| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 10/24/2007 8:58:39 AM | just something I've noticed in the past 6 months. Oddly, after I did some personal discovery and improvement on myself.
I usually say some of the older male/younger female that was within 5-7 years many times as a maturity factor, and one of those dynamics that 'just work' .. darn, I was hoping I just seemed that much more mature now.  | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 10/24/2007 9:54:28 AM | | women havent changed their outlooks at all,you just notice it more than you did,some love an older man cause he's more mature and loves the country pub life log fire and the like,others have probably stagnated in a marriage for instance thats clipped their wings,they dye their hair,think f... it and go through a wild period that makes them feel alive then their son comes down the stairs in the morning and notices the bloke whos just shared his mothers bed is his old school mate,they do this like we buy new cars,and buy trendier gear etc,its called not wanting to get old | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 10/24/2007 9:55:22 AM | well for myself i am 69 years young and still going strong.
i bowl,fish,camp.boat,walking swim, and find not al, but most of the men
my age are not able to keep up
therfore myself i have been looking for a younger man
not real young but i dont fit into the seniors centers
as i can not see me sitting all day playing cards
to me it looks like a lot of people have given
up on life
maybe i will be ready for the ole rocker in about 20 haaaaaaaaaaa | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 10/24/2007 3:35:55 PM | | I have dated people 15 years older and 10 years younger than me in the past. I have even been checked out on here by an 18 year old (who I told....do you realize I have child two years younger than you???), which was flattering but it is what it is! Over time, I have realized that I actually prefer to be with people my own age and that is the range I am interested in dating. Reason being......we relate to each other! When I have dated older men, in some cases, they are more geriatric than my parents (my parents are extremely active and don't appear to be their age). If I go too young, their priorities are different. People my age and I have a lot in common because we've lived through similar experiences and have lived through the same times. I don't have to explain why I feel the way I do about certain things or explain who Ronald Reagan was (it has happened!)! | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 10/24/2007 6:00:34 PM | | Let's see... at 22 I married a 38yo woman. Marriage lasted 7 years and we are still friends. At 30 I got engaged to a 40yo wman, had 2 babies (twins) she passed away from cancer. My friends are all over 40, I dated onlt one girl 2 years older than me and she was the very reason I don't want a oung girl... Immature, insecure and honestly not that phisically attractive. There is something in a woman after 38yo... like a fruit that matures, they develop sex appeal and exude sensuality. To top it all off they either are mature and smart or they will never be. That is very important to me. I think that players need a trophy wife and don't care about a happy committed life. A man in my position wants to have a partner that is irresistible and DEPENDABLE. That is why I date ONLY older... and not by a few years. | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 10/25/2007 3:18:08 PM | I like what tlcntexas said!
Also, I think it depends on the "stage of life" the people are in. Are the women messaging the younger guys because they want to have fun aka. Mrs Robinson? If they are looking for a more serious relationship, I think there could be difficulties- having or not having kids, financial stability etc. I have early 20s guys messaging me so I learnt to keep my age restriction to over 30. LOL- I feel like a creepy old lady if I even talk to anyone under 34! | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 10/25/2007 3:42:50 PM | I am not Demi Moore or Mrs. Robinson but, I've dated guys as young as 35 and I have to admit that although they can be a lot of fun, I do prefer someone closer to my own age. This is mostly for shared experiences. However, a lot of them prefer younger women.
On the other hand, and I hate to admit it but.... I'm not very attracted to very many men over 50 as a lot of them are "geezeresque" which is a W-term for not very fun and curmudgeonly. I say some of them, not all. I'm just not meeting the fun ones in this age group.  | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 10/27/2007 6:18:30 AM | | It isn't just you OP, I've noticed it too. Women are getting downright loose with their age requirements, and it doesn't just apply to older women either... even younger women these days are showing a tendancy to go for men younger than themselves. | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 10/27/2007 7:02:43 AM | | OP. I'm 41 and I prefer men my age or older. I may like some younger men to talk to, but I wouldn't want to date one. I think it depends on the kind of woman, and what she wants from a relationship or dating. Personally I love a man with a mature and happy outlook. Not all older men are mature with a happy outlook, so it narrows the field a bit. | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 10/27/2007 7:52:40 AM | I agee totally. I am finding I am getting more interest from younger men. I think I scare older men away somewhat..This sad I don't mean too. Younger men are very sexual and older women are in their sexual prime and older men are not so this is challege too older men and a let down on their preformance.....They don't don't realize that the act itself is not all about love..it is the lovemaking..Yes younger men can preform the sex act awesome but can they make love to me.....Also older men are relucltant to preform the actual sex, they want oral sex..to them it is the Bill Clinton
thing....That is not real sex, but if I have real sex with you then I am fully committed to you. There are so many games out there..Know what you want before you lead someone on..Both women and men have feeling and it is a dangerous world to play sex games in........these things we see and hear about happening to other people can happen to us...When you think it can't happen to you, you are so wrong...........There have been things happen in my family that in my wildest nightmares, I never would have dreamed would happen...............SO PLEASE RESPECT YOURSELF AND OTHER PEOPLES' FEELINGS AND ABOVE ALL GUARD YOUR HEART!!!!!
THANKS FOR LISTENING
JODI | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 10/27/2007 7:56:59 AM | Make no mistake, women are into attraction as much as men... what a woman says, "He was not my type", what she really means is she was not attracted to him. It's just that so many are politically corect... but we know actions speak louder than words. Talk is cheap!
Younger is generally more attaractive... so it's perfectly natural for women to go for younger men. | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 10/27/2007 8:04:49 AM | | Well I've said it before, and I'll say it again. Not all older women are into younger men! I've had problems with dating sites in the past, being bombarded with messages from guys of 18 and upwards, even though I specifically stated that I did not find younger men attractive in my profile. At least on this site you get to filter out all the unwanted attention. I think sometimes older women will give in to younger men just because some of them can be so damn pushy, and it beats getting the 'age is just a number' speech over and over. Thank god for POF and it's e-mail filtering. I wish all sites would follow its lead. OK so I just wanted to reiterate here, I'm an older woman, and I DON'T find younger men attractive. | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 10/27/2007 10:47:25 AM |
what a woman says, "He was not my type", what she really means is she was not attracted to him. It's just that so many are politically corect... but we know actions speak louder than words. Talk is cheap!
I always thought saying someone was not my type was the same as saying I wasn't attracted to him. I never thought it was being politically correct to say it, just being honest. If I were being politically correct I would be more likely to say "I don't think we're suited" | |
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IvyCoe
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 10/27/2007 9:02:34 PM | | OMG... the thought of dating a man younger than me sends me into fits. I don't want to have to teach anyone anything! I want a guy who knows what he wants, where he's going and how he's getting there!!! I sure as hell don't want a younger guy who still needs to grow up! I want a partner, not a child. | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 10/27/2007 9:39:07 PM | | I don't go after younger guys. They seem to be the ones contacting me. I find it kinda weird so I can't go below the five or six year mark to be honest. | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 10/28/2007 7:34:49 PM | | i wont pass judgement on these women, i perfer men my own age, i have had three long-term relationships in my life, 1. was four years older 2. was two years older 3. was 9 years younger....and i perfer the older, we seem to have more in common. | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 10/28/2007 7:56:30 PM | In my case:
1. Younger men seem to be more active than men my age or older, more in shape, etc.
2. Younger men aren't as set in their ways (thinking they know what works in and out of bed regardless of the fact that women are all different), judgemental (more likely to go clubbing or out with friends, but if they don't, they don't tell you you're wrong for doing the same) or trying to land someone (constant whining about why they can't find the one, talking about the last 10 women that didn't work out, etc).
3. Younger men are generally more laid back and easy going, and less intensely focused on trying to make everyone an SO. They can just live in the moment a lot more easily instead of trying to figure out where everything is going... | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 10/29/2007 1:03:01 PM | | Well some women may think that only a younger man can so them a good time. My guess is that most women don't know what a real man is so they go for the kids. In hopes that they can talk themselves into thinking they are having a good time. If you women out there say your are looking for a relationship then look for one don't look for the fountain of youth through a younger man. | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 10/29/2007 1:23:45 PM | "Maybe some day when I am old and no fun anymore, I will date someone my own age. But I'm sure there are plenty of others who will totally disagree with my thought process."
Responce; ~ you got that right! ~
Some people grow up and mature much faster then others. ~
Your ideas of whats fun ~ changes ~ Your ideas of stimilating conversation changes.
Some people love board games ~ As you mature you enjoy watching people have fun doing things you ~ yourself have little interest in. ~ some people still want to be in the center of everything. They need the attention, the strokes.
I dislike conversations , that go like ; she said , he said ~ and they did.
I dislike caring on conversations that are of a very personal nature with people I hardy know. ~
If 30 yr old women find common ground with 19 and 20 year old men ~ fine ~
if it's 40 old men , again fine ~ find your comfort zone.
I always enjoyed one or two of each age group myself ~ but I'm older ~ so what do I know~dar | |
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