| | Do men ever stop looking for another woman?Page 2 of 8 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8) | This is why I am upfront in the beginning about my "one person at a time" policy. From what I've experienced, if he is interested, he will proclaim: "Oh, yes! Yes! This is my policy too!" They are few and far between, but some guys truly have come to the realization that this approach makes the most sense if they are serious about finding a long term relationship.
Then, it comes time for his actions to back up his words. If I see that he his waivering, I ask directly and I am prepared for his response. If he's for real, he will respond well. If he's not, he won't. If he doesn't know himself, he will keep things in limbo and avoid communication. If he's avoiding the issue, then I consider myself footloose and fancy-free.
Honestly, I am not going to waste my time buggering around anymore. I spent three years in an on-again/off-again type of relationship with this kind of guy. The last episode ended seven months ago and my spidey senses (and some other indicators that I'm not writing in this forum), tell me that he recently and finally figure it out. But now it's too late because I don't want any sort of further contact with him, romantic or otherwise because someone else (not necessarily romantic) came along, bonked me in the head and woke me up. Sometimes, the only thing we can be to another is a lesson in tough love. | |
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| Do men ever stop looking for another woman?
Posted: 10/20/2007 1:18:25 PM | Seem you mistaken his time with commitment. ~
I've gave myself to two women and the Army. ~~ Glad I did! ~ But ~ No big hurry to do either again.
I do what pleases me ~ if I'm with you~~ it pleases me.
and I'd hope you feel the same.
You want a blood oath ~ we need to talk. ~dar | |
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| Do men ever stop looking for another woman?
Posted: 10/20/2007 1:46:20 PM | Ok...first let me say...be VERY afraid of a man who says he loves you after not knowing you very long!
However, why is he still online? Who knows? I've wondered that myself a time or two, but have had to remind myself that the ONLY reason I even know that he is still on there is because I am still on there. For me, I enjoy some of the guys I email back and forth with and that's all it is. I would tend to agree with the guy who says not to think about it too much. It's really early in your relationship so just go with the flow and see what happens. If the time comes that you are both looking to share a long-term relationship with one another, then that's probably the time to ask him why he is still on there. And, if he really is just sharing emails with some different women, who cares? If you're the one he's choosing to spend his time with then just enjoy it. | |
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clay71
| | Joined: 7/11/2007
Msg: 32 | |
| Do men ever stop looking for another woman?
Posted: 10/20/2007 2:01:43 PM | | ^I'm with the poster above,If the right person came along,I'd clear out any site that had to with dating.But that does'nt stop men or women from looking at the menu.And anybody that say's I never look at other people are lying.It does'nt mean they are looking to break up,or have an affair.I'v noticed most women notice when other's enter the room 30 seconds before a guy even realizes it. | |
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| Do men ever stop looking for another woman?
Posted: 10/20/2007 2:24:04 PM | .
Of course men stop looking. Most of the guys I know are married to their first and only wife and certainly are not looking. That’s because they have no intention of playing around. I’m single, yet have not been looking -- although, I am always polite and rather friendly with all the women around.
Of course, I’m here, and by virtue of that alone it could be said that I am looking. Truthfully, it’s more “watching” with me than “looking,” though. Even so, I met a very nice gal who can have all of my interest anytime she so desires. That was something that developed over many months, though. Yet, I can still say that I am not looking.
And anyway . . . were I to date someone, it would be after learning quite a lot about her and knowing that a good friendship could probably develop quickly. Which also means that, from date one to as long as the relationship lasts, she can count on having my undivided attention. If she dates others, or has leftover lovers hanging around, I would not say a word. I would just slip off into the sunset and be gone.
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| Do men ever stop looking for another woman?
Posted: 10/20/2007 2:25:35 PM | | I'm confused. On one hand you say you'd clear out of any site if the right person came along...when would you make that decision? After a month of dating would you decide to give up your profile, or would you consider the other person to be cheating after only knowing them a month if they were still getting online? I am on here all the time and enjoy talking to some of the men I am talking to but I have no intention of getting involved with anyone other than the guy I am seeing. Is that what he is doing too? I don't know, but I feel like it's way too early to be too worried about that. I just couldn't imagine actually expecting someone to pull their profile and stop even talking to anyone after you've only been together a month. Maybe I'm wrong, who knows. | |
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aza111
| | Joined: 10/8/2007
Msg: 36 | |
| Do men ever stop looking for another woman?
Posted: 10/20/2007 2:39:55 PM | I am not sure if men stop looking for another woman because I am a woman. I just have a comment.
I do not think this is just a man thing. Women do not stop looking for another man until they find the "one" and we do not stop looking at men when we do find that special guy. (I am sure I do not speak for all women, so please ladies do not be upset with me.) I am honest.
There are so many sexy men to look at, please. I would not stop looking for another man until I am 100% sure. Even when "I love you" has been exchanged. Love is more than words. I want the man I end up with to be 100% sure too, so look until you are sure!
Cheating is another issue one of the guys post mentioned he was a big cheater. If anyone keeps looking after a commitment that is shameful.
I am sure after I post these comment men will stop asking me out LOL!
For the ones that say I love you and they do not mean it, karma's going to get you!
If I missed the point sorry. | |
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| Do men ever stop looking for another woman?
Posted: 10/20/2007 2:40:01 PM | | Maybe the guy is a forum addict. Myself, if i find the right one yes, i stop looking. But i might log into the forums and or peek at a few profiles. But does one stop looking for a job after one gets hired? Or stop looking at the classifieds? I still look at them from time to time. Just to confirm i have a very good job, and what is out there pays squat and has horrible hours. | |
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| Do men ever stop looking for another woman?
Posted: 10/20/2007 4:14:21 PM | Hmmmmm, what a guy. Sleeping in his truck? Are you saying he was a truck driver?
Not that there any different then anyone else but, if thats the case I can tell you this I myself owned and drove a semi for 17 yrs and believe me they do get around. I guess its what you do know that hurts you... | |
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| Do men ever stop looking for another woman?
Posted: 10/20/2007 4:21:28 PM | | When are the going to "get it" They think the grass is greener on the other side, but what they don`t get is, it has to be mowed over there too! | |
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| Do men ever stop looking for another woman?
Posted: 10/20/2007 4:24:23 PM |
I can't speak for anyone else, but I would happily never log on again if the right girl comes along.
Couldn't have said it better myself.......with the right "man" that is. | |
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| Do men ever stop looking for another woman?
Posted: 10/20/2007 6:03:36 PM | Do women ever stop looking for another man?
In my opinion, men are far more happy with 'settling' for a woman who is less than perfect, while women are always looking for Mr. Right. | |
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clay71
| | Joined: 7/11/2007
Msg: 42 | |
| Do men ever stop looking for another woman?
Posted: 10/20/2007 6:11:27 PM | My profile is'nt that important to me,It's a small window into my life that people can use as a giude.If there inerested great,if not great.Theres's only one person I keep in contact with,and I could easily do that by phone. If I met someone that still wanted to get on and chat,thats not a big deal,I'm not the jealous,or smothering type of person.
I have friends all over the states and have their e-mails,so I chat with them that way.
I'd imagine whoever I met would have family, and friends as well.This is the only dating site I'm on,so If I were to meet someone there's no real reason to keep it.Unless the relationship falls apart,then I'd start up my old profile.
This is to JRJDallas=in response to your question. | |
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| Do men ever stop looking for another woman?
Posted: 10/20/2007 6:28:56 PM | | I believe some do. I have something going on now but I still log into the site mor eout of curiosity than anything else and also looking for a backup strategy in case the other falls through. After I have been on a few more dates with this person I will probably gain more confidence and stop cruising. But although I am here, I am not looking for a connection at the moment. I also must point out that woman do exactly the same thing. | |
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San13
| | Joined: 4/10/2007
Msg: 44 | |
| Do men ever stop looking for another woman?
Posted: 10/20/2007 6:32:35 PM | It's in our nature to always be looking for something better whether in a relationship or any other aspect of our lives. You could be dressed to kill, on the arm of the one who loves you and a leggy blonde walks by. ..what does he do? Frankly, if George Clooney walked by I'd probably look sideways as well. In the initial stages of a relationship it is certainly normal, and healthy to have doubts and to think about other possibilities. Anyway, all this online stuff makes it even easier to take a peek. It's not unlike porn.
Once, when dating someone from here, I was accused of sneaking around and going online to check out the competition. I set him straight, I was going back to look at his profile to remember why I had fallen for him in the first place. That's my truth and I'm sticking to it. | |
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| Do men ever stop looking for another woman?
Posted: 10/20/2007 6:51:50 PM | I have had the same experience. So in my op. No. Theyre like kids in a candy shop on here.
I have yet to have an good experience on here. Mostly Ive only meet good friends, and they can talk to who ever hey want.
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| Do men ever stop looking for another woman?
Posted: 10/20/2007 8:56:55 PM | This guy does ! If I have met someone interesting eough to start dating , then out of respect POF doesnt get visited at all.
If youve ever had someone that you loved and truly cared about you would understand this.
Its all about commitment....regardless the green grass , and the penis urge.
Most people dont have a ****ing clue ......how good a committed relationship is.
They just let their**** and twats control everything. | |
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| Do men ever stop looking for another woman?
Posted: 10/20/2007 9:21:32 PM | I have been at this site for 2 yrs and yes even when I was married. My ex knew but also knew I love the conversation here and the friends I have made. Now what surprised me is this...I haven't met a man from here but from a adult site. Funny he was looking for that one woman. Started chatting to him 2 months ag0. I told him I was quiting the adult site due to that just wasn't me. Surprised the heck out of me when he replied he would quit too. I never asked him to , but that told me he was interested in me. He also goes offline to chat with me when we're both on. We're meeting face to face next friday.
So randomstoic I have to fully agree with you your statement.
Men will always look at women, it's in their nature. But there are men that stay faithful to one women due to they are into that woman.
*thing was my ex husband it turns out was not looking at other women, but for a man...he now lives with one." I just wish I hadn't been naive when I married him and had seen he was using me as a cover up. | |
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