| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 5/11/2008 3:50:14 PM | here is a good thirty something note for ya. enjoy...
As I grow in age, I value women who are over 30 most of all. Here are
just a few reasons why:
A woman over 30 will never wake you in the middle of the night to ask,
"What are you thinking?" She doesn't care what you think.
If a woman over 30 doesn't want to watch the game, she doesn't sit around
whining about it. She does something she wants to do. And, it's usually
something more interesting.
A woman over 30 knows herself well enough to be assured in who she is,
what she is, what she wants and from whom. Few women past the age of 30 care
what you might think about her or what she's doing.
Women over 30 are dignified. They seldom have a screaming match with you at
the opera or in the middle of an expensive restaurant. Of course, if you
deserve it, they won't hesitate to shoot you, if they think they can get
away with it.
Older women are generous with praise, often undeserved. They know what
it's like to be unappreciated.
A woman over 30 has the self-assurance to introduce you to her women
friends. A younger woman with a man will often ignore even her best
friend because she doesn't trust the guy with other women. Women over 30
couldn't care less if you're attracted to her friends because she knows her
friends won't betray her.
Women get psychic as they age. You never have to confess your sins to a
woman over 30. They always know.
A woman over 30 looks good wearing bright red lipstick. This is not true
of younger women.
Once you get past a wrinkle or two, a woman over 30 is far sexier than
her younger counterpart. Older women are forthright and honest. They'll tell you right off you are a jerk if you are acting like one! You don't ever have to wonder where you
stand with her.
Yes, we praise women over 30 for a multitude of reasons. Unfortunately,
it's not reciprocal. For every stunning, smart, well-coiffed hot woman of 30+,
there is a bald, paunchy relic in yellow pants making a fool of himself with
some 22-year-old waitress.
Ladies, I apologize. For all those men who say, "Why buy the cow when you
can get the milk for free". Here's an update for you. Nowadays 80% of
women are against marriage, why? Because women realize it's not worth buying an
entire Pig, just to get a little sausage. | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 5/11/2008 7:06:31 PM | What society in general thinks has never had an effect on who I have dated. I am 51 and I have dated younger(as much as 15 years younger), the same and older(as much as 12 years older). I have never thought about how old they were, but rather did I like them, and did they like me.
For whatever reason I seem to have more in common with and get along better with men that are about 10-20 years younger. As to children, it seems that most of them at that age(31-41) already have children, and aren't real big on the idea of having more. So the fact that I can't and don't want anymore children doesn't seem to be an issue. A man that has young children would be fine, as they would already be in the world. The thought of being pregnant at my age is just horrible. I know some of these women older than me are giving birth, but it would not be for me. I have four, so I think I have done my part to reproduce human kind.
I will say what I always do about the age issue. As long as both people are full adults(not just legal adults, but adults in every sense of the word) and both are happy, it doesn't matter what the rest of the world thinks. If an 30 year old man is happy married to a 90 year old woman, and she is also happy, no problem. If a 30 year old woman is happy married to a 90 year old man, and he is also happy, no problem. | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 5/12/2008 7:38:47 AM | There are several factors............
Who's available?? Men middle age are ....... Married, or looking for younger women, the ones left are few and far between.
There is the attraction factor as well........ as a fit middle aged women it's difficult to find a fit middle aged man......... ( in my sphere of influence )
So much of what has been said here is true....... younger men are seeking the older women. I have dated both........ I prefer younger at this point in my life ......I don't know who will be the one who captures my heart but I do not put an age limit on it. However I do require that you .......Have a Job, Drivers lic. , Teeth .......is that too much to ask????  | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 5/12/2008 12:20:51 PM | Well, there was a very enlightening article in The Times (UK) about men in their mid 30s in the UK, which would be the natural target for women of my age.
The article was titled "What happened to real men?" and the essence of it was the fact that males were children, then boys, then men and now they seemed to be reverting to boys again. The opening coment was about a friend of the writer who, 10 years ago, wanted to marry his then girlfriend, be a husband, a father, all of that and now, aged 36, his new year resolution was NOT to get a girlfriend.
On average, most men in their mid 30s (my natural target) have messaged me asking for sex, mainly, with no interest in the person that I am. There has been an interest from men over 40, who either have "children older than 18" or want no kids, which conflicts head on with my current situation and hopes for the future.
But, interestingly, I've had a bunch of 24-26 year olds who have been really polite and sweet, always asking how I'm doing and being happy to be a shoulder to cry on, wishing me the best, hoping they could help me and interested in how my daughter is doing. WOW!!
I had a preconception that I should be looking for men 3-7 years older than me, but it seems that I might actually be more likely to find what I'm looking for if I look at younger men...
Just my experience! | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 5/12/2008 6:53:12 PM | | I don't know about some other women, but I'm very independent,can buy my own things, take care of myself, ..... but still love the idea of a man taking care of me, doting on me, loving me...I like the old fashioned ways...I like older men and younger by only a couple years and only if he can step up to the plate...I think many women feel they have to prove themselves in todays society..it goes with the feminist movements that started ohhh so long ago... | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 5/13/2008 4:10:38 AM | I tend to receive messages from women in their 40s (I'm 33) it's flattering but would prefer to be in contact with someone around my age, I think partially it comes down from a change in attitudes over the years/decades along through media like in TV, Films and magazines.
"Sex and the city" syndrome springs to my mind. | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 5/13/2008 7:51:25 AM | | Women who are thirty something, forty something and fifty something have a lot going for them as stated in previous posts. So what's the big deal, just go with what you have. | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 5/13/2008 1:27:34 PM | I'm pretty much happy dating anyone that I find interesting, regardless of age.
Having said that, I find most of the men who are interested in actually dating me to be younger. My age and older, in my experience, are just getting out of ltr's and looking for just sex or looking for younger women.
Every time I have attempted dating someone my age or even slightly older than I it has been an abysmal failure in every aspect.. personality, sexuality, spirituality, etc. Which really kind of sucks. But again, I'm happy to meet people that are interesting (hopefully will find that one interest) and really don't worry with how old they are... or aren't. | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 5/13/2008 3:16:32 PM | | I'm 50 and when I started online dating about 2 years ago I was looking to meet men about my own age, give or take a couple of years. After spending two evenings discussing pensions and grandchildren I was contacted by someone who was 42. He was really good fun, interesting and didn't once mention the word retirement. Since then I seem to have dated men aged between 38 and 45, simply because their lifestyles and interests seem to be more like mine. I'm not ready to become an instant grandma, and I'm not willing to wait for retirement to do the things I want to do and go where I want to go. Ha ha I thought I was doing something unusual - didn't know it was so common till I started reading these threads. | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 5/13/2008 3:27:31 PM | This is true IMO but the reason I see for this happening is the younger guys being more relaxed in approaching, less demanding and less frustrated and suspicious.
This is just really my own opinion. | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 5/13/2008 8:19:44 PM | | Maybe its because they want someone that is more compatible to thier lifestyles, like the younger guys are more youthful and sexual, where the older men are more relaxed and more into thier homes? It will always be a mystery hey? | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 5/14/2008 8:58:21 AM | | Hey, older guys know how to be youthful and sexual, but they also know how to treat a woman and usually take the the lead from the woman to do just that. A smart woman will not leave a man clueless. None of us carry crystal balls ( watch it now, don't get cute) and every woman is different. If he doesn't pick up on the signals due to immaturity then maybe he needs a mentor. | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 5/27/2008 3:18:14 AM | | I really enjoyed your article on women over 30. The article was about women over 30 then you unleashed on men. Why? All men are not the same just as all women are not the same. But I enjoyed anyway and also agree with you, except on the men bashing. | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 5/27/2008 6:35:36 PM | | Many, or not so many years ago, people did more what was socially acceptable and less of what they actually wanted to do. It's personal preference really. Some women are attracted to younger guys physically and some are attracted to younger guys because of their 'youthful mentallity'. If you feel young then you're going to want to be around younger people. I feel like i have a younger mentallity and therefore are attracted to younger guys. | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 5/27/2008 7:39:01 PM | | One thing I've noticed with men in their mid to late 30's, is that they seem to want to settle down. I've already settled down and am now free and looking to stay that way for a while. If I date guys a few years younger than me, I rarely have to worry about them falling hard and wanting me to settle down. I swear some men have a bigger biological clock than women do. | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 6/7/2008 5:57:02 PM | | Amen ....that is an intelligent observation. Women aren't as inhibited and are having fun with it.Saying " yes" to living so long as that means taking care of oneself. | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 6/8/2008 1:37:34 PM | I have always preferred older men. In high school I was dating "men" in their 20's. Personally I have found that men closer to my age are more immature as an overall description. Obviously there are some who do not fit this mold, however, again, as a general this is what I have noticed.
I agree with some of the prior posts, most women today are self sufficient. Most of my girlfriends are "cougars". We all own our own homes and take care of our families quite well without help. For them the good time is what they are looking for. None of us "need" a man any longer, we are (as mentioned earlier) not dependent on someone taking care of us and this leaves the freedom of choice. | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 6/8/2008 7:26:30 PM | | I get a lot of attention from men younger than me, but I still prefer older men. I have always had older boyfriends and just am more attracted to them. I have never had a serious boyfriend in my age bracket. | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 6/9/2008 2:25:18 PM | | Women no longer need to look for older men as a means of money/security since most women are financially secure, so they now simply look for men based on physical attraction and other aspects besides money. I think there are many other factors involved too. I feel the older I get, the younger I like my men...but not ALOT younger, I'd say just 3-6 years younger rather than 10-20 years older. It really depends on the man and I try not to think too much about age but realistically, ALOT younger or ALOT older is a turn off to me, personally. | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 6/9/2008 3:23:50 PM | | You can't be serious women as far as my little life has known have always looked for older men. Thats just how nature has it. Men like younger women and women like older men. The rub is finding someone of any age you can get along with. | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 6/9/2008 3:25:51 PM | When men that are my age or older approach me, or let's say "hit on me" they usually want to know if I can cook or do I keep a clean house! I'm not looking to take care of anyone else unless it's a relationship. So this kind of approach doesn't appeal to me.
Guys slightly younger, say 6 or 7 years younger, seem to show me that they value what I have to offer: a business woman that isn't bad to look at with a decent sense of humor. They want to have fun with someone that knows how to contribute?
I'm not saying the men in my age group don't interest me, I am just saying that I haven't been approached by one with some "game" in a long time. It should be light, fun, a give-and-take exchange. It's the same argument men have had for years.
So, yes, younger men have been more appealing to me to date. | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 6/10/2008 4:13:36 AM | | Harvey wallbanger, things are changing....maybe its hard for some men to understand that women play the same game....only with US women, younger men make more sense because we reach our peaks at 35, sexually.....and men's peaks decline after like, say around 20. That's not to say that I'd date a 20 year old but in selecting a mate, I want someone who is virile, young and will probably not die 20-30 years sooner than I will...in the future. It makes so much more sense for women to date/marry men at least 10 years younger. | |
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