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| Are you comfortable enough to be by yourself without feeling lonely?
Posted: 10/26/2007 11:23:18 PM | Think I am still feeling the "fallout" from a broken realtionship....but I hate being alone. I want someone to hold hands with, someone to hold when I go to bed at night.
Some space is ok....but dammmit, I think we were made to have a partner! | |
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| Are you comfortable enough to be by yourself without feeling lonely?
Posted: 10/26/2007 11:34:59 PM | | Absolutely. You can be as lonely within a relationship as without it. I never, ever get lonely. Having the dog probably helps! But I do occasionally feel 'alone'. Mainly at high times and low times. You know - when you just want to share something good or bad or if you have a major decision to make. | |
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| Are you comfortable enough to be alone by yourself without feeling lonely?
Posted: 10/27/2007 12:42:40 AM | I might be too comfortable with it. My BFF always says, about men & me, "she wants one until she gets one".
After my last breakup finally was over ( 6 years, volatile, took over a year to be done), my first thought was, "yay, I get the whole bed".
You know those threads about, "Could you just have a boyfriend forever, different houses, separate lives"? Yep, I could & would. | |
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| Are you comfortable enough to be alone by yourself without feeling lonely?
Posted: 10/27/2007 12:54:39 AM | | Suppose we took it out of the context of romantic relationships for a moment - is the answer the same? If so is it coming from the same place ultimately? We got this kid (by that I mean he's in his 20's) at work who's basically kind of a friendship whore. Okay, a nicer and more informative way of describing it would be there's probably developmental issues socially speaking. Anyway he basically just tries too hard. It's almost like people go through withdrawals or something, but I gotta say some alone time, not just from the opposite sex but from people in general can be quite enjoyable - a little peace and quiet for a change. | |
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| Are you comfortable enough to be by yourself without feeling lonely?
Posted: 10/27/2007 3:05:46 AM | I hated being alone so much, for about 2 years after my marriage ended. Then had a short term relationship with some one always around. Drove me nuts to be honest.
Realized while yes, I prefer to share life with someone, the only thing worse than being alone is being stuck with someone when you want to be alone! I think that is an indication of love maybe, you can like someone and want them to go home, lol, But maybe love, you want them there all the time.
I do know one thing, I enjoy being single now, not enough though to stay this way for life. There are certain times I feel lonely, but probably felt more lonely when I was married believe it or not. Wrong person with you, is worse than just being by your self.
Kind of like the old Three Dog Night song," one is the lonliest , two can be as bad as one" . | |
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| Are you comfortable enough to be by yourself without feeling lonely?
Posted: 10/27/2007 5:09:46 AM | | I am totally comfortable being alone, I have moments when I don't but it's usually cause I have been doing TOO much alone. rofl.. but lonely. Rarely. It wasn't always that way. And I don't think it's a age thing. It has to do with how comfortable with yourself, and partially your upbringing and what you are use to. I was raised on a large farm, until I was six or seven, the only 'human' friends I had, were my male cousins and that was only when they came to visit or we went to visit them. So it was more of a entertain myself or be bored, which just leads back to entertain yourself rofl.. | |
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| Are you comfortable enough to be by yourself without feeling lonely?
Posted: 10/27/2007 5:17:33 AM | | I don't think this is an either or question. I am very comfortable with who I am, my values, my morals, my sense of humor, my people skills, my hobbies, etc....but that doesn't mean that there aren't times I get lonely wanting someone to touch, to laugh WITH, to work WITH to share life WITH. | |
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| Are you comfortable enough to be by yourself without feeling lonely?
Posted: 10/27/2007 5:20:43 AM | | I think I'm a closet loner... I seem like I am loving the single life but it really effects me when friends are doing "couples" things. I want that soo bad just to have someone to stay in with and watch a movie or whatever... but I'm the single guy who works too much and has no luck with finding just a normal sweet girl to be with. I didn't picture being 26 and single and not even anything on the horizon, its getting kinda scary I'm four years away from 30, and I assumed I would be the family guy by 30 but its not looking good... so if you can avoid it do be a loner. Because as comfortable with myself that I am it sucks not having a special someone to love and care for. | |
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| Are you comfortable enough to be by yourself without feeling lonely?
Posted: 10/27/2007 5:24:00 AM | | I'm comfortable on my own, and happy to be single, although occasionally I do miss having a man around to share things with, but I wouldn't call that being lonely. I've always got my son to talk to, or I can come on the forums and chat to other people. I think it's easier to be happy being single in modern society. In the days before computers people were much more likely to feel cut off or iscolated. I think the worse time for those feelings of loneliness to creep in (certainly in the UK) are at christmas, especially if you don't have a family, or any means of communicating with other people. | |
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| Are you comfortable enough to be by yourself without feeling lonely?
Posted: 10/27/2007 6:08:13 AM | | I'm a very happy single women. Being divorced for almost five years after being married for 13, it took me awhile to be comfortable being alone. I have my teenage boys to talk to or do things with, single dances or dinners. I do get lonely around Christmas when I don't have my kids on Christmas Day. | |
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| Are you comfortable enough to be alone by yourself without feeling lonely?
Posted: 10/27/2007 6:09:24 AM | You know those threads about, "Could you just have a boyfriend forever, different houses, separate lives"? Yep, I could & would.
I also appreciate time away from other people in general.
And I'm more like likely to crave the company of friends & family at the end of that time, than a boyfriend.
Me too girl, me too. | |
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| Are you comfortable enough to be alone by yourself without feeling lonely?
Posted: 10/27/2007 7:16:04 AM | When I was married (14 years) one of my biggest regrets was never living on my own. I went from Mom's house to being married. Now I have been on my own for a little over four years and I. LOVE. IT. That is not to say that I wouldn't like to have a significant other again. However, there is a certain undeniable pleasure in knowing if I want to come home from a long day at work and have wine and cheese while having a bubble bath and not having to explain this to anyone, well that feeling is priceless. | |
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| Are you comfortable enough to be alone by yourself without feeling lonely?
Posted: 10/27/2007 7:38:27 AM | | I've been divorced for 20 years, raised my kids on my own. I was totally comfortable with being by myself. I had lots of friends and that made the difference I think. But now my kids are grown and on their own. I now know what "empty nest syndrome" is. So now the alone time is beginning to drive me crazy even with all my friends. So I think alot of it depends on the situation your in at the time. I would like to find a significant other but on the other hand I'm not gonna jump into a relationship with the first one that comes along either. Funny how things in life change. | |
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| Are you comfortable enough to be by yourself without feeling lonely?
Posted: 10/27/2007 8:06:40 AM | | I was married for twenty years and divorced for three now. I say I want a ltr, but I sometimes fear I like my freedom too much. I guess it means I haven't found the man I want to settle in with. So yes, I prefer being alone to being mismatched and I think I am ok about being alone and not lonely. | |
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| Are you comfortable enough to be by yourself without feeling lonely?
Posted: 10/27/2007 12:36:35 PM | Thank you all for sharing your thoughts and feelings! Sometimes these Forums can be enlightening and one can learn from them.
I just came back from the Museum of Contemporary Art (I live in Chicago) and they had a very cool exhibit - Sympathy for the Devil - Rock and Roll since 1967.
Lo and behold...I met a man walking the exhibit alone as well...a very nice, man at that, we grabbed lunch and talked for 2 hours. Have a date next weekend.
Who said being alone can be lonely! 
Keep posting everyone and enjoy the forums! | |
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