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| Do you believe friends are more important than lovers?
Posted: 4/10/2008 4:46:49 PM | I agree! I have a woman friend in florida, that is a great lover, and we are better friends. We get together, and if the urge hits us, we make love. But we are quite satisfied to be friend, we share a LOT both mentally and physically. I am her sounding board, and she is mine.
But she is 'seeing' a guy now, but we talk often, but not as much.
We are both physical people. | |
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| Do you believe friends are more important than lovers?
Posted: 4/10/2008 4:56:04 PM | I dont think friends are more important than lovers, friends come and go, you find new friends easy, it is a lot harder to find a new lover thats why most of us are on here.
and friends cannot give you the same type of love and closness a lover can.
If I had a choice between a friend or a partner then I am afraid the partner will have too go, because they are not the ones you want too spend your whole life with and settle down with and grow old together.
I know I sound harsh but when I have a partner then she has my 100% attension. not my mates, who have their own lives and I can still see them every now and then. | |
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| Do you believe friends are more important than lovers?
Posted: 4/10/2008 5:13:34 PM | Why does there have to be a choice between friends and lovers? A good romantic relationship or friendship can allow for outside relationships. I guess it would depend on the length of the friendship or the romantic relationship. No one should limit your contact with people outside of a relationship, to me that is a control issue. But I do agree that a person should put their spouse before their friends, although they should also be there when their friend needs them, if at all possible. | |
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| Do you believe friends are more important than lovers?
Posted: 4/11/2008 4:04:05 PM | There is space in my life and my heart for both my friends and my lover.
My lover has a part of me that no one else will share. My friends are like the river that bring good things to me.
Love is not something you run out of. Nor is it something you must give out in careful measures. | |
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| Do you believe friends are more important than lovers?
Posted: 4/11/2008 4:17:38 PM | This subject is always interesting to me.
My take is that my friends, male friends, are far more important to me than any woman ever has been for the simple reason that I can ALWAYS count on them. I can count on them to be there when I need a hand and I can count on them to tell me when I'm being a complete shithead. I can trust themt to consider my feelings when they know I'm feeling a bit sensitive and to kick my a$$ when I'm snivelling.
I've never met a woman who I can count on in the same way, lover, wife or 'friend'.
Here's the thing that always sticks in my brain about this subject:
The times I've been kicked to the curb by a woman who has claimed I'm her "best friend" or even a "good friend", she has never confided in ME when she is thinking of pulling the pin. She tells her mother, sisters, friends, cousins, co-workers and the woman at the check-out counter, but she NEVER lets me, her supposed 'good/best friend' what she is planning.
Men are not much different, I suspect, though I've never known a man who has said that his SO is his 'best friend'.
As much as people claim their SO is their BEST friend, it's just so much BS when it all comes down to the nitty-gritty. | |
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