| How important are your spiritual beliefs in your search for a mate?
Posted: 11/1/2007 7:40:29 PM | godddesss:
You said this:
Hmmmm......someone help me with this... is that ^^^ a record - 21 posts in a thread before we had a scripture quote? @sayalla.... so now we know what the scriptures say.... but what are your own PERSONAL thoughts and/or feelings on the matter?
I fnd this comment a bit bizzare since you did put this under the religion/supernatural topic and stated this in your opinioning post:
and because our spiritual beliefs and values go to the core of who we are
So given these two things, why would someone sharing not only their belief but also the foundation of where and what that belief is built on give rise to such a snyde remark? Why would you only want to know ones personal thoughts but not why or how those thoughts are based or formed?
A christians life style is based on scripture. And the importance of equal yoking is talked about in scripture.
would you have us believe that some one basing their thoughts and decisions wholly and totally on gut feeling is superior to someone who basis their decisions on teachings passed onto them from parents, teachers, ministers and the such?
Insulting someone this early on in your thread will result in either a good portion of the forum population not responding at all or responding with venom and in defense mode. If that was not your intent you may want to consider an apology as too many threads have deteriated into flaming wars of late.
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| How important are your spiritual beliefs in your search for a mate?
Posted: 11/3/2007 12:51:51 PM | I have plenty of friends who don't believe as I do. I have friends who are gay, who are Atheists...Jewish etc. Have little in common with me. We learn from each other. And yes, I do try to SHARE my belief but I don't try to hit people over the head with the bible. Not because I am such a nice person but because I find it doesn't work!
But when it comes to my love life (which is non-existent at the moment), I am not going to compromise my belief system and hook up with a non-Christian. Yes 2 Cor. 6:14-16 plays a big part in that (the Scripture verse that says do not enter=twine your life with a non-believer).
I am happy on my own. An unhappy relationship is more lonely for me than being by myself. | |
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| How important are your spiritual beliefs in your search for a mate?
Posted: 11/3/2007 1:23:43 PM | Like others have said before me, it's extremely important. It's at the top of my list in fact.
And it's not just about finding a guy who's a "non-believer" or a "non-practicant" [insert faith], or who simply calls himself
an atheist, but has never given it much thought. That wouldn't interest me in the least.
I guess I'm hoping against all hope to find someone whose path has been similar to mine, which was very long and
very twisted I might say...haha!!
Just someone who is basically at the same place I am today. It doesn't have to be identical, but similar would be nice. 
Love and peace to all 
"The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe. If you try it, you will be lonely often, and sometimes frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself."
~Nietzsche~
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| How important are your spiritual beliefs in your search for a mate?
Posted: 11/3/2007 1:57:34 PM | | I believe that they are very important! I wouldn't like to be married to a crazy girl or anything? Religion is the answer and also the question. It leads to peace and wars, death and life, it would drive me nuts to listen to a preacher woman all day knowing that she could be in the nut house for preaching anything else in the world except for religion. No one has the answers, everyone thinks they do but when it all comes to a fine point it ends with faith. You have to have faith with out certanty. If you are certain it is because it has been driven into your braincells enough for you to be comfortable saying it is fact. I believe that the human brain is capable of believing anything if it is trained to, | |
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| How important are your spiritual beliefs in your search for a mate?
Posted: 11/3/2007 10:30:48 PM | A christians life style is based on scripture.
Just because I have chosen to walk a non-Christian path, does not mean I am not familiar with Christian teachings and ways. I have known many christians whose own personal opinions and beliefs differ from what scripture teaches. Add on top of that the multitude of interpretations given to scripture... if there was only one interpretation to the Bible, we would only have one version of the Bible, and only one Christian religion - which we all know is far from the truth.
would you have us believe that some one basing their thoughts and decisions wholly and totally on gut feeling is superior to someone who basis their decisions on teachings passed onto them from parents, teachers, ministers and the such?
I know many people who live their lives different from what they were taught... and what they use as their moral guide varies widely from one person to another .... and most of these people are happier and have a deeper personal spiritual belief structure than their "elders" did..... in most instances, yes, I would say they made a better choice for them. I am not saying they are superior.... I am saying they made the best choice for themselves. | |
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| How important are your spiritual beliefs in your search for a mate?
Posted: 11/4/2007 6:07:23 AM | | I would like to add to that last comment. Today's religeon "IS" the result of the teachings passed onto others from Parents, teachers, ministers, and then the kids are the parents, teachers, and ministers for the next generation. I had trouble with this cycle and wanted to try to do actual research to find out whats going on here. Reserch that consisted of everything except what is drilled into the average person. I found that for the first 60 to 150 years after the desciples walked with Jesus everything said and done in the bible was passed down by word of mouth over the camp fire. then it was put into writing, then 300 years later the writing was voted on by constintine and his priests on to what to keep and what to not keep. I never heard any of this in church. In the 70's there was a documentary on a black tribe of humans in the Amazon that never saw today's civilization or a white man. after the white men flew into the village with their plane and used their medicines to help the sick the primitive humans started worshiping them as gods. They actually thought white man was gods. What would happen if that tribe was left to their beliefs for 2000 years?? what would the world be like then? would there be people waiting for a supreme white god to return? I feel totaly comfortable with not knowing all the answers right now. I have a positive, good soul and feel that what ever designed me or made me should be proud that I am good out of choice instead of out of either fear of punishment or fear of not pleasing the maker all together. | |
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| How important are your spiritual beliefs in your search for a mate?
Posted: 11/4/2007 6:52:24 AM | I know many people who live their lives different from what they were taught... and what they use as their moral guide varies widely from one person to another ....
Not to take the thread off topic or anything - considering I started it.... BUT........ I was talking about the personal choices one makes as an individual and how it helps that person evolve spiritually.
Today's religeon "IS" the result of the teachings passed onto others from Parents, teachers, ministers, and then the kids are the parents, teachers, and ministers for the next generation.
You are talking about the evolution of a religion, as a whole.... a huge difference. | |
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| How important are your spiritual beliefs in your search for a mate?
Posted: 11/4/2007 7:31:59 AM | | Hi, found your write up interesting from a secular point of view. My opinion of religion is this, it takes a while to understand the core and foundation of what works and whether or not the person is personal about the divinity they believe in. When politics, economics or games are at the core the relationship does not have the bonding element needed to cement it all together or make it overlap. It takes a while to understand our own attitude before things make sense. I like the words used by one person which are understanding and harmony. I have only recently been able to let go and actually be able to rely on Jesus to be someone I could trust to lead me. When people are defensive, controlling, negative or holding onto baggage unconciously they are not able to trust and that is what is needed to start or keep a healthy relationship. I read that book the Secret which helped me understand the value of myself so that I would not let other issues come into play which the culture we live in demands of us. That would be sucess, looks, intellectualism,popularity and all kinds of things that are surface level attribules. I now believe attitude is the most important base to work on . | |
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| How important are your spiritual beliefs in your search for a mate?
Posted: 11/4/2007 7:32:41 AM | | Hi, found your write up interesting from a secular point of view. My opinion of religion is this, it takes a while to understand the core and foundation of what works and whether or not the person is personal about the divinity they believe in. When politics, economics or games are at the core the relationship does not have the bonding element needed to cement it all together or make it overlap. It takes a while to understand our own attitude before things make sense. I like the words used by one person which are understanding and harmony. I have only recently been able to let go and actually be able to rely on Jesus to be someone I could trust to lead me. When people are defensive, controlling, negative or holding onto baggage unconciously they are not able to trust and that is what is needed to start or keep a healthy relationship. I read that book the Secret which helped me understand the value of myself so that I would not let other issues come into play which the culture we live in demands of us. That would be sucess, looks, intellectualism,popularity and all kinds of things that are surface level attribules. I now believe attitude is the most important base to work on . | |
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| How important are your spiritual beliefs in your search for a mate?
Posted: 11/4/2007 7:34:54 AM | I dunno this is just my opinion but.....
I think that anyone who follows a path, regardless of what it is, and stays true to it, is very spiritual, most of the people I've known who are spiritual, tend to accept others beliefs, or practices as its just a part of them. Same with those who are truely religious. They take the dogma that is their belief system and keep it close to them and what they do.
As far as a relationship. IT's going to depend on how open the person is in regards to the other person. I know a couple where he's christian, she's wiccan. They don't have a 'religion' issue. Their core values are very close, the way they conduct themselves individually is very close. Just the religion they follow is what resonates with them as individuals. There is no mine is better than yours.
And I think that gets to the core of things.. when you think what you believe (regardless of what it is) trumps what someone else does. Yours is better, theirs is worse or not worth what yours is. There is going to be a problem. That falls into a judgment issue.
One has to look at some other things also. Do I NEED to understand about their beliefs, to be with them? If you do, then you probably should go with someone who is very close to your thoughts on things. If not, then it becomes immaterial. One individual that I have been talking to extensively, follows a different path than I do. Some of it I totally understand, some I don't. Same with him. We aren't afraid to ask each other what this or that is or means to us. And we are completely comfortable with the non-similarities and the similarities. And before someone ask yes we HAVE discussed that part of it.
The other thing I've noticed with people who are becoming a we, that at times, they forget they are individuals. That there are somethings, that they just aren't interested in, that the other does. Spiritually or otherwise. That IS ok. Life is boring if you are identical twins, and do everything with each other and nothing outside. | |
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| How important are your spiritual beliefs in your search for a mate?
Posted: 11/4/2007 8:19:28 AM | They're very important to me. Really that is probably why I'm still single. The person that is right for me will be as open to new things as I am. They won't be tied down to religious doctrine of any kind.
Spiritual beliefs are something to me that are ever growing. Some people refuse to grow anymore than what they've read or heard about from the masses.
When your more open to new spiritual beliefs it makes you more tolerant of other peoples beliefs but if they are not at that same point with you and they still hang on to this is what is suppose to be. In time they stop respecting your beliefs and start hindering your growing. | |
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| How important are your spiritual beliefs in your search for a mate?
Posted: 11/8/2007 10:53:06 AM | | Since discovering my spiritual side ..thanks Rita ,I feel that for me to find the right woman for me,she has to be on my path and has to balance me out.So together we can carryon our journey together in harmony and strength .Feeding off eachothers energy...how can it get better then that? | |
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| How important are your spiritual beliefs in your search for a mate?
Posted: 11/30/2007 12:02:25 AM | Its VERY important to me.
I have been with an atheist who criticized me for my spiritual path. I have been with a christian who tried hard to understand. I was tolerant of both. I even bought a nativity scene and put it under my Solstice Tree for my christian man. I also gifted him with a bumper sticker that said "Jesus love you, but He loves me best!" He loved it!
Still, to find someone who felt as I do would make life so much easier and pleasant. | |
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| How important are your spiritual beliefs in your search for a mate?
Posted: 12/1/2007 9:40:36 AM | | I also think that my preference is to find a man of the same faith, which in my case is one who is also Jewish -- I am just worn out explaining holidays, customs, traditions, foods, etc and want that to be a place where we can join our customs/traditions to create one for us as a couple.... however, I have also wondered which is more difficult to be of the same faith and different political parties, or to be of the same political beliefs and different religiions? | |
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| How important are your spiritual beliefs in your search for a mate?
Posted: 12/1/2007 3:02:17 PM | I think that is kinda bigotry in a way.
I have friends and family of different faiths - and we get along quite well - if we don't get into heated religion arguements. But I have had family and friends ask me about my faith, and when asked - I share. I don't shove my views down anyones throats nor expect anyone to follow mine. Thusly - I don't believe that anyone that doesn't follow my ways - is going to hell - or on the wrong faith.
Everyone has a different path. The creator - no matter who that maybe for you - has found a way into each persons lives through a different channel - buddism, muslim, catholic, even the ancient ways. You faith should be truly personal - and however you lift your spirit up higher, how can that be wrong.
As for the original posting, the guys I dated were usually acceptable of my faith - as I was of theirs. I even went to catholic church with an ex - although I stopped it at 'conversion'. I think its great when you find someone willing to learn of different views and faiths - and one who isn't close minded. | |
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| How important are your spiritual beliefs in your search for a mate?
Posted: 12/2/2007 7:19:45 AM | My experience is that you can only happily be around someone, if don't respect you. If they respect you, they respect your beliefs. They don't have to agree with you, but they have to respect you.
I have met people who shared my beliefs, that did not respect me, and people who did not share my beliefs, that respected me.
I am more interested in if they share my beliefs on tolerance and mutual respect or not. | |
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