| Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 10/23/2007 5:45:28 PM | esad-
People flirt. When does the flirtation cross the line ? It crosses the line when your man is holding his dick in
his hand jerking off while he is webcamming some chick who is using BOB-
thats when it crosses the line.
“ George complimented me on this skirt last time i wore it. I’ll make his day and skip the panties today” Is that “two people interacting”?
Any person in an exclusive relationship with someone who needs to act like
this is not happy in the relationship- they are seeking attention from someone
other than their partner. Its disrespectful to the relationship and to the other
person- how would you feel if your girlfriend did this - pretty shitty, dont
deny it either. this behavior hurts from someone you love.
We can not, nor should we want to, control our partners.
this has nothing to do with control-its respect within the relationship that you have
for each other. You dont want anyone else, only the person you are with.
I am pretty sure cheating occurs when her flesh smacks his flesh. Any thing less is a grey area.
cheating starts with intent.
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| Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 10/23/2007 5:50:48 PM | Anything done online takes away some of the reality of whatever it is we're doing, but...we're still 'doing' it. The difference is...we no longer need to leave home, or be physically present any more, to do it...to get our DL, buy a home, date, make friends, make money, buy things, have sex, or cheat. We can do it all from the comfort of home and call it macaroni. But we are still 'doing' it. Cyber sex is what it is...SEX. With all the advancements we've made technologically, how ironic is it that sex is the BIGGEST $$$ maker online? LOL It shows how really base we are as human beings, in the face of all the leaps and strides we 'think' we've made. And if I found out my man was having cyber sex, I'd be sick about it...and be convinced that he had lost his heart, mind, and soul. And even if I never found out about it...that doesn't make it any less so. It's cheating, and will cause problems in the relationship, if it isn't already doomed. And it's nothing new...men cheat, women cheat...and now..we've discovered a 'new' way to do it...aren't we clever?
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| Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 10/23/2007 5:54:27 PM | For the men on here who do not think it is cheating?
How would you feel if you walked in on your wife or girlfriend masturbating on cam with some strange guy??
In the rigid sense of the word, it is not cheating, but I doubt any man would see it that way.. I know I would be upset if I walked in on my significant other doing this..
Lets put the shoe on the other foot and remember that for any man participating in illicit activities, there is another person involved be it someone's wife, girlfriend or not. | |
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| Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 10/23/2007 6:14:06 PM | Just remember, internet play is internet play but eventually if it becomes repetitive with the same person the desire to meet may become inevatable. My ex played cards in a game room for a year with the same partner, flirting ensued and then picture sharing and then the desire to meet and have sex.
It may just be cam sex but there's still a live person on the other side and both are imagining "the real deal". Sometimes fantasy does become reality.
So while it may not be cheating, it's more so like an underlying desire to play with others. Would you really want your partner to be desirous of sexual gratification with other partners? What's good for the goose is good for the gander and vice versa. | |
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| Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 10/23/2007 6:29:38 PM | He is still involved in a sexually gratifying act with someone other than his SO
(not a porn, which can become a problem, not a magazine to stimulate,) but seeking another living,breathing person...counts.....to me.
I would be upset and I already have trust issues..I admit it, but something like that would be a deal breaker if we were exclusively involved.
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| Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 10/23/2007 7:20:02 PM | As long as the partner is aware of the situation it is not cheating, it is when one persons Sneaks around on the sly that this sort of thing becomes a problem.
I would hope the relationship is strong enough that both parties can reveal thier own wants and needs, with out trust and openess(if thats a word) there is not much hope of a happy relationship. If I was into webcam sex, my partner would know, and in turn if she was I would know. hopefully we would join in and experience it together.
So tell her to be upfront about her feeling and thoughts and to take it from there, she could always ask to watch while he did it, just to see if she then thought it was wrong, or to tell him she wants to do the same thing, and see his reaction.
Anyway I think she needs to address the situation no matter what. | |
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| Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 10/23/2007 8:57:00 PM | This situation is difficult because I'm talking with her now. Her boyfriend feels he's done nothing wrong because it wasn't a physical act. He personally feels as if he never cheated on her. He went on to say how much he loves her and that the girls meant nothing to him and that he was just having harmless fun, he really feels like it's nothing wrong as long as he doesn't act on meeting these women.He actually used the porno excuse! He said him camming with women is just like him looking at porn!
I can understand her side because she actually believes that her boyfriend loves her but she's torn. At the same time she feels like now she may have made something out of nothing, but it still bothers her that he would cam with other women. What's funny is that the only reason he got caught is because he left the website open while his girlfriend visited and she found the site there so he confessed.
Here's a question, what's the difference from married people being on cam masturbating with other people than looking at porn in a sense? It's almost like the same thing, a lot of people in relationships don't have problems letting their so look at another naked man or woman on a porno but it's a problem if they see a naked woman or man on cam. Just curious.. | |
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| Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 10/23/2007 9:07:28 PM | I personally consider it cheating.
One of my past live-in gf's didn't think so and when she got caught, i respected her opinion...
however, she didn't respect the 2 hour notice of finding somewhere else to live. That park bench covered in snow wasn't nearly as comfortable as my bed.
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| Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 10/24/2007 5:52:45 AM | | looking at any form of stimulation should not be done if the so has a problem with it....and if it is continued behind the so's back IT"S CHEATING Infidelity =lying lying = infidelity bottom line if you lie to your partner about anything ,gambling, where the money goes , sex, where you were at at any given time , then you are cheating the union.... try to justify it any way you want to | |
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| Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 10/24/2007 6:53:37 AM | i personally don't think it's cheating, but i wouldn't want him to do it. i'd feel like i wasn't enough to satisfy him. if he masterbates, fine, whatever. if he did it over jessica alba's picture, whatever. if he's doing it over some playboy, whatever. but cam is more interactive...so...that's the difference.
i'd probably ask him to stop, and tell him how it makes me feel.
mind you, my bf thinks it's ok for me to be with him, and i'm free to make-out with other guys. he doesn't think that's cheating. i told him, that's interesting that you don't find kissing cheating, but if you ever kiss another girl, it's over. so, with that, he expects that i don't kiss another guy...it's not really the greatest thing to date a hypocrite no?
it's up to them though. if *she* thinks it's cheating, then he should just stop, or find another girl who finds it ok to have cyber sex with others. | |
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| Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 10/24/2007 8:15:39 AM | | While I don't think its cheating I do think it is a betrayal. He is performing a sexual act with live person who is not his girlfriend and he was doing this behind her back. I think the OP stated that the girlfriend had recently "found out". The girlfriend would have to approve it. If she says ok then fine, heck maybe she wants to join in. I find it creepy and I would not be okay with this. I think recorded porn would be totally fine but, not an actual live action woman! If I was the girlfriend, this would be a deal breaker. I'd even be okay with rare visits to strip clubs (I' still want to know about it). | |
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