| How much does a woman's financial situation mean to you?
Posted: 11/21/2007 7:39:39 PM | I don't really believe that money is such a big contributor to divorce. It is the symptom of another problem within the relationship.
I think you will be hard pressed to find a lot of men who will say that the amount of money a woman makes matters to them. I think many will agree that a woman's attitude about money and credit is of importance to them. That makes sense to me.
Unfortunately, for many single parents (male and female) or divorced people who make large child support/alimony payments the concept of "saving for a rainy day" is a luxury they simply cannot afford. | |
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| How much does a woman's financial situation mean to you?
Posted: 11/22/2007 3:09:20 AM | Ok I'll put my $0.02 in, and hopefully it's not taxable.
I am one who believes that what people have as in material possessions is important, and although to you it might not be, to them it is important. Ever notice that people with significant amounts of money, and those that don't have it quite often socialize in very different circles? As much as people say the "money doesn't matter" cliche, society still reflects that it is quite the opposite.
The days of "living on love" are long gone, a loaf of bread is no longer .25 and milk costs more than .75...
So to the original poster, yes I think it does matter what the partner is bringing to the table financially.
And to those who'll say "money can't buy happiness"...you obviously don't know where to shop!
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| How much does a woman's financial situation mean to you?
Posted: 11/22/2007 9:28:08 AM | I have to agree with My I AND Kobestar on this one. .... sound confusing... not really.
While I agree with Kob that money can disappear in an instant, and it doesn't mean diddly... I am not materialistic AT ALL (I walked away from my ex, who is wealthy).... what does matter is their attitude to money, as My I states. If they are broke and doing the "poor me" trip, and then go on and on how it everyone else's fault but their own.... sorry, I have no time for that. I have lived in poverty, I pulled myself out of it..... I worked on improving myself, and I have a healthy respect for money and the struggle it took. What matters to me is the drive factor - do people have the drive to improve themselves??? .... and that is not just in regards to money, that is about everything in life. | |
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| How much does a woman's financial situation mean to you?
Posted: 11/22/2007 5:39:51 PM | I don't think the question was about natural disaster, correct me if I'm wrong: "Does it matter how much the woman can contribute?"
Ofcourse it does, to anyone with a brain!
Let's face it if the woman can not contribute, and not always necessarely money, she's a lay and that is all she'll be until you'll find someone else that you can respect!
That exact same thing applies to a man as well. I know for myself, I will not support moochers and I am one who has been through tough times that I can talk about. That is why I can say; tough times come around and I'm well aware of it but if you're gonna be sitting on your ass weather it' be on welfare or at the womans shelter; I have no respect for that! | |
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| How much does a woman's financial situation mean to you?
Posted: 11/23/2007 6:12:01 AM | everything... thats all i look for  i mean if she can't feed me cloth me and take me out, well i guess im screwed cause i know i aint got shit! Nah im kidding. I do care though cause i do have a good job and i want someone who can contribute to our future on a equal plain. I mean if she is showing potential like going to get a education that’s alright as well but if shes kicken it on government support
and not looking to better her life then im out. | |
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| How much does a woman's financial situation mean to you?
Posted: 11/24/2007 6:19:32 AM | The most difficult thing about a major disparity in each others income is when you date...
Who pays...who decides where you might go....south.?...the opera......the corner store?
If I have an income that is 30% less or more than you...that might make a huge difference on how and where we might want to 'play'......I don't expect to pay for you because you can't afford it...nor do I expect that in return......
Hate the idea that I 'owe' someone.....Often need go the extra mile and do things that 'he' can't buy.
As in wonderful dinner parties.....canoeing on this pristine waterfront ......
I would feel embarrassed by extravagent gifts......but someone showing their appreciation by simple things can go a long way.....
A conundrum indeed this money issue..... | |
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| How much does a woman's financial situation mean to you?
Posted: 11/24/2007 8:47:03 AM | I guess saying if you have more then one credit card you think I am saying you don't have much! Well I am saying if you have 3 - 10 cards you do not know how to manage your finances ! As anyone knows if they are in any store they accept most all cards. And think of it also why would you really need more then one credit card!! And if you need more then one then ask your self why and most likely you'll find your not incontrol of your self or your finances!LOL
As for what a woman has for a job or what she may have in the bank that does not matter to me if I am dating her or interested in her. And it does not make me decide if shes dating material or not.
I look at a person for who they actually are meaning personal appearances /then personality/Likes & dislikes / is she someone who is honest/caring/loving type.
Is she someone I would like to date /someone I would love to spend the rest of my life with !
So to me a womans financial status is not anything I base my dating choices on.
As I have dated rich ones/poor ones and still not found the one who is seeking love/respect & long term relationship yet!
So never look at what a woman by her income or what she has .
Always look at her for who she is !!
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| How much does a woman's financial situation mean to you?
Posted: 11/26/2007 12:34:15 AM | I personally dont care how much someone makes, I care more that they are happy and healthy while at work, but, if they have huge debt then it matters more to me only in the fact that I would see them less due to them spending a lot of time paying it off.
Dont let your possesions posess you. | |
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| How much does a woman's financial situation mean to you?
Posted: 11/26/2007 6:49:17 AM | It's never been a big deal for me either. Ideally it is nice if you both are comfortable--especially when considering something potentially long term. It is a bit awkward when you want to suggest activities that you know the other person cannot afford, but that is easily dealt with. I would either just assume that I am paying, or adjust your activities, or a bit of both. Not really that difficult and certainly never a deal breaker for me.
If I like someone enough, I don't really care what they do for a living or how much they make, just as long as they are happy doing it. | |
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| How much does a woman's financial situation mean to you?
Posted: 11/26/2007 4:55:05 PM | Interesting posts here..
Seems like you are either a "realist" a "romantic"or a "pessimist" . I guess I am a bit of all three. I expect "her" to make her own money and be responsable for it. I've been "burned" by a spending diva before, and it was not all that fun... In my heart Id like to say it doesnt matter either way if there is REAl love, but in the end even Love cannot indure money woes..
So, yes its important, not the amount but the way whats earned is used. | |
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| How much does a woman's financial situation mean to you?
Posted: 11/26/2007 8:30:50 PM | [I have read the posts and have to add my two cents..or more like a half penny! lol
I have struggled and worked damned long and hard to get where I am. I do not live in a palace and struggle as everyone else does to make ends meet. However? Having said that? I in no way, shape or form, will support a man who is not able to earn a living. And trust me, there are a lot out there. /]
Moonchild I have no issue with what you had to say. I paid for years and hated the lump sum pay off and I am not interested in taking another hit. Not a particular great way to look at starting a new relationship but based on the high rate of failed marriages especially in blended it is just something that is perhaps pragmatic?
I met a poster here who expressed the desire to find a partner and stay home and take care of the house. That was before the first date..so i must thank her for her honesty!
I am at times a little stretched paying the bills for for my children. I am not looking for another dependant. So perhaps when you are raising children yourself there is a little recognition that your potential new partner needs to be able to contribute to her own bills. | |
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