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Posted: 10/27/2007 10:23:24 AM | ...at this club... everyone had glowsticks...gave each other massages...and drank ALOT of water while dancing till the sun came up...
Like I said...it was a while ago!
As for the OP, I agree with the Wingman advice...never fly alone! | |
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Posted: 10/27/2007 10:28:35 AM |
.at this club... everyone had glowsticks...gave each other massages...and drank ALOT of water while dancing till the sun came up...
oh one of those clubs.... Party in my head | |
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Posted: 10/27/2007 2:57:25 PM | Just a question. If a guy does that to a girl, do you call them a pop-up blocker? :)
There's not much you CAN do in that situation. Women like that are either doing it at the request of their friend or are doing it out of spite. Usually we women do look out for each other ( you know, come up and ask if they're okay or whatnot) but the fact that she didn't speak up for herself speaks volumes.
If the friend is one of those spiteful "If I'm not happy, I don't want anyone else to be happy" types of girls, the friend might have gotten embarrassed at her friend's behavior. It's happened to me.... I couldn't even speak to him (still can't) because I was so humiliated. | |
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Posted: 10/27/2007 3:04:04 PM | Girl number 1 really wasn't that into you or she'd have made sure you knew how to reach her later by giving you her number.
They "may" have been working a drink thing. Talk to a guy and if he's into one of you, he'll buy you both a drink. I mean, it's really never a good idea to buy "one" girl in the group a drink on GNO and most men know that. If that's the case, you dodged that bullet.
Or if you truly think she WAS into you, then you need to have a card handy to give to the girl before teh C*nt blocker gets in the way.
BTW, the only time I've seen this actually happen is when the girl doing the flirting is beyond buzzed and her friend is truly looking out for her. I wouldn't call what happened to you a C block. | |
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Posted: 10/27/2007 4:08:25 PM | My observation of you is a culmination of all your posts that I have read. They reek of sexual frustration.
True.
I'm a human being. A male at that. Why should I be the chump not getting anything?
To me, it appears you are chagrined by the need to acquaint yourself with a woman and wish society operated like a brothel. You walk in, pick someone and find somewhere quiet. Instead of relationships , monogamy and commitment you prefer regular sex fests.
False.
But I don't need any roadblocks either.
I just wanted to say, asking to hide that punishes my honesty. It encourages deceitful behavior. And that's why you get women asking "Why did he pretend to be something else if he was just looking for sex?? Why couldn't he just be honest?" I AM being honest! It seems to me that it would be more rewarding to lie. And I'm beginning to think that honesty can't be seen, so why bother?
I want a real committed relationship. That's no secret. I want to be a pervert. That's no secret either. Can I not be both at the same time? Can't I go after both at the same time? Does it have to be so polarized? In this case, I was very polite...and I usually am.
But here I am, only looking for one thing. And that's frustrating. How SHOULD I act? If I act polite, I'm only out for one thing because I must be lying. If I act like a pervert, it's obvious I'm only out for sex. That is frustrating.
How am I supposed to have confidence in myself, if others can't be confident in me? This stuff doesn't grow on the magical confidence tree you know!
I don't know. I've never had anyone teach me how this is supposed to work. I'm just making it up as I go along. Go with your heart is all I know....and it's frustrating that it can't be seen.
But, it's ok. I'm good with names. And I remember hers. Maybe we'll cross paths again, and maybe then, she won't have her protection around.  | |
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Posted: 10/27/2007 4:36:24 PM |
Also, violence is attractive to Southern women, and country music fans, so you might even get a few extra numbers out of the deal.
So THAT'S what I've been doing wrong??????? I should be looking for someone to beat me up!! NOW someone tells me! | |
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Posted: 10/27/2007 8:38:56 PM |
Can I not be both at the same time? Can't I go after both at the same time?
Yes you can, and most women do as well. It's just not always PC to admit it.
But seriously...stop thinking of her friend as protection. If she was indeed very attracted to you, her friend would have helped her (rather than hindered her) in ensuring that you'd be in touch again. | |
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Posted: 10/27/2007 9:44:41 PM |
Yes you can, and most women do as well. It's just not always PC to admit it.
Well thank SOMEONE for that!
I think of her friend as an annoying obstacle in the way that needs to be eliminated so that I may be successful. If she wasn't interested, I'd rather hear it from her mouth. And I'd rather at least have the TIME to present myself which I didn't feel I had the chance to do. What was actually said between the two of them, I have no idea.
Judge me if I'm likable or not AFTER I get the chance to prove it at least! And if SHE can't do it herself, I'll say it again. I think it's dispicable behavior, and I won't stand for it being justified. And in that case, if she's too much of a weak willed person herself, good riddance. Although I really do hate seeing such a beautiful woman have such a wasted personality like that. Although I appreciate it being explained, for better understanding. | |
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Posted: 10/27/2007 9:56:45 PM | | Nothing really to analyze here. If her lez friend needs to hurriedly scoop her up and whisk her away every time she mets a man, then those two are lesbians. As one user suggested, you didged a bullet by her lesbian friend intervening between her meeting any male....Earl | |
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Posted: 10/27/2007 10:06:21 PM | WOW !!! I need to get out more. I have never heard of this C-Blocking. Perhaps because I have never needed one either?? Stopped needing a babysitter decades ago.
Anyhow Ubkobalt...I would have suggested joining them to dance then and as someone else said, that then puts her on the spot to be honest about whether or not she's interested or ditching you.
Just fondly remember the view you enjoyed and move on to the next spot of idyllic scenery!! | |
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Posted: 10/27/2007 10:31:01 PM | Yeah... if she could be so easily lured away, then why try keeping her?
Most of us INTELLIGENT women know that men want the relationship AND the sex. Greedy ba$tards! Women do too. Greedy b*tches!
C*ckblocking is rarely EVER done without having been planned beforehand. | |
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Posted: 10/28/2007 1:07:11 AM | I had this situation happen to me in a club - and it was purely because the friend didn't want to be on her own. For several weeks I was talking to this very nice woman, and if her friend saw us, she would come and drag here away and shout "**** off and leave my friend alone"! and every time she got the chance, the woman would come over and talk to me (nothing to do with drink or protection - we were both normally sober)
Eventually, I just gave up and, sadly, avoided the woman to avoid the hassle. Even sadder (for the friend) about 2 weeks later the woman just stopped coming in and the "friend" has spent the last 12 months coming to the club on her own looking miserable :-)
What does C-Blocking stand for by the way - I assume it's one or other of the C words, but which one? Just tell me what it rhymes with :-D | |
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Posted: 10/28/2007 1:48:56 AM | Oh, it rhymes with itself. It's just the prevention of the forums word filters
As mentioned, for lack of a better term. (It doesn't always have to do with sex) Usually used amongst guys who get in the way. Intentionally or not. The one undermines your efforts with a woman. By going after her, saying something to make her lose her already fragile interest in you, or just that person just being a dork and you lose points by association.
For religiously prudish types, the term "Cok-blocked by Jesus" can be used. | |
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Posted: 10/28/2007 8:43:11 AM | Honestly, I've never found myself in a situation where I needed someone to save me from myself. I prefer to be honest-brutally so if I have to, but I always try the polite route first.
If you have that much trouble handling your liquor, girls or guys, you should consider ordering a soda! | |
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Posted: 10/28/2007 10:18:04 AM | This is how I interpret the scene:
Girl 1: (the one you're interested in), sees you from across the room and goes to her girlfriend, "I'm gonna get another drink. Be right back".
She comes over to you, a little chat starts up and Girl 2 looks at her watch realizing her girlfriend is taking way too long for just getting a drink and spots her talking to you and thinks to herself, "Oh no she did NOT just leave me for some dude! This was supposed to be a GIRLS' NIGHT OUT! I will NOT be ignored!" (Think Glen Close in 'Basic Instinct').
So, she saunters over and comes up with an extremely obvious lame excuse of having to get some exercise.
Now, Girl 1, although interested in you, feels guilty that she left her girlfriend for you so she thinks she has to do the "honorable" thing by going back with her.
Anyway you look at it, it's her loss! If she had the "cajones" to stick up for herself, she would've come back to you, given you her number then gone back to her girlfriend! | |
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Posted: 10/28/2007 10:38:26 AM | Her friend says "I'm sorry to have to do this, but we came to dance and get exercise. We have to get going now."
------------You have 2 seconds to make a decision------------
How do you handle that???
I would have specifically asked the girl I was interested in (keeping 100% eye contact and being careful to maintain a calm and cheerful manner) if that's what SHE wanted to do. It's quite possible that it isn't.
When you said "Well don't let me stop you!" you basically said "I'm not worth stopping for!" | |
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Posted: 10/28/2007 11:15:27 AM |
obvious lame excuse of having to get some exercise.
That was a pretty lame exit strategy. The more I think about it, the more I think they were being dishonest****, trying to shake you down for free drinks.
Just one more reason to always refuse to buy a woman a drink at the clubs. If she buys you one, then you can bet she's interested. If you buy her one, all that means is that you're out $10. | |
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Posted: 10/28/2007 12:38:28 PM | | She was not interested - pointe final. She just found it hard to shake your hand and say "well, it was nice to meet you, see you around, I'm off to dance!". Then had you offered your hand, all that would have been required was a "no thanks". I know lots of women who don't know how to "get rid" of a guy. Some people are just more timid than others, I don't think this makes all of them totally immature though. | |
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Posted: 10/28/2007 12:46:30 PM |
I would have specifically asked the girl I was interested in (keeping 100% eye contact and being careful to maintain a calm and cheerful manner) if that's what SHE wanted to do. It's quite possible that it isn't.
When you said "Well don't let me stop you!" you basically said "I'm not worth stopping for!"
or maybe just say "well I may be getting out of here soon, can I give you a call sometime?" | |
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Posted: 10/28/2007 2:05:55 PM |
Her friend says "I'm sorry to have to do this, but we came to dance and get exercise. We have to get going now."
------------You have 2 seconds to make a decision------------
Why didn't you ask her to dance? If that's what she was there for ........ if not, it would have been her/them left feeling uncomfortable!!!!!........ | |
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Posted: 10/28/2007 2:09:10 PM | Given that they whispered to each other before the friend said this, they'd probably reached some sort of agreement so this isn't really something you can 'blame' on the friend.
You have a few options here though...
1) Ignore what the friend said, and just keep talking to the girl and/or her friend as if you hadn't been interrupted. If she's interested, she'll keep talking anyway.
2) You could respond with "You go ahead, I need to ask your friend something first. She will catch you up in a sec" or something along those lines.
3) You could laugh, and call her out on her really bad 'bail out' excuse. Maybe make a joke about being given a premium rate porn line if you'd asked for her number, or something. Then carry on the conversation.
Effectively, you responded to the friend's line with 'okay'. You accepted her assertation that she and her friend had to leave, even though you knew it was a blatant lie. You submitted to her attempt to control the situation. Was it okay with you? Was it acceptable? No! So don't simply accept it at face value. Suggest an alternative (go in 5 minutes), ignore it (carry on talking), or something like that. Essentially you need to take control of the situation in some way rather than letting her friend dictate how things are going to be. Not in a bullying or rude way, but just enough that you don't let yourself get treated with disrespect. | |
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Posted: 10/28/2007 2:14:09 PM | If your going to be slapping people, don't forget the babypowder. Powder? Better the oil!
oil?........bring out the BRASS KNUCKLES!!!!!!!........ | |
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