| Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 10/26/2007 9:15:55 AM | Call me a prude, but yes, I would call it "cheating" - or just "wrong".
The only way I would think it's okay is IF both parties in a relationship agree that it's okay to do so.
Personally I just don't understand the NEED for it tho... especially if one is in a relationship... but I guess I'm kinda old-fashioned about it all. | |
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| Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 10/26/2007 12:47:19 PM | Well i disagrre doing things on a web cam is great i think,it can certainly spice things up.I know a girl who was with her boyfriend 14 years,they were going through a bad patch,so she started camming on the computer downstairs,she dreaded him finding out,but one night he came down stairs and she did'nt hear him,and he caught her,and their sex life has really improved,so i would say no its not cheating but just aving some adult fun.
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| Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 10/26/2007 1:48:44 PM | OH NOOOOO! I'm gonna.... I'm gonna..... Aw crap! I forgot to put paper towels over the key board again.  
YES! In my opinion it is crossing a line. It appears obvious that you do not approve of the action and are disturbed by it. It isn't like tossing off to a magazine. There is a REAL person at the other end of this shindig. I would THINK it is only a "gateway" to more kinds of encounters. If these ARE your thing, I would just roll with it. All to each his own. BUT, if it NOT your thing, you need to have a talk. Those "extra cirricular activities" should be mutual in my opinion. And I wouldn't think of sharing myself with another woman while I was exclusive with a woman already. But it is a whole 'nother game if you are not exclusive. Playing the feild is just fine when you don't have to consider the risks and feelings of a loved one. I think you are headed for disaster. | |
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Nona37
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Joined: 10/3/2007
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| Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 10/26/2007 2:02:52 PM | | Why would someone "jackoff" when they have a significant other to actually have sex with? To me that is totally ridiculous! I would not be happy either, it doesn't say much for his "wanting" of his girlfriend, and I feel she has every right to be upset, and I do consider it cheating as well as disrespectful. | |
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| Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 10/26/2007 2:41:45 PM | Would it be cheating if my partner was having webcam sex with other people? I'm not in a committed relationship right now, but If I was it definately would be. And by the same token it would be cheating also if I was the one doing it.
When I am in a relationship and we decide to be manogomous, it is at that point time to sit down and decide on what the boundaries of the relationship are going to be. It needs to be decided exactly what constitutes cheating. As far as I'm concerned webcam sex is cheating.
When I am in a committed relationship there are certain things I do not do and webcam sex is one of them. Nor will I go to stripclubs, go out to eat with a member of the opposite sex, go to another woman's house or apartment without my partner, go to a singles bar without her, go to bachelor parties, dance with other women without her consent ....etc. etc. ...And by the same token I don't expect her to engage in similar activities and she knows this.
Be refusing to engage in these type of activities, I am announcing to the world...."This woman is very special to me, she means the world to me and I will not engage in activities that compromise the special bond that we share."
All of this is decided and laid out at the beginning of the relationship so that there are no misunderstandings. It is up to the couple to sit down and decide what is acceptable and what is not.
Just my thoughts,
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| Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 10/26/2007 3:01:51 PM | "Why would someone "jackoff" when they have a significant other to actually have sex with?"????
Well, lets put that with other questions of the same ilk like
Why would one person not get laid when they have a partner to have sex with
Why would one person want sex, but their partner wouldnt want to
Why would women who have a partner wank or use a vibrator when they have a parnter they should be shagging
Its because people are people, not battery operated appliances, and as such each person has their own feelings and wants and isnt a product their partner has bought that should perform JUST because their partner wants them to perform for one
If the person jacking off is horny but their partner isnt in the mood for whatever reason then they are jacking of because thats what they can and should be doing irrespective of gender
Also, and maybe this is a concept women might not quite understand, when I was in my longest relationship (16 years) there wasnt a day went by that I didnt fancy the arse off my partner, but, there were also times where I just couldnt be bothered with sex BUT wanted to ejaculate
Now as much as it would have been more enjoyable getting her to do it for me thats irrelevant as it wasnt about "enjoyment", it was purely functional as the more I have sex the less time it takes till my nads need emptying again till it reaches the point where the physical urge outpaces my psychological needs so I wouldnt want her to do it, I simply wanted "emptying" and the quickest and least cumbersome way to achieve that is to do it myself as no woman can ever do that as efficiently as I can, and efficiency is what the aim is with those instances
Its like food really, sometimes I want a snack, when I want a snack its because I want a snack. So I just couldnt be bothered cooking a 5 course meal and wouldnt want to eat it anyway, BECAUSE I want a snack | |
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| Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 10/26/2007 3:11:53 PM | | Interesting thread. Now I don't know what cheating is, or even what sex is, anymore. I agree completely with previous poster who indicated that the label is not important. The main question is whether you would accept this in your relationship if your partner wants to do it. I suppose if a lady told me, "I can't have sex with you tonight because I have to be in my web cam room from 7:00 to 10:00 and I have to be at work early" I would think twice about it. | |
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Nona37
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Joined: 10/3/2007
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| Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 10/26/2007 5:03:09 PM | | Well said Jack, I need to find a man like yourself, it's all about how special someone is to each and every one of us, obviously if I'm laying in bed and my man is "whacking it" to some internet "ho" on the computer, I'm obviously not desirable to my man anymore, time to go, plain and simple, it's cheating. | |
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| Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 10/26/2007 6:15:42 PM | If he has a SO, why does he need to fvck another woman, if he has a SO, why does he go to a stripper, if he has a SO, why does he look at porn, if he has a SO why does he have female friends, if he has a SO ... and on an on and on.
It's not quite that simple, if you really think about it. | |
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| Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 10/27/2007 9:04:16 AM | | I say its only a matter of time before the cyber sex changes to the real thing. I speak from experience, i thought it was harmless when I discovered it, then he never came to bed until the early hours, next he'd given them his mobile number so he could hear them, then he started meeting them. He said he got hooked on the excitement and when cyber no longer did it he needed the anonymous sex. Needless to say we split, so I say definitely cheating, or a short slipperty slope to cheating | |
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| Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 10/28/2007 8:39:49 AM | When people start chatting/webcaming,etc,sometime are there are problems at home,
needing some kind of new adventure perhaps not wanting to hurt their partner,
for some married people maye it's dabbing their foot in the water,
thinking of wanting to be single,
but not wanting to dive straight in.
losing the house,the boat,the car,haha
or maybe feeling this is safe desease free ,relationship free sex,
Real Interaction with a porn movie. haha
another thing about web caming is ,
Unless there are two cams here's another thought.
you never know who is on the other side of the im or cam.
perhaps someone you know to see how far you will go,
or maybe a person under age or the police,
or a sexual pedater.
there may be a safety issue too,
so people that cam need to give thought
to the effect it will have on their life and on the life of others,
just like any decision a person makes.
I really think though when someone loves someone,
and wants to hold on.
they should forgive and move on.
and not throw the past up,
or they should let go. | |
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| Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 10/28/2007 8:55:18 AM | When you have a partner, its suppose to be just that, a partner that you want to be with forever. That means, that you have made a commitment to be with that person forever. Body, soul and MIND, if your mind wanders to be w ith someone else, then to me ..its cheating. He is watching another woman performing sexual acts and hiding it from his partner, he knows its cheating or he would of told her, or at least, he knows she wouldnt approve. I wonder if he would approve of her doing it with someone else, probably not.
Forver is a very long time, if your not ready for that commitment, then you shouldnt have a partner. Then, you are free to do whatever you want. | |
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| Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 10/28/2007 9:02:51 AM | I wouldnt call it cheating as such but i would be goin off my head bout it none the less and itd stop the same as if i found out my bf was on chattin up other women!
Its a dodgy call for your friend. Like people said he he only watchin nude women on screen its not intercourse and stuff.
Though for me its a no no.
Blokes on here defendin the guy need to think if they were in a serious relationship and found out their girl was on ere up to all sorts would he mind? | |
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| Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 10/28/2007 10:18:10 AM | Before I answer the main topic, I must address a sub-topic that's opened up, here: To masturbate by oneself is empathically NOT an unfaithful act. It cannot be--by simple definition. It is AUTO-eroticism--it is "SELF-ish", in the most natural and healthy way possible. It has nothing to do with anyone else's needs. The equating of masturbation with cheating is the new champion idiotic concept I've encountered in these forums (and there have been some doozies!)
As for the specific act of "camming" with someone other than one's partner--yes, this CAN be "unfaithful", in the broadest sense of the term. One can be unfaithful to one's country, an ideal, oneself... or one's partner. One can be unfaithful in thought or in deed--with the latter always being a MUCH more severe betrayal than the former. Anyone who declares that a fantasy, or a simulation, of an act is as bad as the physical act, itself, needs to get his/her eyes checked--to find out why he/she cannot see shades of grey. | |
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| Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 10/28/2007 10:25:30 AM | Cheating since she did not know about it prior to activity and no agreement was made. It is not the act of masterbation which is unfaithful, it is the fact he is doing it with another person. This also is what makes it different than watching porn. However, if he were watching porn with another person and both were masturbating together- that would be cheating also.
Interestingly enough if the tables were turned and the woman was doing this to be discovered by the man- most men would totally flip out and thier egos would never recover. | |
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