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DazzyB
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Joined: 10/9/2006
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| Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 6/4/2008 12:22:53 AM | | Fridayboo, that's NOT what I said - read my post again, slowly. I said if you are thinking of someone other than your partner during the act. I masterbated many times while I was in a relationship, but I was always thinking of the one I was with. How would you feel if your partner was touching herself up and thinking of your best friend at the time. If that didn't effect you then I guess we're different! | |
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| Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 6/4/2008 4:10:18 AM | | It's naive to think that people don't fantasize about being with other people. Masterbating is perfectly normal , it doesn't mean he is not satisfied with his sex life or something like that , it's a normal healthy behavior we tend to perceive as strange because of the way masturbation was handled by religion. I think cyber-sex will eventually be a norm and possible healthy outlet....unless of course some anal retentive people try to make it against the law as an act of adultry. (I be stroking, that's what I be doin) | |
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| Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 6/4/2008 10:31:50 AM | AGAIN, we don't want to be sidetracked here by personal insecurities, okay?
The internet is not real!
How do I explain this?
How about this:
In some states--adultery is illegal or being MADE illegal--ask a lawyer for details.
Adultery is cheating.
Thing you do online (an nowhere else) is NOT adultery.
Therefore, adultery is not cheating.
Finally, if you are going to bring up masturbation at least spell it correctly!
There is a U in mastUrbation because yoU cannot mastUrbate without yoU! | |
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| Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 6/4/2008 9:24:44 PM | | you no doubt will get different views on this, it all depends on how flexible you are in your thinking, if it were considered cheating then at the very least it's a safe way to get his charlies off..........i guess it comes with today's new technology, if he weren't there he'd be at some strip club...men do those things but some of the time it does not by any means take away his real feelings for the one he calls his #1 at home....go figure | |
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| Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 6/4/2008 10:17:26 PM | Actually, no, not everyone DID "hear" me the first time.
SOme people post without reading ANY of the previous postings.
What I have been trying to point out-respectfully or otherwise--is that you can look at a piece of white paper & say it is BLACK or any other color but white. . .BUT the paper is STILL in reality white and not black.
Webcam sex is not real. That is all I have been saying.
If the question was phrased: in your own opinion do you feel that webcam "sex" is as bad as cheating then I would say some of the responses would be appropriate/acceptable/make sense (you choose the term).
Sorry my last posting was misunderstood. | |
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| Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 6/5/2008 2:35:16 AM | | While he is doing this is he also establishing a relationship/friendship with these other women? If its annymous no biggie, but if he MSN's them and is getting to know them, meets with the same woman on line multiple times or talks to them at all, this WILL lead to more outside of the internet. | |
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| Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 6/5/2008 3:03:42 AM | Its not on. Its hard to call it cheating but it just isnt nice to know that in 'real time' ya man is gettin it on and directing another girl to act out his fantasies and to know when its happening he wants this girl and not you.
If I found out about it he'd be gone no questions asked. Intamicy should be between me and my partner and no once else. From this come trust issues etc and this is where things get sticky! I wouldnt be having it. Porn and mags and people that he cant meet are far more desirable than real filthy women on cams. Call me a prude but I think its so sad. | |
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| Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 6/5/2008 3:17:27 AM | | Its not actually cheating as such as he is not making actual physical contact with the other person but its on his mind and he is just one step away from really cheating. Its like being in a relationship and continuing to use pornography to masturbate over. He obviously isnt getting full satisfaction from his partner sexually so feels a need to top-up as it were else where. If i was her i would be very concerned as he may soon tire of cyber-sex and go looking for some real action, and maybe with some of the women hes fooling around with online. | |
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| Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 6/5/2008 9:06:21 AM | No, I don't consider it cheating. I don't get worked up about what people do over the internet. I don't think it's something that is going to make a marriage or relationship better though. If I caught my sig other doing that, rather than just 'kick her to the curb without thinking', I would be really curious as to why she felt she had to do that. What was I doing/not doing to make her want to do that? What do you get from cyber that you don't get from our relationship? I may or may not like the answer, but if I got an honest answer and ideas to improve our sexual relationship, I wouldn't just chuck her the same way I might if if I caught her in a hotel room witha dude. And then rationally decide what to do about this issue rather than flying off the handle. It is disrespectful and like I said, not necessarily a good thing, but not exactly cheating.
Someone above said that masturbating while thinking or fantasizing about others is a form of cheating. Are we all always on some great big witch hunt looking for cheaters? I think we are and it's a little excessive. I would think something was more wrong if my woman didn't think about other men now and then. Some people don't think about any specific person while masturbating. Some see yellow stripes and blue stars and red polkadots while orgasming from masturbation. Is THAT cheating on me? Give me a break! Infidelity is pretty serious. By making everything short of husband/wife missionary sex something to be punishable we are trivializing the damage done by real actual affairs! | |
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| Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 9/27/2008 12:00:36 PM | Back in the early stages of internet porn and chats, I used to be a webcam girl. (Don't judge) Guys could view me, but I never saw them. Which is probably a good thing now that I think of it. They could even call in for extra money. Anyway, quite a few times they would tell me if they left all of a sudden, would mean their wives/gf walked in and they were sorry. Then they would be right back the next day. What was I going to tell them? "Hey think of your wife and don't cum here no more". LOL I don't consider it cheating though. I even told my bf at the time that he could sign on and have sessions with the other girls that worked there. He didn't care too much for it. I only wanted their money. Men love to think they are the only one that can get you off. Even I can't get off 50 times a night. They were all "special" to me.  | |
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TBLZ
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Joined: 3/23/2008
Msg: 198 | |
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| Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 10/9/2008 9:05:37 PM | Cheating is irrelevant. I'm not big on labels; especially if you can dance around an issue with them. I like to measure things accordingly:
1/If you are sneaking around to do it...it's wrong, and you know it
2/If you would be upset if your SO walked in... "
3/If your SO would be upset if they walked in... "
4/If you would mind someone calling and telling your SO... "
5/If the shoes were reversed, and YOU would be upset finding your SO doing exactly what you are doing...it's wrong and you know it.
If you cannot be honest and comfortable with whatever it is that you are doing; it is wrong and you know it. | |
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