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Posted: 10/28/2007 2:15:40 PM | > we came to dance and get exercise.
That was code for doing the horizontal boogie and then 'caming'.  | |
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Posted: 10/28/2007 3:16:10 PM |
Why didn't you ask her to dance?
I know when I'm getting blown off. It was a surrender. It was part "I have no idea what to say to that." and part "Get lost then. I'll add you to the ever increasing list of woman this year (#60?) who I have taken the courage to talk to, and have blown me off/looked for an escape route."
Maybe THAT'S why we're obessed with boobs and sex. It's the only redeeming factor that's hard to screw up.
3) You could laugh, and call her out on her really bad 'bail out' excuse. Maybe make a joke about being given a premium rate porn line if you'd asked for her number, or something. Then carry on the conversation.
I think this would be the most amusing to me. I think we both knew that it was a horrible bail out.
She was being dragged away by hand. | |
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svj
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Posted: 10/28/2007 3:46:07 PM | The solution seems easy in theory, difficult in practice.
You need to get the "friend" liking you, too.
If she feels like a third wheel, she's gonna start squeaking. She needs to feel important as well. If she feels like she's not wanted, she'll be more than happy to bring the whole thing crashing down.
If you're really working it, they'll actually start to compete with each other over you.
And then you are gold.
I don't go to clubs, so I'm no authority.
So only take the parts of this that make sense to you.
Truth is, you're almost never going to find a cute girl that came to the club alone.
Which means if you ever want to get anywhere, you're going to need to learn how to handle people who are going to get between you and the woman you're attempting to woo.
Look on the bright side. You've already gotten over the anxiety of approaching women in the environment where the average woman has the greatest gap in "attraction value" above that of the average man. The club.
If you can get past that, then learning how to handle c***-blockers should be easy.
And one other thought... if you approach women in larger groups, the "friend" will have other people to keep her from getting lonely. | |
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Posted: 11/14/2007 1:36:36 PM |
I was not the aggressor, she approached me but seemed shy, so I helped push it along. I have no problem with that. Her friend joins her and introduces herself. I'm talking to both of them. The girl I'm interested in "accidentally" leans into me and stays there longer than necessary. I'll take this as a good indicator. They whisper to each other. Her friend says "I'm sorry to have to do this, but we came to dance and get exercise. We have to get going now."
I think that was the problem. You opened your mouth.
She tested you when she leaned in and you failed her test.
I'd say more but it'd be impolite. Suffice it to say I wholeheartedly agree with what phoenix! said up there. But your response:
I want a real committed relationship. That's no secret. I want to be a pervert. That's no secret either. Can I not be both at the same time? Can't I go after both at the same time? Does it have to be so polarized? In this case, I was very polite...and I usually am.
You also overthought this whole issue. I will tell you something, ukobalt, I tried to tell you more subtly in other threads in the past:
Sometimes women just want sex and anything that shows the hint that the guy wants a relationship scares them off. Oh, I know I sound anti-traditional by saying this but it's true. Women are as much aggressors as guys are these days and you have to be OPEN to that to have it happen. You aren't.
Now you may kick yourself for it but in the long run you're probably better off because more often than not that type is fairly narcisstic which is exactly why they don't have room for a relationship. Their ego fills the room, well, certainly their own life and there is no room for anyone else in beyond a quick pork.
My advice is still this: If that overly chubby gal you said was perfect in every way but her heft is still around in your life, go for it. You will learn more about yourself and relationships in general with her than you will by yourself in years, I guarantee you.
Fine print: Money back guarantee! Should princess turn into a toad within 15 seconds of kissing all advice is non refundable. See full moon exclusion policy in the superfine print below.
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Posted: 11/14/2007 1:52:46 PM | Don't think anything of it. Sounds like she liked you just not enough.
If I were in that situation I would probably go back with my friend too, but that's just cause I love dancing. If I was interested in the guy I would have made sure to say something to get us back together at some point like, "I'll catch up with you later," making some real good eye contact at that point so he knew I was serious. I don't think that has ever happened to me at a club before though cause guys at a club almost always give off that vibe like they're just there to bring someone home that night. Once again I say clubs = no good for finding a good guy or girl. I'm sure good ones are there cause, hey I'm there!  It seems rare though. | |
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Posted: 11/16/2007 7:42:56 PM |
Sometimes women just want sex and anything that shows the hint that the guy wants a relationship scares them off. Oh, I know I sound anti-traditional by saying this but it's true. Women are as much aggressors as guys are these days and you have to be OPEN to that to have it happen. You aren't.
I believe I'm plenty open to women being the aggressors. She approached me! I just took it from there. I've always said that. (Unless I was making a joke) I'd prefer it that way. It's not happening. So, I have to be the one to do something.
Also, don't be subtle with me. Don't try to make me feel better. Give me honesty and truth. Give me the kung-fu! But the honorable kung-fu, not that shady version that "works".
My advice is still this: If that overly chubby gal you said was perfect in every way but her heft is still around in your life, go for it. You will learn more about yourself and relationships in general with her than you will by yourself in years, I guarantee you.
On the table, but after observing her actions more, I'm less interested. (But not disintersted!)
f I were in that situation I would probably go back with my friend too, but that's just cause I love dancing.
But they didn't dance. It was a lie, and I knew it then and there.
I don't think that has ever happened to me at a club before though cause guys at a club almost always give off that vibe like they're just there to bring someone home that night.
And that's prejudiced. I hate that. And yet ANOTHER unneeded obstacle. Some women like to blame men for that. But it's not men that have that perception.
. I'm sure good ones are there cause, hey I'm there! It seems rare though.
That's what I'm saying!! There has to be decent people there. Somewhere. Just because people have fun lives, doesn't mean they're bad people. Just because someone has a more mild life, doesn't mean they're better people. That's a myth to me. "Nice people don't do those things." LIES!  | |
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Posted: 11/16/2007 8:23:02 PM | | bring an attractive guy friend with you nexttime, it will keep the c blocker interested enough to leave you alone | |
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Posted: 11/16/2007 8:31:29 PM | Or have him stab me in the back!!! 
Besides, I don't have any attractive guy friends. I don't have guy friends period. Although, if I could find one that WASN'T an over-macho shithead, not annoying or interesting, I'd consider. | |
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Posted: 11/17/2007 12:37:41 AM | I can't say I know what happened in your specific case... But I will openly admit to being that friend. Although I would never drag her away unwillingly.
Sometimes, your friends get wasted and they are all over a drunk 90yo toothless sleeze and you know they will freak out if they go home with them... Also, some guys have a rep for being a player and your just trying to be protective. Often there is no maliciousness involved... I have been called over by my friends on many an occassion because they feel uncomfortable with someone and they want to get away without a scene... It's hard. And often you are called a b*tch because of it... But what are you supposed to do? Say, "Look mate, your scaring her"?
I dont know why many women cant just be straight... It could be a lack of confidence or misguided compassion... Im not every woman... But just remember... It goes both ways. Lord knows I have seen guys going in to "save" their mates.
Perhaps you have been around some immature girls that like to tease?? Not fair... I know.
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Posted: 11/17/2007 5:51:31 AM |
Sometimes women just want sex and anything that shows the hint that the guy wants a relationship scares them off. Oh, I know I sound anti-traditional by saying this but it's true.
Far better to read this than to read yet again how women wait for men to come to them.. men have to do all the work. Or about how all we ever want is your cash.
But what are you supposed to do? Say, "Look mate, your scaring her"?
Honestly.. if that's what's happening. Why the hell not? Maybe he's not a bad guy, maybe he just sucks at approaching women and gets all weird and overbearing. Being told might make him stop. If not, then he's just a creep and you've all been spared.
I dont know why many women cant just be straight.
Fear of being called a **** or a tease or some such, but who cares.. this is someone you're not interested in for whatever reason. Who cares if he thinks you're a **** for 1) not being interested or 2) the c*ckblocking pal? | |
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Posted: 11/17/2007 8:42:50 AM | Op - You cannot open field tackle the blocker.
She is bigger than you (often literally....).
You must do what every good wide receiver does and run a post pattern around the biotch.
Forget all that garbage about having to make her friend(s) like you, just go straight for her and grab her for a dance.
You do know how, right?
Well, she probably doesn't, most of them don't.
They think they do, but they don't.
Also, don't listen to what women say in a bar, it's all 100% made up bull-boloney.
Actions speak louder than words - especially if all the words are nothing but lies and airy-fairy garbage. | |
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Posted: 11/17/2007 12:10:21 PM | Nightclubs are much like maximum security prisons. What you want to do first is make an example out of one of them, and make sure the whole club sees you. Find the biggest tease in the place, strike up a conversation with her, and when her****locking friend comes to bail her out, you ****slap her Rick James style. After that, you won't get****locked again all night.
Also, violence is attractive to Southern women, and country music fans, so you might even get a few extra numbers out of the deal.
Imperturbable,
That wasn't cute, nor funny ...just stupid.
Go fill your perscription, cuz you're a scary, scary, man. | |
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Posted: 11/25/2007 12:54:33 PM | RE:
She tested you when she leaned in and you failed her test.
See, this is why I have totally given up on dating/women/sex.
I'm not there to be "tested" or judged. I'm a human being. | |
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Posted: 11/25/2007 12:58:00 PM | | C-blockers are the worst especially when you can tell the girl is into you and the friend goes, says two words in her ear, and the girl decides she has something else to do. I hate it. | |
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Posted: 11/25/2007 1:22:25 PM | Wow that sucks!!!! Hmmm, maybe you should have offered to do the banana dance! JK
That is sad that she approached you and seemed interested then her friend pulled her away. Maybe she said something to her friend because she was incapable of walking away on her own.... so she needed her friend to LIE! | |
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