| Are you comfortable enough to be alone by yourself without feeling lonely?
Posted: 10/24/2007 9:11:49 PM | I tend to agree with what Crabstuffing said, almost. "I (almost) never feel lonely. I'm perfectly content with my situation until someone awesome comes along..."
Not sure about the panties business though. I'm not too keen on the idea of someone setting my boxers on fire.
Actually, the more I think about that, it makes me wonder, do you suppose she means just one pair, maybe even while she's wearing them? Or does she hope someone comes along and dumps her entire panty drawer out on the floor and douses them with lighter fluid or something?
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| Are you comfortable enough to be by yourself without feeling lonely?
Posted: 10/24/2007 9:14:28 PM | | Yes...being alone does not necessarily mean that one is lonely. Friends, family, work and travel keep me busy enough as it is. I really value my alone time and cannot be around someone 24/7....it drains me! LOL My s/o would have to understand that. | |
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| Are you comfortable enough to be by yourself without feeling lonely?
Posted: 10/24/2007 9:21:01 PM | I've been single for 9 years, in that time I've discovered much about myself and developed into a more complete person. I'm happy by myself and with myself. I'm not seeking a woman to make me happy, just a woman in which we will bring out the very best in us both.
I would like to share my life with "the right SO". Sharing life's adventures, its ups, downs and sexual pleasures with a person whom truly cares, will be wonderful.
:stop: :stop: :stop: :stop:
I am alone but not lonely.... Duhhh I almost forgot the OP's question. | |
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| Are you comfortable enough to be by yourself without feeling lonely?
Posted: 10/24/2007 9:49:18 PM |
Knowing how bad it can get to not be alone... is why some people remain single after the first divorce
I concur. Ten yrs. Still looking, and in no hurry, whatsoever. I would love to remarry. I'm just in no mood to ever endure what I did with my first wife.  | |
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| Are you comfortable enough to be by yourself without feeling lonely?
Posted: 10/24/2007 10:08:51 PM | Thanks Tantric...you got the meaning of the post.
As others have said, there's a difference between being alone and feeling lonely at times. And there's nothing wrong with either one of those emotions.
We all would love to have that significant other in our lives, when we're ready and find the right person.
Apparently someone here felt the need to speak for all of you, and for that I apologize. | |
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Viel
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Joined: 9/14/2007
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| Are you comfortable enough to be by yourself without feeling lonely?
Posted: 10/24/2007 10:16:37 PM | | I have been by myself for three and a half years for the first time in my life. It took a little time to get used to it,but now I really like being by myself. I am very picky now because I want someone to bring something to the table. I won't settle just to be in a relationship. I think I am a great catch though! lol! | |
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Deni30
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Joined: 5/29/2007
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| Are you comfortable enough to be by yourself without feeling lonely?
Posted: 10/24/2007 11:44:26 PM | I went thru hell. When I first became divorced..I had never lived alone. Always with parents, kids, spouse. I had to literally learn to live alone make those choices that were best for me. It was a great learning experience.
Now I am alone but I can't really say I am all that lonely.. I have a great life..
I have friends etc. I am active. I have the security of knowing I can make it on my own first and foremost and when the day comes that I will co-habitat. It will be awesome | |
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| Are you comfortable enough to be by yourself without feeling lonely?
Posted: 10/25/2007 3:14:43 AM | Being the only child, I suppose I should feel more comfortable on my own than with a company. It is true to some degree.
As a child I craved for siblings and friends and therefore I've always put friendship above all ......... ships. Life also proved to me that true friends do stay forever, unlike lovers who gravitate towards another heated up "element"  rather than resolving the differences that pop up now & then ... and over the years I realised that respecting each others interests that sometimes get us apart is nothing wrong as long as the trust, love and respect is in place.
P.S.
As for feeling lonely - wow - I'm too busy bee. | |
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| Are you comfortable enough to be by yourself without feeling lonely?
Posted: 10/25/2007 5:07:10 AM | I do alright. I mean i'm still me, and still do what i like to do.
New movies, music, books...Things i've always enjoyed. I try to stay on top of my interests, and i guess I feel those little pangs of lonliness when i don't have anyone to share that new album with, or watch a pile of dvd's with.
I guess i've gotten a little selfish with my privacy, but if you can't stand your own company, how is anyone else ever going to? | |
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| Are you comfortable enough to be by yourself without feeling lonely?
Posted: 10/25/2007 5:29:38 AM | hmmm....around ALL the time?
ewww...that can't be good
I was married, with three children...more than half of my lifetime.
By nature, i am a human who needs a lot of time alone for creative pursuits
although there is exquisite comfort in being in a relationship...one must balance that with plenty of alone self nourishment time. I guess that is why i prefer being 'happily unmarried"
oh...can i pet your horsey?
see, when you are single and alone, you can say dumb things like that and nobody really gets all wadded up. haha
peace today
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| Are you comfortable enough to be by yourself without feeling lonely?
Posted: 10/25/2007 5:41:46 AM | I had this discussion recently with my sister.... our mom had been concerned about my being lonely, as my mom has been very lonely since my father passed a few years ago. As I told them both... I live a very full life... by and large, I do what I want when I want.... and even though I don't have a partner, I am open to it happening..... I am just not sitting around and waiting for it to happen. I am not about to settle, I want someone I can be with and yet not feel like my space is being invaded.... if I never find such a life partner, I can live with that...... I love my own company, and I would much rather be alone than with the wrong person... but, nope, not feeling lonely.
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| Are you comfortable enough to be by yourself without feeling lonely?
Posted: 10/25/2007 6:02:11 AM | | Being divorced with kids it's pretty rare that I have any time alone so I value it but if it lasts more than a day or 2 I start to feel kind of lost. It makes me a little fearful of the whole empty nest thing that will be upon me in a few more years. I like to think that I've learned the difference between being alone and being lonely. I'll have more time to do whatever I want to do without having to consider the kids or kid-related errands. It'll be a good thing. Right? Yeah... uhm... I'm sure that's right. | |
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| Are you comfortable enough to be by yourself without feeling lonely?
Posted: 10/25/2007 6:06:40 AM | My youngest son (17) and I were having a bit of an argument and he said to me 'dad, you're just a lonely guy' - which I didn't respond to. I'm not a lonely guy, I'm an alone guy. I enjoy my own company and actually feel an urge that says 'I vont to be alone' when I've been relating to people all day.
I've been celibate for 14 years now and probably have a bout of loneliness for about 10 minutes every 6 months and even then it's only faint. WhenI was married to someone who didn't love me I felt intensely lonely - nothing worse than laying in bed next to someone for years knowing they're indifferent to whether or not you leave while you're working your backside off to keep them.
Since living alone I've lost all my bad habits (no-one tells me I snore any more) ; my mind's my own and I enjoy my life. Apparently you can get too used to a good thing. I didn't relish the thought of 'freedom' when my ex's behaviour drove me to leave but once I was forced out there I decided if I didn't learn to enjoy my alone life if would make me vulnerable to the wrong kind of relationships.
I'm in the position now that when Ms Right comes along I'll have to sacrifice my precious aloneness rather than get rid of it as quick as possible. | |
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| Are you comfortable enough to be by yourself without feeling lonely?
Posted: 10/25/2007 6:57:47 AM | Just as others have answered positively, so do I. I'm very comfortable being on my own and not in a relationship. I've been lonely while in a relationship and I've been lonely while being single; being lonely on occasion is normal and not something I find to be worrisome.
I dwell more on what's "right" about my life and I'm grateful for these things. Instead of wishing to meet Mr. Right or for specifics, I tend to concentrate more on being open to what's best for me; should that include being single the rest of my life or meeting the right man when I'm 67, then so be it. I'm content with what I have (materialistically), I'm at peace within, and I'm healthy; I'm happy. I'm open to what life has to offer and I'm willing to share what life has given me. | |
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| Are you comfortable enough to be by yourself without feeling lonely?
Posted: 10/25/2007 7:02:26 AM | There are times when I personally like my own space, without feeling lonely. But after a while you do miss your partner and want to be with them.
It's difficult to say for me one way or another, but everyone needs there own space and if your happy and comfortable with it then so be it!!
I'm at work now but need a hug!! :) | |
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| Are you comfortable enough to be by yourself without feeling lonely?
Posted: 10/25/2007 7:12:50 AM | | At this point in my life I'd prefer to have "The One" in my life but I'm in no real hurry and I'm just fine being alone without being lonely. I feel it's very important to be happy with yourself. If you don't enjoy your own company, how can you expect other's to. My "ex" needed to be with somebody. After her and I split she made quite a mess of her life because of that. Fell in love with another woman's hubby, a nice little love triangle they have going for themselves. I've seen both sides of the fence and I'm VERY glad that I can be happy with my own company. I want somebody in my life, I don't need to have that person. The need comes after I have them. | |
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daisie
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Joined: 9/22/2004
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| Are you comfortable enough to be by yourself without feeling lonely?
Posted: 10/25/2007 7:23:01 AM | OMG yessssssss....Ive been alone a long long long time. but I cannot remember the last time i felt LONELY. man that must have been about 20 years ago!!!
I dont need a significant other to be at peace, happy. In fact I ADORE many parts about being alone.
Im not looking for an SO....but i am very open to the right man if i happen to stumble across him. I dont NEED an SO.....but having an SO is a wonderfully fantastic thing which i also adore! so when i meet Mr Pretty Damn Incredible, i will cherish him and appreciate him and enjoy the time with him very much. but gotta tell ya....I do nt want him hanging around all day every day....day in and day out. nope. He can hang around a lot.....but not 24/7.......well.......wow.....that would be waay distant future. cant even imagine that right now!!!
I LOVE the men I love......I love them mucho!!!
and I also LOVE meeeeeeeee!!!
and there is a time for everything....a time for solitude is often underappreciated
merry xmas to me
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