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| Do Christian Women Scare You Off ???
Posted: 4/7/2008 9:54:07 AM | I'm not scared if a woman says, she's a Christian. Matter of a fact, I wouldn't care if she was Muslim, Jewish, Catholic, etc. As long as she respects my ideology, and I respect hers it doesn't have to matter.
In short: No. | |
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| Do Christian Women Scare You Off ???
Posted: 4/7/2008 10:38:21 AM | Being Christian by itself would not scare me off.
At least not more than any other religion.
Stating your religion up front , shoving it into my face right at the start, is a little red flag to me though.
To me it looks like your religion is very important to you and you might be one of those people who put more trust into their preacher/priest/mullah.... than might be good for you.
Maybe you are deeply indoctrinated and might be an overzealous religous fanatic.
Meaning your religion is your life.
Resulting in making everybody incompatible (or even unworthy) who does not share your religious believes.
But as I am agnostic,
I can imagine other fun activities on Sunday mornings with my partner. | |
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| Do Christian Women Scare You Off ???
Posted: 4/7/2008 11:18:31 AM | Haven't read all 18 pages, so I if repeat someone else's post, sorry.
"Scared off by it"?
No, scared wouldn't be the word I'd use....more like apprehensive.
"Do you equate "christian " with someone who is cold and religious; no fun and no passion!?"
Equate with 'cold'....no. Equate with 'religious'....usually. Equate with 'no fun'....no (however, not likely we will find each other's interests fun). Equate with 'no passion'....no.
"Do you even bother reading the rest of the profile after seeing this?"
Often, I will continue to read the profile until I get to the point where it says, "God is #1 in my life", I am looking for a man of faith", "You must believe in God", "I attend/am active in church"....etc.
"I am extremely down to earth with alot of passion and I am wondering if stating your a christian stops some of you good men out there from ever getting to know that!!"
Yes, it will inevitably.
Let me tell you why, OP (my recent experience)....I got married in June 06. A couple of weeks after we married, she told me "You know, I promised God if I ever found someone and got re-married, I'd start going to Church again." We separated September 07 with her saying, "If I'm going to be married to someone, they HAVE to believe in God (Christian-Protestant methodology to be specific)." I could no longer handle being told what I WILL believe, or else....how I WILL act, or else....her spending more time at the neighbors sharing the word (religious people) than with me....etc. etc. Obviously, we had other issues, but this became a deal breaker for her. Would have been nice to know ahead of time! Therefore, thank you for being honest in your profile.
~ds~ | |
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| Do Christian Women Scare You Off ???
Posted: 4/7/2008 12:55:07 PM | Not only do Christian women NOT scare me off but I will only date Christian women.
Christians should only date Christians.
It's not because we think we are better than everyone else but the Bible clearly tells us that we should not be unequally yoked with unbelievers.
It isn't because God is a cosmic killjoy, it's because relationships with unbelievers don't work and it will only lead to heartache. | |
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| Do Christian Women Scare You Off ???
Posted: 4/7/2008 3:59:31 PM | ^^^ "It isn't because God is a cosmic killjoy, it's because relationships with unbelievers don't work and it will only lead to heartache."
And vice versa....a believer with a non-believer CAN work, but I agree with you that it probably won't. And the heartache you speak of, can come from either side. Believer-only couples can have heartache, as well, right? Right.
The problem (at least for me), is when the other person's will and/or beliefs (regardless which side of the fence), 1) become a higher priority in their life than their SO, 2) when one tries to impose that will or belief upon their SO and, 3) if their imposing doesn't work, they become fanatical, demanding and issue ultimatums. JMO
~ds~ | |
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| Do Christian Women Scare You Off ???
Posted: 4/7/2008 5:56:08 PM | Fuzzball, watch the first 30 minutes of zeitgeistmovie dot com.
Will probably ruin your evening, but you will wake up. ;) | |
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| Do Christian Women Scare You Off ???
Posted: 4/8/2008 5:01:15 AM | To be honest, I wouldn't date someone who didn't share the same values and ideals as me, because it would lead to issues in the future.
Why if I don't beleive in anything spiritual or religeous would I go out with a Christian, or Muslim or Hindu or any other religeous person?
I don't have any issues being friends with people frmo different religeons, but from a relationship point, it's a bit of a no-no as far as I'm concerned.
Yes it will affect how I look at your profile, and I will probably skip over it if there's too much "Jesus comes first" | |
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| Do Christian Women Scare You Off ???
Posted: 4/8/2008 9:45:24 AM | Of course Christian women scare us men off. Are you kidding? Who would want a woman with those boring Christian traits of ... love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, meekness, temperance, faith, merciful, truthful, loyal, godly, holy, forgiving, patient, diligent, dependable, pure, encouraging, positive, clean, neat, sexy, (read the Bible for the complete list of Christian virtues).
What sensible man with half a brain and one eye wouldn't want a woman with the opposite of Christian traits ... hateful, depressing, fighting, nagging, condemning, criticizing, haughty, arrogant, drunken, lying, adulterous, sinful, neglectful, unpredictable, wasteful, negative, nasty, dirty, frigid, ... Woowoo, that's what I'm talkin about. | |
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| Do Christian Women Scare You Off ???
Posted: 4/8/2008 11:33:45 AM | | Just because someone's not Christian doesnt mean they dont hold certain ideals, traits and virtues that are positive? | |
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| Do Christian Women Scare You Off ???
Posted: 4/8/2008 12:20:52 PM | I think what really scares them off is when we ladies expect them to be gentlemen and treat us like the ladies we are. In other words they have to put in some actual effort to win us over instead of just showing up. Sorry guys that's just been my experience.  | |
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| Do Christian Women Scare You Off ???
Posted: 4/9/2008 5:45:31 AM |
the Bible clearly tells us that we should not be unequally yoked with unbelievers.
Thank you, Jesus, for making our b*tches docile. | |
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| Do Christian Women Scare You Off ???
Posted: 4/9/2008 7:03:45 AM |
I think what really scares them off is when we ladies expect them to be gentlemen and treat us like the ladies we are.
To be frank, what scares me is that not that you are interested in manners; but that you might make us miserable by foisting Christianity's hypocritical and arbitrary "morals" upon us even if we don't happen to believe in the same invisible sky-god you do.
Opening doors and minding ones manners are rather simple. Dealing with organized ignorance is far more trying. | |
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| Do Christian Women Scare You Off ???
Posted: 4/9/2008 11:21:56 AM | You're sounding a little bitter here. No one is forcing you or telling you to date a Christian woman. Go look for someone who shares you're values then.  | |
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| Do Christian Women Scare You Off ???
Posted: 4/9/2008 3:13:22 PM | Christian women scare me when they are wielding holy water because that stuff burns my skin.
Seriously though, they don't scare me; hell half the girls at the Bunny Ranch went to Catholic School. Them girls are freaks. | |
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| Do Christian Women Scare You Off ???
Posted: 4/9/2008 3:31:53 PM | I have not read every single response, but have perused many of them. I am amazed that being a Christian is somehow equated with being ignorant. Ignorance can come from anywhere and anyone, "religious" or not. I am a Christian and have a personal relationship with my Lord. And yes, He is more important to me than any man. There is actually nothing wrong with that, and I don't see why any man would have a problem with that. By following Him, I am a better woman to my man.
Anyway, back to ignorance, I take what I am taught in the church and measure it against what the Bible says about the topic. I do think for myself. I think through issues, social and political, for myself; but I tend to align with the Biblical teaching on that issue. After all, why call yourself a Christian, which means Christ-like (or trying to be-certainly far from it) if you have no intent to live according to the teachings of Christ and it doesn't play a central part in your life. What good is any "religion" if it is something that affects your life in no way except "making" you go to a building occasionally and not being one bit different when you walk out than you were when you walked in.
I do not judge other people. The Bible says that our "righteousness" is like "filthy rags" before God, so who am I to judge another? I love people, as Christ taught us to do, and hope they find peace and fulfillment in a relationship with him. Do I share him with others? yes, when I get the chance. I don't "shove him down their throat" as I believe a relationship with Him is a beautiful thing and no "shoving" is required when the person sees the need to fill that spiritual void in their lives. And if we dropped our "tough" facades, most would admit to having that spiritual area in our lives that I believe only He can fill.
Lastly, it is an old, tired argument that "religious" people are somehow weak. Now, I don't take offense to being called weak becuase when one looks at the big picture, all of us are weak in the sense that we are all needy in some way. However, it takes a lot more strength to try to live by a code of beliefs than it does to make decisions based on the emotions of the given moment. It also takes dedication and commitment, two qualities which I think only the "strong" possess. Well, just my two cents. | |
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| Do Christian Women Scare You Off ???
Posted: 4/9/2008 6:52:51 PM |
You're sounding a little bitter here. No one is forcing you or telling you to date a Christian woman. Go look for someone who shares you're values then.
Not bitter, simply replying to your insinuation that men avoid Christian women because they don't wish to behave as gentlemen. The truth in my case couldn't be further from the truth. I'm all for chivalry and manners; just not religion :) | |
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| Do Christian Women Scare You Off ???
Posted: 4/9/2008 7:17:20 PM |
I am amazed that being a Christian is somehow equated with being ignorant. Ignorance can come from anywhere and anyone, "religious" or not. I am a Christian and have a personal relationship with my Lord.
A personal relationship ?? So who pays when you go out for coffee.. LOL | |
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| Do Christian Women Scare You Off ???
Posted: 4/10/2008 1:57:09 PM | | ^^Luvztotravel: It says in your profile that you're looking for someone who accepts Catholic doctrine. There's a big difference between a Catholic and a non-Catholic Christian, so you may want to clarify your points. | |
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| Do Christian Women Scare You Off ???
Posted: 4/10/2008 7:53:48 PM | I state that I am a Christian and that I want to date a Christian in my profile also, I admit it really limt's the possibilities. But if your faith is in God than he will provide.
Everyone has there own opinion of what a "Christian" is. For me it means I believe in God in Jesus and that I am forgiven. It doesn't make me better than anyone, amazingly I am still human. LOL It does mean that I do try to follow the word. Most of what society considers morale does come from the Bible...
Don't worry about who you scare away, but who you don't... | |
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| Do Christian Women Scare You Off ???
Posted: 4/10/2008 10:21:54 PM | | Christian women don't scare me, as long as they aren't cramming their beliefs down my throat. When I read profiles with Christian women who automatically in the name of their deity start damning me for being brought up a little differently, I do move on, but not just because they are Christian. | |
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| Do Christian Women Scare You Off ???
Posted: 4/11/2008 4:04:18 AM | I'm a christian ,..steve the Pirate puts it all so well...I don't push it on anyone and don't look down at anyone Lets just be cool and injoy and respect each others believes. I do love Jesus steve he was a happening dude still is . I don't go to church I love to party and I hang out with anyone .More wine!!!!!
sylvia55 | |
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| Do Christian Women Scare You Off ???
Posted: 4/11/2008 6:43:23 AM | I have no objection to people believing in something bigger than themselves or believing in an afterlife, heaven and hell and so forth, but for someone to be religious I think they are following the beliefs of another or the masses. It is not a bad thing, it can provide a great source of comfort, community and inspiration. However, it is open to interpretation, as shown by different types of the same religion, catholic, protestant, evangelical, jehovahs witnesses and so on, which one is correct? It is also open to abuse because of this as things can be twisted to interpret the message to a persons own ends.
As you can probably tell I'm not a religious person, I do believe in an afterlife, but only because of philosophy, the rest of it I'm still not sure about though. I try to be a good person because I believe it is the right thing to do, not from fear of hell or that some supreme being will find a way of punishing me if I do something bad.
Christian women, or women of any religion don't scare me, but because there is such a high chance that our beliefs will clash and as a persons beliefs are one of the most important things to them I would not expect any relationship to go very far. | |
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| Do Christian Women Scare You Off ???
Posted: 4/11/2008 10:53:35 AM | I am one of those people that is willing to discuss religion, but find that many people are too fanatical about their own beliefs to even question the arguments (both those who 'believe' and those who 'do not').
I recently dated someone who came from a very religious background. We, after a couple weeks, discussed the religion issue, and he made it clear he couldn't get serious about anyone who wasn't Christian. He said he'd be worried all his days about me burning in hell. I thought, "Gosh, it's a good thing it doesn't exist."
>.> I just don't like the forced fear thing.
If someone has beliefs, good, we all need them. It's when you start judging based on religious/not religious that you get into hot water. Someone can be an aetheist and still be a very good person. Being kind, gentle, giving, fair, just...these are not 'Christian' traits, and Christianity did not coin these traits. There is a natural propensity in human nature to be these things, and they are understood as 'good'.
My point being, if you cannot accept someone with a different pov, then only date those who share your same point of view. | |
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