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| Do you think threesomes can ruin a relationship?
Posted: 10/31/2007 1:42:40 PM | I think you should really think about this. Threesomes done always trash a relationship, but they can. Especially if you don't talk about it before and after. You also have to be 100% honest with your feeling and your partner does as well.
If you do chose to go thew with this I wish you a good experience. I do know people who have 3some's and still have a good relationship. | |
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| Do you think threesomes can ruin a relationship?
Posted: 10/31/2007 2:03:57 PM | Per the short term or the occasional threesome with two females it can be fun, exciting, adventurous, very stimulating and great AS LONG AS the women involved get along well together.
Once upon a time I lived with two women for 14 years. Yes, same bed. I wouldn't wish that on anyone. Take a SO x2. When one was upset, they were both upset, scheduling vacation times? Difficult. Holiday's involving all three families.....a real hassle.
We fortunately as well as mutually agreed to end the situation in early 2000.
Never would I embark on a long term threesome cohabitation situation again. It was certainly a learning experience. | |
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| Do you think threesomes can ruin a relationship?
Posted: 10/31/2007 2:19:43 PM | Here is a thought on how you might better answer your own question with a minimum amount of effort and emotional undoing.....
Next time you are in the bathroom taking a good,healthy dump take with you a legal pad.
In one column marked " pros" try and list all the good things that a threesome can provide for you and your relationship.
In a column marked "cons" list all the bad things that may come from such a relationship.
Be honest and think it thru and the math gods will give you your answer. | |
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jjay73
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Joined: 10/9/2007
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| Do you think threesomes can ruin a relationship?
Posted: 10/31/2007 8:39:30 PM |
..i experienced this with an ex..you're opening a door of no return! be it mfm or fmf..once you have taken this step there's no turning back! truth is,she's most likley doing it already and is looking for approval..it doesn't make your relationship stronger!
A more accurate and less generalized statement would have ended with, "she's most likley [sic] doing it already and is looking for approval..it did not make my relationship stronger!"
One individual's experience is not mutually exclusive to the experiences of all others.
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| Do you think threesomes can ruin a relationship?
Posted: 10/31/2007 8:46:37 PM | I think theres a time and place for 3somes..its always easier when everyone is single. In a relationship I couldnt imagine it would be an easy after math. Even being with 2 women problems can arise. What if you made a deeper noise when the other women is going down on you?? a noise your significant other has never heard before???.. things like this you need to make 100% sure your gf is secure with herself and you.
Being that its her idea...for the 1st time maybe you should just ear 2 ear grin and watch
Hopefully the Misses will invite you in
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| Do you think threesomes can ruin a relationship?
Posted: 10/31/2007 9:05:22 PM | Hey,
My name is evil and i would have to agree with you. My boyfriend is always pointing out that other girls are cute and he would mind doing it with them, but i have learnt that he is not serious by the way he looks and talks to me. I am bi aswell, and i also have trust issues mainly with blokes because of my past. But maybe further on down the track i might share him once i get to know him better, but for now i think i will keep hime to me self.
talk to later
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| Do you think threesomes can ruin a relationship?
Posted: 11/1/2007 4:56:04 PM | They can ruin it , or if handled properly can be lots of fun.
My ex and me used to do MFM and FMF. Never a problem but we had a very sexually open relationship and were completely non jealous. We each enjoyed watching the other fully pleased. The catch is dont do it close to home and never ever meet the third outside of the Threesome . Vacations are great for stuff like that.
Other people can never handle it, It wont work as jealousy will rear its ugly head. I know that most guys on here could never handle a MFM no matter how much the wife wanted it. I did a thread on this and could not believe the responses.. Guys were saying they would dump the wife if she even mentioned such a thing... | |
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| Do you think threesomes can ruin a relationship?
Posted: 11/1/2007 7:09:13 PM | I have had a few threesomes before, and I'll tell you from experiance. You won't have a relationship afterwards. The girls will go from curious to Bi or full blown lesbo. You don't want to be with another person of the same sex unless your attracted to that lifestyle. Your girl is cheating on you and allowing you to cheat on her with this other woman in order to satisfy her perverse lifstyle needs (if she had done this before) or curisities if this was her first time. It may be the bigining to the end of your relationship.
You can go thru it if you want to do the 3 some and have sex with this other woman. Just watch and pay attention to whats going on and see for yourself if your woman is getting more turned on by having sex with her. If she is you either have to have 3 somes with that woman often, or find her more woman that will have sex with you and her. Not easy!!! So now you not only have to worry about her cheating with men , but women as well........................
Or, she may be discusted with the whole thing and embarresed she did it. Then you will have had fun and have peace of mind she isn't going anywhere!!! | |
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| Do you think threesomes can ruin a relationship?
Posted: 11/1/2007 9:19:21 PM |
Your girl is cheating on you and allowing you to cheat on her with this other woman in order to satisfy her perverse lifstyle
...and not forgetting, this would make her feel what she is doing its consented. Now what you have is not only a b*tch but a little manipulator too. | |
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| Do you think threesomes can ruin a relationship?
Posted: 11/7/2007 12:08:51 PM | I think it could and probably will leave a good relationship with nothing left! Some fantasies are left to be just that!
I have seen to many times where people who play this out it only ends badly for.
If you care about someone so much that you are in a relationship that is exclusive then your only going to hurt that by bringing another person into it! IMO | |
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| Do you think threesomes can ruin a relationship?
Posted: 11/16/2007 9:43:55 PM | I think you really have to find out what's going on here. Is this a fantasy she's had for a while? Because a fantasy is often best left as a fantasy. Does she already have a woman in mind? Does she know someone who has already agreed to do pending your approval?
A threesome can enhance a couple's sex life or it can destroy a relationship and as such, should never be walked into willy-nilly. Discuss it with her, let her know your concerns, find out why she's curious about this. Perhaps this request was a mode foropenning the discussion of one another's fantasies (a very healthy activity). And just because she's interested in this doesn't mean she's going to "turn bi or into a lesbo," a one member posted. She may very well be wanting this simply becasue she thinks you want it (a lot of women assume that's what every guy wants... even I'm guilty of it).
Anyhow, a mature, open discussion is in order. | |
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| Do you think threesomes can ruin a relationship?
Posted: 11/16/2007 9:51:32 PM | | I'veknow of a woman introducing the idea of a three-some with another woman to her husband. Then, when they get down to it. The woman broke it off with her husband. Go figure. | |
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| Do you think threesomes can ruin a relationship?
Posted: 11/16/2007 9:55:27 PM | | In some cases it could. Suppose me, my girlfriend, and another woman had a 3 some. There is always a chance that my girlfriend likes being with another woman so much that she would leave me for a woman. | |
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| Do you think threesomes can ruin a relationship?
Posted: 11/16/2007 10:07:26 PM | | Its always fun to add excitement to a relationship but I myself think a threesome is the wrong way to go. Maybe I''m being a prude but I honestly feel that if you truly love someone you wouldn't share them with anybody guy or girl. | |
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| Do you think threesomes can ruin a relationship?
Posted: 11/16/2007 10:18:34 PM | Ok from the mouth of somebody who has done threesomes .....Biggest thing is you gotta have trust in your partner in knowing that it is just SEX and nothing more....So, have plenty of discussions beforehand to be sure it is something you both really want and not just a fantasy that you are trying to fulfill from the days before you were in a relationship and just never did it for whatever reason.....And set guidelines too....If you are truely sure, there may be some things your SO doesn't want you to do with the other person...Also if she isn't bi or bi curious she may not be into it cause she knows that it will all be about you....Always allow her the ability to change her mind about it and don't be upset with her for it....One of the ideas I liked when I did do it was knowing that after the third person left I could have real passionate sex with my SO and kinda "make him mine" again ...Not just sex like it was with her......There also has to be no jealousy ...cause if there is that will break your realtionship cause your SO will never be able to stop thinking was she better?? Or things like that.......I hope this helps a little ....Just make sure you talk plenty before you decide on it for sure.....Let her pick the third too...most important cause if you pick her, your SO is gonna think you have had her in mind all along lol
PS You don't need a third to spice things up (why I did it and it didn't work ....it doesn't ever save a relationship) There are plenty of other things you can do | |
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| Do you think threesomes can ruin a relationship?
Posted: 11/17/2007 2:40:56 AM | | Depends on the relationship, if your single and theres no real emotions involved and it's just safe fun, sure go for it but if you happen to really like/care/love this person then i think its a terrible idea, i sure as $hit couldn't share someone i loved with anyone else even if she wanted to include the entire playboy mansion bunnyettes! 3'somes are best left to those that are either single or in a rock solid kinky type relationship... not for the normal everyday people who happen to love their partners | |
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