| Do Christian Women Scare You Off ???
Posted: 4/11/2008 6:17:21 PM | | As a Christian myself, I can say that anyone who feels that it is so important to put that on their profile aside from under religious views is probably a fundamentalist Christian and takes a literal interpretation of the Bible, which I do not. Personally, anyone who is ultra-religious scares me, I'd much rather date an atheist, and have. | |
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| Do Christian Women Scare You Off ???
Posted: 4/11/2008 6:28:35 PM | | Depends. If a woman is a push-it-down-my-throat Christian, yes. If she understand that she is a Christian and I am not and accepts the difference, no. Respect the difference and acknowledge the beauty in diversity and you have a winner. | |
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| Do Christian Women Scare You Off ???
Posted: 4/13/2008 1:13:18 PM | | I have contacted a few women who started out there description with Iam a devoted christan ect. and all of the ones I contacted were wanting me to go to church with them and get to know them in a good place as they put it. Before I even mention going out they let me know not to expect any physical contact before marriage and I must meet there standards. I am not saying all christan women are this way but the three or so I responded to were thats why I don't respond to any of them anynore. | |
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| Do Christian Women Scare You Off ???
Posted: 4/13/2008 1:34:35 PM | There are lots of women that indicate in the Religion drop-down menu that they're Christian (or another religion). This doesn't really scare me off, because it's just... what they are. I'd prefer non-religious because compatibility is important.
If she mentions in her About me, that her Christian faith is important to her, well, that's just a sign that we would be much less compatible. There's nothing wrong with saying it's important.
When a woman lists an assortment of Biblical references as Interests, and spends a paragraph explaining how Jesus, her kids, and her family (in that order) will always be more important than you, then I'm just thankful she's up front about it. I'm also running away.
While I was waiting for a bus, a gentleman wandered up to me with a Watch Tower in hand, and obviously wanted to engage me. I don't normally like to be harsh with strangers, but I had things going on that made me feel a little harsh. I said to him "Spirituality and Religion are the tools that our Soul uses to touch the world. If you think I'm going to let a door-to-door salesman have anything to do with my Soul, you're sadly mistaken. Don't bother me." Now... your first thought might be that I really got all Anti-Christian on this guy. But if you think about it... regardless of what your faith is... you should think the same way as I do. It's YOUR Soul. You shouldn't let anyone else tamper with it. So, a Christian woman who just says "I'm Christian, and it's important to me." Is just owning her Soul, good for her. | |
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| Do Christian Women Scare You Off ???
Posted: 4/13/2008 2:31:49 PM | Frankly I got tired of dealing with guys who would attack my religion or just were down right rude about it. I have no problem with other Christian religions and respect everyones right to believe what they will and I expect the same respect in return.  | |
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| Do Christian Women Scare You Off ???
Posted: 4/13/2008 2:35:21 PM | | It doesn't scare me off, but when you don't share religous beliefs it's an instant problem before you've even met. I think a smart man or woman will at least consider that factor before making contact. | |
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| Do Christian Women Scare You Off ???
Posted: 4/13/2008 2:35:48 PM | | It doesn't scare me off, but when you don't share religous beliefs it's an instant problem before you've even met. I think a smart man or woman will at least consider that factor before making contact. | |
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| Do Christian Women Scare You Off ???
Posted: 4/13/2008 11:07:47 PM | | its an interesting topic, so i will endevor to answer, first by saying, i question some of those profiles, because when i tell them that i am an ordained reverend, (true) also a landscape architect, many disappear, or think, i would never be good enough, so i find this forum post humourous to say the least. | |
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| Do Christian Women Scare You Off ???
Posted: 4/14/2008 12:05:00 AM | | I believe in God very much, pray quite a bit, etc... yet I don't share beliefs in organized religion or much less the way they all try to pass it off. Each organized religion has become far different from it's original purpose. Every single one of them try to tell you that they are the "only way" to God and the others no matter how good intentioned will fall short. Yet if they are just "another way" to God, then they stand to lose their position. Not to mention the hypocracy of it. Like there are gospels written by apostles just as credible as the ones in the bible, yet they are kept out because they give a different perspective to what the religions would like to teach. Then there is like the Roman Catholic Church who tells you to give up all your money and possessions, especially to them, as money is the root of evil... yet they wear silk robes and collect enough donations each year which they hardly give out which makes it the second largest financial institution in the world. They would have you believe that an unconditionally loving God that condems as being unworthy before your born and you have to spend your life pleading and doing such and such just so God won't torment you for all eternity in some lake of fire. Long story short, the ones that claim to be officially religious tend to look down upon you if you don't believe what they do. If they do spend time with you, they tend to try to force their religion on you because you are a "misguided" soul. Most of the time they do it indirectly and often enough that they don't even realize they are doing it, then get defensive and try to deny it when you do tactfully point out what they are doing to you... | |
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| Do Christian Women Scare You Off ???
Posted: 4/14/2008 2:18:41 PM | | If you’re a Christian, don't apologize for it. If you’re a Christian then Praise the Lord and don't give up you beliefs or morals for anyone, esp. the many scumbags on these sites. If you’re a radical then that's a legit issue for some people. If Jesus Christ is your Lord and Savior then be proud of the. IMHO. | |
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| Do Christian Women Scare You Off ???
Posted: 4/24/2008 8:56:33 AM | As in they put Christian in their profile religion? No, one reason is because I believe that 90% of the people in the world who say they are "christian", aren't. Sure they believe in the Christian God, but they aren't christian. Yes it is one of the 3 biggest religions in the world, but most of its followers aren't real christians. I would say "posers" for lack of a better word.
Heavy churchers that are very close minded scare me off though. That is of any religion. Its funny too on how close minded they are since the different denominations came about by people being open minded and accepting something different from what they normally followed. | |
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| Do Christian Women Scare You Off ???
Posted: 4/25/2008 6:15:46 AM | A true christian would would never say a non christian is going to hell because so call Christian will be in hell too we are all short of the glory of GOD .LOVE and REPECT .
our job to be good to each other and still it's the hardest thing for all of us to do.
WHY CAN"T WE ALL JUST GET ALONG. is loving and respect gone ? I don't thing so .
The thing is don't force it on anyone .I read my bible I don't go to church the way I would like to go .it doesnt mean I believe any less just love and be good to everyone the
the hardest thing to do .LOVE yourself so we can love someone Else's This topic is so sad people kill each other over religions.whos right whos wrong I"M paying for my own sins so lets learn to acept and repect others believes  
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| Do Christian Women Scare You Off ???
Posted: 4/25/2008 6:47:40 AM | I see the word christian and do not get scared by it. I just realize that person took the time to differentiate that specific religion from the other choices present, therefore it may be prominent or important to their life as well as personality. I also realize I would be much more comfortable meeting someone with a more compatible religious outlook to my own and, since it is non-religious, I tend to reject or not consider those that specifically choose a religion.
I do not equate "christian" with someone cold but as they identify them self with a religion, or identify a specific religion in their profile, I do equate it to religious. They may be fun and passionate but I choose not to pursue someone, or be chased (yeah like THAT happens...well sometimes mormons and jehovah witness but I suspect they have ulterior motives for coming to my house), by someone that incorporates a specific religious moniker/way of life in their personal identity, beliefs, or morals.
I do not bother reading the rest of the profile after seeing this...well, sometimes I do, depends on why I am looking at their profile. Maybe they put something interesting in the forums or have an interesting interest that piqued my interest, interestingly enough.
The point is no one will ever know if you are truly down to earth, with a lot of passion, or fun, through your profile or an online relationship only through spending time with you. In some cases holding to a specific religion, and spending time together, means the other person (or me in this case) will be exposed or somewhat "forced" to participate in religious events, activities, or validating those beliefs in order to maintain a relationship. Therefore I avoid the people that specify a religion that is not congruent with my own, as religion is generally a pretty big deal to people and can cause a huge rift in a relationship. | |
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| Do Christian Women Scare You Off ???
Posted: 4/25/2008 9:52:03 AM | If it does scare off certain men, then they aren't your type anyway. Of course, if you don't mind pre-marital sex, you might want to make that known :) lol
OK, that may not be the only reason some men go a'runnin', but I haven't clicked on your profile...do you explain what your Christianity means, and doesn't mean?
It is, sometimes, limited to label yourself with one noun, or one noun and one pronoun. Not everyone defines that word the same as you do, so if you define it yourself...it might help with potential misunderstandings.
If it takes a lot of time to explain, however...a question might be, "why is this person so complex?" :) | |
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| Do Christian Women Scare You Off ???
Posted: 4/25/2008 10:40:29 AM | | To be honest, the religion of the person is the last thing that I look at. It's more about the personality for me and how you explain/represent yourself. If you're someone who I think I would get on really well with then it wouldn't matter to me if you were a christian or not, I'd probably send you a message either way. | |
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| Do Christian Women Scare You Off ???
Posted: 4/26/2008 4:10:53 PM | Christian women attract me. I am scared off by those who are not Christian.
Christianity is defined differently by different people so I need to communicate clearly with another person to see if we have the same definition. To me Christianity means you are patterning your life after Jesus Christ, and depending on faith in him for your salvation.
I am amused by the many who follow these Christian topic forums for the purpose of antaganizing those who claim Christianity and call them ignorant, and other derogatory things. I wonder if they are informed enough to realize that Christians are blessed for suffering persecution for their faith? Thanks to those of you who do that!!
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| Do Christian Women Scare You Off ???
Posted: 4/26/2008 5:34:25 PM |
I am amused by the many who follow these Christian topic forums for the purpose of antaganizing those who claim Christianity and call them ignorant, and other derogatory things. I wonder if they are informed enough to realize that Christians are blessed for suffering persecution for their faith? Thanks to those of you who do that!!
Thats an interesting tidbit, I'll go grab my Paslode | |
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| Do Christian Women Scare You Off ???
Posted: 4/27/2008 11:27:39 AM | Thelimey, now that you are doing something constructive with that paslode (I hope)I will continue to discuss the post thread.
When a woman says she is Christian it attracts me because that seems to define what I am looking for. I am a Christian, looking for a Christian. However my experience of online dating is that many ignore words they don't want to accept. For example, I say I am looking for a woman who "maintains a healthy weight". Women who are overweight respond to my profile for some reason.
My guess is that most words are perceived differently by different people. However we have to start somewhere and go from there. Many state in their profile that they are struggling to state the right things, and most of us are.
I think we all need to be as clear as possible about who we are and who we are looking for, including our intentions. Then there needs to be further communication to determine if we truly are on similar paths, which we choose to continue together.
As some posters have mentioned, we can be too focused and restrictive to the extent that we exclude potentially wonderful companions. In my case I could be doing that by putting too much emphasis on "healthy weight". My main focus is to seek a companion whose love of God and Christianity is similar enough to mine that we are not "unequally yoked". Personally I wonder if my bias on weight is healthy for me, but I feel I need to be honest enought to admit that bias, and communicate it. I am probably eliminating wonderful ladies by doing that, but that is a problem I will have to live with.
Therefore if the lady feels "Christian" properly defines who she is, that is what she needs to start off with. If she feels further definition would keep from excluding those she prefers not to exclude she should say so. ( I hope I have chosen the right words to say what I mean in this post but may have some errors----such is life)
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| Do Christian Women Scare You Off ???
Posted: 4/30/2008 7:07:56 PM | Scryer41 - Excellent!!!! Where did you find that- the exchange between the student and professor!?!?
Why oh why hasn't anybody responded to it???? hm...... because they've been shown up - maybe??? Not one peson with all the smarmy,mean anti-christian and blasphemous posts can respond to this brilliant presentation of logic....
(PAGE 17 - long post - I suggest everyone READ IT!!!)
BTW, the bible isn't correct LITERALLY, there is much that the human male translators got wrong - this is why at fist glance it looks misogynistic - the misogynistic males put wrong english words in certain places. There is an organization called Christians for Biblical Equality that is dedicated to getting this truth out - and many books on this subject! God is not male, that is a human condition and Christianity is EQUALIST, NOT patriarchal. That's the wonderful truth!! | |
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| Do Christian Women Scare You Off ???
Posted: 4/30/2008 8:27:10 PM | I'm a Christian and I love God but thats about me; when I see God when I die no one else is going to be there but me. Actions speak louder than words.
Christianity is a way of life not words; Its when you are of character and you love God.
I think if you need to shout if from the rooftops it gives a message that your better than someone else. I state who I am in my religion part but people need to get to know me to know who I am.
I do think though this is one of the things couples dont discuss before marrying or kids, and they should. It is important but again, dont advertise it, live it. good luck. | |
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| Do Christian Women Scare You Off ???
Posted: 4/30/2008 9:09:26 PM | | It doesn't scare me off but if she states her first love is God how do I compete with that? Imagine the orgasm Jesus would give her if the one I gave her was satisfactory. | |
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| Do Christian Women Scare You Off ???
Posted: 4/30/2008 10:26:22 PM | Hi xtangent,
I will be honest with you and say that the more a lady talks about her religious beliefs, the less likely I am to want to pursue her.
I grew up in a very conservative Chistian church. In fact, people who seemed to be that most serious about it often become more like members of a cult then regular church folk.
My experience with that kind of religion has made me very unlikely to become close friends or otherwise with "religious" people.
Think about this:
Suppose I am an atheist. What if I put "I'm an atheist" at the beginning of my profile? Wouldn't you logically assume that atheism must be very important to me, and that I am trying to attract people who feel as strongly as I do about atheism?
With that in mind, if you state "I'm a Christian" on your profile, then the issue isn't whether or not you are "stiff" or "fun", but that most of us know what people who are very religious are like in social environments. If you state that you're a Christian in such as way as to attract attention to that fact, what else would you expect then for people to expect you to act like the highly religious people who they've encountered in their lives?
Probably you will need to tell people more about what you DO in life other than being a Christian. I know of people who say they're Christians and yet do many things that I was raised to believe that Christians are forbidden to do. Why not clarify what you are all about? Do you drink, smoke, go to parties, have sex outside of marriage? Realize that these things will be a big deal for most men who you encounter. The more that you explain about your interests, the better. | |
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