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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 9/16/2008 12:59:16 PM | Age is just a number, but I've always prefered older men as a general rule. I've dated younger guys, I have no issue doing so if I hit it off with someone, but I seem to hit it off more with guys my age or older.
Preferably at this point, I'd much rather date someone who as past their Saturn Return. (30+). | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 9/16/2008 1:21:32 PM | How can you come to the conclusion that it is doomed to eventual failure? That is pretty much a blanket statement.
borntoski683 on 6/14/2008 11  26 PM Subject: I am noticing a trend in women over 30 Message: Yea, its happening. I say date whoever turns you on. But girls, don't live in denial about the fact that any kind of serious relationship with a significantly younger male is most likely doomed to eventual failure. Enjoy it while it lasts though, there are plenty of other people doing it, so why not you. | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 9/16/2008 1:32:18 PM | | It depends on whether you care if someone uses the right fork at the dinner table. I cared when I was 27 and dating a 22 year-old. It bothered me that I had to "teach" him all the tricks I had learned from my vast experience. Now, I could care less about those things. They are monkey tricks that can be learned by anyone. I care a lot more about the inner qualities of a person. | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 9/16/2008 3:01:31 PM | | I don't know why anyone would want to date someone that was more than a decade younger, the generation gap seems to become an issue. The commonalities are fewer, etc. But, I believe that we live in an age where, from what I've heard, younger men have pursued older women and the older women have responded. | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 9/16/2008 6:42:53 PM | pittguy37 wrote:
>>>>> I don't know why anyone would want to date someone that was more than a decade younger, the generation gap seems to become an issue. The commonalities are fewer, etc <<<<<
Actually, one of the reasons I prefer younger men is because my taste is not the usual for someone my age. I find I have much more in common with younger men. From music to style of clothing, and more, myself and so many women my age just don't fit the old stereotype.
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 9/16/2008 7:14:05 PM | I guess I am just not trendy, I prefer a man close to my age or older. I need the maturity and experience that age has given us and most of the younger men I know are a little too immature for me  | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 9/16/2008 8:18:57 PM | I don't think economic independence has anything to do with anything. Its all relative to the individual. Some women prefer older men, while others are or feel youthful and probably have more in common with a younger man.
When I went to a school reunion a couple of years ago and I found it disconcerting at how baldly my former classmates aged. I kept asking myself: am I at the right reunion? am I really that old?
And that is how I feel about many women my own age, they just look and act too mature and since i look younger I've always ended up with someone much younger. I guess its the same for some women, they look younger and prefer younger guys.
Not that I don't like older women, on the contrary, an older woman that has retained her beauty and body is sexier than any good looking girl in her youth. An elegent sexy is far more exciting than cute and sexy. lol! | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 9/16/2008 9:58:21 PM | alfie01 wrote:
>>>>> When I went to a school reunion a couple of years ago and I found it disconcerting at how baldly my former classmates aged. I kept asking myself: am I at the right reunion? am I really that old? <<<<<
It's the same here. If I did a search for men between 38 and 46 (for example) and then searched over 46, you would see a marked difference. Men under that age seem to keep current with their appearance. But I notice older men still wear the same huge glasses they bought in the 80's, are sporting comb-overs instead of just shaving it all, getting and ear pierced and just having fun with it. The way they dress.... well, let's just say a lot of people don't like change, so they get stuck in what feels familiar. Sometimes you just have to break the mold and start over.
I look younger than I am, and I guess another factor is that I don't want to be with someone who acts and looks like he could be my father. The energy level has to be there. I keep active and would like whomever I'm with, to be the same.
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 9/16/2008 10:20:40 PM | | Well as a women over thirty I like men of all ages. I think sum women have the attuide of get em while their young so you can train em. I dont belive this my self ,but i belive that it depends on the person. Sum younger men are more mature than the men that are my age or older. No offense to anyone!!!! | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 9/17/2008 8:56:55 AM | msg 324: "Most younger people see the world for what it is: run by corruption, greed, fear and power. They still have eyes to see with and ears to hear with."
Actually, I find it really disturbing that school-leaver aged kids are so unconscious about their world. Most of them believe everything they hear/see on the news. They watch TV (nuff said) and listen to music from the 90s and earlier. I was on a boat trip with my ex-wife and her high-school students, most of them only listened to rock and roll and none of them were into "electronica" - which I had been into since uni days. Having the TV as their wet nurse, their values centre around how many functions your mobile phone has, how riced up your car is, and how pretty you are.
So stale attitudes exist in young people.
msg 324: "Most men my age just look OLD. Their ideas are OLD and their lifestyles are OLD. They are a passing breed: patriarchal, conservative and power-based, they are looking for a mate that can settle into happily accepting second-class citizenship in exchange for a seat on the good ship security. Actually, I feel a lot of compassion for these men. I just don't want to be their partner."
I have also found that most women over the age of 30 look old too. Most of them don't take care of themselves - just like most men don't take care of themselves. Go figure. The issue is not divided by gender. It's simple market economics - supply/demand. Older women CAN get younger (more attractive/hornier) guys so they do. Men our age find the competition too difficult to get the younger (more attractive) women, so they miss out. This only matters if sexy, supple, hard bodies is your main focus.
I have never ever dated a younger woman, partially because these days, younger women are just not interested in over-30-guys (esp balding guys), but also because I find it hard enough trying to find someone with enough depth of character who is my own age/experience - let alone in the younger pool of less experienced women. If by some anomaly of nature a younger woman was attracted to me and she had an older soul, then I'd be delighted to give it a go, but chances are buckly's and none.
If it wasn't for the fact that I'm losing hair, I'd look a lot younger. I watch what I eat, I exercise every day, and I work out at the gym. But that means SFA when you lose your hair. My dreads were getting to a nice length before I had to throw in the towel and shave it all off. doh! LOL
My biggest problem is that I have found women to be disingenuous in the persona they project (in their profiles, for instance). A lot of them bang on about how important certain values are (like honesty) and then when you get to know them a bit, you find that they are completely devoid of those very values. (because they have spent their lives projecting their shortcomings onto previous partners, beliveing that the problem is their partner's and not their own - divesting themselves of responsibility for them). As a result, most women's profiles are a depressing procession of all the things they DON'T want.
I'm a bit unique too, and I only seem to be compatible with women who have learnt how to be honest with themselves, take responsibility (ie. not full of blame for others), and realised that life isn't all about sticking up for your rights because you live in fear that all men want to steal something from you (ie. a sexual experience). Usually, women are older by the time they figure this stuff out and internalise it in their lives. These women have a very different outlook that is warm, open, kind, and accepting. These are almost dirty words these days if not being used for empty lip-service.
I'll shut up now LOL! | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 9/17/2008 10:05:09 AM | Ok so here are my thoughts.....being 42 i find that my kids are grown and it's time for me now. I have met men around my own age only to discover that they are bitter towards women, out of shape, drink too much, and have to take a little blue pill just to be intimate. None of which appeals to me. Also since being on this dating site I seem to only get messages from younger men. which leads me to believe that the ones my age are already in a relationship.
If a man my age was in great shape, had a great attitude, and didn't hate women I would date him....until then I will go with the younger ones....the ones who want to go out and do things and are mature dispite their age. | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 9/17/2008 10:09:45 AM | | I agree with you alfie01... I too have come across men my own age and think that they are too old! I don't feel old,and don't think i look my age either...if i meet someone and am attracted to them i don't care about age. | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 9/17/2008 3:14:26 PM | | Just my 2 cents worth............personally I'm NOT looking for someone that young. HOWEVER............if that person was mature enough emotionally to handle having an instant family..........then I'd consider it. | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 9/17/2008 9:24:06 PM | I see lots of generalizations about older guys not taking care of themselves, older girls not taking care of them selves, everyone acting old.... If only we could get us over 30 peeps together that take care of ourselves and act young. Oh ya - thats what POF is for :-)
I too am reluctant to date people my own age. I hang around a much younger crowd and this definitely skews my views of reality!! I cant believe I am as old as I am!! | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 9/20/2008 12:18:41 PM | | A lot of women over 30 want to feel younger again. It's not because they have their own house, own car, own career, and just want to have some fun. Deep down there is a jealousy of those pretty young girls who walk down the street and command every guys attention on the strip. They want to be that girl again and figure if they're dating a "baby" in his 20's, then they've achieved this goal. Then, when the relationship goes south because the guy finds a hot little 21 year old, they blame everyone but themselves. Older men are more mature, know what they want, and don't want to hang out at the bars all night acting like a fool. They're building a home and security for the future, not spending friday's paycheck on round after round of drinks knowing that their sugar momma will pick up tomorrow night's tab! Men have always been notorious for dating younger girls. I have found, however, that a woman my age who has her head on straight is worth more than 100 pretty young things who think it's cool to drink from a keg upside down! Grow up is what I say, and leave the child's play to the children!! | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 9/20/2008 3:02:39 PM | Bobby 1123 said....
>>>>>> A lot of women over 30 want to feel younger again. It's not because they have their own house, own car, own career, and just want to have some fun. Deep down there is a jealousy of those pretty young girls who walk down the street and command every guys attention on the strip. They want to be that girl again and figure if they're dating a "baby" in his 20's, then they've achieved this goal. Then, when the relationship goes south because the guy finds a hot little 21 year old, they blame everyone but themselves. Older men are more mature, know what they want, and don't want to hang out at the bars all night acting like a fool. They're building a home and security for the future, not spending friday's paycheck on round after round of drinks knowing that their sugar momma will pick up tomorrow night's tab! Men have always been notorious for dating younger girls. I have found, however, that a woman my age who has her head on straight is worth more than 100 pretty young things who think it's cool to drink from a keg upside down! Grow up is what I say, and leave the child's play to the children!!<<<<<
I would never date a man in his 20, but I do date men in their 30's. And as I said in a previous post, I don't need any young guy to make me feel young....I already feel that way. I'm not jealous of younger women or have another other motivation other than I have a high energy level, like to keep active, tired of men my age being nasty, condescending, rude, impatient, and overall looking for a slave rather than a partner. I don't want to sit on the couch watching him flip channels, and I for sure don't want to hear about all his ailments or be with someone who looks like he's still living in the 80's.
You mentioned that men are notorious for dating younger girls. Yet, every guy I've ever met who said they would prefer a woman their age, practically fell over his own tongue if a little young thing gave him even a little attention. I know someone who is 58 and is SO into a 21 year old who "lets him" take her places, buy her things, and hangs out with him. Even though he has said over and over that he prefers a mature woman, right now he would move heaven and earth to be with this girl... even marry her.
I think you feel what you feel and age isn't going to be a factor. When you find someone exciting and fun, someone you have something in common with, you are drawn to that. No one wants to be with someone who has forgotten how to live. And, especially a woman who has been married, had her kids, devoted herself to her family for many years, and is now free to live for herself. She's confident, knows what she wants from life, doesn't sweat the small stuff, is usually multi-faceted, exhuberant, and has a newfound excitement about life and experiences that a younger woman may take for granted. Why wouldn't a younger man want to be with us? :) And why wouldn't we want to be with anyone... no matter the age... who enjoys our company, treats us with some respect, and honors the very special women we have evolved into?
To each their own. But chalking it up to something sexual or jealousy? I do not agree with that at all.
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 9/21/2008 9:44:18 AM | I don't date older women who like to buy their clothes
in the junior's department, wear hip hugger jeans and
have azz tattoos/nose studs.....stupid | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 9/21/2008 11:49:33 AM | | Men have been looking for younger women for ages...now women do the same. Plus, many of these women are not looking for sugar daddies or men to take care of them as they once were. Many of these women have been through it all, divorce, kids etc..and now they just want to have fun. If the men are always looks for younger women, then the other thing left for the older women are young men...makes sense, I guess. As for me, I just like to date someone that im attracted to and get along with..usually that person is my age or slightly younger..it's just where I am in my life. | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 9/21/2008 2:19:08 PM | I get a good laugh when women from here won't date me because they think I am too old for them i.e not several years younger than they are. I will just suffice to say they have noooooooooooo idea..........they would be the ones having trouble keeping up, not me. And thanks to my health practices and genetics, I will stay far younger for far longer than most will. heh heh heh heh The flame of this phoenix is hotter than they think..........
Vital, healthy and "young" people can be found in all age groups. Same with decrepit and unhealthy people. | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 9/21/2008 8:27:51 PM | Johne102....
I would love to date someone my own age, but most of the time, they look and act older, have forgotten how to enjoy life or have become set in their ways. They've been very condescending, nasty, impatient, and more... and I really don't want that in my life. I'm at a point where I don't have little ones around, and I want to enjoy my life, not stagnate in it.
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 9/23/2008 12:48:20 PM | | are you nuts??? most of the women 40+ are looking for a man 40+. maybe i am not handsome or rich enough but i have been rejected a few too many times from older women saying i was too young for them (i will be 35 in Oct.) :) | |
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