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Posted: 10/20/2009 3:40:01 PM | Well the ex cut out of the pic doesn't bother me as bad as someone putting a picture of themselves from 10 or 15 years ago and it's sooooo obvious.
Another pet peve is the ones who also lie about their age. OMG please... I even read a profile one time where obviously the person got busted out because he put on his profile I accidentally put the wrong birth date. well you have two weeks to change it and you didn't notice it was wrong... if that were me I would delete that profile and create a new one. My thought on that is... he did it on purpose then got busted out and tried to lie about it.
Do people really think we are that stupid on here? | |
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Posted: 10/21/2009 6:25:25 PM | | What really bothers me is when people put up pictures with themselves holding their children or grandchildren. At the least, the faces of the children should be blurred out. Yet this is a dating site. It is for you only as yourself. Children have nothing to do with that. It makes me feel as though the person is holding the child up as kind of a wall or something that will make them more appealing. But a man/woman relationship happens completely without any children in the equation. You don't want someone to want you because you have a child. | |
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Posted: 10/22/2009 4:24:10 AM | Children reveal something about the persons character as much as a photo of a person holding a fish. Perhaps the format might take on a look where everyone is issued a drivers license type photo to level the playing field? | |
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Posted: 10/22/2009 6:20:13 AM | I agree that people should not have pics of their kids up on a dating site. I won't get into the many reasons. I do disagree that they are using them as a wall or something.
I think they do it because they are the only thing they have worth showing off. Maybe that's not the best way to describe it but it makes sense in my mind right now.
I also disagree that relationships happen completely without the children in the equation. It's not a matter of wanting someone because they have a child. We have to be willing to except them having children, because if we make it known that we aren't interested due to them having children we get blasted here. Also children being involved makes dating harder. They get sick, a sitter has to be found, all those awkward moments that are associated with kids in the picture. | |
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Posted: 10/22/2009 8:33:29 AM | | ^^^^I was not addressing the fact that children do have to be considered in schedules and all of that. They are of the utmost importance! However, I was addressing the fact that in a man/woman relationship, the children can't be in that. Parenting is a separate thing that both men and women do. If you start to put children into the man/woman relationship, it just causes problems. The man/woman relationship should be a little oasis unto itself, intimate, without anyone else in it such as in-laws, mothers, fathers, children and friends. I believe it is meant to be sacred really, and when it is kept that way, everybody outside of that relationship is actually happier themselves, especially the children. It's not a good life for a child to be expected to provide anything for an adult that ought to be provided by another adult. Let the kids be kids and the adults be adults. | |
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