| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 1/14/2008 5:39:55 PM | | Not me. But I find that men over 30 (men over 40 especially) are looking for women 10 or more years younger than they are. I am not looking for a man 10+ years older than me so that rules most of them out. | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 1/15/2008 2:58:44 AM | Several factors I see contribute to this "trend":
1) Women are more independent - financially - now than at any other point in history. They don't need a husband/man to be their provider.
2) Socially it has become more acceptable to date younger men. The media shows us examples every day of public figures who are involved in an older-woman-younger-man relationship.
3) I've noticed a certain fascination with older women by younger guys (the move "The Graduate" shows a good example of this)... When you combine more "available" older women (available as in more open to the discrepancy in age) with younger men who pursue them... well, there ya go.
As for myself... Yes, I would date someone 10 years younger than myself - if they were someone for whom I had that attraction/spark. More than 10 years? Mmmm... maybe. There start to be some generational gaps at that point which may make it more difficult to communicate. Still, I wouldn't say never... :) | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 1/15/2008 6:57:43 PM | What I have noticed in dating women over 30 is that they either want to party or cash in.
bangarama is fun for a while, but gets old. Unless it has been a while....
I don't have a million in the bank. Have to go to work everyday. | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 1/15/2008 7:01:43 PM | | we do not look for men 10 +years younger they just are attracted to older women because they know we women are mature ,stable ,wise and know what we want and are not afraid to say how we feel...we are confident and can talk easily and be ourselves ....we have seen a lot and have experiences to share ...... | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 1/17/2008 12:55:30 PM | I personally am not attracted to older men. I have always been attracted to younger. I find the men at my age to look like they are much older and yet to contratdict myself lol I notice guys my age prefer to date younger women too and I wonder why because we have great jobs own our places pay our own bills and have a great sex drive! So I say whatever makes that person happy is all the counts.
As for my comment about being attracted to younger men I know allot of people that meet me in person think I am around the age of 25 to 30 and I also feel that being with a younger man is much more fun as I am not ready to act my age just yet tehe. | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 1/17/2008 6:58:04 PM | yeh, i was with somone for the last 10 years that was 10 years younger,,,,, never do that again,,, I should of kept him in the closet,,, he he he,,,
cheryl | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 1/17/2008 9:07:50 PM | Storm00,
Do you really find it strange that older men aren't as interested in women that "don't need" them? Perhaps I'm *really* old fashioned, but I grew up thinking it was my job to provide. With you as independent as you state, is it any wonder that others might think, as I, that you aren't necessarily as attractive as someone who thinks they need me?
I find that a number of women's profiles I have read suggest they are only looking for "what they want," ignore what I look for in "what they want from me." Maybe its the PC of the day, but I'm not looking for a women's life I can fit into, but rather a women's life I can partake in. If my ideals aren't part of that (e.g. being needed, satisfying a need, solving something) then I'm lost.
I readily admit it may be my insecurities that make me think this way, but I will equally be as ready to admit I haven't found a women prepared to explain to me how wrong I am to think this way. Perhaps that has something to do with their independence and lack of need.
Don't get me wrong, I love a strong and capable women, but as a man, I need to be need for something that I expect/and want to be needed for...
Cheers,
Russ | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 1/17/2008 9:48:49 PM | Hey Russ
Well when I read profiles I'd say about 90% of them say they want an independent women. I don't state what I have in my profile about my owning my condo etc. I am looking to just click with someone and go from there with no expectations. I do admit that I tell my friends that I am tired of doing it alone and wish I could share with someone the responsibilities as it is very hard, but I do pride myself for being able to do the things I do on my own and know I don't have to rely on someone else for them and I won't feel bad for feeling that way. I take pride and respect from my mom that taught me this!
Really for me and younger men I just am attracted to them and I do ask why this is an issue when men having been dating younger women for many years - age is just a number.
We will never be ever to please everyone on dating sites.
TT Storm | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 1/17/2008 10:15:48 PM | Sorry if what I said came off wrong, it wasn't meant to be a personal criticism. Everyone picks who they please.
I do find a strange dichotomy, however, that some profiles seem to say; "Hey, I want someone" but at the same time suggest to me, as a guy; "But I don't want a guy who thinks like a guy."
Not you, I didn't read your profile, just some of the profiles I've read. IMO, some women over 30 are trending to look for men that, well to me anyway, don't want to be men.
Another way to say that is to suggest that women are looking for men that aren't, so I take that as something I *might* considering learning to be...since we're men...or job it to fulfill a need. Just not sure how not-men we men can become to fulfill the need of us not being men...cause you're just fine without us...;-]
Please, laugh with me as I say that....;-]
Cheers,
Russ | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 1/18/2008 3:34:57 AM | Well, since I haven't looked for a man in 20 years, it's going to be fun finding out the major differences. Younger men tend to show more interest. Older guys seem to be looking for more long term. Being new at this, I plan to sample some of al lages. LOL Friends that is! I won't maturity as well as security. I'm 43 but want to enjoy many more years. I'm old enough to know that there is more to life than a roll in the hay, and not very safe in this day & time. A man can wow me with his personality and the way he treats me far more quickly than his intimate intentions.
But it's a real bummer to think you get passed by because you missed by one year!  | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 2/3/2008 11:25:29 AM | | I get a fair amount of mail from younger men (even 10+ years younger than me) but I'm always a little leery....especially if they have no children, simply because at some point I feel they will want children of their own, and find the right woman to have them with. But the younger men I HAVE dated were fun to be with and treated me very well. | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 2/3/2008 11:32:50 AM | I have had the same situation with many younger females as well..........most eventually want to get married and have a family, and I am more than done with that part of my life.........
So, I search and seek for those that are closer to my age and have completed that part of their life and ready to move on to the next adventure. I just hope that they have kept their youthfulness within them, their looks and nice body, just as I am sure that most the women would want from us........ 
So.....the younger women that I have dated were fun to be with and treated me well, but then again......many my age and older do as well as long as they have maintained their condition both mentally and physically......
Just my opinion......   | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 2/3/2008 11:40:10 AM | Do you really find it strange that older men aren't as interested in women that "don't need" them? Perhaps I'm *really* old fashioned, but I grew up thinking it was my job to provide. With you as independent as you state, is it any wonder that others might think, as I, that you aren't necessarily as attractive as someone who thinks they need me?
I'd say be happy you don't have to provide anymore - a lot of men complained about it when it was commonplace. Personally people (unless they've grown together for years) shouldn't need each other. Love isn't about what you can provide financially as much as it's about who you are emotionally.
I find that a number of women's profiles I have read suggest they are only looking for "what they want," ignore what I look for in "what they want from me." Maybe its the PC of the day, but I'm not looking for a women's life I can fit into, but rather a women's life I can partake in. If my ideals aren't part of that (e.g. being needed, satisfying a need, solving something) then I'm lost.
A relationship for a lot of people is a part of their life, but isn't their life - there are other things you balance a relationship with such as friends/family, your alone time, your job...
I readily admit it may be my insecurities that make me think this way, but I will equally be as ready to admit I haven't found a women prepared to explain to me how wrong I am to think this way. Perhaps that has something to do with their independence and lack of need.
It's not wrong if you find someone who thinks as you do. Women are in a place today to pick someone they're actually attracted to and want to be with instead of being rescued by someone who can provide them something they can't do on their own. No relationship should exist based on things as much as the two individuals involved and their personalities.
Don't get me wrong, I love a strong and capable women, but as a man, I need to be need for something that I expect/and want to be needed for...
Some men seem to equate need with stability for some reason, while for women it's the opposite. We want to WANT you for who you are, not NEED you for what you can give us. And we also don't want to be needed, but wanted. To us that means it's about you, not what you have. | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 2/3/2008 5:22:23 PM | I am 30 and it seems any guy my age or older has baggage (divorced, kids etc). This is ok, but since I have none its just easier to date guys younger 27-30
I would disagree - there is a plethora nay an over supply of men in their 30's that are decent men that have no baggage that you speak of
they however tend to get tagged with " must be something wrong with him if he has never been married and has no kids "
As such I believe women tend to shy away from these men as if to non verbally say
" well no other woman wanted him so why should I take the risk"
add to that the younger women see these men as old lecherous types
well the result is that for men in that situation in their 30's they are in limbo accepted by neither age group
though if they don't mind a 45 + year old woman that is done having a family and seeks a toy boy - as many claim men their own age are fat bald lazy etc - well then they will have no problems
comments made from my own experience and observations as such the views expressed are solely mine and a generalisation taking into account the "whole" while trying to remain purely objective | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 2/3/2008 6:18:05 PM | well, the thing is when you use a blanket statement, you end up being wrong. i choose not to date people younger than me, but that's just my preference. i'm speculating that you know 2, 3 women who have dated someone younger than themselves & you are now using your astute powers of observation to apply that lesson as a whole to all women. probably not a good idea.
good luck out there, john! i hope you find what you're looking for. | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 2/4/2008 7:52:49 AM | | I am not making blanket statements. I am noticing a rend in profiles women have on here also noticing a trend with the many women I work with . (I work in a call centre that has 98 employees 57 of them are female) When I was younger women always said they wanted an older man and now that seems to have changed...so I started this thread to see of it is just me noticing this or if others notice it too. I do not think it is wrong, just wondering why or if it changed. | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 2/4/2008 9:46:09 AM | Yeah they are called cougars.
Good deal is that I now prefer younger women and its not that hard for an older guy to date a woman 10 years younger :-) | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 2/4/2008 10:10:05 AM | When I was 26 I dated a 44 year old woman, when I was 29 I dated a 20 year old, when I was 34 I dated a 42 year old woman. Age had little to do with it. Personality, intelligence, creativity, originality, honesty. Those things matter.
The trend isn't about age so much either. It is, no matter how people deny it, about need. The way in which men who are able to, feel a need to support a woman is the same for women who if they are able to, need someone they can support. Its a way to boost low self esteem. Its about control. 'If I support you, you're dependent on me, I'm the one in control and I can make it about me. If its a relationship of equals, based on compromise and shared committment, I'm not in control and I may not always get my way. ' Its an ego trip for people with low self esteem. | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 2/5/2008 3:50:17 AM | The general trend I'm noticing is some silly female carries on about a "child molestinging" 21 year old "man" dating (not bonking) a 17 year old "child".
And she gets told the time of day real quick.
Thats let to a great many womn taking a broarder view of their horiszons. | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 2/5/2008 4:29:49 AM | Younger men are like little puppy dogs ... you can teach them lots of new tricks and they still beg for more.
they sit on command wouldnt dare piss on the toilet seat and soon learn that by fetching the news paper ... picking up their underpants and doing as they are told they get lots of treats.... older men however are like old dogs... cannot see where they are pissing refuse to learn new tricks will sniff at any other female in heat if given the chance and are bloody sick of being told what to do! lol xx | |
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| I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 2/5/2008 4:09:24 PM | | Yep. I am like a dog. If I can't eat it or screw it I just chew it up, piss on it and walk away. Still haven't mastered the art of licking of myself though..... | |
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