 60 pounds back on those pictures from 3 or 4 years ago still would have been valid.
Just state your pictures are a few years old, you put on a bit of weight! At least you would have been honest! Which makes me think again, are we really judging by appearance here?
I haven't changed much myself in the past 5 years at least from a physical or pictorial standpoint, which is good I guess only bobling between a waist size up & down!
I can think of 2 instances on here & perhaps more if I think harder. There is one woman that is portraying in her profile that she is 35, using a picture of herself when she was 32 but is actually 48.... & been doing this internet thing for well over 10 years. | |
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Posted: 10/21/2007 9:39:46 AM | | I've been on and off of sites for dating since about 2004 now. I know I definitely see some of the same pictures still up. I change mine and I think that confuses the guys though so they don't realize they've talked to me before or that we've been out once, lol. I've been on this site since the end of January... but only spend about 3 month of that time actually looking. I just come back when I hit a slow spell in dating or a relationship ends. In this case I'm just back because I started using the forums to relieve some stress from work. Durring the summer I hung out in a gaming convention forum instead, but it has died down tremendously now that the convention season is over for the year and won't get active again until about March. | |
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Posted: 10/21/2007 12:19:43 PM | I hang out on different hobbiest forums myself too, & this is a dormant period for them, I hang here untill I get kicked hard enough to go elsewhere! 
You hit a slow spell? Isn't that the reason we are here in the first place? I have taken the respect of hiding my profile if I am dating someone too. | |
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Posted: 10/21/2007 1:23:37 PM |
You hit a slow spell? Isn't that the reason we are here in the first place?
Well, my definition of a slow spell may not be the same as others. If I slow down to less than one date a week I'm in a slow spell, lol. That's when I head to a site like this one.
In the past I haven't had a need to hide the profile because no where else had forums like this one. I just simply didn't go to the site anymore. Here that might be something I need to consider in the future, but I figure it isn't that important because any guy I date should be able to trust me in my intentions if I'm still on here posting. I did change the status to friends only and not single/not looking for a few months. | |
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Posted: 10/21/2007 2:00:43 PM | Oh my dear you are way above me, I went dateless for 7 years! & several times of more than a year, count your blessings! 
But again, different for men who are assumed to take the iniative, If I kept being turned down, eventually I ask less & less till I didn't bother, &/or some one asks me out! (& yes that has happened several times!)
I change mine to just reading the forums, & hid it from the searches. Actually was going to delete it, but that's a long story...
As I said women can be superficial. | |
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Posted: 10/21/2007 2:07:56 PM | | Actually a lot of my dates are self initiated first contacts. I have no problems with contacting a guy first. I wait for them to ask me out after the first contact most of the time though. Being turned down or not responded to doesn't slow me down... just makes me more determined to keep asking, lol. Eventually I'll find the right one. I guess I'm a bit of a power dater. I know I want to find the right one so I have a LOT of shoes to try on and look at until then considering I'm looking for something rather unique and different than the norm. | |
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Posted: 10/21/2007 2:13:34 PM | Hmmm but the stats say you will pick the wrong one?
I see you are divorced, so that gives you another one up on people like myself... divorced is more desireable for some reason.
Good for you on making first contacts! My track record usually goes 9/10 will be a read/delete or unread/delete, if I get to coresponding with anyone, they will likely disappear after a week or 2.... found something better, & there always is! The ones likely to corespond longer usually arent local, a shame.
The online thing might not be for me, as no one here really wants to invest the time to get to know someone. | |
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Posted: 10/21/2007 2:32:03 PM |
My track record usually goes 9/10 will be a read/delete or unread/delete, if I get to coresponding with anyone, they will likely disappear after a week or 2.... found something better, & there always is! The ones likely to corespond longer usually arent local, a shame.
The online thing might not be for me, as no one here really wants to invest the time to get to know someone.
I have to agree with this these two statements. | |
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Posted: 10/21/2007 2:41:22 PM | Or maybe you're not meeting the right one. I can't say that I don't take time to get know people... I'm having some good conversations in email right now. I would definitely considering getting to know one of them better if he were interested since he seems like a good guy from all posts I've seen over the last few months and now I found out we even have a common interest *hint hint*
It takes a lot of patience and a thick skin to find the right one. If I could only count how many times I've been told "I'm sorry, I just can't go out with you... you're too heavy for me and I can't deal with it". And my divorce? that's is a joke, lol. That was when I was 21 and over by 24 so I think it hardly counts for anything. I hate putting divorced on my status... because it just feels like a lie to me since it was when I was young and really had no impact on my life today (other than my exhusband is on my myspace page). My 7 year live in relationship though is the one that should be taken seriously, that ended only 3 1/2 years ago. He'd give me good references as well if asked. We still talk occasionally but mostly for professional advice (me asking him medical and him asking me computer related). | |
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Posted: 10/21/2007 3:38:50 PM | I'll have to say, your advantages are at least with these forums, most are local to you, the few local ones to me that post I'd have no interest in, & likely that feeling is mutual. ... but again they wouldn't invest the time to get to know me.
The weight thing is a farce, you aren't all that heavy, & likely they aren't taking time to know you before passing judgement. I wonder if there is a screening here for "body type". I see ones that call themselves "average" , to me that can range from thin to a bit heavier (which I would say a bit heavier is average)... ones that say "a few extra pounds " in my eyes would call average.
Going over to another thread (or was it this one?) about having opposite sex friends, I just got off the phone with my most recent 3 year live in, It's nice to have someone to talk to every once an a while!
If they are telling you why they won't date you thats a start. The ones I encounter, just plain will not respond back, I'm taking it that they are superficial, no matter how "kind, caring & easy going" their profiles say they are, or they found something else to their liking.
About 6 years ago I was coresponding with one locally from another site (eventually posted her profile here, same pictures, same profile ), one of those chronic ones that can't seem to find the "right one". After a few months of nice chats & mails I asked to meet her if she would like on her terms, the answer was NO ..... no longer answered my online hellos after that, & never heard from her again.
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Posted: 10/21/2007 5:15:53 PM | I'm taking it that they are superficial, no matter how "kind, caring & easy going" their profiles say they are
That's why I don't put much faith into profiles and why my profile is the way it is.
Forget the profile, e-mail, phone conversations, face to face meetings are the way to go.
Wonder why I'm apprehensive to take the iniative?
I don't wonder why and can't blame you either. | |
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Posted: 10/21/2007 6:47:05 PM | That's why I don't put much faith into profiles and why my profile is the way it is.
I took a look see, good point! Why bother writing anything if no one is really going to read it or take it seriously.
I occasionally get a reply just saying "send pic" ... not really enough from past experience to just send them a pic, women are also photo collectors too!
Rather have them get to know me without the "pic" .. at least at first.
Forget the profile, e-mail, phone conversations, face to face meetings are the way to go.
If & only if you can get through the proverbial barriers to get that far.
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Posted: 10/22/2007 4:09:36 PM | | you have got to be kidding me about the 'rather have them get to know you without the pic first'! why would anyone want to do that? physical attraction is the initial attraction for most people. i for one (as well as most people on here) do not talk to people without seeing a pic. | |
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Posted: 10/22/2007 5:07:33 PM |
you have got to be kidding me about the 'rather have them get to know you without the pic first'! why would anyone want to do that? physical attraction is the initial attraction for most people. i for one (as well as most people on here) do not talk to people without seeing a pic.
No, I wasn't kidding.
So it's all about sex appeal then? For some of the profiles I see, the pictures are likely going to push me away rather than draw me in. ie: Teena you have a picture of a guy at a bar holding your breasts, & a lot of other party pictures. I would never reply to it just seeing that.... fun to look at, but that's as far as it goes.
I also said earlier, some of those pictures used are 10-15 years old. I'm more inclined now to respond to an ad without a picture than with one.
I'm surprised, most of you women clearly state you don't want sex, you want much more, perhaps the less that perfect or average looking guy would be a lot better that the one who is vain & hung up on his looks.
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Posted: 10/22/2007 5:16:22 PM | Well since you wanna get personal desertfox I am just gonna have to say at least I have the courage to put pics on here. I, unlike you, have nothing to hide. Get your facts straight too because I don't have any 'party pics' other than the 2 halloween event pictures. 'Party pics' insinuates drunkeness and so forth and this is NOT what is in the pics on my profile. As for the pic of the guy, that is obviously a goofing off pic as we are both laughing in it. You're reaching buddy. As for never replying to my profile, what in the h*ll gave you the vaguest impression I would ever contact you? 
Oh and as for it being all about sex appeal, uh yeah it is all about sex appeal initially. There has to be a physical attraction. That is normal! | |
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Posted: 10/22/2007 5:26:16 PM | You could have fooled me Teena.... from reading your prior posts, I wouldn't want you to contact me... I could do the read/delete thing too. 
Your reply doesn't even deserve a response.
Bit hot under the collar there arent you? | |
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Posted: 10/22/2007 5:34:15 PM | | That's all you got? lol nope, I'm good. You just needed called out on your crap as usual. First of all in order to hit read/delete you would have to receive an email from me. Not gonna happen in this lifetime. It's ok because I have plenty of friends on here that contact me so I don't think I'm gonna be hurtin any. Another thing I do is actually meet people in person and don't hide behind a computer with not even a picture. If you are gonna be on a forum b*tching about other people's pics you should have the b*lls to post your own first. | |
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Posted: 10/22/2007 5:40:26 PM | Why don't you quit before people see how you really are... if they haven't already.
Or are you gonna have your bully friends come in & join you?
You're just another superficial hothead, & give others a bad name dear.  | |
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