| yes or no? Friends with benefits!
Posted: 5/17/2005 9:58:09 AM |
I care about my FWP..he is one of my best male freinds. So to say we dont care..or say its like prostition aint always the case.
Couldn't he be defined as a boyfriend then Moist? (if , indeed he is the only person you sleep with?)
And if not...why not? | |
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nrk
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Joined: 3/31/2005
Msg: 53 | |
| yes or no? Friends with benefits!
Posted: 5/17/2005 9:58:14 AM | What expectations do you speak of here? That you will not f*ck others? Is that the big one that is so hard to adhere to?
Oh please, frrosty...let's not start flinging out inuendo about my character! If you had ANY idea how long it's been...
Of course if one is in a LTR not having sex with others is a GIVEN, in my opinion. Like I said, haven't gone this route (the FWB route, that is!!)....probably won't...but I don't think it's wrong if the people involved both have an understanding/agreement of what that relationship will entail. | |
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Posted: 5/17/2005 9:58:15 AM | Justa,
"If abstinence is Zen, get down at my feet and grovel at my magnificence...." NOW THAT IS EXCELLENT!! | |
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Posted: 5/17/2005 9:58:28 AM | my god...this board is full of right-wing Christians or prudes...this is insane.
sex is NATURAL people...natural. every single animal does it in one way, shape, or form...and humans are the only ones who put taboos on it.
an FWB relationship is great, because it's safe. those of you who think that it spreads VD's need to go see your proctologist...perhaps he can help you find your head.
and what about those unwanted babies that happen in a relationship? come on people...this isn't the stone age. with nearly 99.9% effective birth control, and several "plan B" options, there's never a need for an "unwanted baby".
let's put it this way. some people are hung up on sex, and some people have a healthy attitude towards it. so...maybe the prudes can go quietly masturbate and feel guilty about it...but the more open minded people will be getting off and having a great time! | |
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Joined: 10/3/2004
Msg: 57 | |
| yes or no? Friends with benefits!
Posted: 5/17/2005 9:59:38 AM | | The point of a friend with benefits is safe sexual relief. If the friend isn't clean, well, then they are not much of a friend to you are they? Might get a nice permanent reminder to choose your friends more carefully next time, but that's besides the point. The risks are low - not 0, they never are - and it is the safer alternatively than the girl in the mini-skirt doing jello shooters who just walked out of the bedroom at the party you're at. | |
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Posted: 5/17/2005 10:01:18 AM | been there done that got the t-shirt moved on but guess what?! he's still one of my best friends and I can reach him anytime I need a shoulder to cry on | |
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Posted: 5/17/2005 10:02:19 AM | | ^ Then why in Gods' name are you not with him? You like the sex..you share empathy...you know each other...I don't get it. | |
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| yes or no? Friends with benefits!
Posted: 5/17/2005 10:02:49 AM |
Just wondering how many of you have friends with benefits? Is it a good thing or not? No strings attached...just meaningless sex! I think it has it's benefits! A good stress reliver I may add!
Yes, I do, and it is a wonderful, beautiful thing. I've never had meaningless sex in my life. I think it is a common misconception that sex with a friend need be meaningless. That sex must be either totally without meaning or a 'down payment' on a LTR is just silly IMO. For me, having female friends that enjoy sex with me as well is perfect. I don't want a serious realtionship at the moment. Does this mean that I and others like me shouldn't have sex till we are ready for a LTR? Of course not. No offence, but some of you need to lighten up a little and quit seeing the world in black and white. Relax, enjoy life, enjoy each other, it's the human thing to do. | |
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Posted: 5/17/2005 10:03:26 AM | paying for sexual favors= prostitute
dang where you been ? this prositute thing has been around forever
frirnds with benefits is relitively new...
think it started on a shady street in vagas... by a very smart man... who is now
a legend...
his name is: satan
yeah well lots of people fall for "free with just a 24.99 postage fee"...
and "free groceries".. its the way of the modern world.. marketing !!!! | |
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Posted: 5/17/2005 10:04:29 AM | SO, in hearing the above, a serious relationship, by your definition, is one that limits you to sex with one partner right? THAT is what makes a relationship serious. (sex with one partner as opposed to more) So, you do not discuss serious issues with your friend who you slam now n then? *shrugs*
Therefore, one who says they do not want a serious relationship are, in fact saying, they want to have sex with more than one person?
;) Got it!! I understand now!!
Swingers..but NOT swingers who wish to be KNOWN as swingers. Swingers who don;'t wish to acknowledge that they are swingers, but need to be with more than one person.
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Posted: 5/17/2005 10:06:01 AM | Frrosty....
because we do great as friends....as more? didn't work...something lacking
re:we are now just friends | |
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Posted: 5/17/2005 10:06:10 AM | @sar
sex is natural and so is slime...
FWB relationship is safe????? oh man...... get real !!!!
healthy attitude?
you are just looking for dumb prostitutes then I take it?
should have no problem, lots of them out there.
Best to you
hope you dont end up surprsied your plan might have some flaws. | |
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Joined: 5/12/2005
Msg: 65 | |
| yes or no? Friends with benefits!
Posted: 5/17/2005 10:07:59 AM | Dont want a boyfriend. DOnt want strings attached. Dont want to have to call or be around all the time. Just want to have a friend, a great friend that I happen to have AWSOME sex with!
Sorry if thats so awful to all of you..but hey FOR SOME IT WORKS, and WORKS WELL!
Swingers?? NOPE..sorry Frost cant label me like that.
I refuse to sleep with any joe blow...so why not have someone so I can get my kicks?? | |
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Joined: 4/11/2005
Msg: 66 | |
| yes or no? Friends with benefits!
Posted: 5/17/2005 10:09:34 AM | shit.. I'm still looking where all these women are?? Figures Ga. would be part of the bible belt
hey we don't even have to be friends.. should take the complexity out of it | |
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Posted: 5/17/2005 10:10:33 AM | DOnt want strings attached. Dont want to have to call or be around all the time. Just want to have a friend, a great friend
SO there is no responsibility to each other in your friendships then? You don't call your great friend once a week or so?
What strings could there be attached? (please help me here) (do you mean..like..real strings?)
Sorry, the guy sounds like he's your bf from what I have heard. (and a good relationship at that)
And swingers also don;t just sleep with any "joe blow" either.
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Posted: 5/17/2005 10:10:44 AM | @NRK,
We’ve decided to keep the sex out of our arrangement because we are concerned about losing what we have. We both feel it would place a certain pressure on the relationship and would create the envy and jealousy we have been able to avoid. I really enjoy my situation with this young lady, but at the same time I hope it ends because she finds that very special person. The biggest difference between her and I is that she is hopeful to one day find that commitment. I have been there, done that and don’t care to ever again. So what would make me happiest is that she finds someone who is worthy of her. Until then, we’ll continue our friendship in the fashion that we have for quite some time now. | |
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Posted: 5/17/2005 10:11:34 AM | In the 60's they called it FREE LOVE.....
I wonder what term is gonna come up next?
hmmm will be interesting.... | |
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Posted: 5/17/2005 10:13:46 AM | Hey; I'm single. If you don't make me wretch out of my disrespect for you I'll stick it in ya too..why not I suppose. lol. I wouldn't exactly call you a friend though. (It's not like yer going to be there for me when I need you) My friends KNOW my family and my background etc etc etc. We also share much of the same interests and hang out often. If we are not hangin out....well...ya know? (we're probably out with other friends who we do not share things in common with)
Maybe an "aquaintance with benefits" is a better description?
And YamIhere. (that's beautiful man) | |
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Joined: 5/12/2005
Msg: 71 | |
| yes or no? Friends with benefits!
Posted: 5/17/2005 10:14:07 AM | No I do call...its just not like he is my man and I owe him anything. You know if I wanna go out with the girls on friday...he aint sitting home all butt hurt cause his GF went out. I dont want a relationship...just friends...
you dont call your friends everyday and owe them anything like a play by play of your day.
Keep it simple. Thats my motto.
Strings of a relationship...I dont want those at this time. I wanna enjoy my life...work on my career and education...so a BF doesnt have much of a chance in all that..so I have a FWp that meets my needs.
He is still a friend, someone I can talk to about things...just neither of us want to take it any further. And we are both happy with things as they are | |
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Posted: 5/17/2005 10:18:31 AM |
No I do call...its just not like he is my man and I owe him anything. You know if I wanna go out with the girls on friday...he aint sitting home all butt hurt cause his GF went out
Botyfriends dont do this. (some do, but hey)
I dont want a relationship...just friends
WHAT THE FAWK DO YOU THINK A FRIENDSHIP IS!!?? I think that people see a bf/gf relationship as a ball n chain negative thing. BOY....FRIEND (HELLO!)
you dont call your friends everyday and owe them anything like a play by play of your day Nio, but it usually comes up if there is nothing more to talk about. Nobody owes sh*t though. (owes? What a queer term)
I wanna enjoy my life...work on my career and education
And you cannot do this with a bf..got it. (though I'm not sure why)
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Joined: 3/31/2005
Msg: 73 | |
| yes or no? Friends with benefits!
Posted: 5/17/2005 10:18:58 AM | | @ YamIhere....yes...that sounds very reasonable...and you sound like a very caring friend. Putting sex into the equation would probably swing your friendship down the bf/gf road that you don't have any desire to tread at this time. I appreciate your thoughts!! | |
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Posted: 5/17/2005 10:20:13 AM | @moist
Sounds like there's some women out there that just like sex with someone they trust and don't feel the need to have someone pay for their time with all the wining and dining business. Nothing wrong with that if your satisfied with it. I think some people view sex as a commodity or means of controlling people. Doesn't sound like it in your case. I can respect that but I think it would create some fear in me to date someone with that attitude as I would feel too easily replaced in bed. I'd have a hard time trusting that I could always live up to your expectations and then you'd have a "friend" over cause that type of thing is within your value system. I know that's my sh yte but we all have some issues. | |
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moist
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Joined: 5/12/2005
Msg: 75 | |
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