| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 10/29/2007 4:25:48 PM |
I am curious though to undersyand why this is? 1) They were in a bad relationship with a man their age or older.
2) Met men their age who were not up for partying every night.
3) Met a lot of young men who said they were "really sexy", had a really great body, all the hair on their head, not much hair on their body, and were "partying all night long". | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 10/30/2007 1:10:07 AM | I never thought I’d date a guy 10 years younger but I got sick of all the jaded men who “hate women but don’t want to die alone” crap! Or worse yet they think they are old and are ready to throw in the towel.
Just look on any forum that is bashing women for anything really, and all the worst offenders posting the comments are guys close to 40 or older…..the guys coming to our defense are the guys younger than us who don’t lump us all in the category of “golddigging, whoremongers who want to castrate them! " LOL
I’m sorry but that’s the sad truth. I have only met a FEW guys my age or older that weren’t total nut jobs (they truly loathed women or hated their lives) yet I’ve met 20-30 guys younger than me who had a brain and weren’t judgmental, thought life was a blast and were full of passion about what the next day was going to bring. I’ll take all of that in someone my age, just having a hard time finding it! | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 10/30/2007 1:12:16 AM | and scorpiomover, none of the stuff you listed has ever been stated by any woman I know who has dated younger men...
"1) They were in a bad relationship with a man their age or older.
2) Met men their age who were not up for partying every night.
3) Met a lot of young men who said they were "really sexy", had a really great body, all the hair on their head, not much hair on their body, and were "partying all night long"."
Once again, bitterness and jaded thoughts.... | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 10/30/2007 3:16:06 AM | I think that it's important to take people for who they are. Personally i'm interested in who a guy is regardless of their age. I have some platonic guy friends that are in their 20's and more mature than some men i've met my age.
I am very active and often younger men are too, at the same time so are many men in their 30's. I've been married and had children so don't feel the need to go down that path again, men in their 20's aren't usually looking for that either, where as men in their 30's often are just starting to get that urge.
Of course there are no set rules, for any age range.
For me because i am looking for friends as well as keeping an open mind to the possibility of a relationship why would it matter exactly how old a fella is? I've met some really great, polite and intelligent men that are "younger".
As another poster stated, it is also the younger men that are contacting me, i'm not specifically seeking them out. I try to discern what their reasons are for being interested in me. Many of them state that they just don't relate to the girls their age and find them to be very insecure and shallow. Of course this may or not be true, and they may just be hoping for some sexual escapades with the "women in her sexual prime", but i think it may also be a valid motivation for some young men. | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 10/30/2007 11:32:03 AM | | I agree that age does not matter. What matters is the person he is, and looks help of course, but that's a case by case thing too. There are 40 something year olds who look hotter than 20something year olds! Personally, I have not found many men under the age of 30 who have enough life experience and intelligence, to hold my interest for long in even a chat conversation. Suppose it depends what you as a woman are looking for in a man. If you just want a pretty boy, with excitement for life and not "jaded" at all, then go for it. To each their own. But for me, no thank you!!!! | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 10/30/2007 6:43:45 PM | I have always dated men younger than me. Hasn't been a conscious thing, just the way it seemed to work out. Some were of little age difference, some were a lot. I will agree that after 30, most of the time, the age difference isn't significant.
I have found, until recently, that many men older than me, were jaded, and set in their ways, and had very specific ideas on how they thought I should behave. I also admit to not being attracted to any man that reminds me of my dad psychically. Younger guys are so much more fun, and less intense , for the most part.
I am now at the point, that even when this is true, I find at this stage in my life, that I want someone who at least has some of the same memories as me, and ways of viewing the world. Which often comes with being born in the same generation. And, now that I'm older, and long past the child bearing years, to date a much younger guy who is still planning on getting married and having children at some point, seems dumb for me. Why get involved with someone at this stage of my life, that is eventually going to leave me?
All that being said, young guys are still fun, and a pleasure to look at and admire. They are good for the ego too. | |
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me5456
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Joined: 9/20/2007
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 10/30/2007 9:59:54 PM | I don't know where that leaves me. I'm 39 years old and I look 26 - 27. I went out for a beer and bruchetta (yum) at the local Moxies and was hit on by a very beautiful girl. As the conversation continued, I found out that she was in her words ... "In 1989, I was 5 years old."
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 10/31/2007 8:43:18 AM | age to me mean nothing.i have dated men who are older and ones who where younger.i think it's just who we find are attractive and have some of the same interest.
if i see a man,my first question is not how old,but are you single.... | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 10/31/2007 4:05:15 PM |
so maybe that would explain the masses of 40+ women messaging me this past month. hmm... I was starting to wonder if it was my profile.
Damn, it must be a nationwide trend !!! | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 10/31/2007 4:55:26 PM | | I don't know either....I have been attracted to men around 24 and I am 31. I guess because the guys really don't act any mature so why not go fot the less wrinkly....LOL. Just kidding. I am not really caring about the age just the way they make me feel inside. | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 11/2/2007 7:25:47 PM | | I'm 33 and would never date a man 10 years younger than me, less alone 5 years younger than me. I have on a few occasions given some eager 26 year olds a chance and I just find we are in different places in our lives. I'm sure there are exceptions to every rule and we have to be open to them, but generally I prefer someone closer to me in age. Now if I was 40 and the guy was 30 I probably wouldn't mind as much because we would both be more settled in our lives by that point. To each his or her own. | |
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jena77
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Joined: 10/28/2007
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 11/2/2007 8:15:31 PM | | I am not sure why women go for men who are younger than them. I personally prefer to have an older man as the men my age and younger are usually immature and still in the selfish stage of life. | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 11/3/2007 2:06:27 AM | | The men my age and older - don't look very healthy, too often overweight and looking for pipe and slippers time. I find they can't keep up physically, and they don't want to go out dancing, hiking etc. They want to settle down, and never move house ever again. They've usually got family connections and ties and they're just not free spirits anymore. I find too, they've got "old" mindsets about being dominant and "wearing the pants" - hell I even resent a man, sitting himself at the head of my, table! | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 11/3/2007 11:11:57 AM | That isn't very true, I know a few girls my age (including myself are dating men older than us) I am seeing a gentleman who is actually 20 years older than me. Granted when I met him 10 - 11 years ago he WAS married to a woman who I know and she is 44 (now), well he doesn't look his age and I assumed that he is the same age as her. I found out when I started seeing him that he is actually 53. OH WELL, he is a wonderful man. (In more ways than one  ) | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 11/3/2007 2:19:17 PM | | I think it's so sad that people have a preference for older or younger, for age reasons only. Everyone likes to say "age is only a number" but obviously that isn't true for many people; they really are judging you by your age (fair or not). When you really think about it, OP's question shows a bit of ignorance about what real relationships are made of. If you are "typical" for the age range you are in, then it is likely you'd find just as much in common with someone 10 years older as you would 10 years younger so why should it be surprising that one would go either way? As that is a pretty big age range however, they'd likely be reasons that both might be difficult. The "still wanting kids" thing is likely the main reason you'd see a woman defering to the older over the younger if she already has kids. Besides that, it's about physical attraction, common interests, similar lifestyles and that is usually found closer to one's own age, so having a specific preference for older or younger is sort of silly unless you just started so early that you're way ahead of most people your age, or you were such a late bloomer that you're way behind! But those are sort of the outliers aren't they? Anyone else who is judging by age is potentially throwing away the opportunity to meet some really great people, and maybe even "the One"! | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 11/4/2007 7:18:27 AM | Ugh.
Not me thanks. When I was younger, I wanted older guys. I still kind of want that, but I'm good with my own age too.
I get a lot of younger men messaging me and when I say no thanks, I get tons of attitude about how I should be happy someone 10 years younger (or more) even wants me. That crap pretty much reinforces my whole lack of desire for a younger man. | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 11/4/2007 2:40:43 PM | I appreciate men of all ages. Every man is different and has a different take on life and love.
I tend to date men my age or younger because I haven't been married, I don't have children - so my struggles and life experiences tend to be much different than men older than me.
Companionship, friendship, life and love can come in all shapes and sizes and ages. | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 11/4/2007 6:47:40 PM | | I've raised my kids.I dont want to be baby sitting any more.I want some one that has their head on straight.Less drama please. | |
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daisie
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 11/5/2007 7:00:27 AM | I like guys young and dumb - hahahaha. I feel younger than I am - I feel about 28 even though I'm 34. The last guy I dated for any length of time was 17 years older than me - so this time around I'm hoping to find someone a little younger than me or at least the same age. I don't want a 21 year old but someone in the 27-35 range would be great for me...
Plus I think women are finally fed up with the whole "it's fine for an older guy to be with a younger woman but not an older woman with a younger guy is wierd". My guy friends gave me a hard time when I was dating a 25 year old but hey - I figure - if we get along - and he's hot for me and I'm hot for him - WOOHOO! | |
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