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| Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 1/14/2008 12:07:17 AM | | Ok look at the word faith, as in faithful/unfaithful. If you have faith in your SO adhering to the values that you have agreed too. These will vary from relationship to relationship. Then the other person does not keep to them. For me they would then be unfaithful. It you equate unfaithful with cheating, then they would be cheating. As always it is down to communication. | |
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| Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 1/14/2008 3:51:37 AM | Msg 52, Michealann wrote
Personally, I'd NEVER put up with a guy who looks at porn (video or pics), or has cyber with other chicks. As far as masturbating goes, I know it is "supposedly normal" & for single guys, well it kind-of is like in the "it's in the past, so just ignore it" category, for me, anyway. But I would find it unacceptable in a relationship, because it clearly implies that either I am not capable of satisfying him, which is BULL$hit, or he has committment &/or intimacy issues that make him incapable of being a good partner.
I first read that to mean that she wouldn't accept a partner masturbating in her relationship, re-reading it, I think it means just that she wouldn't put up with a guy camming. Regardless, if you have a problem with your man masturbating, do you also feel obligated to take care of his needs every time he's horny? Men and women seldom have the same sexual cycle, and a little lube and kleenex goes a long way to equalize things.
If I were in a relationship, and I was online and a lady popped on and wanted to cam with me, I wouldn't feel right about it and I'd say no. But, intent counts for a lot. My ex said she'd rather I get a blowjob from a nameless whore than have an intimate conversation with a girl I knew (and once attempted to arrange a blowjob from a nameless whore for me, on my birthday). So, to the OP... if this guy really doesn't seem camming as being any different than masturbating, maybe he can get a pass for behaviour in the past. Now that his girlfriend has told him she doesn't accept it, there's no excuse for future events. | |
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| Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 1/14/2008 4:11:06 AM | I look at it this way. If he was paying $3.99 a minute or whatever then it would be porn, right? If he found one Hell of good deal (i.e. free) then what is it?
It's like that old joke about a man who asks a woman if she'd have sex with someone for a million dollars and she says yes. Then he asks her, "how about ten bucks?"
She says, "How dare you!!! What do you think I am?" He says, "What you are has already been established, my dear. Now we are simply negotiating a price!"
If he's meeting her folks for dinner I'd be p!ssed. Otherwise it's a non-issue. | |
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| Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 4/3/2008 5:19:32 PM | | Maybe he just like stroking his thang... Maybe he gets a thrill from other women watchin him stroke his thang. Maybe he is obsess with cummin. Maybe he is obsess with women. The webcam should've never been invented anyway, most people are not using them for the right purpose anyway! Webcams does prove majority of people love to be teased because it's not real sex! If you ask my opinion, webcam sex is not something a person discovers during the relationship, he/she was already doing it and now can't leave it alone. If you discover your man/girl have webcam sex, then that person has too much time on their hands. | |
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| Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 4/4/2008 3:40:54 PM | Cheating implies deception, so if you are hiding it from your partner, then yes its cheating. If they know and are OK with it, then its not.
Its funny, my ex is the one who made the rule (somewhat jokingly) that if she caught me doing anything interactive with a person, that she would 'cut it off.' I agreed that it was cheating and never had any interest nor gave her a reason to suspect I did. The irony is that she was the one who strayed, first with cyber and then in person. I guess she was lucky that I wasn't as extreme in my reaction to her cheating as she would have been! | |
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| Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 4/4/2008 4:43:20 PM | | I completely think it's cheating, and mostly because it was a hidden and lied about. Omission is betrayal, period! If it was talked about BEFORE he got caught may be it would be different. I know I'm an open person and would quite possibly join in on something like that but not after I was decieved about it. Now she'll always wonder if he's still doing it even if he said he'll stop. And is she ok with him still doing it, or is it just cause he tells her he loves her and she wants to stay together. It' not worth the stress and worry to me. I'd rather be with a partner who loves giving it to me all the time, maybe break out the webcams with eachother instead of being sneaky and hurtful. | |
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| Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 4/4/2008 5:38:49 PM | | admittedly webcam sex is only a step up from a guy jerking off to porn, but it's how it differs that pushes it into the scope of cheating...it's INTERACTIVE. sure there's no physical contact, possibly there's no intent to meet his "anonymous" partner for some real-life satisfaction, but it is a physical person with whom he is relating and interacting, a person whom he is playing off for his gratification and hers...despite the anonymity, the "sex" portion of webcam sex still applies. so just like Bill, sorry buddy, you did "have sexual relations with that woman"...and yes, it IS cheating. | |
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| Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 4/30/2008 6:38:42 PM | Anything that you do that you wouldn't want your partner to know you are doing can be considered cheating, IMO. It's not about the "physical" act, it's about the betrayal. So if you are doing something, and you wouldn't want your SO to know about it, you shouldn't be doing it.
That's the best way to know if something is considered "cheating," in my book. "Would I want my partner to walk in and catch me doing this?" If the answer is "no," then I would consider it betraying my partners trust, and therefore, cheating. | |
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| Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 4/30/2008 6:55:40 PM | | well of course it is cheating, why is even a question ?? do unto other's as you would want to done to you, Is that the way that saying goes ?? Is it true if your partner is acussing of cheating to a degree that is just way of the charts, she is probally cheating herself. I have heard this before and now I know that in my case yes she was , I refer it as a byproduct of Bipolar. oh isn't love grand. | |
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| Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 4/30/2008 10:14:14 PM | To all that say NO, need to educate themselves. Opinions or how something should be don't change the meaning. Seriously if your going to give someone advice, and or tell them right from wrong. Have the right knowledge to give.
To the OP Educate yourself, not to mention I honestly don't see why you would have to ask sure a moronic question. It's a given.( no pun intended ) but if you really don't know look up the meaning of words. Look up infidelity , marriage where the word originated from, how it had changed over the years.
A marriage is between 2 people mind ,heart and soul. Figure it out. Any disagreement to that is confusion and ignorance. ( ignorance is the lack of knowing )
If it is your GF/BF and you have issues with cheating, then you are still very confused.
This is constructive criticism. Don' let your ego get to you and turn a blind eye. | |
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