| Do you think threesomes can ruin a relationship?
Posted: 11/17/2007 3:05:54 AM | [just because you say 'no' doesn't mean it will go away. A 3 way will probably ruin it, yes... but look at it as more of a great parting gift that you probably won't get another opportunity to have next time... or ever. ]
The relationship is already over. After this, you can't go back to holding hands! Listen to mr. dynomite^^^
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| Do you think threesomes can ruin a relationship?
Posted: 11/17/2007 3:45:21 AM | *True story*
I know a guy that let another woman into his and his gals sex life, for a 3some, and after all was said and done, his gal hooked up with the other gal
Mind you they are still dating, but his gal sleeps in the same bed with this other gal, and he is not even allowed too touch his gal at all | |
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| Do you think threesomes can ruin a relationship?
Posted: 11/17/2007 5:28:57 AM | | She's curious and it sounds like good fun. I'd talk more to her about it. Does she want to have a FFM or a FMF? Once she gives you this, do you think later she may want a MFM? Would you be okay with that? I'd really talk to her more about it so it's more clear where you are going with this. She's the only one that can really answer this question for you. The swinger "lifestyle" is not for everyone. | |
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| Do you think threesomes can ruin a relationship?
Posted: 11/17/2007 6:02:59 AM | | Been there Done that, and honestly, it ruined my relationship of 6 years. I would love to do it again, but not with anyone that I have any emotional ties with. I was really hurt, and I don't ever want to feel that pain again. I have even been asked to do it with other couples, and my answer is always no! I don't want to be the reason that a happy couple broke up!! | |
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| Do you think threesomes can ruin a relationship?
Posted: 11/17/2007 7:35:38 AM | Here's what I know from experience.
3soms are the best when you're either brand new in a relationship or have been fully commited and monogamous for a VERY long time.
If it's brand new....make sure he understands it's a one time deal (unless you want to do it more) or it'll continue for the rest of your life.
Also....it's never good to bring an actual friend home...it will end badly. They will either start something on the side....he'll be attracted to her and want it more often than you're willing to do....or you will lose your friend. It's not true all of the time...but it seems to be the usual.
I am personally a fan of 3some's 4some's etc..like em'!!!! | |
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| Do you think threesomes can ruin a relationship?
Posted: 11/17/2007 10:08:16 AM | Yeah Dude, It's almost over. She's bored and is questioning her gender preference.
If you go there, you've broken a major relationship rule. Be the better person in this situation. In reality, it's just a matter of time before the end of you and her.
Guilt will kill the relationship for sure. Trust goes out the window too. If she's willing to have you involved in a threesome, she's already cheated and is trying to get you on the band wagon so she doesn't feel so bad about it. My X was, and is AC/DC. Found out the hard way.
Real shame too. Get a good girl Dude, She's trash! | |
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| Do you think threesomes can ruin a relationship?
Posted: 11/17/2007 1:05:34 PM | In general, I don't think it's a good idea, unless you are doing it with someone that you are not really that emotionally invested in.
Possibilities...
Sex, in any form, is very intimate, and can mess with your emotions.
She could decide she's in love with the other woman, and leave you.
Even tho she suggested it, she may later feel jealous.
She could feel that if you accepted, it means you think she's not enough for you.
YOU could fall for the other woman!
If your relationship is a good one, I personally would be afraid to mess with a good thing. If you need more excitement, get some sex toys... oh, and they do make some very life like sex dolls! LOL! | |
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| Do you think threesomes can ruin a relationship?
Posted: 11/19/2007 10:08:36 AM | I agree it was a Great fantasy of mine of course to have another lady in our bed and to watch my ex with another man. But it will change things in your relationship. I know the fantasy is worth ruining the relationship for. It will started out all fun it doesn't stay that way. It help ruin my relationship with my 1st wife. Most men are the ones that bring it up and trying only to live out their fantasy. If you truly love her or him forget that swinging and having 3 somes or 4 somes you don't need it if your truly in love with your wife or hubby or girlfriend or boyfriend Let's face facts if want to do that stuff just plan on being single and changing lover every so often. Because a lasting relationship will be hard to keep. Just my views.
I have found a lady that I am in love with and I will not share her with any man or woman Nor do I want any other lady or man or couple in our bed room
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| Do you think threesomes can ruin a relationship?
Posted: 11/19/2007 10:34:17 AM | well...
yes, it will absolutely change the dynamic of the relationship. very few people are built to see their SO sleeping with another person - even if all parties get equal share of said cookies. you do it at your own peril.
that said, if all parties are open minded and clear headed, it can work, providing there are ground rules established. still, it wouldnt be something I'd choose for myself. | |
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