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| She had another mans baby
Posted: 10/27/2007 8:40:34 AM | Sounds quite a bit like the story I wnet through.
Only I wouldnt put my name on the birth cert cos there were things that made me wonder about the child being mine. 6 months after we split - she finally this thime stuck to arrangements for dna test - but only let me have one test rather than a confirmation second run - the child wasnt mine. As suspected and feared and the rest of the turmoil (I left her after a few months after as I couldnt take the mucking around the belittling and the rest. That was hard, and acting hardened emotionally to prevent me from doing something daft wasnt easy either).
I founded out that she was seeing at least two other men - because they came to flat where we lived - while I was out. I found out from friends there where possible other as well.
If you think thats fun. Last week I was contacted by CSA for child support for the kid she birthed. Because there was no second confirm run on the dna test i had run - its not admisable.
Tho one thing I dont get is she named the child with my surname rather than hers. Yet I refused to be there for registration of the birth. Odd.
I aint half looking forward to her having to admit that Im not the father, which she will have to do when the csa are forced to carry out a paternity and cant press futher for child support from me.
Look on the bright side dude Im still dealing with this about 2-3 years on. Smile, grab a beer and chill. Hope your passes sooner. | |
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| She had another mans baby
Posted: 10/27/2007 2:32:24 PM | | Sex runs relationships can be the truth if you let it. I have not figured out how to hang out with the opposit sex until you get married then have sex unless your a virgin or both have perfect self control. I guess the ability to have self control is also a gift of God. The song; Fooled Around And Fell In Love was to real for me and seems to be a truth I don't want to hear. I always liked to think God would bring the perfect girl to me , I'll just stay at home and pray and it will always happen,WRONG! God don't put hot dogs through key holes, I had to get out there where women were and then it happened, and alot of women did not work out or only lasted a night, a couple of months, or a couple of years then right back to the dating scene again. Remember blood is thicker than water, and whoever's child it is, is who that child will defend to the death, that is how our bodies are made, but love coverth a multitude of sins is a true saying! | |
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| She had another mans baby
Posted: 8/3/2008 1:20:45 PM | Sounds like my story.
I will admit my strength is also my weakness. I am way too forgiving of people. This extended to my ex. She cheated three times. The last time I told her it was over. When she left/ I kicked her out, she was already a month pregnant. Which at that time I did not know. Anyway, she has been detached emotionally almost the whole marriage. It was all about her, what she wasn't getting or who was to blame. Very belittling of me and the children, her parents, her family, friends...etc. You get the picture.
Now I am not totally blameless either. I put on a lot of weight. I withdrew away from her the more she belittled me and the kids. I drew me and the kids further and further away from her abuse. ( like I should have protected the kids )
So deep down I still hope we will get back together. Reality tells me otherwise. The harder part is that my kids want her back. She came back this one time because her boyfriend Sean was beating her. He is also dealing behind her back also. Well she had enough of it and came running to me. I had to turn her down. I still love her so bad and I am so lonely. But hang in there. Unless the other person has made real changes in their lives and is willing to start from scratch again. Then its not worth it. ( and I mean by starting dating again, the whole process, NOT jumping right back into a relationship again and living together etc. you know what I mean. )
Its tough being lonely and still loving your ex with all your heart, and, knowing she has a child with another man.
I am now raising MY two children on my own. ( i was given complete and full custody of my kids, she has given up her access as well.) The toughest thing for me is the lonelyness and the adult companionship. And well missing sex is tough too. ( what is sex...oh yeah I remember now ) Good luck to all us guys who took the right path and not the path most easily travelled.
Stay strong guys! | |
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