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Posted: 3/24/2008 4:14:40 PM | It depends so much more on the girl than the guy.
There are a lot of girls where that is about all they have to offer, and some girls don't even have that. The really brainy, sophisticated girls, the ones who read Borges or Pynchon instead of Nora Roberts or Ann Rice, the ones who can find Kosovo on a map, who know who Segalene Royal is without Googling, or who know how to prepare "papa a la huancaiana" usually have to hire muscle to keep the men away.
If guys only want a woman for sex, it's not their fault. | |
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| Is there a certain age...?
Posted: 3/24/2008 4:17:00 PM | ^^^ So, what's a capital of Kosovo?
No Googling allowed. Whoever guesses first gets 5 bonus points...
Thank God for my lack of cooking skills,
I really cannot afford a "muscle to keep the men away" these days.
I knew there is a reason...
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| Is there a certain age...?
Posted: 3/24/2008 6:25:02 PM | | There isn't an age set in stone, it totally depends on the guy. Everyone is different as to what they find attractive about anyone, whether it be physical, sexual or mental stimulation, all can be controlled/influenced and appreciated in different ways by both genders. If you want to be appreciated for your mind first then make your mind an attractive proposition. In the same way that some people dress in a provocative and sexy way to stimulate an attraction to the opposite sex, the mind can also be "dressed up" and used to tickle the taste buds of interlectualism as opposed to just titilation. Ask thought provoking and interesting questions to see if there is a brain in there worth your efforts and make them think, "hmmmm there's more to this person than I first thought, let's see what they have to say". On your other question, it depends what the woman is asking for? I have seen a profile on the internet the main points read something like this. "32 year old single female, looking for long term relationship to eventually marry and have children. Not into nightclubs, parties or guys that get drunk, I have a Persian cat and you MUST love her too". Fair enough they were saying what they want, a defo turn off though for most, a bit too specific!! So if you thinking of putting a wish list together be careful what you wish for as it would seem to me very blinkered, self centred, not open for discussion and an unwillingness to compromise (a defo turn off, as relationships need this to survive, a bit of give and take). | |
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| Is there a certain age...?
Posted: 3/24/2008 7:31:10 PM | Pristina ? I think that's the capital of Kosovo (although I'm pretty sure I spelled it wrong)
Anyway, this is such a loaded question and the OP knows it.
Look, all you have to do is NOT HAVE SEX if you want to determine his motivation.
Men aren't some hive-minded mass with one thing in mind at all times any more than women are. And seriously, if we're going to call the responses from some of the men bitter then that would apply just as well to the opening post. There is no magical age where a man wakes up and decides he cares about the women he beds any more than there is some age where a woman wakes up one morning and decides that maybe men aren't all just players after all.
Edit : Yup, it's Pristina and I did spell it right. | |
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| Is there a certain age...?
Posted: 3/24/2008 8:14:11 PM | ^^^ 5 bonus points ... and the crown goes to gotapulse.... here, dahlin: 
Although... gotta say... took 3 hours to get an answer... a lil sad, boys.
There is no magical age where a man wakes up and decides he cares about the women he beds any more than there is some age where a woman wakes up one morning and decides that maybe men aren't all just players after all.
Absolutely true.
Some people know it right away... some never figure it out.
Note that I said PEOPLE... cuz though the op is loaded, I try to avoid that.
I never thought all men are players, if I ever start thinking that I will just join the monastery... tho I am not religious.
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| Is there a certain age...?
Posted: 3/24/2008 9:18:59 PM | Sorry, my second comments were aimed more at the OP and in general than you red.
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| Is there a certain age...?
Posted: 3/24/2008 10:27:46 PM | No special age. I would suspect it depends more on the man. A pretty girl will turn my head, but it takes a little more than that before the rest of the body follows...
A lot of women treat sex like it is some special treat... They will make a guy jump through all kinds of hoops to prove he is worthy of this special gift... Girls who play this game have no right to complain that they have trouble finding a "real relationship..."
In my younger years I was very idealistic and was always looking for deep personal relationships and the girls my age just wanted to play... (After being treated like garbarge for many years in LTRs I am glad to discover that as the gals start to get older they often start to play again...)
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| Is there a certain age...?
Posted: 3/24/2008 11:12:27 PM | | Yes, around 80. Once the vision fades, and the weener no work. And dying alone scares some. Especially dying Easter eggs. | |
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| Is there a certain age...?
Posted: 3/24/2008 11:17:23 PM | 42! That's the magic number for this!
I've started wanting something other than sex since.... um.... ever. | |
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| Is there a certain age...?
Posted: 3/25/2008 12:12:00 AM | | Everyones response will vary, but I think in general about in the 30's-40's because that the age the men are defining themselves and know themselves better. In 30's most men (and women for that matter) have a stable job, security... in general, they are thinking about the future and want share it with that someone special. | |
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Posted: 3/25/2008 6:05:45 AM | | I find it nearly impossible to have casual sex. There has to be some connection first. As far as age, as everyone else has said, pretty much depends on age and each individual guy. | |
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Posted: 3/25/2008 6:19:01 AM | There are a lot of girls where that is about all they have to offer, and some girls don't even have that. The really brainy, sophisticated girls, the ones who read Borges or Pynchon instead of Nora Roberts or Ann Rice, the ones who can find Kosovo on a map, who know who Segalene Royal is without Googling, or who know how to prepare "papa a la huancaiana" usually have to hire muscle to keep the men away.
If guys only want a woman for sex, it's not their fault.
"Papa a la huancaina"? Man, I've been to Peru a couple of times. Beautiful women, wonderful cooking. But I'm a cebiche man myself. Yummy!
Is there a certain age where men start to want women for more than sex? At what point do they start appreciating a woman for her personality and strengths and not just her body? And do men find a woman who says what she wants a turn off??
I'd say the only age for that is when you're between 15 and 17, and you're full of romantic ideas, idealism and puppy love. Then reality hits, the dating game, rejection, mind games, manipulation, etc., and you become a women-are-good-only-for-sex man. Normally this stage lasts until death.
And about those women who say what they want being a turnoff: It's a turnoff when she expects him paying for what she wants, or when she thinks that "what she wants" is the only thing that matters.
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Posted: 3/25/2008 6:49:11 AM | This question has no definite answer, and the question is flawed to begin with as both men and women these days can be out on the prowl for pure self-gratification alone. You see whine posts about it all the time, it's just that the type of self-gratification varies depending on the person and sometimes the gender: I see as many posts from guys whining about girls that want every trinket in the world handed to them for being pretty as I do from women complaining about how men "only want them for sex"... 
Neither of these forms is particularly "mature" in my books, they're just two differently ways of pimping yourself out... 
As for myself personally, I was raised by my mom with the whole gentleman training course, and let me tell you, it's virtually useless in your teens growing up these days unless your goal is to date a "good-girl" from your local church, and even then she'll probably think of you as a wuss or her gay gal-pal.
So then I engaged in the transformation period during the late teens/early adulthood (18-24) trying to discover my inner misogynist and get chicks with the "I don't care attitude". Worked better for that age range of girls, as university chicks tend to be about the experimentation and bad-boy phase. 
Now I'm in the young professional phase, and I've found that even here the 100% gentleman routine doesn't pay off for squat, unless you want to date a prissy church gal... Regular women seem to like to be challenged, want to be appreciated at unexpected times yet not be given a doormat, so I STILL have to walk a fine line between calling them pretty one day and kicking them out the door the next, just to keep them interested...
Honestly, I can't understand it some days, but I've gotten used to the game as it appears to be played, and have no qualms continuing along this path as at least now I've got dates every week if I'm so inclined. It beats the heck out of being a "gentleman"/doormat stuck at home on a Saturday night! 
Note though that I don't believe in deceit - if sex is all I'm after, I say so. If I'm shooting for a relationship, I say that too. I don't like to leave people guessing, and I hate leading people on... No matter how much I've had to warp my originally-kind nature, deception just isn't cool... | |
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| Is there a certain age...?
Posted: 3/25/2008 9:44:40 AM |
There are a lot of girls where that is about all they have to offer, and some girls don't even have that. The really brainy, sophisticated girls, the ones who read Borges or Pynchon instead of Nora Roberts or Ann Rice, the ones who can find Kosovo on a map, who know who Segalene Royal is without Googling, or who know how to prepare "papa a la huancaiana" usually have to hire muscle to keep the men away.
If guys only want a woman for sex, it's not their fault.
Crap. I am so screwed. I don't know who any of those people are, where Kosovo is, (I know it is not in the US or Canada or North or South America...or England, or Italy, or Holland or Belgium. In the old days I would have said it is in Russia, but someone told me the other day that Russia no longer exists....) or how to prepare much of anything besides things that contain 20 grams of fat or less. I don't even read Nora Roberts or Ann Rice.
And on top of that, I don't do casual sex.
Ok, now I know why I am single.
I do, however, know what "sebiche" is....but I prefer my scallops grilled. | |
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| Is there a certain age...?
Posted: 3/25/2008 9:47:21 AM |
but someone told me the other day that Russia no longer exists....)
Wrong. The Soviet Union is no more... Russia still exists.  | |
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| Is there a certain age...?
Posted: 3/25/2008 9:51:53 AM | Is there a certain age where men start to want women for more than sex?
This sounds like a loaded question, because the answer is obvious: No, because this has nothing to do with age.
At what point do they start appreciating a woman for her personality and strengths and not just her body?
Usually when they find a woman who deserves to be appreciated for more then just her body.
And do men find a woman who says what she wants a turn off??
This sounds like a loaded question, because the answer is obvious and the same for everyone: No it is not a turn off; everyone wants someone who says what they want.
You're clearly infantilized by your bitterness. Funny, this site tells me that infantilized isn't a word, but dictionary.com tells me that it is. | |
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Posted: 3/25/2008 10:07:07 AM | First, any man will find a woman who says what she wants a delight. Of course, it depends- do you actually know what you want specifically? Do any of us? Are you giving an option or an ultimatum? Is your option something that the man can actually give you?
To your first question.... a man will ALWAYS want a woman for sex. As to the age to where they ADDITIONALLY want a woman for love, companionship, or fulfillment of more intellectual or emotional needs, well... 30 is a good age for both men and women in this country. A comedian's good rule of thumb: before 18 we want love, during 18 we want any sort of contact, in our 20's we want to see what we can do, in our 30's we want to see what we BOTH can do, in our 40's we don't care and really want to get laid, in our 50's we start all over again. | |
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| Is there a certain age...?
Posted: 3/25/2008 11:41:09 AM |
the ones who read Borges or Pynchon
What if they read both, but prefer Marquez?
who know who Segalene Royal
I was not gonna be the spelling police, but since this statement is quoted several times by now, my OCD is making me point out that it's Ségolène Royal... with O.
and she's smart and hot... you guys should know of her, if not for her politics at least for her looks.
I know it is not in the US or Canada or North or South America...or England, or Italy, or Holland or Belgium
Actually, that's already better than what many would say.
Now that you eliminated some... have a look at the map, South East of Europe, North of Greece (jump across Macedonia and/or Albania and you'll be in Kosovo... if you jump too far, you might end up in Montenegro or Serbia).
And on top of that, I don't do casual sex
You should not... You are a staruha... could break a hip or something.
I do, however, know what "sebiche" is....but I prefer my scallops grilled.
That makes us two, my friend.
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| Is there a certain age...?
Posted: 3/25/2008 11:55:52 AM | A lot can depend upon the maturity of the individual guy!. If a man in his 20s finds love and settles down then that would fly in the face of any "age" question.
Men can want the whole package at any time but sex isn't the be all and end all and there comes a time in most peoples lives when they want other things as well..security, company, warmth, common interests..
So, i would say the short answer is no | |
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Posted: 3/25/2008 3:29:10 PM | ah cmon...guys are ineterested in the whole package! problem is: every sweet word, gesture or move from a female sends a "replicate" signal to a man's brain. It's not our fault...we're built that way, lol. I'll tell you this: I've dated two people from this site and each each time I've been the perfect gentleman but ended up getting pounced on, bitten, scratched and screwed like I were the last man on earth!!  so less of the ughh, but...hmm.... | |
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Posted: 3/25/2008 7:38:55 PM |
Is there a certain age where men start to want women for more than sex? At what point do they start appreciating a woman for her personality and strengths and not just her body? And do men find a woman who says what she wants a turn off??
I will never understand why women say this kind of garbage.
You will never want a Man who does not want to **** you first and foremost.
So quit sending out these false messages that you want a guy to be attracted to you because of your personality, because you don't.
And yes, speaking your mind is a turn on. | |
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Posted: 3/25/2008 7:50:58 PM | Ok so I'm the odd man out on this one.
Even though I can not answer the question, I can say this, of all of the girls I have dated in the past 9 years, not one was willing to wait for sex and the relationships would end as soon as they realized this.
I have a 30 day limit, and if a girl is not willing to wait, then so be it.
One almost made it, but she was sleeping with another guy so she doesn't count. | |
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Posted: 3/25/2008 7:53:41 PM | In answer to the OP's question: No.
Which isn't to say that all men only want sex, just that rampant generalizations aren't going to get us anywhere.
Across ~3 billion individuals with an average life expectancy of about 60-80 years, varrying libido's, life experiences and a variety of genetic and circumstantial occurrences, you're just not going to find a common number. I wouldn't be surprised to find peaks or plateaus, but even that might be wishful thinking.
Just wanting sex (for men and women alike) can be perfectly healthy or utterly harmful, depending on what both people want, and thus the key (as with everything relating to more than one person) is communication. | |
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Posted: 3/25/2008 8:08:26 PM | Oh, honey...
It depends on the man. I've dated guys who were a couple of years younger than me (I'm 29) who were desperately searching for a wife to settle down with and make babies with, and I've dated men in their late thirties who had the outlook of 21 year old frat boys going out every weekend to get some tail. That's never something that goes away if you're actively dating. | |
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