| Are you comfortable enough to be by yourself without feeling lonely?
Posted: 10/25/2007 7:29:02 AM | This is the first time I’ve ever “lived” alone but .... I have always been more of a loaner.
I fully realize that having a huge circle of friends is *suppose* to mean that everyone likes you and you are well rounded yadda yadda yadda. The fact is - I could have 25 male friends in the next week if I wanted to - and 5 girl friends lol.
I’ve never been like that. Even when I was young. I never ran around much with other guys. Their big deal was “go out drinking” and looking/acting stupid around females.
I let them go drinking - belching - laughing at each other’s farts ........ and I was out on my own looking for my next gf if I did not already have a gf. When I did have a gf we usually stuck together for a good while. She was always the center of my focus.
Even now - I don’t run around with “the guys” they STILL act stupid around females. I just don’t want any part of being associated with some guy my age hOOting at a 20 year old female.
Anyway - I got married at 23 years old and two longish marriage later .......... as Celine would sing “All By Myself”.
My parents and my wife were always my best friends.
Other than two step daughters (both educated and married - one of them is actually a close friend) it is me and my dog - and a new kitten that ....... well I think his secret wish is - to keep my hands bloody all the time lol.
My final answer is - it would be nice to have a special gal but ......... I am fine either way. | |
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| Are you comfortable enough to be by yourself without feeling lonely?
Posted: 10/25/2007 9:28:52 AM | | In a way, I was accustomed to spending a fair amount of time alone. I was the youngest of 3 kids and there was a big age difference in them and me. So, I learned as a child how to entertain myself. When I was married, my spouse was away from home alot, either working an opposite shift from me or out of town for his job, so I was alone during marriage too. Now, it's really not such a big deal. There are times when I'd enjoy having someone significant in my life to do things with or just enjoy a good conversation or a cup of coffee out on the front porch, but I've learned to be comfortable with myself. I have my animals and they are a source of companionship, but it's not the same as a human. At this point in my life, I doubt I'd be very good an working at a relationship so it's good that I'm comfortable being by myself. | |
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Savona
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| Are you comfortable enough to be by yourself without feeling lonely?
Posted: 10/25/2007 9:41:48 AM | Are you comfortable enough to be by yourself without feeling lonely?
OP, thank you so much for the invitation ...
I think it can be a two edged sword that question. Without feeling lonely or without ever feeling lonely is the question that first came to mind ....
Can I be by myself without feeling lonely, yes ... but not always. Sunday mornings, that day took me years to not feel lonely ... sometimes I still remember how great Sundays use to feel and it can still be hard to get out of bed.
I am comfortable enough to be by myself to go out. Especially if I am south as everyone there is from somewhere else just like me. However if I went to a finer dinner style of restaurant sat and ate I think I would feel lonely there, and probably uncomfortable also.
I have been on my own now for 7 years and 7 years ago I thought I would be alone for say all of three months ... I could not be alone then without feeling very lonely. Now if I am with someone more than a few days in a row I begin to feel lonely to be by myself. I wonder what that means?
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| Are you comfortable enough to be by yourself without feeling lonely?
Posted: 10/25/2007 1:17:54 PM | | Yes, I am happy in my own little world although at this time it does need a little expanded. Which why I am changing my location. I have been alone for the past year, most of the time completely by myself except for my dogs. The only time I feel lonely is when I am in crowds..like going to the mall, which is rare, or to bar, which is almost never. I also still want and think about finding the love of my life, but never at the cost of who I am. | |
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| Are you comfortable enough to be by yourself without feeling lonely?
Posted: 10/25/2007 1:50:25 PM | Iv been single for the past 7 years with a few relationships in between ,Iv come to enjoy having my own life, only me to answer to and all the other benefits that come with it...... not to say that if someone special came along my thinking may change.
But as far as living with someone or remarrying I doubt if Id go that route again ,just dont seem to get that lonely too often | |
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| Are you comfortable enough to be by yourself without feeling lonely?
Posted: 10/25/2007 3:19:22 PM | I feel the same. Sometimes I like being single, and other days I wish I had someone there for me.
Its getting pretty stressful now to be honest. >_< I'm getting to that part in life where I would love to know that someone is waiting to hold me and misses me at the end of the day. | |
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| Are you comfortable enough to be by yourself without feeling lonely?
Posted: 10/25/2007 3:33:57 PM | onmyown4 I agree with you. I'm not sure I could live with someone again, I'd like to think I could for the right person. But I honestly don't know. I honestly think I've gotten too set in my ways, but time will tell I guess.
I work a lot in a job I love, travel for work often even overseas. When I'm home I don't mind at all being by myself. I need a lot of "me" time and I always have. Many times being home alone is all the quiet I get. Now when I'm eligible to retire in 2.3 years and I don't have all the commotion and all people I may feel differently. In 2.3 years I'll know for certain. | |
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| Are you comfortable enough to be by yourself without feeling lonely?
Posted: 10/25/2007 3:48:53 PM | at the start it was hard ,but i got used to it and enjoy it now , i,m quite comfortable been on my own and being my own person
,i only get lonely when i go out with the married group as i,m usually the only single person there ,then its hard and you know those xmas nights and new year can be a ball breaker
my time on my own i love and cherish but am more than willing to share it | |
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| Are you comfortable enough to be by yourself without feeling lonely?
Posted: 10/25/2007 4:34:28 PM | | That is an interesting question. And I would have to say, yes. I am comfortable enough to be by myself. Afterall, I've been by myself for a while now. And I've gotten quite used to me. lol. Now, just because I'm comfortable with that doesn't mean that I don't ever feel lonely. I do at times. But I'm not desperate to find someone. When you're desperate then you'll go for anything and could wind up with someone totally wrong for you. Sure I would like to find someone, though not for the reason of keeping those lonely feelings at bay. But only because she is the right one for me. | |
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| Are you comfortable enough to be by yourself without feeling lonely?
Posted: 10/25/2007 4:37:27 PM | I must be enjoyable company, I talk to the variety of wild birds in my front yard jungle, I have a some blue tongue lizards and bandicoots who like me.
Of course I miss female company. I miss having that very special female beside me. BUT I don't go to clubs or pubs or go dancing or sit in coffee lounges. I have a fear I may meet someone as lonely as I . That could be a disaster--FUN FOR AWHILE!
I guess I am a selfish dreamer, waiting for "Miss Right" to read my profile, look at my pic, sigh and say: "You are just like my idol Maxwell Smart--the type of man I have always wanted--OHHHH FRANCOIS!" MMMMMMMMMMMMMM!
OOOOOOPS! I have gone to sleep at the computer again. "Sorry about that!"
Regards Francois | |
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| Are you comfortable enough to be by yourself without feeling lonely?
Posted: 10/25/2007 5:16:43 PM | | I love being alone. I'm never lonely because I have other people around me and have lots of hobbies and work, etc. I find it actually really great to be alone because I can do whatever I want to do whenever I want to do it and I don't have to worry about someone else getting shitty or whining. I'm in no hurry to get tangled up again. | |
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| Are you comfortable enough to be by yourself without feeling lonely?
Posted: 10/25/2007 5:25:30 PM | I am just fine being alone. I know myself and what is more important is that I like myself.
If you can't handle being alone maybe it is the company you keep that is what needs worked on. Yep that means you.
There is also the deal that if you don't like yourself why should anyone else.
If you aren't comfortable being by yourself then you aren't ready for a relationship. If you don't even want to spend time with yourself why would someone else. | |
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| Are you comfortable enough to be by yourself without feeling lonely?
Posted: 10/25/2007 8:22:27 PM | How do you feel about being alone - and not having a significant other in your life - around all the time?
I've always found it to be pretty stress free. I can live my life my way, and on a whim if I want to with the exception of the obligation of work (and that's enough obligation, frankly). I like it. I never feel lonely...if I feel like being around people, I know where to find them. I am never bored for that matter either, always 10 things I can be doing. If nothing's going on, it's basically laziness on my part and it's planned.
I love my alone time, and need my space. If I can't have it within a relationship I go nuts...and I cherish it when I am not in one. | |
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