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| Do Christian Women Scare You Off ???
Posted: 10/19/2007 2:28:37 PM | yes, scared off
***do you see the word "christian" and assume that the woman is cold and frigid, no fun, no passion???***
yup, due to many real experiences. I suppose it's "possible" to find a needle in a haystack, but... with limited spare time it seems foolish to date multitudes of unlikley choices and maybe find one Christian who ain't radical, better to start off with ones that don't wear it on their sleeve.
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| Do Christian Women Scare You Off ???
Posted: 10/19/2007 3:06:51 PM | Msg. 1
Yes it does, most christian women I have found are hypocritical prudes, when it comes to human sexuality or convienent morals. The reason I say this is simple, the strictures for savagely curtailing human sexual behavior are clearly defined in the religeous text called The Bible. Profoundly and explicitly put within that tome, are the wheres whens and hows of christian sexuality, and invariably men and women of that faith end up "bending the rules" of a faith they claim but DO NOT PRACTICE. And obviously not respect. Besides paying "lip service" too, and begging forgiveness about the natural sexual facet of their humanity later. All the whilst finding ways to bend biblical strictures for sexual satisfaction with their intimate partner(s). This all due to inflexible dogma, and the power of public shaming? Then again, let us not forget our favorite alter boy shall we?
Simply put, scripture written in an "Dark Age" of sexuality and shame, has no place in the modern bedroom. Thats why its all so sinfull, and enticing, you see. But literally "breeds its own problems" as alienated love children shamefully created "out of wed lock" then are denied their birthright of love, understanding and community, due to priests, pulpets, and popes, to be sure.
So do enjoy the fire and brimstone of the above, and all the sexual angst it produces.
Then again I'm all Old Testament like that. ;)
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| Do Christian Women Scare You Off ???
Posted: 10/19/2007 3:59:01 PM | As for faith or religion goes: I truly believe that no matter what faith you are in, there is something good and healthy about it but as long as you remain humble and keep it personal as any faith should be.
Fanatism of any sorts denotes either deep psychological problems or an attempt to mascarade whom you really are, from yourself and/or from others. And strangely enough, there is a lot of fanatics amongh Christians. Do I want to live with a persons who idolize a faith instead of someone who love and idolize LIFE and it's many beauty, No.
Religion is a celebration of LIFE and faith in LIFE....not a serie of useless human rituals to identify one self to something. | |
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| Do Christian Women Scare You Off ???
Posted: 10/19/2007 4:51:55 PM | | Don't you all know, that not being religious is hip now. God forbid that we stand up for christ because we might be called bible thumping. I am a Christian. I date Christians and non christians. I won't date anyone that is stupid or narrow minded. | |
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| Do Christian Women Scare You Off ???
Posted: 10/19/2007 6:54:00 PM | | schadenfreudian , agreed, though someone believe as they have nothing else and it gives them a sense of peace which also gives them someone to blame. Not a bad thing not a good thing but just is. | |
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| Do Christian Women Scare You Off ???
Posted: 10/20/2007 3:37:48 PM | | I think it's good to have these types of values posted - it indicates how you may or may not be able to relate to someone. Hopefully, the other person will be open enough to ask in more detail your beliefs, accept them for what they are and have the confidence you will accept theirs as well. | |
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| Do Christian Women Scare You Off ???
Posted: 10/20/2007 3:41:26 PM | "Don't you all know, that not being religious is hip now. God forbid that we stand up for christ because we might be called bible thumping. I am a Christian. I date Christians and non christians. I won't date anyone that is stupid or narrow minded."
two factors are IMO relevant in the above syllogism:
a) How "much" Christian?
b) Which of the some 3000 Christian denominations?
I am Christian too, but "Non Practicing" anymore. | |
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| Do Christian Women Scare You Off ???
Posted: 10/20/2007 4:41:49 PM | | I wouldn't have any problem dating a Christian woman. I wouldn't date a woman who was ultra/crazy-religious, though. But most Christians aren't like that, so it's generally not an issue. | |
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| Do Christian Women Scare You Off ???
Posted: 10/20/2007 6:08:08 PM | No, I do not scare myself off and I want a christian man so no LOL. It's in everything I do so I want someone like minded. It's what I desire.
I have dated guy before that did not believe and it was too hard because it forced us not to have anything in common.
Romatically, I do want someone like me. Friendship wise, I have all kinds.
Just my opinion | |
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| Do Christian Women Scare You Off ???
Posted: 10/20/2007 8:16:27 PM | As Ghandi said:
I really like your Christ...
The problem I have is that your Christians share so little in common with your "Christ."
Saying you are Christian once in your profile would not necessarily scare me away... (I am in a strange position where people that I am most attracted to tend to be spiritual...)
Or to be blunt about it: I believe in God - I just don't believe in religion... | |
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| Do Christian Women Scare You Off ???
Posted: 10/20/2007 8:34:21 PM | Lots of anti-Christian/religion animosity as usual in an internet forum....
With respect to the potential for a relationship, my concern has always been, is the progression of the relationship contingent on my getting "saved". I was raised religiously, but fell away and no longer believe I could ever have faith again - thus I feel any effort to help me get "saved", however flattering (and I do mean that genuinely since when someone tries to get me to go to church and whatnot, it indicates that they care), would be futile. Because of that, and because I know that if the woman loved me then she'd always have that sadness in her heart that I won't go to Heaven with her, I'm not too likely to come out and make that first contact. I am not anti-Christian, or anti-religious, in fact, if I feel that a person genuinely believes in their religion and tries to be a good person, I have lots of respect and admiration for them.
All of that said, I have a hard enough time finding half-decent secular folks.... | |
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| Do Christian Women Scare You Off ???
Posted: 10/20/2007 9:22:39 PM |
I guess I would like to narrow it down a bit by repeating part of my question*** /***do you see the word "christian" and assume that the woman is cold and frigid, no fun, no passion???
What i "hear" is more like "close minded holier than thou difficult to talk to hypocrite."
I consider myself to be a Christian in that i happen to believe He existed and if you can carve through all of the BS that has been added to His message by folks who just wanted to control the peasants, you can get to a wise guidance system for life. This of course, would mean most folks who call themselves Christians would call me a Heathen.
Why mention it in a profile ? I see it as an alarm. “ I know the Truth, and you had better agree”. If it is not that big of a deal, save it for future conversations. There are lots of things about each of us that can not be mentioned in a profile simply due to space.
There IS some Christian Bashing in the U.S.. It is a reaction to some Christians claiming exclusivity to the meaning of the term. It comes from “litmus tests”. It comes from folks committing crimes and then sequestering themselves for a few weeks and proclaiming: “ Hey! I am cured now. JC told me He forgives me and thus it is OK. Trust me, He said to forget about it! Now send me some money so i can get back to telling you how to live and vote....”
Sooooo...... my “prejudice” has cause, but i know it may lead me to misjudge some people.
I guess that is just my cross to bear. | |
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| Do Christian Women Scare You Off ???
Posted: 10/20/2007 9:36:55 PM |
What i "hear" is more like "close minded holier than thou difficult to talk to hypocrite."
Seems to me alot of you men are throwing the beautiful baby away with the dirty bath water!
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| Do Christian Women Scare You Off ???
Posted: 10/20/2007 9:50:24 PM |
Don't you all know, that not being religious is hip now. God forbid that we stand up for christ because we might be called bible thumping. I am a Christian. I date Christians and non christians. I won't date anyone that is stupid or narrow minded.
I love this post.
I am not afraid of Christian women. I would love to find a woman with the same moral codes that I try to live my life by.
I am scared of stupid people. Christian or not. | |
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| Do Christian Women Scare You Off ???
Posted: 10/20/2007 10:04:40 PM | I think being Christian is about having values. I personally dislike many people who go around with their noses in the air simply because they are christian. It is not suppose to be about all of that. It is about living a clean, compassionate existance and having a personal relationship with GOD. I am Christian, and I don't go around judging and belittling people. There are so mant levels and so many hypocrites.
Each one is different, I guess the person needs to find out to what degree is the person a Christian. The bossy overbearing type, or the type that simply practices it for her self. | |
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| Do Christian Women Scare You Off ???
Posted: 10/21/2007 1:59:51 AM | | I am a Christian also, but that word does have a negative connotation nowadays because there have been so many people claiming to be Christians that do terrible things. What I would state is that you are a follower of Jesus Christ. That's what being a Christian is all about anyways, loving other people the same way God loves us. Demonination is not important: evangelicals, protestants, lutherans, catholics, baptists, they all believe the same thing. You can state that God and Jesus are a key part of your life and then maybe explain why; people will appreciate that more and take that much better than if you just stated you are a Christian. We all understand the concept of love and that idea of love is something more uplifting than a term like Christian that might make people turn away because of what they associate it with. I have had many people turn away because I say that I am a Christian but if I explain to them I follow Jesus and want to love others with the love he gave us, then more people are willing to know me. Being a Christian has never been easy in any era so unfortunately there will always be people who will turn away from us no matter what. Stating anything about religion can also turn people off because again, a lot of people do evil things in the name of their religion. Best thing to do in my opinion is just state your a follower of Jesus. I hope this helps, it's hard for me and my cousins to find single people who believe the same thing as us so I know your struggle. | |
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| Do Christian Women Scare You Off ???
Posted: 10/21/2007 2:02:04 AM | | No women of any faith scares me off, if they list in their preferences they want to meet Christians only I respect their wishes. Christian women who really have faith tend to be virtuous , very sweet and share many values with us Jews. We have an entire bible in common. I am very non judgmental about what I know about Christianity, I'm impressed that a Jewish man was responsible for inspiring his followers to bring the Books of Moses to billions of people. The name , popular in it's time "Jesus" means G-d in us. From scientific research theologians have determined that Jesus did say a few things that make him seem like a modern Jew, the Sabbath is for man not for G-d, The kingdom of heaven is on earth not a distant heaven, a couple of other things to that make sense put into the perspective of his time, All the rest of the Gospels and what followed cant be proven by the best scientific minds, those who follow what was written many years after he life of Jesus are loaded with "Haggadic Midrash" IE Jewish story telling, the Gospel authors and early Churches agenda, and Jewish traditions. All the followers who accept all teachings of the later parts of the other texts do so as a matter of faith, faith is a good thing, there are many good lessons and teachings in those texts, what's there not to respect? What I learned about what Jesus probably said doesn't go against any of my own views as a devout Jew, I'm a conservative Jew now but spent most of my life as a reformed Jew. The few carefully analyzed words of Jesus that are most likely what he really said, there are only a few, inspired me to write that Jesus was the first reformed Jew. The difference is that Jews dont think Jesus was the anointed one, in Greek that translates to "Chirste" or Christ. How could I fear women who are members of a wide array Christian demonetizations unless they don't respect or understand my being a Jew? That goes for most faiths that inherently incorporate the same values? | |
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| Do Christian Women Scare You Off ???
Posted: 10/21/2007 3:17:01 AM | | With all due respect, having "values" is one thing, but if one indeed has a "personal relationship with God", any God, then one should not have a "personal relationship" with another human. There is simply no room for that. He/she may love all other humans/humanity in general, but a genuine personal relationship with God, IMO, means being a monk or a nun and abstention from all material and well as carnal pleasures.. IMO, of course. | |
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| Do Christian Women Scare You Off ???
Posted: 10/21/2007 7:32:40 AM | I think people are scared of Christians because what they embody is so against what the world says. It's ok to sleep around, it's ok to drink all the time, it's ok to live however you want to. That's what the world says. When someone isn't living that way, it's weird or stupid to other people. It's hard enough fighting the current because we are going in the opposite direction as everyone else. It's a struggle like anything else. I am not sure why people get so angry with people who chose other morals than their own. I don't see how my choosing to follow Christ hurts other people.
I guess people always need something to talk about and complain about.  | |
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| Do Christian Women Scare You Off ???
Posted: 10/21/2007 7:50:50 AM |
No, I do not scare myself off and I want a christian man so no LOL. It's in everything I do so I want someone like minded. It's what I desire.
I have dated guy before that did not believe and it was too hard because it forced us not to have anything in common.
Romatically, I do want someone like me. Friendship wise, I have all kinds.
I am non-religious. I agree with this statement. If your faith is important to you and it is not important to your potential mate, this may be a problem. Some people make it work and that is great, but some people prefer to share this and that's fine too. | |
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| Do Christian Women Scare You Off ???
Posted: 10/21/2007 7:59:38 AM | Me personally? It depends. A women with any religious beliefs do not scare me. But a women that is almost obsessed with religion does. Basically if you mention anything about religion 5 times in a short profile, you get a red flag from me. But I'm sure me posting pics of my tattoos are a red flag to those types as well!
But it is very important to come off as yourself in your profile and not what is appealing for someone else to see. Would you rather attract someone that is into the way you are? Or someone that will dump you after a date or two after finding out who you are? | |
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