| Attractive women on POF
Posted: 1/29/2008 6:39:00 PM | One thing I know is that the matches that I have been sent couldn't farther from being just that... a match. I've been on here since October and have yet to meet anyone in person. I have no interest in a woman that needs/desires to hang out in a bar.
I don't drink, I don't put that toxin into my body so bar-life and the foolish behavior that often comes with it, has no appeal to me.
All the attractive women that I've messaged either have kids by multiple fathers and work on the late-shift tending to brass covered poles... OR they turn me off by telling me all about how ripped they got with their friends over the past weekend. Sounds exciting... do I really want to meet last weekend's "body-shot- champion"... um.... delete.
Don't get me wrong ladies; as I have posted elsewhere in a different thread, men behave like morons on the internet. I've seen quite a few profiles where ladies have to mention that they aren't interested in "seeing your member" before they even talk to you. Is it any wonder that soo many women here don't have pic up? | |
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| Attractive women on POF
Posted: 1/29/2008 10:14:36 PM | Men and women regardless of their subjective attractiveness may find that getting to know a person without sexual tension the way to go before getting in to deep.
Time constraints, not wanting to bar hop, being too shy to pick up the guy or gal at the grocery store.... those may play a part.
I meet alot of people in my daily life, I would definately say I am friendly but this way I can weed out what I don't want. There is less explaining, if I flirt with someone for instance at the coffee shop who sees an engagement ring on my hand can get uncomfortable. And yes, I am opening myself up to loads of judgement from the holier than thou people but... thats the short version.
And the gent above me.... the drinking thing is a turn off for alot of us women too. I don't want someone who lists as one of his interests partying and getting bombed with friends. I prefer sober fun... so I can remember the details when I am too old to do the real thing! | |
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| Attractive women on POF
Posted: 1/30/2008 7:17:13 AM | "She was perfect in her imperfection."
I think I may have used that line in a story, but it illustrates a truth about looks, indeed--anything that people might consider beautiful. Like the columns on the Parthenon that have to be bulging slightly in the middle to actually look straight...or why an old house with that slightly "lived in" look may seem more inviting than a glittering new McMansion...
People are much the same way; smile lines around the eyes...snorting when you laugh...even a less-than-optimum fashion sense can be highly endearing. Those are often the things you appreciate best about your friends. Too much perfection seems empty, and sometimes does actually make people feel uncomfortable. You might look good, yet feel awkward in a new Armani suit, but be perfectly at home wearing your beat-up leather bomber jacket that you've had for ten years. There's a psychological aspect to this that is sometimes difficult to put into words, but everyone can understand.
These are the things that make us human. And it goes far beyond looks.
Wait a minute...what was the question again? Oh that. Well, from my perspective, it's relatively irrelevant, though I can provide objective opinions... | |
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| Attractive women on POF
Posted: 1/30/2008 8:00:13 AM | | well in my opinion meeting folks online is a safe way especially when u have been out of the dating loop for so long.This avenue enables one to learn the different lingo,approaches,so on.Also if u r sitting in front of a pc all day practically then why not use these avenues as in some offices interdating is a nono. | |
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| Attractive women on POF
Posted: 1/30/2008 9:31:54 AM | How difficult? Some men think we are attractive, but they do not ask us out, and are the Ladies these days to go up to a man she finds attractive and ask him out?
Maybe no one wants to ask out a stranger or even someone they know due to fear of rejection. But I see alot of very nice looking men on this site and I too wonder why they are not out dating in the real world. Some just stay on this site and never get out much.
Maybe this is an easier way, but I guess docbh the story is only to be told by each individual. | |
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Posted: 2/1/2008 8:39:54 AM |
OK...I for one was one of those prom queens and have never dated much. IN fact, I almost had to take my dad to homecoming....where I was up for queen....because I couldn't get a date. It has been this way most of my life. Now that I am in my 40's, it doesn't seem to have changed. I have always been a nice person and have found as I have gotten older, that humor seems to be the way to break the ice. I have always had more male friends than female, and have always been treated like "one of the guys". I am at the point in my life when I have plenty of "guy" friends to hang out with, I want a partner that sees what is inside and not just the outside. My family has told me that I am intimidating and people don't ask me out because they are afraid of being rejected..soooooooooooooooooooo...no one even tries. All of this may sound conceited, but you know what?...I am not perfect, I have had 2 kids and my body isn't what it used to be, but I am still a great person.........most of the time I don't post a picture so that people have to get to know my personality first before they see who I am on the outside....
and...I do work full-time and have primary custody of my children. That doesn't leave a lot of free time to actually meet people out in the REAL world. It seemed like a good idea to try this and be able to talk to people and get to know them this way before meeting... | |
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Posted: 2/1/2008 10:47:35 PM | scarlett41
The 40's are just the beginning.
I have had so many men tell me that I intimidate them due to my independance, they CLAIM am so beautiful, My line of work intimidates some men due to the fact men think they need to make more money than the women but all in all, they would of never been the right one for me, and I would not date them anyway, if I intimidate the other we definately would not be a match. I have as well had more male friends than female, just being friends. But for some reason that I just understand the one's that I hold dear in my heart just seem to die anyway. And I never told them how I really felt even when they told me, I just played a whatever thing, don't get too close and won't get hurt, but the inside really want to say those 3 words back to the person but couldn't or woudn't say the words that always came to late. Now I feel it is time to say what I feel, and take the risk. Yes, you said it when you said getting to know the person even without showing the face, because in the end that is what really matters.
Hope all your dreams come true. And stay true to yourself! | |
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| Attractive women on POF
Posted: 2/2/2008 11:49:38 AM | My thing is this, all my girlfriends are either in long term relationships or married, bars/clubs/pubs are just not my style. So hence me being here  Attractive women here - why not? Can't expect your soulmate to be delivered through your letter box with your post can you? A girl can only try
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Posted: 7/4/2008 1:12:51 PM | I think you may need to look a little deeper! There are undeniably, some very, physically, attractive women on PoF. Perhaps they are shallow, or so full of their looks that local men are bored with them? Sure people are attracted by appearance, but that attraction fades pretty quickly if there is nothing to back it up; lack of conversational skills; topics of conversation revolve around the gym, hairdresser, shopping, nails, make-up and seeking affirmation that they look good!
Dating is as tough now as it has always been and, the best matches are usually found where least expected, or when at a venue for shared interests.
Internet dating is still taboo for the uninitiated but has now diluted to chatroom status! Why meet in the real world when you can chat forever in Virtualand? It is so easy to be bad mannered, ignorant and generally display all those characteristics that are frowned upon in the real world..... and best of all you can do it anonimously!
Sorry, I'm getting a bit cynical...... better go now!
Best I can say is....... forget the stunners, forget the worst looking, and focus your search on the ones in the middle..... especially the ones with personality, charm, sincerity and character! all those last a lot longer and can't be hidden with make-up! | |
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| Attractive women on POF
Posted: 7/4/2008 3:05:29 PM | Their attitudes prevents them from obtaining a mate.
They are delusional and demanding. POF is just another avenue to confirm their notion that there are NO GOOD MEN.
If a woman is single it is 100% their fault since they control the interaction process. | |
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Posted: 7/4/2008 4:34:47 PM | I don't know about others but I have just met the most beautiful women through POF which I thought would never happen so I for one am thankful | |
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Posted: 7/5/2008 2:38:46 AM | | Theres also the other scenerio, I have no single female friends so when I go out its with 2 very good friends of mine ( a couple), but if we are in mixed company which consists of mostly couples, the women see me as a threat, which is a joke. I wouldnt touch most of their husbands with someone elses !!! Why do women think that because I am single, I am after their man ?? Attractive or not, that is one of the reasons I am on here. | |
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| Attractive women on POF
Posted: 7/5/2008 7:34:36 AM |
This site is littered with 'older' people.
Im not talkin ancient btw what i mean is im 33!
Checking the history books to find out which specific "...zoic era"I am from and all the other litter in the above 33 age group.
I dont mean that in bad way but you can establish some of what people are about on here before you meet them.
Better said that you can establish some of what "they" want you to know.I believe that most people have a built in "bu ll sh it meter"and it probably works best face to face. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2008 7:55:26 AM | | I have an incredibly attractive female friend from the outside world who I became close to through kids sporting events. She ended up going to a dating site because of her life style. She works alot and is trying to raise a son. She is 39 and most of her friends are involved in relationships. She really did not have people to hang out with to go out. She further did not care for meeting people at clubs due to the typical lifestyle they have. She went online as just another avenue to meet people and to screen their lifestyle. Due to her attractiveness she got flooded with emails. She said she felt bad but could only respond to 10 percent of them mainly by where they lived and whether there was something eye catching. The lucky guy was basically like the pull of a straw sad to say. When she would come across the eye catchers she agreed to meet right away rather than waste time. The agreement was usually at a mall coffee shop and she took along a guy friend. The guy friend stuck around if something appeared wrong. If the dude was cool then her friend went into the mall while she talked to get to know the guy. The lucky guy wasn't her first choice by appearance. He was just an average Joe. His success came because he was closer to her age, responsible, goal oriented and she related much better to him mentally. I think it helped him that she met a few creeps first before he came along. They have now been dating over a year. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2008 8:06:45 AM | | i can find something attractive in almost everyone i meet. it may be looks,it may be attitude,it may be actions, a number of things. i think looks will strike you first from across the room,parking lot,mall, whereever you are. some gorgeous people turn "ugly" soon as they open their mouth. but i wonder too about the beautiful people that are on 500 people's favorite lists??????????????? | |
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| Attractive women on POF
Posted: 7/5/2008 10:20:53 AM | | many a good points in this thread. Yes, a attractive women could go into a social setting (bar,club, party) and get a guy, no doubt. A very attractive women trying to find a guy that will look past her outer beauty to try and learn the inside is much tougher. Alot of men(and women) simply cannot get past the outer shell. Thats what makes online a bit better. A women can use this format to try and weed through the guys that are just looking for sex, or only care how she looks. If the guy is only interested in the physical, it will show itself eventually in the chatting. (or lack thereoff as he gets tired of spending time on something he wont get) | |
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Posted: 7/5/2008 10:26:40 AM | | Yes it is very difficult being single these days. Especially when looking for the right one. You have to use all of your resources. I am a very busy person with two jobs, so this helps. Also you never know where your soulmate is. And it does seem like the right one for me is hard to find. | |
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Posted: 7/6/2008 2:31:30 PM | Lots of points and opinions in this thread! :)
Personally, I like online dating for a bevy of reasons:
Where else can you "browse" for prospects without leaving the comfort of your home...wearing undies and a tee, if you wish!? ;)
In social settings like bars...you are judged immediately on your looks alone...which gets real *yawn* boring when you are someone who actually has substance. ;)
You get to know a person via emails, chat, text, calls, and yes...forum posts...without having to spend the bucks, make the time, of traditional dating...or worse, without having to sit through a dead zone date! By the time I DO agree to meet someone, I know a bit more about them, as opposed to traditional dating.
I have met a lot of stunningly beautiful men and women, from POF...formed some incredible online and offline friendships...and the ones who are truly beautiful in my opinion, have no real clue of just how much so!
So next time you see someone who you think is far too attractive to be single...consider that they may not be aware of such, as well as the choice to be single may be a conscious one for them! :) | |
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Posted: 7/6/2008 3:06:07 PM | Hello curious man...
I believe the main reasons for using this site are convenience, not wanting the bar/club scene, self-employed persons, unusual work hours, single women raising children, etc.
Online dating gives options to persons with time constraints. Dating has always been tough, this is just a new opportunity to make connections. The volume of people on this site or others confirms the need for such a venue in our busy lives.
With that I will leave with a quote "the cure for boredom is curiosity...there is no cure for curiosity. Enjoy your searches. | |
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Posted: 7/7/2008 4:12:18 AM | Not to sound conceited, but I consider myself good looking but have not been blessed enough to find the right one. Its actually harder when your cuter because either guys are intimidated, or they just seem to always want one thing-and thats not dating...Im the coolest most easiest going person but it seems guys just want the perfect looking girl nowdays.
It seems like imperfections are not accepted anymore, and when you show some they flee onto the "greener" pastures. Its also very hard for an attractive girl(woman) to find a man to actually settle down with. When your cute your looked upon as eye candy rather than for what great personality traits, ect. you might have....
P.S. Im single  | |
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| Attractive women on POF
Posted: 7/7/2008 11:39:32 PM | Well if I can find myself a great date - I'll get straight off the site!! But until then........ | |
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Posted: 7/8/2008 12:12:14 AM | I think a lot of people (attractive and otherwise) have turned to online dating sites for many reasons (not out of desperation!! lol) - Maybe they are a little shy, and find it easier to approach or be approached online? Maybe they feel they can make a better connection online, getting to know the other person's personality first before going out on tha first date? Maybe they are just trying it out, for fun, for a ne experience? And, there are a lot of possible reasons an attractive person could be "single". Maybe she/he is incredibly picky/fussy? Has stayed single to pursue school/career? Just came out/coming out of a long relationship, starting out again?
I think a lot of people assume that anyone who participates in online dating is going to be "less than" attractive.. Or, has some "personality defect".. lol Sooooo not true. =) | |
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Posted: 7/8/2008 12:39:56 PM | I do not post often but your question hit the nerve.
I do not go to clubs as I do not have company for it, I have not so long ago moved, there are a couple of friends here but some are married, some are 10 years youger and go partying with their siblings, some are 20 years older and don't go to clubs at all.
In any case on a few nights out I found the places to be full of gents 10 years younger than me and it is not anything I'd be looking for.
Where on Earth am I supposed to meet men in the real life?
Just tell me please.
P.S. I have seen many of the ones I found handsome in a gym but nobody approached me there, I think it is a maveux tone to hit someone in a gym, is not it? | |
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Posted: 7/8/2008 12:51:01 PM | | I have been single only a short time. Clubs and bars are not good places to meet people. I work in an environment where there are mainly women. I have no idea where to meet people, so decided online. Hopefully, I will meet Mr. Right and not have to subject myself to too many people that are not genuine... It has been hard to filter out the good, bad and the ugly. It seems fun, but how on earth do you meet the mutual physical, mental, spiratual attraction... So far it has been one sided, either way... I won't settle for less than a total attraction as I have been in love before and won't settle for less this time either. | |
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Posted: 7/8/2008 3:05:24 PM | Internet dating is simply another way ( not the only way ) to find someone. A person could meet someone from the internet that they wouldn't have met from other places. Why limit yourself?
I think a lot of people (attractive and otherwise) have turned to online dating sites for many reasons (not out of desperation!! lol) - Maybe they are a little shy, and find it easier to approach or be approached online? Maybe they feel they can make a better connection online, getting to know the other person's personality first before going out on tha first date? Maybe they are just trying it out, for fun, for a ne experience? And, there are a lot of possible reasons an attractive person could be "single". Maybe she/he is incredibly picky/fussy? Has stayed single to pursue school/career? Just came out/coming out of a long relationship, starting out again?
I agree. Also some attractive people may have just simply preferred to remain single. | |
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