| How do you come up with age range limits?
Posted: 11/6/2007 12:12:30 PM | Age range is easy. I cannot stand women younger than me. Period. Never could. The few times I've ever dated someone younger than me it was a disaster. I'm 29 now, so the difference really matters right now. You go 25 and younger you're pretty much getting into the "Please grow up" range -- especially with the culture right now, which doesn't demand that anyone grow up ever.
I've always had a thing for women who were older than me. Probably a really screwed up mommy issue or something like that. On the upside, I don't go trolling for them. Most were co-workers and it just sort of evolved until one day you could stand there and ask, "Is this what I think it is?" | |
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| How do you come up with age range limits?
Posted: 11/6/2007 2:56:12 PM | I've always used the standard formula.
(age/2)+7 ==> (age-7)x2
As for younger men dating older women, for most of my life I dated older women. Throughout my late teens through 20's and early 30's, my girlfriends tended to range from 10 to 20 years older (the oldest being 47 when I was 27). I found that I just didn't relate very well with most women closer to my age. I guess some of us are just forced to grow up faster than others. And since marriage and children were nowhere on my mind, that worked just fine.
Unfortunately, as I've reached my mid-30's, the issue of the prospect of having children and getting married enters the picture.
Women in their mid-30's and up either have children/grandchildren already, are not interested in having new/additional children, or are incapable of having children.
This is aside from the fact that the dating pool of interesting single women in their 30's and up is smaller demographically than those in their 20's. Alot of them are either married or in long-time relationships.
Thus, to satisfy the inevitable biological impulse and reality of demographic distribution, I find myself forced to date women who are younger than I would normally feel comfortable with, hoping to find the rare younger woman who has a substantially mature mindset. Sometimes it seems to be less common nowadays, with people staying in school for so long and parents being substantially more protective/sheltering than they used to be.
It seems that younger folks tend to stay home longer, work fewer jobs in school, and spend more time on career and online than in the real world than they used to.
Now, if they ever managed to push back the biological clock substantially, that might change things a bit. Here's hoping for medical science. 
On the bright side, I'm not that worried about time frames. I am taking my time to find the right woman. Humphrey Bogart had his first children at the age of 49, Andrew Carnegie at 69. As a guy, I guess the clock runs substantially longer.  | |
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| How do you come up with age range limits?
Posted: 11/6/2007 4:51:56 PM | It really comes down to interests and where you are in your life. Not commonalities, we all have those....No people "music (dancing) and sex don't count"....throw out those factors and decide from there...than tell me what we have in common.  | |
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| How do you come up with age range limits?
Posted: 11/6/2007 5:26:52 PM |
I've always used the standard formula.
(age/2)+7 ==> (age-7)x2
That starts making less sense the older we get. I'm going to be 50 in a couple of weeks, so that would make the lower age 32 (fun for me; not so sure it would be a great idea for him), and the upper age would be - 84! Oh, dear! No offence to 84-year-olds, but I don't think so!
Of course any limits can go by the wayside depending on special individuals, but for me, I'll admit a generational thing is in my mind - as in a 20-year span of anything from 10 or so years older to 10 or so years younger. | |
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| How do you come up with age range limits?
Posted: 11/6/2007 7:18:38 PM | The age limit is mostly arbitrary (in my opinion) because what does any number necessarily imply?
In fact, nothing.
Want to talk fitness? Growth hormone levels drop as we age so that the same amount of exercise yields less of a result.
Want to talk life-experience? Some younger people resonate with prior eras and immerse themselves in nostalgia so that a generation or two's gap in age can yield the same contextual age markers. Same applies to some older people resonating with more current culture.
Want to talk maturity? Older people can be immature/fun, depending on the perspective of the person they're with. Similarly, younger people can be mature/sedate, ditto.
There are always generalization that will hold for a significant, if not for a majority, of age groups but there are inevitably exceptions to nearly ever rule.
I guess I said all that to say this: people are more than their age... more than a number... and any age-range posted by another is a starting place for them, and based on their own life experience with ages.
What matters most to me isn't the number, but the character and personality and fitness of the person I'm considering befriending and/or dating. | |
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| How do you come up with age range limits?
Posted: 11/6/2007 7:24:40 PM | I've got a certain age range in mind but some people simply don't fit.
A 41 year old woman wrote to me a couple of days ago and I felt like I was talking to a 12 year old with all the personality and intelligence of a cinderblock.
Later that night a girl well below my age limit wrote to me and was clearly more mature and intelligent than the 41 year old. | |
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| How do you come up with age range limits?
Posted: 11/7/2007 11:00:06 AM | I read a profile from a woman the other day that says the younger the better, because of better libido and better sex she was in her 40's. So this question can go both ways. How do women come up with there age range also
And whats the difference in a older woman wanting a younger man for better sex and a older man wanting the girl for the same thing.
Oh well another one way street issue. | |
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| How do you come up with age range limits?
Posted: 11/7/2007 6:03:28 PM | "A 41 year old woman wrote to me a couple of days ago and I felt like I was talking to a 12 year old with all the personality and intelligence of a cinderblock.
Later that night a girl well below my age limit wrote to me and was clearly more mature and intelligent than the 41 year old."
Can you please post those emails so we can judge more fairly. No names of course just the acutal emails. Who knows we may see something you don't.
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| How do you come up with age range limits?
Posted: 11/7/2007 6:19:06 PM |
Can you please post those emails so we can judge more fairly. No names of course just the acutal emails. Who knows we may see something you don't.
I'll just give you her 1/16 of the conversation.
ya look mighty fine
why thank ya darlin
both darlin
cool hun well maybe sometime ya can cum here an watch it
i would evenm cook ya dinner
my name is xxxxxx i love to cook an bake
what all else ya like to do darlin
i dont do bars either dont drink only diet mountain dew or coffee
i have pepsi in my frige too for when my daughter comes around
darlin she wont mind got so much got more put up in my closet
i never un out of soda
She doesn't need to be a genius but I was giving myself a headache trying to come up with responses.
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| How do you come up with age range limits?
Posted: 11/7/2007 8:16:28 PM | | Since my divorce 10 years ago (from a man who is 5 years older) I have mostly only been with men who are younger, sometimes substantially so. At one point my oldest daughter told me I could only go out with men who were closer to my age than hers. She's 22 now, so if I stick to her "rule" I can't go out with anyone unless he's 35 or older. That sounds about right to me! I probably should've stuck to it the last time which was a couple years ago - he was 30 and it really didn't work out (although that had nothing to do with his age.) | |
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| How do you come up with age range limits?
Posted: 11/7/2007 9:48:32 PM | I used to date/ have relationships with guys within about 5 years of my age, but after my
separation from hubbie #3 (early in 1994-I was 33), I found myself mostly attracted to
younger guys (my 4th husband was 12 years my junior). After we split 3 years ago, I
started dating online & of course, they ask about age ranges. I did a number of searches
& found that the guys I found most appealing, both physically & intellectually/socially, were
WAY younger. I think maybe I've aged differently than most, I don't know. I have dated
one older guy in the last 3 years & that made me re-think my age categories a bit. So
generally, my limits are 25-50.
To me, age is really not that important, compatibility is. The only thing I have concerns
about with younger guys, is the possiblity that they might wish to have children someday.
The interesting thing I find, is that even now, I am constantly being emailed by guys
in their early 20's (my older son's age) | |
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| How do you come up with age range limits?
Posted: 11/7/2007 9:54:55 PM | I'm not really 'Picky' about 'Age' . .
. . but . .
I 'generally' set the Minimum . . just above my children . .
but it's all in the Maturity factor . . | |
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| How do you come up with age range limits?
Posted: 11/8/2007 4:58:29 PM | Sugarmag710 wrote:
...my oldest daughter told me I could only go out with men who were closer to my age than hers. She's 22 now, so if I stick to her "rule" I can't go out with anyone unless he's 35 or older.
My oldest daughter is 15 and I'm 45 so by that rule, 30 would be my youngest -- seems reasonable as far as numbers go but getting back to what I wrote earlier, I'm not convinced that what may be 'generally' true of a certain age bracket 'must' be true of everyone in that bracket.
On a side note, it might be interesting to see if your daughter would be willing to heed her own advice re: ages, not only upwardly in relation to your age, but also downwardly with respect to her own oldest child's age (whether she has any yet or not) | |
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| How do you come up with age range limits?
Posted: 11/8/2007 5:06:13 PM | POF has a fancy feature on this site called the "RATING" link...
I found it to be a useful tool and have used it as my basis of determining who to date. I am 36, but the 41+ crowd is rating me a 9, the 30's crowd a 5.5, and the 20's crowd a 4.
I would rather date someone who though I was hot than someone who wouldn't. Except all the gay guys that rate me a 10 - I think that's what they rate everyone. | |
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| How do you come up with age range limits?
Posted: 11/9/2007 8:43:13 AM | Nat says:
I 'generally' set the Minimum . . just above my children . .
OK...EEEWWWW
Personally, I'm not that into older women - but too young isn't all that interesting either. So I'm figuring as low as 15 years younger would be the max I could handle. Younger than that and some of my parts might fall off as I'm trying to keep up.
(pssst... Hi Spongey ) | |
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| How do you come up with age range limits?
Posted: 11/9/2007 9:16:31 AM | | Relatively easy for me. I'm 28. Within 7 yrs of my age is reasonable. I don't want to date a man that can't legally drink. I probably wouldn't have much in common with ( or be attracted to ) a man who is significantly older than me. | |
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| How do you come up with age range limits?
Posted: 11/9/2007 9:29:19 AM |
Aww come on Petey, you don't have any boys so it doesn't matter.
I've got two boys - 19 and 16... so yeah, I wouldn't want them hitting on my girlfriend...  | |
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| How do you come up with age range limits?
Posted: 11/9/2007 10:09:42 AM | Um... the big brothers babysit for my daughter (who's ONLY 14)...  - BTW, big brothers are 6'-1" and 6' - and have very good hearing...  | |
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| How do you come up with age range limits?
Posted: 11/9/2007 1:16:02 PM | It's actually quite simple.
I don't want someone who is MUCH younger than I am, because I don't want her to be my age now , and for me be in an urn somewhere . I actually stopped a potential relationship with a wonderful women dead - exactly for that reason.
I'm fifty, so much older won't work much better either. | |
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| How do you come up with age range limits?
Posted: 11/9/2007 1:55:38 PM | The generational rule should apply here......
Old enough to be your father...........nope
Young enough to be your child..........nope
That's a pretty good range of age appropriate people to date. | |
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| How do you come up with age range limits?
Posted: 11/9/2007 2:01:20 PM | Don't know, don't really have any set limits depends on the person....I would say if you feel the need to ask people around you if the age of the person you want to date is acceptale then you shouldn't date them...as long as you and the person you are dating don't have issues with the age then it really doesn't matter as long as you are both legal adults... | |
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