| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 6/10/2008 4:18:08 AM | Because younger guys generally are better looking with fewer wrinkles and nice toned bodies without any grey hairs anywhere, and of course it's nice to be able to pull a younger guy.
Be honest guys....it's the same reason why you would go for a younger woman. | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 6/10/2008 12:41:54 PM | | For me, choosing a younger man has to do with the fact that I have never been married and have no kids...I have much more in common with those 10 years younger than me..When women my age have conversations about their kids and their husbands or exhusbands, I really cant relate to that..Not all of us women married at 22 and had kids right away...We developed ourselves and tend to want pretty much the same things men do...Curiously, alot of older men who have exwives have that baggage that Im like their exwife regarding maturity, life experience, independence and kids...When Im nothing like that at all!..Then I either scared them away or they didnt know how to handle me.....When I did date men older than myself they tended to be very unrealistic about women such as myself and too traditional for me...They wanted a women who wouldnt threaten their ego or be too smart.....They were used to someone who married young and didnt pursue much of life outside of kids and home...Since most older men werent interested in who I was just being myself, younger men tended to step up to the plate more | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 6/10/2008 1:45:53 PM | This was also discussed in a thread called Cougars. Here is my take (copied over):
Since women mature faster than men, and often have much better social skills, a good match for a woman on mental and emotional levels is a guy who is chronologically 5 to 10 years her senior. These women would not be comfortable with anyone too young.
No matter what her profile says she is looking for, if a woman has specified an age range that covers 12 years younger to maybe 2 years older, she is primarily looking for sex. (Or possibly someone she can control and manipulate as she wants.) The former doesn't bother me, except that she should be honest and say she wants an Intimate Encounter. As for the latter, buyer beware... | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 6/10/2008 2:16:24 PM | | tango....I cant really agree with your take on that regarding why older women choose younger men...Sex has never beeen the end all and be all for me at any age.....Rather its been the opposite for me..Younger men tend to see me as a person first and notice my interests, personality, skills, intelligence, maturity, ect.....Older men tend to see me as a potential housewife and sex object first...I have no desire to control and maniulate anyone , although Ive found that more often its older men 5 to 10 years older who were emotionally immature and would have liked to control and manipulate me and they would be unhappy and intimidated unless they were "teaching" me something or if I got too opinionated or were able to take care of myself well....The idea of me, a woman, actually teaching them something was unthinkable to many....They were raised with values shaped during the 1950s....Thats boring to me but thats what most of them wanted | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 6/10/2008 6:49:10 PM | | Bascially we're all just looking for that someone special..I mean really..are we seriously going to reject a potentially incredibe relationship based on age? While I do believe that at my age (39) there is a definite too young and too old, I'm certainly open to all the possibilities in between. | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 6/10/2008 6:59:13 PM | | The men 10+ older than me are ugly geezers with children, who can't get it up often enough for me, in general. Younger guys don't have baggage and are a lot more fun in bed and less emotional and whining. | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 6/10/2008 9:04:44 PM |
I cant really agree with your take on
It's OK, lots of room for diverse opinions.
Older men tend to see me as a potential housewife and sex object first
Newsflash! ALL men think of sex *first*. That's the way we are wired. The better ones move past that.
As for the housewife thing, I suppose there are still a few of those still around. I think any guy under 60 has had a chance to read Steinem and de Beauvoir. I know very few contemporary men who are looking either for a mother figure or a glorified maid. You must have met some odd ones.
older men 5 to 10 years older who were emotionally immature
So you are saying younger men are more mature than older men???? We get immature with age? Please!
values shaped during the 1950s
Those men are in retirement age now. I doubt they want to date anyone, young or old. | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 6/10/2008 9:19:55 PM |
The men 10+ older than me are ugly geezers with children, who can't get it up often enough for me
My point exactly. If you wanted a mental/emotional partner you'd be looking at someone older. Since your primary goal is getting it up often, naturally you look at a younger man. Makes perfect sense. My ONLY objection is that your profile should say Intimate Encounter, not Hang Out.
As for the ugly geezer part, Michael Douglas, Clint Eastwood, Denzel Washington, Harrison Ford, Jack Nicholson, Kevin Kline, Patrick Swayze, Pierce Brosnan, Robert Redford, Sean Connery, Tom Selleck, Tommy Lee Jones, Warren Beatty... ALL of them over 50! Can you say you would turn down each and every one?
a lot more fun in bed and less emotional and whining
LOL!!! I don't think this has anything to do with age, it's a matter of personality. And young pups will take all kinds of crap to get some action, mature men hang on to some dignity. Let's agree to disagree on this one. | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 6/11/2008 9:23:11 AM | | I can tell you one of the reasons that I look at younger men. I don't want to be 65 and single again because the guy has gone and died on me. It could happen anyway but looking at the youngers guys kind of makes the odds better.... It is not a main thing I look for but it is one of the things I think about when looking at profiles. There is also too young. I have a son that is 22 and I guess my line is around 30 right now. LOL | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 6/11/2008 11:25:39 AM | When I was younger (18-22ish) , I was frequently 'too young' for women my own age. Now those same women are my age, and I am suddenly 'too old' for them, and am too old for younger women now that dating older men is becoming passé. But I am now often still 'too young' for women in their late 30s to 40s. And those women around my age that are not out there looking for tender young meat are happily married with 2 and a half kids, a ranch style in the burbs, a gas guzzler and a husband with a six figure income. Dating in the early 30s STINKS, to put it lightly!<img src=http://www.plentyoffish.com/smiles/icon_201.gif border=0>
I have a friend who now will remain platonic, even though I was hoping for more, who is 28. I am 31 so I thought I was about the perfect age. Well she introduced me to her new bf a few weeks ago who looked about 19..and I was right on the nose! I didn't think 30 was old, with all the talk of 30 being the 'new 21' and all that. But it definitely is. at least I can buy her a damn drink, but in 2 years so can he, and I will be packing for my new room at the nursing home I guess!
Age really is just a number, and I have dated older women and younger. It really doesn't make a difference. I am a bit perplexed though at women nearing 30 wanting guys still in their TEENS. | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 6/11/2008 11:50:14 AM | I'm not seeing what you describe as a "trend". That would indicat that a large majority fit that premis. I think women are no different then men in that they have likes (and dislikes) and, I'm certain that simple attraction (mental/ physical/spiritual) is the primary factor in selection period. Man or woman.
I'm most often attracted to women younger than me, but that doesn't mean that women my own age and older can't turn my head. People aren't usually that cut-and-dried in my experience. That's why a woman outside my normal physical attraction factor can totally ring my bell with attitude.
Just can't box people up in a tidy little package just because they appear to be similar.
My 2-cents | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 6/11/2008 1:58:22 PM | | When did "older" men earn the reputation of being no fun. This internet dating thing hasn't been much of a success for me. Perhaps the "no fun" stereotype is a contributing factor. I love getting out and doing things, but I prefer doing those things with a partner. I'm sure there are some men in my age group who don't have the zest for life that they once had, but I'm also sure there are women the same age that have lost their desire to get out and enjoy life too. I suppose what I'm saying that it's not a good idea to assume that people over a certain age just aren't fun anymore. | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 6/11/2008 3:06:33 PM | | Tango..The older men were more frightened and threatened by my level of education and broad level of interests, skills and ability to do alot of things well for myself without them having to "teach" me anything....They couldnt treat me like a stereotyped "girl".....I always felt pressured to dumb down and be less than myself in order not to ruffle their insecure ego..The younger men could care less and saw me as a person first rather than a sex object......THATS called emotionally immaturity and insecurity on the part of the older men and thats why Im not with one today!..And no, not ALL men think with their**** instead of between their ears regarding women..Im engaged to one who doesnt think that way at all | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 6/11/2008 6:21:16 PM | I am 36 years ol;d..women 30-36 say I am too old for them...lol
40+ all seem to be married or looking for sugar daddy in my area...what do I do to find a long term romance? | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 6/12/2008 10:32:55 PM | | I'm not really into to much younger women as a general policy. If you like your woman somewhat naive then perhaps much younger is the key. If you like your woman "battle tested" and experienced then your age or even a bit older is key. The problem I have is that age schism. I grew up within a certain era for music and events and when the age difference gets a bit too out of whack I lose the ability to relate with my woman as effectively as I should. | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 6/14/2008 12:39:32 PM | To each his own, or her own in this case. Obviously, its physical. At least that has to be a major factor. Thats fine if thats what you're looking for, but a woman who is looking for a long term relationship should be careful here. We are all going to get older and I think that anyone who is involved with someone 10 to 15 years younger is taking a considerable risk down the road. When you're 70 and your spouse is 55 are you going to be able to keep up? At 60 and with a 45 year old spouse, will you keep them? Men and women can really have come into their own in their 40's and be quite attractive. Can you handle the competition of those younger than your 45 year old spouse at 60? How about at 50 and 35? C'mon... really?
To me its transparent. You increase your chances of another failed relationship -and- now you're older, alone again, and have further diminished your chances of finding a comitted relationship.
I'm attracted to younger women like any other guy. But it's only on a physical level. Once a conversation starts.....yeah. And even if she can match wits, what do you have in common? Has she even heard of your favorite band?
I remember once at a get-together I was talking to a couple, they were nice... I asked him something about his mother off to the side.... turns out THAT was his wife! I thought the daughter was the guys wife and she was a little younger! Good thing the actual wife was out of earshot, would have been embarassing... he was cringing though! | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 6/14/2008 6:43:52 PM | | I do not have a problem if someone wants to date someone older or younger. I am just wondering if I should be looking more for women 40+ for dating. | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 6/14/2008 7:33:10 PM | I have always preferred older men, however, I won't turn away a younger man. Chemistry is the most important thing to me. 
I do know that younger men have less responsibilities & are more spontanius.   | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 6/14/2008 8:28:20 PM | I try to get dates with men my own age, but alot of them want the under 25-35:(:(:( So I get hit on by 50+ and I'm not going there, unless all else is perfect about the guy. So I do consider some of the younger ones who email me. It's like I can get dates with guys under 30 or over 50, but hardly any/none with my own age range:(:( Maybe a few. So of those two ranges, I'm choosing the younger obviously, maybe selectively though. And still optimistically fishin' for my age range | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 6/14/2008 8:56:26 PM | Yea, its happening. I say date whoever turns you on.
But girls, don't live in denial about the fact that any kind of serious relationship with a significantly younger male is most likely doomed to eventual failure. Enjoy it while it lasts though, there are plenty of other people doing it, so why not you. | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 6/17/2008 8:47:27 AM |
As for the ugly geezer part, Michael Douglas, Clint Eastwood, Denzel Washington, Harrison Ford, Jack Nicholson, Kevin Kline, Patrick Swayze, Pierce Brosnan, Robert Redford, Sean Connery, Tom Selleck, Tommy Lee Jones, Warren Beatty... ALL of them over 50! Can you say you would turn down each and every one?
None of these are single, are they? Yes, they are all attractive, but it's not likely to find someone like them on a dating site. My biggest issue though is not age itself - I just prefer men without children and older men usually have them.
Intimate encounter? To me that says one-night-stand and I'm not for that. | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 6/17/2008 9:19:18 AM | Yet another example of how I must be one screwed up 31 year old. I MUCH prefer to date older men. My last serious boyfriend was 49 (not sure "boyfriend is the correct term for a 49 year old man).
I just seem to be attracted to the 40+ crowd. So you ladies go right ahead and stalk those younger men. I'll take the older ones. | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 6/18/2008 7:44:21 AM | Like someone mentioned earlier, it could be that 20 years ago, women needed someone who would take care of her and the family. Today, women can take care of themselve, their family, and sometimes don't even need the man in order to HAVE the family.
Personally, I have noticed men my own age aren't really into me. Older men adore me and younger men seem to be very attracted to me. Men my own age treat me like I am the plague. Most men my age seem to NEED a certain looking woman or they need her to be very compliant to everything he says OR he is wanting to start a family five minutes ago. LOL... I am none of those things. | |
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