| he's just a sex partner..is that wrong?
Posted: 2/10/2008 9:28:31 AM | | Well it is not something I would want to get into but I don't see any difference then a bunch of men going to a strip club, having a 20 year old wiggle all over his lap and leave with a hard on. The men don't know those girls or cares for those girl, but does not care. IT's just sexual to them , nothing more. So I don't see any dam difference if a women wants only sex. | |
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| he's just a sex partner..is that wrong?
Posted: 2/10/2008 9:36:56 AM | I just don't tell many people about my "alternative" relationship... they usually don't understand.
It's hot, it's thrilling, it's great... and having the wonderful experience of a steady lover makes me think twice before settling or making stupid decisions in dating.
He totally great, married, generous, and knows that I am ultimately looking for a serious relationship... but he meets my needs in the meantime.
I think that it's very empowering.
Nothing wrong except when you tell the wrong person about your affair :) | |
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| he's just a sex partner..is that wrong?
Posted: 6/28/2008 12:19:13 AM | "that i wont settle for another fling" is the 'key' words you just used. This tells me that you wanted more from Michael, than JUST a fling, at one time...but, it didn't turn out that way, for one reason or another.
If you're not 'seeking' casual sex, that's what you're having. You are confusing yourself and others, by doing so, though.
You are representing yourself as someone who wants something serious (inside you do) but, you aren't into casual, according to what you want above.
Others who want something serious WON'T take you serious, and those who are into casual...well, when they realize what you are doing, they will feel like they should go for it too, since you're already in a 'casual' relationship and showing others that is what you're about.
Essentially, you've set yourself up to be used and abused, and then tossed away by casual seekers, and to be called a liar by those seeking someone more serious. | |
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| he's just a sex partner..is that wrong?
Posted: 6/28/2008 12:33:24 AM | | At least you are being upfront and honest with Michael about how you view the relationship instead of feigning genuine interest just to get him in bed like a lot of guys do. I personally would not be able to do what you are doing, because I can't get into sex unless I have actual interest in the guy, and if I do, then I'm going to want exclusivity first. You are more like a man than a woman in that respect. Who's to say it's right or wrong, that's just how you are, go with it. Just be careful to stop seeing Michael when you start dating someone. You may find it hard to fall in love with anyone as long as your sexual needs are being met. You may even find it hard to want to date anyone for that matter, because sexual energy is in large part the driver of such behavior. | |
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| he's just a sex partner..is that wrong?
Posted: 6/28/2008 12:37:08 AM | | You didn't say he was MARRIED. That changes things dramatically. That is just wrong. You have the potential of hurting his wife, his kids and even himself because of this. How would you like it if your husband was f-cking another woman instead of you? This is not innocent anymore. | |
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| he's just a sex partner..is that wrong?
Posted: 6/28/2008 12:56:19 AM | | First I would ask myself......why do I want this kind of relationship? Why have I settled for this kind of relationship......when I truely desire so much more? What do I think I deserve in a relationship? What purpose does this relationship serve to benefit the growth of me as a healthy, happy, whole woman? Why do I need a distraction? What situation or problem I am trying to avoid or ignore? I am putting myself at risk with an open sexual relationship that could give me an STD/STDs that is incurable or fatal. Is it worth it? And finally....Do I truely love myself? He's just a sex partner .......is that wrong? After answering these questions and writing the pros and cons of this relationship.......I will definately have the answer for myself. | |
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| he's just a sex partner..is that wrong?
Posted: 6/28/2008 12:58:23 AM | Its been so long sense Ive had sex Im not sure what it is ... lol ... Seriously tho just remember ... There is no such thing has a mistake , there is what you do and what you dont do .... That simple ... If YOU know its ok/nothing wrong with it and no one is getting hurt and no laws are being brokin then do it ... Its YOUR life ...
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| he's just a sex partner..is that wrong?
Posted: 6/28/2008 1:03:09 AM | yes its wrong.your a ****ing hore.**** deal with it like evryone else and wait till you find someone to date or find a bf.if u just do it with a friend and your being upfront about it your just basically a ****ing hore.i dont care what u tell me or whatever dont make excuses your a hore now deal with it.theres no way to rationalize it.theres girls that have sex with guys they are not dating and dont have any relationships with its called hores.lol
thats u honey.lol.i dont know why u need to ask the question are u such a dumb broad?
i dont feel bad of what im saying here.theres too many girls that are too easy nowadays and they have people being too nice with them.girls like u need people to be honest with them and tell them exactly what they are.that is trash and nothing more.
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| he's just a sex partner..is that wrong?
Posted: 6/30/2008 5:45:18 AM | Some ppl are testy ...  ... I dont aprove of what alot of ppl do but I dont go around calling ppl names . We all do what we do ... You have to live with your choices ... OP I will tell you that you should think about what you are doing cause a guy could come along and be the guy you can love for life but he finds out you do the FWB and be gone ... There are prices for everything you do ...
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| he's just a sex partner..is that wrong?
Posted: 6/30/2008 5:53:45 AM | It always amazes me how many people need approval and validation from strangers.
Case in point: You've been doing this for a year and a half.It's obviously meeting both your needs.No one is getting hurt.You are not I assume involving animals or small children.
Why do you need approval? Different people have different needs.You can only feel ridiculed if you give PERMISSION.
Relax,enjoy life and don't worry so much about what other people-particularly strangers-think.
Enjoy!
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| he's just a sex partner..is that wrong?
Posted: 6/30/2008 6:41:43 AM | | Nothing wrong with it as long as you're both comfortable with it. Now if you're meeting other men, getting sexually involved with them but still having sex with the other guy...that's different, in my opinion anyway. If I was a guy, I'd definitely have an issue with that. | |
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| he's just a sex partner..is that wrong?
Posted: 6/30/2008 6:44:20 AM | [Also I don't believe you can separate emotions from sex, maybe one time or two, but after a while something evolved either towards the person or away from the person.]
Wow, I have never seen so many virtuous men in my life. And do I believe any one of them has never had sex for the sake of sexual satisfaction with no emotional entanglement what so ever.. NOT A CHANCE!!!!
Were in the twenty first century yet the same old BS is still held. Men can have casual sex and woman cannot.
WTF?????
OP, just keep it to yourself until such time as your in a deep relationship then tell the gentleman if he cannot handle it, then he is not he one for you.
I just wanted to barf and all the hypocrisy in the posts...
Good girls don't and bad girls do blah blah blah. Sex is a natural human need/desire.
And quite frankly if it was not so, they would not sell so many dildo's and vibrators to woman. | |
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| he's just a sex partner..is that wrong?
Posted: 6/30/2008 7:55:30 AM | Why are so many people so narrow minded or just plain negative about FBs, if you are two consenting adults with no partner to hurt but no love for each other there is no harm or wrong in enjoying sex together, you don't even have to be friends, the important thing is you respect each other, you don't interfer in each others lives and you remain honest with each other. It should have no impact on what you do outside of that and not preclude either one of you from looking for that special person who makes your life complete. It is possible to share good sex without emotional involvement, to seek and find a serious relationship with someone else while having sex with your FB until you are certain that someone is special and who you want to take things further with them. I speak from personal experience on this, I agree that sometimes you can develop feelings for your FB and it's hard when they don't return those feelings, but more often than not I felt they were a mate at best nothing more.
Do what you want, enjoy your life, don't harm others, and for those that cannot except your life choice pity them their narrow ways. | |
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| he's just a sex partner..is that wrong?
Posted: 6/30/2008 8:19:50 AM | Maybe the guys that are in denile about having sex just to have it are the ones that have the 900 # bills and piles of porn magz and tons of porn films ... They are the ones who will also be suffering from hand troubles later in life ... ... but then maybe just maybe there are some guys that just find more to life than sex ... Where are they I wanna shake his hand ... I think ... 
Ok this post was not good for an angel , but I couldnt help it ...
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| he's just a sex partner..is that wrong?
Posted: 6/30/2008 9:42:21 AM | | Of course its not wrong for you. But I haven't seen a FWB yet that someone didn't get hurt. IMHO dogs have sex without emotions and thoughts too so if mindless sex is your thing then do it. | |
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| he's just a sex partner..is that wrong?
Posted: 6/30/2008 11:36:47 AM |
ok ladies and gentlemen, gotta question for ya...I have been sleeping with michael for about a year and a half, we are not friends, we are not dating, we get together a couple times a week just for satisfaction purposes, I dont want anymore from him,,,and vice versa, but it seems like most of the men I talk to say...well if your sleeping with him, then he is your boyfriend..NO he is not!!!!! Is there anyone else out there who wants to find true love but is being ridiculed for having just a sex partner?
I sure wouldn't want a relationship with someone like you, but maybe that's just me. You have been having sex for a year and a half with a guy who isn't even your friend? That sounds pretty slutty to me! | |
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| he's just a sex partner..is that wrong?
Posted: 6/30/2008 2:54:18 PM | Wow!
An adult single woman has a casual sexual relationship with an adult single guy that's consensual and people are judging and calling her names (as one person,no doubt a result of Bush's No Child Left Behind program wrote "hore")????
Where are all the educated,enlightened,non-judgmental people on here?
How can people moralize and condemn-THESE ARE ADULTS!
The only mistake here which I posted earlier was to ask for approval in the first place.
I hope the OP sees fit to live her life as she wishes.
When she-or he-is ready for something else they will move on.In the meantime they are **** buddies.What's the big deal? The arrangement isn't for everyone but she's not asking anyone else to join her!
That people can call her slutty and so forth is abhorent conservative moralizing-this woman isn't hurting anyone! | |
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| he's just a sex partner..is that wrong?
Posted: 6/30/2008 4:30:31 PM | I dont get why OP is being called names either ... SHE HAS THE RIGHT TO DO WHAT SHE WANTS ... She is asking for ppls thoughts on it , not to be called names ...
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| he's just a sex partner..is that wrong?
Posted: 6/30/2008 4:54:27 PM | Dear Irish girl,
I haven't read through all the posts in this thread for laughing....
Some of the stuff that male posters have had the cheek to say to you is just classic!
Men will have NO COMPUNCTION whatsoever in telling whatever LIES it will take to get a woman into bed. So don't listen to any man here giving you s*** about your choices as a single woman... I'm sorry, but if any of these men have NEVER lied to a woman about sex, or never used a woman for sex, then I apologise, but I doubt that many could make that claim honestly.
In my experience, men tend to have one law for us and another for themselves - they are HYPOCRITES of the first order, ESPECIALLY when it comes to SEX!!!!
Personally, I am a typical woman in that I cannot separate sex from emotions, so I don't "do" casual sex for the purposes of self-preservation. HOWEVER.... as a single woman with no obligations to anyone, you can do what the hell you like, Irish!!!
If you want you can have 10 naked dancing men in your apartment every night and there is no-one that can say a damn thing to you, because you are a free agent: that means you can do what you like, when you like, how you like, with whomever you like, with no one to answer to.
Ignore what men say, Irish, they do not judge themselves as harshly as they judge us when it comes to sex..... I say it's because they're afraid of women being sexual and they're afraid of comparison.
YOU GO GIRL!!!!!!!!
Enjoy!!!!
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| he's just a sex partner..is that wrong?
Posted: 6/30/2008 4:56:47 PM | Hey Irish,
Sorry, but did I just read that your FB is married? If so, then actually no, I don't agree with this......
But if I'm wrong and he's single, yeah.... you go girl!!!
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| he's just a sex partner..is that wrong?
Posted: 6/30/2008 4:58:01 PM | absolutely nothing wrong with using a guy for sex and thats it since most men dont care for more then that anyways so keep on doing what you do. | |
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| he's just a sex partner..is that wrong?
Posted: 6/30/2008 5:37:12 PM | | Nothing wrong with it, though usually someone ends up wanting more eventually and things get ugly. If that's not the case with you, just enjoy it! | |
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