| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 6/18/2008 1:44:26 PM | | I have never seen age as a big deal once ppl are of age...but as a lady over 30 I find the boys chase me...me not them...flattering yes but all I want is someone for the long-haul! | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 6/18/2008 3:00:53 PM | Cougar, there is more to the story then merely financial reasons.
If want a man to worship you, for the long haul, then you are better off with an older man than a younger one. "Worship" is strong word, so don't read too much into it. Most women want their man to worship them. Ultimately, in my experience, that is what makes a woman feel the most special, is if they believe without any doubt that their man still worships them before all other women. And we like to worship you too. Don't try to deny it, you know that is what you love.
The kind of younger men that will worship a 45+ cougar are not completely mentally healthy as men(they are boys) and you are probably not going to keep them for the long haul either. I'm just being honest here.
Just be realistic. If you are 40, looking for someone your own age, then that guy is simply not going to worship you like he would a 30 year old woman, which is still well within his reach. He might for a short while, and he may think of you as a nice companion that likes the same songs as you, but ultimately if you want the guy to worship you above other women, then either you have to find that young man-boy with mommy issues to worship you as a cougar, or you need to find someone significantly older that still considers you a young hottie. I'm just being honest... Be realistic.
But if you only care about short time fun....then do whatever makes you feel good today. | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 6/18/2008 3:53:16 PM | I last dated a man 45 I am fine with whatever age (except jail bate) as long as they have good standards, family values,work ethic and we are a similar mental level. | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 6/18/2008 4:26:05 PM | I tend to be of the opinion that age doesn't matter.
Ultimately, it is how suited two people are for each other.
It is true that depending on the ages, the majority of people fall into specific molds but this doesn't apply to everyone. There are always people that don't belong in the majority and if two people click and have the same interests, desires, aspirations, dreams...their age makes no difference. | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 6/18/2008 9:07:25 PM | | well i cant speak for other woman but as for me when the time is right for me to fall in love again it would have to be with someone who is about the same age as me i mean i have never had a father and its too late for that now and i dont need another son i already have 3 it would have to be with someone who was mature not too much older and definately not a boy. | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 6/20/2008 9:33:55 AM | | Why does age have to be a factor at all??? Beyond the legal 21-year point, what should it matter? I get ticked that someone will look at my age, not my pictures and profile and say "hmmm, nope. too old/young". Why the stigma? | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 6/20/2008 10:11:29 AM | Hmm.
There is no need to find someone younger than yourself. IE 10 years unless your
looking for crazy nontsop Se%; which is what I've seen from older women or the Cougars of Cleveland. I've found that its the places you hang out that determine what kind of people you hang out with..... Cheers.
Dan | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 6/20/2008 3:49:27 PM | Something I have been thinking about too... Since I have been here I have noticed that the majority of women visiting my profile are significantly older, I'm talking 45-60. I don't understand it myself as I'm only 21, quite puzzling to tell you the truth. I mean I could maybe understand older women (~30 yrs old etc) but why is it there are women of 50+ looking around profiles of such younger men? Does this happen to many of you other guys, or is it just me who seems to always attract the wrong audience  | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 6/20/2008 3:54:22 PM | John, you're certifiably insane if you aren't going after girls in the mid to late 20's
Joe, I don't know what to tell you. girls and boys your age are way too immature to take seriously, so i say, don't take anything seriously, go after whatever you can get and half fun. In about 10 years then you can worry about this more. | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 6/20/2008 6:53:39 PM | I'd love to eventually meet someone close to my age. My STBXH is 7 years older and he left me for someone 24 years younger than he is. Talk about babysitting.
Where are all the nice mid30s - early 40s men? | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 6/20/2008 7:53:12 PM | I have been dating younger men for the past 6 months and having lots of fun. I suppose it depends on past experiences and relationships. I for one was married to an old geezer in a sexless marriage for way too long! Now that I've been dating younger men, I realize what I'd been missing! I have come to the conclusion that close to the same age is always a plus in terms of LTR, but still a little younger is nice.   | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 6/23/2008 5:49:00 PM | borntoski...I think you are really off the mark on that one...I am 46 and my fiancee is 37...He does indeed worship me and he's one of the most mentally healthy and secure and wise and happy people Ive ever had the privledge to meet..It was the older ones stuck in the 50s or on their high school drama queen bimbo exwife who wanted a certain kind of woman to "look" a certain way and defer to them and be more of a trophy who doesnt challenge them BS...They were the less mentally healthy ones.....Younger men could give two sh.ts about that, in my experience | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 6/23/2008 6:02:34 PM | I hear you. I'm glad you are having a fabulous time! I love to hear about happy couples. I'm not way off the mark though, maybe for you I am, but for the general case, I don't think so. There are always exceptions to every general case. Congradulations on finding someone special, regardless of age.
Anyway, your age difference is not great enough in my opinion to consider it a cougar type relationship. But, nonetheless, it would be interesting to have a conversation with you in about 15 years when your BF is in the age group of those 50 year old guys you were talking about before. Enjoy the the ride until then and hope for the best. | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 6/25/2008 4:51:53 PM |
n the Chinese zodiac, which measures centuries as well as years, the 21st century is the century of the cougar. This means, apparently, that older women will roam the earth in
search of buffed guys.
Is this still valid? I like the sound of that   | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 6/25/2008 6:46:30 PM | i have just gotta say that i prefer guys who are nearer to my own age. they are more mature. still fun and above all i can hold a decent conversation with them and have a laugh. i personally dont think i can date a 20 year old as i have had a relationship with some one 5 years my junior and struggled with that although other aspects of it were great lol.
but on a whole societys attitude has changed. 20 years ago it would have been frowned upon, now it is more the norm. | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 9/9/2008 11:00:58 PM | It is clear why an older woman would want a younger man . one reason can be is that she is not mature enough to handle an older man and the younger one is easier to get into bed
Our forefathers and mothers got together by traditional means and their marriages lasted a long time because they were unselfish and loving unlike generation X WHO ONLY thinks of Me me me .you are saying an older man has too much mileage but I would definately think twice before I kissed an older woman like you or any womanjavascript:smilie(' ') | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 9/10/2008 5:58:03 AM | dimdstud
I think you have it all wrong..usually the older man can't handle her. I tried dating men 50+, since it seems that is the only type of man that go's for me and well...yawn. Maybe though, I wasn't meeting the right ones.
I do agree with your statement though about people who get together under traditional means and their marriages lasting longer because yes, they were a lot less selfish than the current generation. But you have to remember though, that they are the generation who made us! Go figure!
I think its an individual situation, if a woman only go's after younger men and not men her own age, I think she is missing out on a bunch of really nice guys. What ever happened to the days of just dating people who you liked and were attracted to and forget the age thing? | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 9/10/2008 6:21:15 AM | | For the women that point out that women live longer than men. That's true, but the gap is closing as more women, who have been in the work place all their lives, get older. If women were to spend more time in the backbreaking labor jobs men traditionally perform, the gap would likely close even further. As more and more women compete for white collar jobs, more men are forced to take the blue collar jobs most women won't or can't do. That means even more older men that have abused their bodies to support their families all their life, only to be chucked onto the scap heap for a newer model by ungrateful women. (Because they aren't as fun as happy go lucky youths with less mileage.) I'm glad not all women are so shallow and short sighted. Of course men can be just as bad when it comes to women. | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 9/11/2008 1:30:37 PM | | Alota women my age seem to want younger guys because they think the sex will be better???? DON'T BELIEVE THE HYPE. But the young guys go for the myth that a womans sex drive increases with age; there is absolutely no scientific evidence to verify that ; all we have are subjective anecdotal reports. | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 9/11/2008 6:44:12 PM | heavyiron....
What makes you think that older women are looking for younger men because of the sex? I'm sure there are some, but all of my friends and I are looking for younger men because we are treated pretty badly by men our own age.
Every man I've dated in the last 4 years over the age of 45 has been impatient, condescending, said very nasty things to myself, waitresses, and just about anyone else, they were controlling and wanted a maid, not a partner. I have NEVER gotten that from a younger man. They were more helpful, more apt to share their feelings and thoughts, were less apt to sit there while I did all the work, were more romantic, and less likely to treat me like just a sexual object. Believe it or not, men my age seemed more into looking for sex partners than the younger ones.
I got to the point where I kept asking myself why I was even trying to date men my age and promised myself I wouldn't anymore. I've been much happier ever since. And truthfully, I think sex is going to be good as long as you're into someone and that person is as giving as you are. In that case, age has absolutely nothing to do with it.
Sharzi | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 9/11/2008 6:56:53 PM | I agree with Sharzi...great points she brings up.
I've been treated much better and with more respect from younger men..now this isn't to say that there are no men in our age group that wouldn't treat me in that way, I just haven't met many yet. | |
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