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| Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 10/22/2008 4:35:43 AM | | i masterbate on webcam everynight i dont see nothing at all wrong with it.. 75% of the time it is the woman im with... other 25% of the time its another woman.. well lets just say i masterbated for almost everywoman in yahoo chat to this day .. its fun.. what matters most is the BIG O and yes if u had a gf with u have her join... id fuk my gf on cam for the right price... *if i had a gf again* i cought my last one masterbating n fukin someone on cam for another couple.. | |
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| Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 10/23/2008 4:08:28 PM | Is it cheating or is it not.
The answer is who cares. If what he is doing is hurtful to his partner, then thats what really matters. I know if my girlfiend, if I had one right now were doing this, I would feel terrible and it would eat away at me constantly. So, forget about classifying it as cheating, because that is up for debate, obviously, judging from previous posts, but it IS painful and very Destructive to the relationship, which incidentally mirrors the same negative effects of cheating. He should be ashamed of himself! | |
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| Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 10/23/2008 4:29:30 PM | This is not a right or wrong type of answer....its a "depends"...why? Well its a morality answer...and it all depends on what you and your partner agree on. We can get as simple as its wrong to look at another person to its OK to get a BJ in the Oval Office since it was only oral sex and everything that falls in between. "Cheating" comes in many forms from as some people claim just thinking about another and simple flirting to flat out screwing someone else. Its all what direction your moral compass points.
A lot of people of people consider webcam sex to be harmless and not much different than watching an adult movie. And for some people watching an adult movie and masturbating is wrong. So where you choose to draw the line is something that you need to decide with your partner. If they don't agree or don't like it then a decision needs to be made.  | |
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| Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 10/23/2008 10:23:55 PM | The problem here is the question. The question is not about faithfulness. When there is pornography, or the "unreal girl" on the other end of the camera, "she" can be ANYTHING. She will do and be exactly what the bounds of the imagination tell her to be. With every thought, he controls her every move. A woman in the magazine, the woman on the screen, and the woman through the camera are the same. They are reduced to objects, and therefore, one does not have to make an effort to share, to relate, to give.
So, to get back to the question, what her BF decides to do with his life is his issue. She may express her feelings, but the fact of the matter remains, he has chosen to reduce another to an object. The question remains: Does she want to be with a man who does this or not? | |
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| Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 11/3/2008 12:02:52 AM | | I've dealt with this issue in the past myself. I feel if the b/f and g/f both know about the 3rd party on the cam, then they should be cool with it, or say their peace and figure things out whether to do it or not. If you're hiding it, then yes. I have experience because we both did it, yet when she stopped, she told me I was cheating at that point, so I stopped. Little did I know within a year, she would be "emotionally" cheating with a coworker. So when I found out, I brought up the cam ordeal. Even though she thought camming was cheating, her extra social life and interaction with this other man, while pushing me aside, in HER view was NOT cheating. Sounds to me like "good for the goose, not good for the gander" in her case. | |
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Posted: 11/3/2008 8:24:19 AM | My friend is in a funny situation and I'm curious about the responses here on this. My friend found out that her boyfriend likes to join chatrooms and have webcam sex with annoymous females where he'll jack off on one cam and the female will be naked on her cam. Since the act is not really physical, would you count that as cheating? Personally I wouldn't be really bothered until something like that gets physical, to the point where he's actually meeting women from online for sex. I mean in a sense, it's sorta like him looking at porn, only it's a live female on cam. Anyway she's upset but do you think webcam sex is really a big deal when you're in a relationship?
OP -- I've been lookin' at this post on and off for months now, purposely ignoring commentary until I was sure I knew what I wanted to say, so here goes...
Yes, I would have to consider webcam sex the same as cheating, if it was happening in my relationship. To me, this is nowhere near the consideration of just "looking at porn", as porn has zero interaction. It's a clip from a film, or the film itself, that was never written, produced or acted just for you. Porn is non descript, and very general. Unless your name is the same as the actors involved, this isn't about you at all. It's just about voyeurism. However, webcam sex IS just about you, and IS interactive. The only thing that keeps you from actually doing this for real, face to face, is nothing more than a wee little cam next to or on top of your computer.
Some have even went as far as to suggest that, if he/she has you, then there should be no reason for them to look elsewhere...but therein lies the rub now don't it? Why do you think webcam sex is so damn prevalent these days? It's because you may be with someone, but you ain't gettin' it at home, so you are inclined and almost pushed to look elsewhere. So that argument right there is invalidated as far as I'm concerned. It's a nice thought, but there's little to support it. If this is your argument, and your mate IS engaging in webcam sex, don't you think you'd have to ask yourself what the deficiency is under your own roof that they'd have to seek their pleasures elsewhere?
Webcam sex, to me, is the same as phone sex would be, or hookers. All interactive. If my partner wants to "Jill off" to porn, then go nuts. It's vague and general, and there's no interaction involved...and ZERO chance that they'll have any opportunity to turn their sessions into something more intimate while my back is turned. Webcam sex and the like, is still too personal for my tastes, and would be considered cheating, despite the fact that they may not have ever physically touched one another.
Thankfully, I've never had to contend with this scenario (as far as I know), but at least now I'd know how I'd respond if the subject did come up, so to speak. So as far as it goes with me, yes indeed, I see this as cheating and would be a significant deal breaker to me.
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| Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 11/6/2008 10:31:36 AM | This is a question that is really hard to say yes or no.
One has to define cheating first. But for the most part people do tend to think it is cheating due to the showing part.
If it hurts the other person and they are not on bored then in their eyes yes it is cheating.
If you want to look at it deeper if you fantasize about someone else while making love or having sex are you cheating now? | |
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Posted: 11/6/2008 11:12:21 AM | NOT if she lets me watch ...seriously me and my so was chatting on the net one night ...and she was approched by a guy that wanted to cam ....so i told her why not ...he was very surprised when after they played on the cam for a while ...I appeared and then we really gave him a show ...he wanted a repeat but we said no .....but we may well do it again for another person ... It satisfies the voyeur/exhibitionist in us without knowing the 3rd party ... safety in anonymity
and yes if she wants to do this when I am not there I have no problem with it ...as long as she tells me about it ...as I know she will ...if it was with someone she knew I would object ...because we have set the rules and that is against the rules | |
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| Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 11/6/2008 11:19:20 AM | | I dont think its "cheating" per se. Especially if he isnt forming any bonds or online relationships with a particular person. Now if he is e-mailing and talking on the phone personally with some of them that isnt right. I guess in my book it isnt cheating until there is sexual contact or an emotional bond forming. If he is just jackin it to various women via a web cam with no intentions to meeting or speaking to them whats the difference between that and a porn vid other than a little more personalized? Betting there is something missing in their sex life that he is doing this though so instead of her being mad she might want to look at what they are or more importantly are'nt doing to make their relationship better. | |
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| Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Posted: 2/15/2009 11:19:28 PM | Subject: Would it be cheating if your partner was having webcam sex with other people?
Message: "if you have a problem with your man masturbating, do you also feel obligated to take care of his needs every time he's horny?"
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what he said !
I do have a problem with masturbating,it would horrify me, coz in my rules i say that a man can ask me anytime anywhere.... the only time wud be for mutual or to share.... alot of men that i have chatted to doing the cam thing, not just a one off with that woman, alot do it with the same woman all the time, so to me they are building a friendship/relations.
Camming is form of porn, doesnt do anything for me to be honest!!! | |
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Posted: 2/16/2009 1:48:47 AM | anytime you are entertaining somebody something other then your partner you are cheating including porn mags ect........
with some people it is okay to f uk around
with others it is not
whatever you want with your lover
if you both get off on wanting other people whatever.....................
stay out of my bed | |
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Posted: 2/16/2009 2:56:12 AM | | Umm, yeah..That would be cheating to me...**** all that....WOW...What an issue..It'll quickly turn into something more...Gotta nip that shit in the bud before it does, or move on to somene a lil more...um..Respectful to thier partner. I wouldnt stand for THAT kinda disrespect from MY girl...Nuh Uh! | |
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Posted: 2/16/2009 1:18:56 PM | Well think of it this way if he was calling some woman on the phone and doing phone sex would you not think that would bother you? well cyber sex is the same but their seeing each other and also it could lead too them wanting too actualy be with each other.A magazine or video isn't returned its one sided when its 2 people interlateing its cheating. | |
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Posted: 2/16/2009 1:26:55 PM | I HAVE TO SAY THAAT IS IS CHEATING the reason being is a realtionship is much more than just sexual pleasure, but it's about respect, love, and honesty. that go against all the things that a relationship stands for. he doesn't have to touch any one to be cheating on her as a person and disrespecting her as a woman. he cheated, butif she is willing to forgive him she should tell him fully how she feels. | |
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Posted: 2/16/2009 1:33:27 PM | (Some have even went as far as to suggest that, if he/she has you, then there should be no reason for them to look elsewhere...but therein lies the rub now don't it? Why do you think webcam sex is so damn prevalent these days? It's because you may be with someone, but you ain't gettin' it at home, so you are inclined and almost pushed to look elsewhere. So that argument right there is invalidated as far as I'm concerned. It's a nice thought, but there's little to support it. If this is your argument, and your mate IS engaging in webcam sex, don't you think you'd have to ask yourself what the 0deficiency is under your own roof that they'd have to seek their pleasures elsewhere?)
Sorry tho I'm sure that is one of the reasons I do think that some people get online and get hooked on it and like too live out there fantasys and its too easy no fuss no mess people always want more and different then what they have there unsatisfied most time they are the ones with the problem not the spouse sleeping thinking there partner is still in bed with them while there getting there rocks off . | |
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Posted: 2/16/2009 11:33:45 PM | my husband(ex) was P A R A N O I D and crazy as a loon. i had found out 6 months into the marriage that before he was came to America and married me, he was living with a married woman in England. We used the webcam. He was such a FREAK !
When men ask me to webcam, I know that they are some type of perv. They don't want to look at my face. If it is a real friend who wants to webcam that is one thing, if it is some man
who says that he is single but can be anything, he is a perv.
I never pull out the webcam for anybody unless it is family or friends.
If my partner was camming, that would mean that he is NOT WITH ME. He is has the time and energy to check out, fantasize, focus and get off on other women then what the f uk
do I need him for?????????????? Seriously???????????He is just a waste of space in my life and has added another hole in my heart. I have had too many men say they are faithful BUT TO FIND OUT they are looking elsewhere. If a man has time to take OUT of OUR RELATIONSHIP and SEX LIFE then he can get OUT of MYBED
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