| Are you comfortable enough to be by yourself without feeling lonely?
Posted: 10/27/2007 12:49:05 PM | Why, yes he is Leisure..he has 2 wifes and 14 kids that he's bringing with. (KIDDING!) Friend of yours?
Sheeshh, that's the 2nd negative post from you. I let the first one slide but really, if you're going to be a wet blanket - please don't ruin it for those of us who choose to share in the Forum.
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| Are you comfortable enough to be by yourself without feeling lonely?
Posted: 10/27/2007 4:41:16 PM | My best friend has always had to have a man in her life. It goes without saying that she hadn't always been happy, but she hasn't been alone. For her it is have a man or go out like the rest of us and get a full time job.
I tend to be a loner, always have been. I have friends, interact with a tremendous amount of people everyday, and enjoy "me" time at the end of the day.
One of you said it is hard on you when your couples are doing couple things. Friday nights can be a bit hard, but what's the alternative.
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| Are you comfortable enough to be by yourself without feeling lonely?
Posted: 10/27/2007 4:46:13 PM | mSg 101: He's always like that. It's part of his charm. You know, that gruff exterior, sensitive,vulnerable, wounded guy on the inside? That's what he's going for, I think.
Have a great time on your date. It's nice that people can still get together the old-fashioned way. | |
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| Are you comfortable enough to be by yourself without feeling lonely?
Posted: 12/3/2007 9:36:31 PM | | I miss a woman's touch but am not ready for a permanent relationship. It's too soon since the passing of a long term partner and frankly I am thinking I might be single for the rest of my life. I hope to have relationships but I don't think I will marry. I am fine by myself but I do enjoy company. I don't *need* to be in a relationship, but intimate friendships are healthy, in my opinion. | |
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| Are you comfortable enough to be by yourself without feeling lonely?
Posted: 12/3/2007 9:40:13 PM | Yes ,and i do believe that the older you get the more at ease you are with who you are. You can be alone without being lonely, at peace with ones self. I look in the mirror and say " i like myself" . It is very nice to spend time with someone else ,but you need your time as well. t.r.7 | |
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| Are you comfortable enough to be by yourself without feeling lonely?
Posted: 12/3/2007 9:42:49 PM | I could be comfortable...just because your not married or living with someone doesnt mean you cant be happy or date. This one definately borders on the type of person you are..I mean someone that cant take care of theirself or always had depended on the opposite sex would be the "needy" person who needs to be attached, sad thing is those type of people usually get attached for all the wrong reasons and divorce repeats.
In the past few years I've learned I can take care of myself ..amazing what one can learn to do when they are the only one around to do it. Do I want to stay alone..no definately not, but Im not rushing into anything just to be "attached" so Im not lonely...with 5 kids I'll never be lonely : | |
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| Are you comfortable enough to be by yourself without feeling lonely?
Posted: 12/3/2007 9:44:45 PM | "Are you comfortable enough to be by yourself without feeling lonely?"
Yes, I do not feel lonely, I only feel starved for intellectual food for thought and romance (in one). It is difficult to find that rare combination in a woman (not into men).
"How do you feel about being alone - and not having a significant other in your life - around all the time?"
Around all the time? Good! Free. Humans are not shoes or ears or eyes, ie they do not come in pairs. One likes champagne or wine but does not drink it 7/24! | |
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| Are you comfortable enough to be by yourself without feeling lonely?
Posted: 12/3/2007 10:16:45 PM | | I don't feel I need a relationship to be happy (those who feel that way I think have a lot more growing up to do first!). I love being able to just live my life the way I please and not having to always pander to someone else's desires when I may not be in the zone for it. Then again, I adore having that man to snuggle up to, or if apart, call before bed to exchange how the day went and whisper sweet nothings, and of course it's nice to have a man to do fun stuff with ;). So, I'm here because it is another venue that might bring that perfect person for me into my life, but if I happen to meet some friends along the way and stay single my life will still be good. Feeling lonely? I think there are always moments when that thought might stray through the mind, for me those moments are rather short and easily alleviated by a piece of chocolate ;) teehee | |
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| Are you comfortable enough to be by yourself without feeling lonely?
Posted: 12/3/2007 10:58:03 PM | I have pretty much been on my own since my daughter was born (um actually since i was 8 weeks pregnant) so um i would say just over 4 yrs i been kinda on my own. Had a bf (thought he was the one, more fool me, just another user instead) and i kinda like my life this way, things are done my way don't have to argue with anyone about anything - if i want something i buy it - wanna go somewhere i go - wanna eat watever i want i do - drink whenever and with whomever. So long as my daughter has wat she needs, safe and secure - my life is my own and yea it is good. Don't rely on no-one and no depending on anyone. Do i miss not having someone there all the time - ah no. Besides - i'm a gemini and i been told that even when i'm alone i'm in mixd company  | |
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| Are you comfortable enough to be by yourself without feeling lonely?
Posted: 12/4/2007 3:05:42 AM | I am comfortable being alone most of the time and I do enjoy having the time to do the things I like to do. However, I still think that there is nothing greater than have a "special" someone in your life to share time with. That doesn't mean 24/7; but I sure the touch of that other person, the great conversations that are somehow different than the one you have with your friends, the feel and sounds of intimacy that you don't share with everybody else, the spontaneous hugs and kisses, holding hands and feeling the connection...those special things that you do together.
I also value the time that I spend with friends. I moved here not long ago and have most recently been meeting more people in my community and have made several new friends. We do enjoy going out to eat, maybe to a movie or, more recently, going to a lecture series.
There are times when I j need that peace, quiet and space of being alone. I like being able to curl up on the sofa in front of the fire with a good book and without any interruptions. I like the idea of being able to eat what I want and when I want as well as all those other things that you do when you live by yourself.
Do I want to be alone forever...I don't think so...I miss the human interaction with that special someone that is on a more intimate (not just sexual) level than I share with friends...but I will not just settle for the sake of not being alone. | |
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| Are you comfortable enough to be by yourself without feeling lonely?
Posted: 12/8/2007 11:58:59 AM | Once again, thank you all for sharing!
My ex and I are really good friends...we hang out once in awhile. Today he REALLY wanted me to come over and I said no. He called 3x and I finally told him I just wanted to be alone today...he went MENTAL on me! I was like OMG, I just want a day to myself after a long ass week and not have to do or go anywhere (ok, I love to cook and he loves my cooking but an ordered in za was more on my agenda - at my house).
I told him to come over here but he told me he wanted sex, I couldn't smoke and he wanted me to make him his favorite meal.
UM NO!! My house, My rules. I don't want to have sex with you, I smoke and I don't feel like cooking.
I'm comfortable saying no, hunkering down in my warm jammies and watching bad movies with a pizza I'm having delivered without taking care of your butt!
Love ya, but I'm happy alone today!
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| Are you comfortable enough to be by yourself without feeling lonely?
Posted: 12/8/2007 12:36:30 PM | I've been married, have a son, stayed single for many yrs. b4 I even tried to date anyone after my divorce, never felt "lonely"and definitely enjoy my "freedom", I date from time to time, I also like my space, never been the co-dependant type (maybe it's an "only-child" thing) and I actually enjoy my alone time, I do realize this doesn't work for some others, I know quite a few people who would put up w/"anyone" just to have someone around. | |
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| Are you comfortable enough to be by yourself without feeling lonely?
Posted: 12/8/2007 12:50:00 PM | | 42 never been married and no little ones... I have 7 sisters, all but one hasn't married yet. Do I like my "alone time"? OH YEAH!!! It probably has alot to do with growing up in a big family, and being the extremely shy one. I have had a couple of stalkers in my life, but I'm pretty good at hidding myself.....for as long as it takes....lol | |
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| Are you comfortable enough to be by yourself without feeling lonely?
Posted: 12/8/2007 1:31:17 PM | | I think it depends a lot on what emotions the idea of a relationship triggers. I have always been comfortable alone and usually after a relationship has ended, being alone, being single again, has been a huge relief. The most uncomfortable thing about being single for me was the fear I felt at knowing that I would, inevitably, fall in love again and the dread of finding myself in another relationship having to deal with the expectations of another person. I feel so very fortunate to be in love with a an who gives me space to be anything I will be and loves me for everything I am. I would never have imagined anyone could accept me and so being alone only meant that there was no-one who was particularly disappointed with parts of me and that I could be me freely. | |
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| Are you comfortable enough to be by yourself without feeling lonely?
Posted: 12/8/2007 2:37:06 PM | I have no problem being single, and I think that's a little dangerous.
I'm good at being single and on my own. To the point I've gotten complacent in searching. And that's a problem because im 29, time is against me. Ya'll might be content with your "me time". But I see it as the easier it gets to be single, the easier to gets to not look/need a relationship.
I want to get married, have a child et al. And by being comfortable with single hood will not get me where I want to be. Being happy alone makes me lazy as far as finding the right one. | |
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| Are you comfortable enough to be by yourself without feeling lonely?
Posted: 12/11/2007 8:06:37 AM | | Like the OP, I'm also 43 and never married. I haven't had anything resembling a relationship in 9 years. I am perfectly ok by myself if "she" never comes along. I have a complete life; a partner/SigOther would just add some frosting to the cake. | |
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| Are you comfortable enough to be by yourself without feeling lonely?
Posted: 12/11/2007 8:27:44 AM | Almost 46...never been married...no kids...no stress nor strain on the psyche...
No pressures concerning pediatricians, Playstation titles, and someone lying next to me, complaining about being unfullfilled...and having two closets full of "Nothing to Wear"...
Now what do YOU think? | |
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| Are you comfortable enough to be by yourself without feeling lonely?
Posted: 12/11/2007 9:54:06 AM | | [ego] I'm very comfortable being by myself, I enjoy having lots of alone time. I have a very active mind and an intense imagination and I keep myself entertained quite nicely. The thing is, though, that I feel a bit selfish keeping it all to myself. So I go out plenty to spend time with other people. What good is a talent if it isn't shared? I sort of feel that it's my duty to meet new people and share the love. After all, with great power comes great responsibility! [/ego] | |
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| Are you comfortable enough to be by yourself without feeling lonely?
Posted: 12/11/2007 10:09:46 AM | I actually just got out of a 14 yr. relationship and quite enjoy the single life and just having the freedom to do what i please. I don't miss the ex and wish i had done it sooner, i have 3 kids so i guess i wasn't ready at that time to make a change.
Im meeting new people and feel i am one of those people who are meant to be single. My ex let himself go, forgot what manners are for and just took me for granted and when i left can't seem to understand why.
I don't want someone around all the time and if i do choose to have someone with me i get to send them home. | |
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