| Do Christian Women Scare You Off ???
Posted: 10/18/2007 11:36:46 AM | | As many have noted, there are Christians and then there are CHRISTIANS. There are those who profess to being Christians and only hit Mass around Christmas time (when it's fashionable to be seen at church). Then there are the 'in-your-face', Jesus loves you, Bible pounders who seem to smell burning brimstone all around me and want to 'save' me. I have dated women of several different faiths and, though I am not a believer in any religion, religion has never been an issue. I tend to turn off the passionately devout in short order. I respect other's beliefs and don't mind at all if a woman I am seeing feels the need to go to church, temple, mosque, or hug a tree on their day(s) of worship (I do draw the line at blood sacrifices and burning infidels). It just isn't something I practice myself. As long as I and my prospective partner can agree on that, then religion, Christian or otherwise, isn't a real problem. Just don't spend time trying to convert me. Respect my lack of faith and I'll respect your possession of faith. Seems equitable and fair to me. | |
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| Do Christian Women Scare You Off ???
Posted: 10/18/2007 11:45:38 AM |
I think I will take it out of my essay and just leave it in the designated area! I dont want to be "in anyones face" unless its for lovin
i read your updated profile, and you state "not religious, but spiritual". isn't this statement sacrilegious. i mean here you are professing to be a good christian, but then you downplay it so far the other way when you start getting negative feedback.
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| Do Christian Women Scare You Off ???
Posted: 10/18/2007 11:55:24 AM | | oh no , not at all! When i had it in my profile before I said I was a christian woman, spiritual and loving , not religious! I always say this because my faith is a personal relationship with Christ as opposed to a religious doctrine that can be twisted and dogmatic! | |
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| Do Christian Women Scare You Off ???
Posted: 10/18/2007 12:04:34 PM |
My question is how many of you see the word christian and get scared off by it?
Not scared, but to me it's similar to someone putting interests on their profile that I don't have any interest in myself. If someone puts "basket weaving, tapestries and taxidermy" down on their interests, I'm not going to contact them since there's not much for me to relate to the person with there.
I also have a personal aversion to those who are sworn to a particular religion due to some bad experiences in my past with those who used religion to judge me and destroy friendships. I don't think *every* religious person does these things, but it does create personal apprehension within my gut.
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| Do Christian Women Scare You Off ???
Posted: 10/18/2007 12:47:57 PM | jonnymac1963 said:
I don't date men, women of color, overly religous women, drasticaly overweight women and so on. We all have a check list of whom we want to be with.
May I ask why you don't date 'women of colour'? It's hard to believe people that have lived in this world as long as you can be so closed minded and ignorant.
To the OP. Believe and faith is beautiful. Aligning yourself with a massive group which asks you to accept all of their beliefsis unconscionable, to me. To be honest, any woman who accepts what an organized religion preaches as fact will get zero interest, or for that matter respect, from me.
All religions have hundreds of valualble lessons on life we can learn, but to believe one is right and the others wrong is just moronic. So in answer to your question, I would never date someone who immediately identified themselves as Christian, but always love discussing the world and how it came to be with them. Intelligent Design is pure comedy. | |
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| Do Christian Women Scare You Off ???
Posted: 10/18/2007 12:56:45 PM | | Personally I would only date Christian women since I myself am a Christian, that way we don't have silly religious arguments but I can see why it would scare off or disinterest others especially if they didn't have the same belief, just stick with Christian men they'll treat you better too. | |
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| Do Christian Women Scare You Off ???
Posted: 10/18/2007 1:49:07 PM | I'm an atheist, and sort of 'evangelical' about it.
A christian woman wouldn't be a good match for me, nor I for her. | |
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| Do Christian Women Scare You Off ???
Posted: 10/18/2007 1:54:02 PM | ***ty all so much for all of the input! Alot of very interesting replys!
I guess I would like to narrow it down a bit by repeating part of my question***
***do you see the word "christian" and assume that the woman is cold and frigid, no fun, no passion??? | |
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| Do Christian Women Scare You Off ???
Posted: 10/18/2007 1:55:32 PM | | Not at all. I don't think one's religious preferences have much to do with their sexual energy and/or mores. That's something that has to be judged by other means. | |
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| Do Christian Women Scare You Off ???
Posted: 10/18/2007 1:59:28 PM | Christian women do not scare me off. Christian women who force their belief on me, or judge me had better be ready for a spirited debate!
I do not relate being a Christian as cold, or lacking fun or passion. That is a characteristic of the person, not the Christianity.
I fully read all profiles.
Just my two cents!
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| Do Christian Women Scare You Off ???
Posted: 10/18/2007 2:11:58 PM | A woman’s religious views don’t throw me off. It’s her morality and sense of self that make or break it with me.
Your moral structure is somewhat based on religion. All religions share a commonality. A woman’s views on Family and Love will be the most important aspects in a long term relationship.
Being Christian, Jewish, Hindu, Muslim or Buddhist makes no difference to me. It’s the person I’m seeing, not their religion or their family. If there is a bridge to cross later on when it comes to marriage or starting a family, then we cross it together just like the rest of life will be faced together.
Your religion has no bearing until the idea of marriage or starting a family comes up. Which is usually a while down the road after a relationship starts. | |
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| Do Christian Women Scare You Off ???
Posted: 10/18/2007 2:19:25 PM | as for the question
do you see the word "christian" and assume that the woman is cold and frigid, no fun, no passion???
The answer is no. I only see Jehova's witnesses that way. J/K. Actually anyone can be cold frigid or just no fun. I would assume everyone in the world likes to have fun until they prove otherwise. | |
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| Do Christian Women Scare You Off ???
Posted: 10/18/2007 2:21:01 PM | I don't appreciate people who are limited in their thinking to the level that their religion is the only religion and they are right and everyone else is wrong. Scare off is really not the right word to describe it.
I find the most deeply religious people who are filled spiritually are the ones who act on their religious beliefs not speak on them at every turn. I think these evangelicals who try to convert all us "sinners" to their thinking are weak of mind and spirit. Truly spiritual and religious people lead through their example not their words. Evangelicals try to coerce, guilt, manipulate and sell people on their beliefs based on just words. When I say evangelicals I am not just talking Christians, but any religions where their practice is to do the negative things mentioned above.
So I guess all of that means it depends on the person and how they utilize their religious beliefs.
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| Do Christian Women Scare You Off ???
Posted: 10/18/2007 2:25:01 PM | Not as general rule, but women (or men if I leaned that way) who feel the need to emphasize they are (whatever religion) within their profiles and in the forums raises a yellow flag for me. [To those who are not racing fans a yellow flag means "caution, potentially dangerous situation")
Former UK Prime Minister Margaret Thatcher once said about being in power, " Being in power is like being a Lady. If you have to tell people you are, you aren't."
Substitute being Christian -- or any religion -- for power and I think that pretty well answers the question. If they can't tell by your actions, then you probably aren't a good advertisement for your beliefs.
That being said, I agree that Jesus seemed to like a good party as much as anyone and as much as he loved beating the hypocrites at their own games.
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| Do Christian Women Scare You Off ???
Posted: 10/18/2007 2:28:56 PM | Interesting question, OP.
For Christian women who run into your problem, you have to realize that your faith teaches that anyone who does not believe it is eternally damned. Anyone who does not accept the notion that Jesus is both man and God, regardless of why they don't believe it, is doomed to hell. This is something that cannot be proven, and if accepted, must be accepted on faith.
Also, Christains see it as their responsibility to convert the nonbeliever. This can be annoying to anyone who has reached their own conclusions about God. What you believe should be between you and the One you pray to.
So yes, it is a turn-off/automatic deal-breaker to those of us who don't pray that way, but why worry about that unless you are open to the idea of meeting someone who doesn't think like you do? | |
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| Do Christian Women Scare You Off ???
Posted: 10/18/2007 2:29:10 PM | OP,
It seems to me that if you make a point of saying you are a christian in your profile, that you really only want to date christian men. Ergo, it doesnt matter (or it shouldnt matter to you) what other men think of you.
Actually, I commend you on being honest in your profile. I have begun communicating with self-proclaimed christain men, and then when they realize I am a "pagan" or "darkness"-their assessments, not mine-they blow me off. My feeling is that if they really want a christain woman they should be more upfront about it.
Besides, I made a point of saying I was into Tarot cards to scare off the evangelical types.;) | |
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| Do Christian Women Scare You Off ???
Posted: 10/18/2007 3:01:59 PM | | If it is important to you, then by all means mention it. It may not be my cup of tea and I ignore any profile that mentions christian/jesus/god in the about-me section but do you really want to trick me by by leaving out that vital bit of information? I'm just an unbelieving heathen and it just wouldn't work out eight-ways-to-sunday. | |
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| Do Christian Women Scare You Off ???
Posted: 10/18/2007 3:11:50 PM | YOUR PROFILE SAYS SOMEHWERE IN THE MIDDLE THAT YOU ARE SPIRITUAL AND NOT CHRISTIAN. It says ( Ihave done copy paste)
I am spiritual , not religious
Those are 2 different departments completely. | |
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| Do Christian Women Scare You Off ???
Posted: 10/18/2007 3:32:01 PM | Define Christian? I was confirmed in the lutheran church in 1978. I beleive in some of the churches thinkings, but not all. Am i a member of any church? Nope. Do i support any church? Nope. Would it bother me if the next time i was in a church was for a service to send me to my next life? Again, nope. My grand father taught me well. His quote: You will find more honest people in a bar than you ever will in a church. He was right about that. The only christian women that scare me are the ones that wear their religion on their sleeve and try to save me from myself.  | |
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| Do Christian Women Scare You Off ???
Posted: 10/18/2007 3:42:03 PM | Yes but I generally feel that way about anyone who is overly religious simply because I'm not and know we won't have alot of common interests and in my experience (bear in mind MY experience) they always want to "save" me thanks anyway but I'm happy being the heathen that I am.
JC | |
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| Do Christian Women Scare You Off ???
Posted: 10/18/2007 4:52:11 PM | It doesn't scare ME off, but being a wacko Christian does. I met and dated for a short time one of these women caught up in a local big money ministry. This guy is an ex-con...former drug dealer...even has Hep C from his bad needles and now has a great gig making millions talking about Jesus.
Back to your question. I think a lot of times women who say their Christians and are looking for a Christian man are really saying NO SEX without marriage.
I think THAT scares some men off since some men aren't interested in marriage, but expect to be inimate with an exclusive partner. | |
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| Do Christian Women Scare You Off ???
Posted: 10/18/2007 7:01:11 PM | Well after reading your responses and pondering this myself, I decided to put it smack, right out there in the middle of my profile! I LOVE JESUS!!
True, I wont be getting much mail, lol, but the man I want will recognise me in a NY minute , and after all,thats what Im here for , one man!
Plus I dont ever want to lead anyone on just to have my mailbox full!
So thanks again and may you all be blessed with lots of fish!!!   | |
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